It's fascinating (and scary) to think about your missed connections.[rebelmouse-image 18357677 is_animated_gif=
Haven't you ever wondered what might have happened if you found your missed connection? Though you know there probably hasn't been a time, it's still fun to read the Craigslist Ads and think, "what if?"
u/bark98 wanted to dig a little deeper:
People who actually found your "missed connection" on Craigslist, what ended up happening?
Here were some of the answers.
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My friend was carrying her groceries on a busy subway from Manhattan to Queens and this guy gave up his seat for her. They didn't chat, but locked eyes a few times and as the guy got off, my friend said they smiled and laughed at each other. After she got home her roommate told her to post on missed connections, but when she went on the guy had already posted about her! They dated for a short while, but he then got back together with an ex he'd met through AA.
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Almost 20 years ago I was looking through the missed connections of the local paper and there was an ad that said "Some people are looking for happiness. Some people are looking for love. Me? Im looking for an authentic 'Down with OPP' baseball cap. Can you help me find one?"
It just so happens that the bodega right by my house had a bunch of hats on the wall including a Down with OPP one. So I call the number in the ad and it's just a recording of "Down with OPP" then at the end the guy comes on and says "YOU Down with OPP?" I leave a message about the hat and that's that.
Until next week there is an ad in the same paper that says "To my main man with the Brothrs Market hookup. I now walk tall and proud with my OPP hat. Thank you thank you thank you!" So yeah. I helped connect a guy with a hat. Does that count?
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I used to browse Missed Connections. I saw one that said something like, "I see you walking your dog on [street] every day. You're cute and I'd like to talk to you." That was my street, and I'd seen lots of girls walking dogs there, so I figured I'd help a bro out.
I sent back something like, "There are quite a few cute girls who walk dogs on [street], you may want to update your post with a description of the girl and the dog. I'm the average looking blonde with the scruffy white dog."
He emailed back saying that I was the one he was referring to! WHAT. So I thanked him, and told him (truthfully) that I was a single mom going through a hard time and wasn't ready to even think about dating.
I got a friendly email back, wishing me the best, and that was that.
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I had just moved to a new area and hadn't met many people, yet, so to entertain myself (I had yet to hear about Reddit) I would post clear jokes (I was not subtle) missed connections. The post he responded to was me looking for Waldo. He responded to me jokingly, as Waldo, saying he was in search of his love Carmen SanDiego. We chatted for a while and we hit it off. Met a few weeks later. Got married a few years later. Getting divorced a few years after that.
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I met someone from a missed connection. Once we met, I realized that I didn't have any romantic interest in this person, and he didn't have any in me. But, we became pretty good friends! We were even roommates one year when I was in university. Even now when we both have our own SO's, we still like to get coffee and catch up. He's a really awesome person!
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It was new years eve and i was having a horrible night. i couldn't get a cab from the house party i was at to get to party#2. i was wearing massive heels and had to walk all the way home because i was in too bad a mood to continue my night. as i reached my corner, a super drunk, super gorgeous guy came up to me and wished me a happy New Year's. i was about to tell him to piss off but i noticed that he was freaking beautiful and had a small bloody cut on his forehead. i pointed it out and he shrugged and stumbled away.
the next day, i decided to post a missed connection and he responded by that evening. he said he didn't remember getting a booboo. we hung out for a bit but i stopped seeing him because i didn't want to ONLY have anal sex.
Gay Bus Stops[rebelmouse-image 18357912 is_animated_gif=
I have a good friend that met this guy at a bus stop, I believe. They chatted casually for a few minutes and that was the end of it. Later, my friend was kicking himself for not asking the guy out for coffee or something and posted a missed connection about it.
About a week later, bus stop guy's boss was browsing missed connections and recognized the description of the guy's hat so he sent him the posting.
And now, several years later, my friend and bus stop guy are married.
My friend still has a screenshot of the missed connections post saved in his phone.
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I saw this girl at Starbucks that was just gorgeous. Looked like she was distracted going through some stuff on the phone so I didn't say anything. (don't wanna be that guy who can't read social clues)
Left and kicked myself over it later so next day I posted in missed connections. (although I was positive nothing would come of it, just felt good putting it out there).
Around 3 days later get a response. Not from her, but from another girl who read it and liked the sincerity in it. We ended up talking and exchanging numbers and have been dating since. (about 6 months now )
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I found one about me written by a long-gone ex. I let it be.
