Double standards are the worst thing in the entire universe. They make it so that nobody wins except the person being inconvenienced in the moment. They're selfish and often cruel. People use them as power plays.
u/coralvelvet asked Reddit:
What's a double standard that pisses you off?
Here were some of the answers.
My Walking Problems
GiphyMy own double standard when it comes to pedestrians.
Me walking: watch it you dumbass driver, I'm f-cking walking here!
Me on my bike/in the car: GTF out of my way you slow a** bipedal bastard!
I'm trying to train myself not to think like that anymore and be more sympathetic. Double standards aren't fun, even when they're your own.
Please Help Me I'm Sick
GiphyI work in manufacturing. My supervisor- I'mma take the next week off because my old college roommate is going to be in town for an hour. Also I won't be using my vacation days.
Me- I have thrown up twice today. I am going to need you to call one of the other guys to cover for me today, I won't be able to come in.
Supervisor- I'll need a doctor's note and a receipt saying you were at the doctor, also I took the liberty of putting in a vacation day for you, fight me about me misusing your time.
People in retail and fast food complain about bosses like this, but they pale in comparison to manufacturing bosses. I called in twice in one year due to sickness, my super had the audacity to tell me that if I call in a third time before the fiscal year is up, he will write me up. I have since started telling the plant manager and HR for days I need off for doctor's appointment and days that I am sick, had no problem since I started doing that.
Whose Show Is It Anyway?
GiphyI was told that I was uncaring and selfish for sitting in my room instead of coming downstairs being "social" by watching tv-shows I don't like, that no one is paying attention to because they are too busy with their phones.
And I can't change channels because my shows are "not for everyone".
This Is Basically Republicans Summed Up
GiphyOlder people who preach about perspective yet get offended over minor things. They're allowed to get angry, upset, and have all sorts of normal human emotions yet when someone under 30 dares be a human being and complain sometimes they go off on one about 'perspective'.
Sexuality Is Not For Assumptions
GiphyBi girl: Hot, edgy, desired, progressive, confident in herself
Bi guy: Just not ready to admit he's gay
Just Listen To Me
Giphy"Because I want them" is a good enough reason to have kids, but "because I don't want them" isn't a good enough reason to not have them.
On that same note, when a man says he doesn't want kids, people will tell him how smart he is for making that choice. When a woman says she doesn't want kids, people ask what's wrong with her and tell her she's immature and isn't a real woman and can't ever know real love unless she reproduces.
It's Almost Like....Gender Is A Construct....
GiphySome fathers are overprotective of their daughters and repeatedly say, even as soon as they are a day old, that they can't date boys until they're 30, yadda yadda. Soon as they have a son though they talk about how many girlfriends their kid is going to have. Annoys me to no end.
War Vs. Beer
GiphyIn America you're old enough to grab a gun and go to war at 18. But it'll be three more years before you're old enough to buy a beer.
Ain't No Nerd
GiphyMost average people are allowed to nerd out. The problem is how a negative stereotype has got out due to the fact that a lot of people nerding out are putting no effort into themselves. The fact that they're nerds has nothing to do with it, it's the fact that they ignore basic hygiene.
I'm very much a nerd. I've played video games since I was 2, I love board games, my ideal night in is to sit and play PC games for 12 hours. I'd love to get into D&D, I like stereotypical nerdy movies (although those are more fashionable nowadays), I play World of Warcraft, I love spreadsheets, maths, physics, etc.
Thing is, I also shower twice a day, cycle to work, go to the gym (sparsely), get regular haircuts and wear clothes that suit me. The fact that i'm a "nerd" has nothing to do with any of this, I'd do all this no matter my hobbies.
But when you have a vocal amount of "nerds" who are in fact just slobs, that makes it look like being a nerd is a bad thing. No, being a slob is a bad thing, ignoring basic hygiene is a bad thing, etc. None of those things are associated to being a nerd.
Gay Discrimination Doesn't Exist Though, Right?
GiphyIt's minor, but at the pool in my apartment complex both my husband and I have show IDs to prove that we're residents; if either of us forgets it, we get turned away. Of course, when straight couples show up and only one of them has their ID, they're told it's okay since they're "a family."
I Just Want A Job
GiphyAnything in life that earns you experience, yet requires said experience to get.
