Some things in life can't be taught and are only learned through experience. That means many of us wish we had gotten certain pieces of advice earlier in life. But without experience, what good would they do?
Str1der_- asked regretful Redditors, What is an underrated piece of advice that you would have wished to learn earlier?
Submissions have been made for clarity, context, and profanity.
They don't teach this in college.
Your pay isn't determined because of how hard you work, but how hard you are to replace.
Yep. And if you know you're hard to replace, leverage that sh*t. Use it to get raises or promotions even if they aren't offered to you. I've been in my current job for three years and I'm making 70% more than what I started with. Just be careful to become irreplaceable, but not in your current position. If you do that, you're stuck with no promotion because they can't afford to lose you there.
Don't fall for the company loyalty bullsh*t. As soon as you stop being useful you're out so go after what you deserve.
Just like in court - only say what you have to.
In a negotiation or interviews, speak your point, or answer the question... Then shut up. Superfluous info will give the other party more info they can use against you.
This needs to be ingrained early, universally.
Take care of your body. Just because you can mend a broken bone doesn't mean it will function 100% again.
Good posture, exercise, eat well. Doesn't mean you can't eat a bacon cheeseburger or a pizza, but just eat a damn salad once in a while and go to the gym. The sooner you start it, the later you can keep indulging without serious consequences. Do a little maintenance now or your body will be f*cked later on.
Great advice. You also don't need to take crap from anyone.
You don't owe everyone an explanation.
If you call in sick to work, you don't have to give them a play-by-play of your symptoms. You're sick, you won't be in, and that's that.
If your job asks you to come in early, stay late, pick up a shift, and you can't or don't want to, you don't need to justify yourself. "I'm sorry, I actually have a prior commitment."
Can't say I always execute it though. I'm human, and sometimes I find myself justifying myself unnecessarily. People around us can be so accustomed to receiving reasons for your actions/choices that they think you rude or odd for saying the bare minimum.
Another very important thing I learned was that I'm not obligated to take sh*t. I dropped a very toxic friend of nearly four years in December 2017, and it was so so good for my life.
Failure is the best teacher.
Know that it's okay to make mistakes and even fail at things. It's so much better to try and make a mistake than be scared of trying anything new. It's such a waste of time. I have anxiety and depression so I know all about doubt and fear. Just try. You'll always learn something even if you screw it up. It's so valuable in life to learn how to bounce back from failure. Whether it's small or seemingly life changing you are much more capable than you think you are!
You are under no obligation to please everyone.
To not do certain things I totally do not agree with just to get some peer's approval or satisfaction. Spent too much time, resources and almost ruined myself emotionally trying to please people who weren't even right for me.
We all know someone...
Have your own life and don't make your SO your everything and watch out for red flags.
This is ultimately true. My first ever relationship lasted almost 4 and a half years but this girl was all about that "come see me every day or we gonna fight about that"-life. Noped the f*ck out of there once I finally got the courage to do so. My current girlfriend is really chilled. We both are independant and spend not that much time toghether but it works for both of us and I finally feel like this is a relationship I want to keep.
Looking at you, person who whines constantly on Facebook.
The world doesn't care about your problems or your life. It only cares about what you have to offer it. So if you have nothing to offer, don't be surprised that you're not valued.
This is an ugly truth, but a powerful one, because it works both ways: if you can acquire skills that are valued by others, then you have a future, even if you grew up poor and marginalized.
"The world doesn't care about your problems" also means that the world doesn't care about your background. If you can do something I need, I'm buying.
"Ability is the poor man's wealth."
Understanding this let me claw my way out of poverty.
Things to dwell upon.
The only time you look into another person's bowl isn't to see how much more or less they have than you. It is to see if they have enough.
The biggest regrets in life are not failures, but what ifs.
The state of the world is not caused by the prevalence of evil, but the silence of the good.
The catch of winning the rat race, is that you are still a rat.
There's a reason the gut is known as the "second brain."
Trust your gut. Sometimes it knows sh*t the rest of you doesn't want to admit to yourself.
This lesson hurts so much to learn. So much unnecessary pain could have been avoided if I had just listened to that nagging feeling saying "this isn't right."