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In college, I got dragged to a barn dance by my friends. Stood around bored for an hour or so, and left. The following week, there was an ad in the local classified section (this was in the 80's, so that was our "Craigs List " back then) from a guy describing me to a T. Said "I saw you there and would love to meet you and get to know you better "
Flattered, I agreed. We decided to meet at a local bar. I got there right on time and looked around. It took me a while to find him because HE SHOWED UP WITH FOUR FRIENDS. He didn't even talk to me for most of the short time I was there, because he was playing stupid drinking games with his buddies and ignoring me. One of his friends stayed hitting on me and grabbed my -ss. So I left.
He called THREE DAYS LATER and said "You left!" And I was like, "You just noticed?"
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I noticed that I'd see the same Ford Focus ST several times a week during my commute. The driver was a total cutie. I caught him staring at me a few times, so one day I waved at him and he waved back. This went on for a few weeks. I posted an ad to see if he was out there, and I got about a dozen responses from guys claiming to be him. I knew immediately who the real one was, because he replied asking if I drove a red WRX.
We exchanged phone numbers. We texted a bit back and forth, but when he sent me this long gushy text about how it was fate and love at first sight, I got cold feet and panicked. I had just gone through a particularly nasty breakup and wasn't ready for anyone to talk about love at first sight.
Wedding, Wedding![rebelmouse-image 18357914 is_animated_gif=
Best friend was crushing on a guy she saw at a bar. Put an ad in Missed Connections. His friend, who'd been with him at the bar that night, pointed it out to him.
They've been married about 10 years now. :)
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Went to see an oddly specific show. Outside, and then all throughout the evening inside, this very tall, but strikingly beautiful woman kept making prolonged eye contact with me. I was with some friends in a different city, and they wanted to leave the bar right after the show, so I didn't get a chance to talk to her. That week, back home, I posted a MC in her city, and she responded. It didn't really go anywhere, but she shared her SuicideGirls profile with me that had some more pics, so there's that...
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Not an actual missed connection, but I was well known in an area I lived in as the "At&t sign girl"
A guy posted on missed connections looking for me and come to find out, he just wanted to give me free tickets to Busch Gardens that he got because he worked there.
If I hadn't gotten another job when I did, I could've gotten more free tickets from him.
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I met my boyfriend almost four years ago at a bar that used to be down the road from where I lived. I would go to play darts with my best friend but I didn't drink. He was there that night playing in pool league. I went up right when we got there and asked him to take a picture of his shirt to show someone else. We didn't actually become a couple until October of 2014 but we are still together and I'm 6 days overdue with our baby.
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My step brother posted missed connection for a girl he saw when he was at traffic court. She was there for a speeding ticket just like he was so he thought he had a good meet cute story. She responded to his ad with a polite "thanks but no thanks".
He did end up meeting his wife on Craigslist a few months later, but just by posting a regular ad though.
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Randomly my friend saw my name and description mentioned on one of these missed connections and sent it to me. I decided to followed up and went back to the store I originally met her (the girl who posted) and asked her for her phone number. We went on some really nice summer dates. Long walks and talks, drinking beer etc. September rolls around. Then one day we meet up for lunch but she was a little stressed about money and rent. So I said I would see if i could help her get a job at the place I worked at. Some warning signs started to appear like when I asked her to make a personalized cover letter instead of a generic one and she got upset by that. In any case, she made a new one and submitted it. At work, I put in a good word for her and eventually she was hired. At this point the relationship wasnt past the point of mere dates but that was OK as I was soon going abroad for half a year and didn't want more. Soon this girls true colors revealed themselves. I noticed early on that it was tricky getting a hold of her at times deducing it to some people being unattached to technology. But realized she had a pattern of selectively getting back to anyone. My Co worker one day tells me that she saw her name on a weekly schedule and didn't want to work one of the shifts so she just took a pen and scratched her name off. Without alerting the manager or finding a replacement. As in a grown adult scratching her name off a disposable schedule thinking that that would make everything ok. Anyways long story short: she was a bag of issues and seemed to be stuck in a world that involved bending reality to meet her needs. I wrote her a message on Fb one day telling her how i regretted helping her and then deleted her off my Fb which was like a slap on the face back then. The end.
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I posted this before but it applies here too.
A guy once posted a missed connection about me (easy to figure out with the description he gave and the location he saw me). My boss actually showed it to me because even she figured it out. I was 18 at the time and when I told my mom about it she told me that I should email him and say hey. (She didn't know better and I was naive and eager to hang out with him, as I remembered who he was). I messaged him, we hit it off, hung out for a while and everything seemed cool. Then things got nuts. In the few short months we hung out, he found out that his clinically psychotic ex girlfriend was pregnant. She got kicked out of countless homeless shelters for starting fights, and her mom wouldn't let her live with her because she was freaking insane, so she moved back in with CL guy.