For example, most jobs. They want you to have related experience to get the job, but the only way to get the experience is to get such a job.
The Patriarchy Hurts Us All
GiphyWomen are being encouraged to be empowered, independent, and more aggressive. They are also allowed to have feelings. Women's rights and roles are moving forward. Yes, finally. You go ladies I'm behind you 100%.
Men are still not really allowed to have feelings or have problems. We're expected to, in general, handle it. If we do need help, we're pathetic, or gay (which being gay has nothing to do with anything and I don't understand why that's an insult), or suddenly a burden. We can't even just share without expecting help.
When you talk to people, they are on board with sensitive men. In my experience, it's not always backed up in practice.
Just Don't Be Offensive?
GiphyThis person said a thing that offended someone and I don't like the person so he should be punished for it.
This person said a thing that offended someone but I like the person so the thing he should not be punished for it.
Doesn't matter what is said, the thing might even be the same thing but with a different target, what seems to matter to most is what side of the divide on "political hot topic of the month" said person is on.
Consider It Disturbed
GiphyMy dog can walk around the neighborhood without clothes on but when i do it i'm "disturbing the peace."
Netflix and Chill TF Out
GiphyPlaying video games for a whole day = OMG you loser
Binge-watching same period of time = Catching up on my fav show!!!
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Redditor Frozen_yoghurt123 asked:
"Who is the 'black sheep' of your family?"
I'm the black sheep or at least I'd like to think so.
Join me...
Scandal
"Probably my dad's cousin, who went to prison for murdering his lover's husband."
DW_555
Oh My Wow GIFGiphy"biggest disappointment"
"My Dad. He is the only one of 6 siblings who wasn't a huge f**k up. And yet, before my Grandma died she stated that he was her 'biggest disappointment.' He is estranged from his surviving siblings... not by his choice. It honestly blows my mind."
Unfair_Biscotti2828
"Toxicity is often a group mindset thing; people don't want you to leave because they are dysfunctionally co-dependent on each other and need each other to justify their own shortcomings in life. A lot of the 'family loyalty' stuff is typically shouted loudest by those who are the least good idea to stay loyal towards."
Creative_Recover
The Dead
"My great uncle who stole my great grandfathers identity, stole a couple million dollars, and ran off. No one even knew he was alive until my great grandfathers funeral in 2009. No one has seen him since. My grandma started to cry because she honestly thought he was dead."
"Everyone else just kind of nodded on his direction and went on with the rest of the funeral. I just remember being very confused because I was 9 and I had never met this guy who my dad pulled me aside and told me he was my great uncle. It was a few years later that I got the full story."
valkyrieonaunicorn
"matriarch"
"According to my mean aunt, the 'matriarch' in her own mind, it's my twin brother because "he doesn't care about family now that he's a doctor." (He's a resident. Chief resident. He works ridiculous hours and spends the rest of the time recovering from work.)"
"According to my ex-MIL (who still counts because she's Son's grandma), it's me, for divorcing her son."
"According to everyone else, it's Mean Aunt. The rest of us are warm and caring and compassionate. We have our moments; all of us have been accidentally thoughtless or done something selfish once in a while, but we're not deliberately mean and snarky all the time."
insertcaffeine
Everybody
"My immediate family are the black sheep of the entire family."
DarthDregan
John Stamos Cheers GIF by GrandfatheredGiphySounds like everyone has a little black sheep in them.
People Issues
"By now, my brother for cutting off everyone because he prefers his rude, selfish, paranoid, narcissist wife over all of us."
"My wife is the black sheep of her family in the sense that she's the only one who isn't a rude, selfish, paranoid narcissist."
Lvcivs2311
Joe Dirt Brother GIFGiphySo Dumb
"Me. My granddaddy told me 'I’ve only had the sheriff knock on my door two times in my 80 years, and both times he was looking for you! 'I did some dumb sh*t, caused a little trouble, burned a few bridges but always managed to stay out of jail. Partly because my sister has kept an attorney on retainer for me since I was 16."
This_Personality3731
Liar Liar
"My younger brother (2nd of 4) is a compulsive liar and it got him in a lot of little trouble as a teen, then he told his wife he graduated a big college when we're not even sure if he got his GED because he failed to graduate HS, went to some GED school and eventually just stopped going."