While he was upset to have her back in his life, he was happy to have a baby and was eager to take care of it (he was going to fight for full custody after it was born because of mothers issues) .. the entire time she was pregnant, she drank, smoked....they would get into screaming matches. Eventually he tried to move out. After one particularly bad fight, he packed everything up and went to a hotel without telling her so she wouldn't try and follow. While he was out, she snooped through the stuff he left behind and found the ring he was going to use to propose to her before she showed her true psychotic colors. She thought he bought it because of the baby, started wearing it and posted about it all over Facebook. Through all of this, I was there to help support him emotionally and be an escape from his life. I certainly never saw him as someone I'd be in a relationship with but I enjoyed hanging out with him. Then, when psycho girl announced that they were "engaged", he decided "ahh.... alright whatever let's do it". So they moved back in together and she made him cut all connection with me (no problem.. that was too much drama for my liking).
A few days later, I get multiple long messages from this girl, her cousin and her second profile she made after I blocked her. She accused me of being a home wrecker, saying that she was going to call the cops on me (no idea what for) and that I needed to watch me back because she "knew" where I lived (She didnt... the town she said I lived in wasn't even in the same county of where I actually lived). I kept blocking her and eventually she shut up. 3 years later, that guy messaged me on Facebook. They had the baby, mom's in a mental hospital and he has full custody. He wanted to meet up and "pick up where we left off" but I noped out of that.
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My roommate was biking home after a party in a particularly flamboyant jacket. Later that night there was a missed connection describing his bike route and jacket.
He reached out to the woman (also an avid cyclist). They dated for 3-4 months. Then, one day, she was hit by a truck while cycling in the bike lane. Died instantly. I used to pass her white bike every day on my bike commute.
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I was at work one day when a co-worker, named Erika, told me I'd had a missed connection written about me. I worked at a bookstore, downtown in a big city as a visual merchandiser. I had read the Missed Connections before, dreamed that one would get written about me, but never thought it would happen-cause that's the stuff out of a Rom-Com. Never the less she sent me a link to the missed connection and this is it:
Working at (Name of my bookstore) on Sunday (20th of December) (the address of my old bookstore)- m4w
You were pushing a cart or trolley full of books, I was in a rush as I passed by you. We locked eyes a few times though. You had long dark hair, and I was wearing a toque and black leather Jacket.
Now this may seem pretty vague, but it's me. Nobody else was in that day and merch people push carts like it's nobody business, and the other merch girls on that day were a red haired girl and a pale brunette.
So I responded. Mostly because I don't like to leave people hanging. People should wonder "whatever happened." HE GOT CREEPY REAL QUICK. I mean 0-stalker in 60 seconds. I went on vacation with my parents (Christmas time) and he emailed me 3 times in the span of 5 days being like "Where'd you go?", "You still there?", "Drop off on me?" He added me on FB and IG without me telling him what those handles were. He started liking pictures I'd been tagged in on my friends Instagram. Visited my ex's pages. He kept pushing for my phone numbers or saying he "was going to be around my work" on days I wasn't even working. Luckily I had already found a new job.
People typically think of cannabis legalization as one of those cut and dry things.
If you don't use marijuana, you probably don't want to legalize it.
If you do use marijuana, you are probably pro-legalization.
... except it's not that simple.
Reddit user SaifurCloudstrife asked:
"Redditors opposed to marijuana legalization and decriminalization: Why?"
Normally when these types of questions are asked, you get a bunch of people who are pro-the-thing chiming in and that absolutely happened here.
Interestingly, that opened up discourse that got people actually talking—probably more than they normally would have. The constant back and forth helped people get down to the core of their beliefs and reasons.
I can't say minds or hearts were changed, or even that people had particularly good reasons (and there were some not-great counter arguments, let's be real) when it came right down to it, but conversations were certainly had...
"It's a drug."
"I have two examples in my close family that clearly show how devastating pot can be. This attitude to marijuana reminds me of the attitude towards cocaine in the mid to late seventies when everyone thought it was harmless 'nose candy.' "
"I'm against sentences for drug possession but many people would benefit from dealers serving 3-5 for selling pot."
"Honestly, I think everyone against it should come to Canada for a visit. It's been legal here for 4 years and absolutely NONE of the spooky stories have come true."
"The only real differences is that people buy their weed in nice, clean stores with clear labels and not on street corners and our tax dollars don't go towards harassing people for a weekend indulgence."Giphy
"It stinks and makes people lazy."
"And often the weed smokers don't care if they are a pain in the butt to others and that kind of apathy is a huge no for me."Giphy
"I live in WA, where rec weed is legal."
"I rarely ever smell pot smoke. And I have the nose of a bloodhound."
"Yes, more often than as a teen when it was still illegal, but far less than any amount to be pro-prohibition about it."
"Plus, I mean, there's lots of smells I f*cking hate but wouldn't enact harmful laws over- Axe body spray being one."
"Laws can be made regarding where you can smoke."
"In Australia you can't smoke inside or within a certain distance to entryways. The only space you smell smoke is at an outdoor pub, designated smoking areas and occasionally when walking."
"It took years, but people become accustomed to new rules. Knowing Americans though, you guys will be on the brink of civil war if they brought in similar restrictions."
It's TOO Good
"I've read that the potency in pot these days is a hell of a lot stronger compared to say 20 or 30 yrs ago."
"The huge increase in THC levels should be a huge concern for people. The pot being legalized today is not the same I smoked when I was much younger."
"This argument has been rolled out again and again since I was in elementary school (~30 years ago) and I never understood it."
"THC is remarkably non-toxic, it's so much less toxic than many common substances people ingest on a regular basis (aspirin, and plenty of other OTC meds, as examples), to the point where actual THC toxicity is caused by physical rather than chemical/metabolic actions."
"Smoked cannabis is also much easier to titrate (dose appropriately), since the effects are nearly instantaneous - take a couple hits and you'll know if you've had enough within seconds."Giphy
"As opposed to an accidental edible overdose where you might not know for a couple hours that you've taken a heroic dose."
"So a higher % of THC by weight in cannabis flower shouldn't be an issue, especially considering that back in D.A.R.E. they used to tell us that smoking cannabis was SO MUCH WORSE than smoking tobacco."
"Cannabis was supposedly so much 'harsher,' one joint contains 'toxins' equivalent to an entire pack of cigs, etc...which is total bull, but even if that were true...wouldn't that mean that stronger cannabis is less harmful, since you don't have to smoke so much to achieve the desired effect?"
"Can't have it both ways."
It is high potency because it is illegal. It's easier to transport a half pound of skunk than 10 pounds of trash weed."
"Look at states that have legalized. There are low thc strains available and easily accessible."
"Because dipsh*ts will start smoking it in public places where others can not really avoid it, like is the case with cigarettes currently."
"Also yes: F*ck cigarettes."
"Yep my problem is drugs in public."
"I do not care if you do drugs as long as your doing them in a private place. I don't want to breathe in your smoke and get lung cancer."
"I don't especially care what folks get up to on their own, it's when they make everyone around them a participant that it aggravates me."
"Plus, depending on the setting, it's really inconsiderate."
"I have a friend whose job does random drug testing and he left a bar because a bunch of folks were smoking inside and he was worried about work."Giphy
Go Away, Government!
"I'm for legalization but as someone that worked for corporate cannabis, I'd loathe seeing those scums run the market."
"My state Governor tried writing a recreational cannabis bill on their own terms since we are surrounded by recreational territories."
"They stated they didn't want it to lead to a ballot measure because that's worst case scenario (didnt think voters were educated) than proceeded to write the most comically bad legalization bill that existed - before completely dropping it because they couldn't write a competent law."
"I am about as anti pot as they come, but if they are going to legalize it, why wouldn't they make it legal to grow your own? (Rhetorical- I know the answer… same reason "they" are legalizing it… tax money)"
"This is what I am screaming. For them it's only about money."
"They are waiting for the rich to install a profit making infrastructure before they let us peasants enjoy anything."Giphy
"If I had any good reason it's because idiots insist it's not addictive and it doesn't impede your senses. So they drive and do dangerous sh*t while high."
"My issue isn't the severity of the impediment. It's that people refuse to admit that it does alter the mind."
"I already have one person insist they smoke weed and drive because they know their body."
"Now imagine if someone openly said that about alcohol and how you'd react. It's a really dumb mentality to have."
"If anything I'd push for it to be illegalized ALONG WITH alcohol and cigarettes."
"But prohibition taught us that is not the way to go."Giphy
The Same Path As Alcohol
"I believe that if it was legalized, it would become a much bigger part in society, much like how alcohol is now."