"IF he graduated college, he never mentioned he was going in the 4+ years it takes nor mention graduation or have a diploma. He's not a bad dude, but now family time is super awkward when he and his wife are talking about 'their' college team."
UniqueUsername82D
The NOT good girl...
"My aunt's daughter. She’s been in jail for drugs, stolen money from my aunt and other family members to use on drugs and physically abused my aunt. My aunt has tried getting her help, but nothing has worked. She’s just not a good person, and everyone in my family, except my aunt, doesn’t want anything to do with her. I haven’t seen her in 8 years now, and I’m happy about that."
Hello_Im_the_world
Maria?
"A former nun - my great aunt - left the religious life and got married. She called herself 'the black sheep of the family' because her habit was black."
Back2Bach
Excited Julie Andrews GIF by The Rodgers & Hammerstein OrganizationGiphyWell the black sheep sound like the most interesting family members.
Redditor OldAboba asked:
"What is the best non-sexual physical feeling you’ve ever felt?"
Adele. Adele live. She sends me.
Floating
Relaxed Exit Strategy GIF by Hannah Bronfman Giphy"I got a professional full body (everything but my man parts) massage a few years back for the first and so far only time at a spa after the recommendation from a coworker. I felt like I was floating on a cloud for the next few days."
gil_beard
Through your nose...
"Sneezing when you're sick. Then you get that about 20 second feeling of breathing through your nose again and you like ahh that's what I aspire to at the moment."
Sanguiniutron
"Or the very last sneeze of your illness. During a fire drill in high school, I was ambling out after fighting a head old for a few days. The alarm was killing my head which was already throbbing from the sinus pressure."
"I was nearing the field, well away from my classmates, when I cough/sneezed out a huge, green loogie - cleared it about three feet, no icky trail - and by the time I was walking back to the building I was feeling pretty much back to normal. No more head cold after that. Never had something like that ever happen again where there was such an abrupt end to the head cold."
NnyIsSpooky
'migraine cocktail'
"Right after a migraine goes away. It's almost a spiritual experience."
LarryLong*alls_
"This was going to be my answer. I was in the ER one time for a really bad migraine. They gave me what they called a 'migraine cocktail.' When they pushed it through the IV I could feel the cold liquid make its way through my body, up to my head. Once it hit my brain, the migraine was gone. It was pure ecstasy. Even better was that cocktail had Benadryl in it so I fell asleep not long after and slept so good."
master_baitor12
Shake It
"That stretch til you shake when you wake up."
Quanisha8472
"I once stretched too hard in the morning and got the worst calf cramp ever... it looked like a prune and I thought I would die from the pain. Couldn't stretch in bed for months afterwards out of fear it would happen again."
tevelis
"When you move over 50, it turns into that stretch til you put your back into a muscle spasm that lasts days."
wrichards12
The Itch
Scratching Feel Good GIF by 60 Second DocsGiphy"I had a cast and splint on both my legs for 2 months. When they cut it off, they scratched my legs for me and the itch was just top notch! Yeah."
Existing-Seat5962
Itching an itch can change a life.
YUM!
Emma Stone High Quality GIFGiphy"When you're starving all day and devour a bomb a** meal."
Lime_Rose
Sleep for Life
"When you’ve been up for 20 hours+ and finally get into bed and you just know it’ll be the best sleep of your life."
Ok_Sprinkles_8777
"But man, after 36+ hours, the body sort of aches and it's hard to fall asleep despite being completely exhausted. Then the restless legs kick in... ugh. I do agree that a 20hr-ish stint is amazing to cuddle into, especially if you don't have to get up at any specific time the next day."
curlyfat
"Makes it better when you’ve been sleep deprived for weeks and know you have NO PLANS tomorrow and can sleep as much as you need."
Batcraft10
That Feeling
"When you're absolutely busting for a pee and you can finally go!"
Apprehensive_Pen_793
"Apparently there’s a thing called a 'pee-gasm' that people (usually women) have that causes an orgasmic feeling when you pee after holding it for a while! I’ve definitely experienced this and I’ve intentionally waited a while so I could have that good feeling... lol."
cocoawhirl
I Can Hear!!
"The feeling of water leaving your ear after being there all day."