"I do have a problem with public drinking and personally view alcohol as much worse compared to marijuana."
"However, since drinking is already so ingrained in our society, it's not like we can get rid of it. I'm just hoping that weed doesn't follow in the same path as alcohol."Giphy
"Im so sick of all these CBD oil pyramid schemes popping up!"
"The testimonials are all, 'I broke my spine in half and had to get it surgically fused together. Now all I have to do is rub a drop of CBD on it, and the pain is gone!' "
"And I'm not against it, I actually use high grade CBD at night to help me sleep. I fucking hate going through a rep though, they always try to hard sell me on topical CBD for my back pain that's like $80 for a little jar, or $30 bath bombs."
"I have discs squeezing out of my spine, I'm pretty sure a dab of hemp oil is gonna do jack shit for that."
"And the cancer patient abuse!"
"Smoking or ingesting edibles with THC for pain management and appetite is super helpful for cancer patients, but cbd wont do anything. Not to mention getting an ounce of good weed wont set you back much, but getting a tiny vial of cbd can set you back a couple hundred bucks."
"With our healthcare system in the states, we know damn well cancer patients are already in a hole of debt. I'm worried legalizing will encourage these CBD lies."
"It's the new snake oil."
"My MIL is that person. She's was touting its Indica strains ability to outright cure cancer the last I saw her."
"Cancer patients get hit very hard with the cannabis oil scams. What kind of evil sh*t do you need to be to take advantage of desperate people?"
"I agree with you about people thinking its the grand cure all, but that's why I feel we SHOULD legalize."
"The main reason I want it legalize is so they can do more research on the things it does help. It's effect on tremors alone is fascinating."Giphy
So what have we really learned here? I'm not really certain.
Lots of people's reasons seemed under-informed, but just as many people had legitimate concerns.
Sure, those concerns could just as easily be applied to alcohol, but lots of Redditors admitted that and seemed to take LARGER issue with alcohol than cannabis. It was honestly difficult to find anyone (aside from the smell people) who was 100% against it.
And that, dear reader, is possibly the biggest takeaway from this. Attitudes are changing.
Sorry, D.A.R.E.—looks like we said yes to drugs. Well, cannabis at least.
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Chosen family is family. Sometimes they are the closest and most important family. Just because you share blood with someone, doesn't mean you have to form a bond.
That's why best friends are so important.
BFFs are forged in many ways. They're there for you in triumph and sorrow. They hold your hand. T
They know where the bodies are buried because they helped bury them. That's why it's so heartbreaking to lose them.
It's just a bitter pill to swallow when it's a relationship you thought was going to be endless.
Redditor FindingDale wanted to hear all the reasons why sometimes we just have to say goodbye to certain people in life, by asking:
How did you lose your best friend?
I've lost a few besties. Some through death. Some through personal growth and some just because it was time. That was an important lesson. Just like lovers, friends also outgrow one another.
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"I got tired of it being all about her all of the time. I couldn't tell her anything in my life good or bad because she would make it about herself." ~ Wide-Fig-1063
"He was the passenger in a single-car accident. The driver was drunk, showing off, and drifting on an unfamiliar dirt road in California. They found the car at the bottom of a 70-foot cliff. Everyone in the car walked away except my friend, who died instantly."
"He was already passed out drunk himself so he likely didn't feel anything, but it was still such a terrible senseless way to go. That was 10 years ago last June. He was barely 21, the nicest guy you'd ever meet, and one hell of a bassist. Miss ya, Jake." ~ FormerLurker3
"Best friends since we were 12. Best Man at my wedding when we were 28. Day after the wedding he never spoke to me again. No explanation. Calls and texts went unanswered. He would avoid being at any social event I would be at, which was a few because we had the same circle of friends. Tried for two years to keep that friendship alive." ~ Tionek
"I had a weird dynamic to continue because of trauma. We had been friends for most of our lives (26 years) and every conversation was all about her. I was fine with that because she had a traumatic childhood and I knew she wasn't super socially with it. I'm happy to listen when my friends need it."
"Then she just unloaded on me saying I wasn't listening enough to her problems and how I had mistreated her by not asking enough pointed questions about abuse she had suffered as a kid. This was days after a three hour call where she did all the talking and it was mostly about her abuse."
"I was six months pregnant at the time and all I could think was "do I really have the bandwidth to take care of two babies?" I haven't spoken to her since." ~ keepinitcornmeal
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"His wife tried to sleep with me. I didn't let it happen and I told him about it. They reconciled and had more kids, then it got weird whenever I was around so we drifted apart." ~ mycowild
Yeah, beware the partner of a loved one who is trying to trap you in a scandal. They are shady. Take that drama and run fast and far.
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"No idea. He slowly stopped answering calls, texts, emails... his wife, even more so. I'd occasionally stop by to see them and everything appeared to be OK. They never stopped to see us, even though his mother lived just a few miles away. I just quit trying." ~ NagromTrebloc
"It was October 16, 2015. I was working from home that day when I saw a call from him at around 9:15am. I had to ignore the call because I was in an online meeting. At 2pm my Dad calls my phone, which is unusual since he knows I'm working. I answer it."
"He is speaking quietly and very calmly. He says, "Son, I love you very much. I have some terrible news. Jared passed away this morning." Jared's wife was calling me from his phone to say she found him dead. I couldn't process what he was saying."
"I said, "That's not funny. Jared, his wife and me and my wife were supposed to meet up next weekend for dinner." Jared had sleep apnea surgery that same week. He had taken a painkiller and Benadryl together. It stopped his heart. He died 2 days before his 40th birthday. We were friends since grade school."
"We did everything together, he was my brother. He was the best man at my wedding earlier that year. I had just shared my son's heartbeat with him via a text message 2 days before. Jared was so excited to be his crazy uncle. I miss him every single day." ~ SnooCapers1425
"Codependency. I became basically obsessed with her and it just became too toxic. I had to cut it off because it was eating me up inside and she didn't deserve how I was treating her." ~ SuccessfulEggplant82
"Good on you for recognizing the problem you were having. It takes a lot (and I mean a crap ton) for an individual to come to this realization. Most people like to live in denial or fight it. I did the same thing and by the time I realized it, it was to late. I hope your able to get through it." ~ Nakanon85
"I noticed that he never came to my place to catch up. I stopped going over to his place to see how long until he noticed.... It's been 5 years now 🤷♂️." ~ Mr_Nonesuch
"Over the years I have observed in number of friendships that its always me that makes the call. They always are delighted to hear from me. If I organise something they come. They just don't make the effort. I have been best man five times so I don't think that its because the friendships are not valued. I don't know, am I missing something?" ~ Yarray2
"My ex wife. Even after we split we stayed close, co-parenting, helping each other out. She died 3.5 years ago. I could have made peace I think but after her death and our daughter was living with me full time I found out about how abusive my ex had been to her when I was around and it felt like losing her all over."
"Like I thought I knew who she was in the 13 years we'd had both together and separated, but it turns out I knew nothing. Now I'm just angry about it, like how dare you get to do this crap and then leave me to clean up your mess."
"How dare you have peace when my daughter has nothing but struggles and therapy. I felt like we were robbed of the good person, the good mother I thought she was." ~ Scarecrowqueen
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"Friend moved to the other side of the planet, with their spouse, to be nearer to both their families. I never understood what real friendship was before friend was in my life; and now they're alive, but not here." ~ ClutchCrgo
One of the natural parts of life... saying goodbye. Or in some cases getting ghosted and forgotten. Either way, chin up.
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Humans have had an undeniably significant impact on our environment and the other species that inhabit the planet with us.
What might happen if humans weren't here to exert that influence, though?
What if we never had?
Reddit user Mompkey asked:
"Which species do you think would be dominant if humans didn't exist?"
"Wolves. They can, and have, successfully adapted to most of the various biomes on the planet."
"There's a reason we domesticated them and took them everywhere with us."Giphy
- Everything is garbage
- Garbage is delicious"
"I would agree, but now I'm wondering if our presence is the reason cockroaches have thrived as well as they have."Giphy
"Sharks, they are the dominant species on 3/4 of the Earth's surface already, they have survived mass extinctions and would thrive even more without humans mucking up their habitat."Giphy
"Humans are the only species that seek to dominate others. Other animals just want to live in the balance of nature. They're just trying to survive, they don't have time to take over the world."
"Pinky and The Brain theme song played in my head."Giphy
"We've killed off so many throughout history but of the ones that remains intelligence and versatility would be the key factors. Their food supply and habitat would greatly increase in our absence so with this being said.........primates."
"We are simply the superior primate therefore we are the dominant species. That opposable thumb is a mf when you have a large brain."
"Wouldn't it be just another off shoot of humans like the Neanderthal or heidelbergensis?"Giphy
While we'll probably never know definitively which species would truly thrive without us around, it's still fun to speculate.
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