Apprehensive_Bet_438
"I had some impacted earwax for a week in one ear, and when it finally got removed it was the best feeling in the world. Initially it was like having a tv or radio in my ear that only had static, but then I could hear. Good god, I could hear. It was amazing."
doodwhatsrsly
"Oh man, and it’s WARM from being in your head, and the warmth makes the sensation of leaving even better."
AngiesPhalanges
A Good Rest
dog puppy GIFGiphy"Sleeping in a warm blanket in winters."
Puitzza
"Or sleeping in a cold blanket in summer."
pitypuruty
I am enthralled by all of those things.
Redditor Gold-Ad-2827 asked:
"People with mental disorders: What do you hate being told the most?"
I hated being told to just smile. You smile and go away.
Duh
seth meyers GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy"It's all in your head. Where else would it?! My colon?"
glorified_throwaway
Don't Minimize
"Everybody goes through that."
rukasu83
"This saying makes my blood boil. Or the 'I was that age once too ya know' yeah no sh*t you were that age once. And just because you were that age once doesn’t mean we have the same experience."
MasterOfRNoSleep
"They try to minimize it."
Previous_Ad7725
Stellar Advice
"You're worried? Just stop."
"You're sad? Just don't be."
"You're compulsively binge eating? Eat less."
"Thanks for that stellar advice."
CrayolaSocks
"Or even better, 'Just do it!' As if ADHD paralysis can be stopped with a can-do attitude."
HumanityIsACesspool
"physical health"
"I get so frustrated when people treat the idea of 'holistic medicine' as some kind of woo. How does it escape so many people that the body works holistically? Even a lot of doctors seem to ignore this. It's very frustrating when you have 2 or 3 or 4 illnesses that are all affecting each other, and your 'physical health' is held distinct from your mental health, and nothing anyone is doing to treat you works because no one's looking at the whole system."
"I just got a lecture from a psychiatrist I am seeing about nutrition, and he apologized to me for doing so but I told him, 'No, I appreciate it. Do it for all your patients.' because it told me he's trying to look at the whole picture and actually fix what's wrong. It gave me faith in him."
TheLastKirin
Relax
Calm Down Golden Girls GIF by TV LandGiphy"You need to calm down."
sorceress__stoned
"Never is the history of calm down has calm down ever caused anyone to calm down."
LBIdockrat
Calm down. I hate that one. You calm down.
Tips
Season 23 Reaction GIF by Law & OrderGiphy"When they try to give me tips on what to do, like bruh as if I didn't already try that."
Mediocre_Ad8282
The Standard
"You don't look sad. No crap... that's so I can avoid having this conversation. Also depression isn't 'being sad' like people think."
allgamerprogram
"God, I hate this. It's because saying 'I'm depressed' has been standard for people expressing that they're slightly unhappy about something dumb like not getting enough croutons on their salad or some crap. Now that's just what everyone assumes you mean when you say you have depression."
NilPill
Be Faster
"'Stop being lazy.'"
LadyBirdLadyBirdLady
“'Lazy' is when you don’t want to do anything at all. 'Executive disfunction' is when you can do everything at all, but that one easy quick thing that you do want to do just makes you and your brain freeze completely days ahead. I’m tired of people not understand that even when I explain and look at me like I’m bullshitting instead."
_Varien_
Ways to Cope
"Maybe you should try praying harder. I did, He prescribed medication."
Ms_Schuesher
"Praying is a way to cope for a lot of people, I think. That's totally fine, but insisting on praying in lieu of getting real help or actually addressing the issue is when it is not only unhelpful, but dangerously detrimental."
TheFrustrated
"Religious people will bypass everyone’s cultures, identity, views, and feelings just to be right and make a point. it’s disgusting. I read somewhere that real so called Christianity is all wrong. The real faith is from the Aramaic history and all the meanings were misinterpreted and the stories and all were made up by Catholics wanting to control their people. Yuck."
RisingPhoenix5271
'contamination'
Disgusted Season 6 GIF by Brooklyn Nine-NineGiphy"As someone with OCD with a lot of attention to 'contamination', having someone try to explain contradictions in why I'm doing something that is technically unclean when I wouldn't do something that is technically clean due to OCD. There are a few doorknobs that I will not touch no matter how much you clean them in front of me and I know it makes no sense, if it made sense I wouldn't have OCD i'd just be cleanly."
Zoooples
Stop trying to be an armchair therapist. Be empathetic to people first.