Those moments where your stomach drops and you immediately know you're in a bad situation. Hopefully those are moments that are rare in your life, but when they happen, what do you do?
Do you listen? Do you try to wait it out and see that you are hopefully wrong? What happens in your brain and in your body as the situation deepens around you?
When did you realise "I have to get out of this place"?
Here were some of those answers.
Ah, The Midwest
I used to live on the third floor of an apartment building. One summer day it was storming pretty bad. I was watching the news and they said a tornado might happen in my area. Suddenly the wind stopped, the sky got way darker than before, and the power cut off.
I immediately ran out the door, flew down the outside steps, got underneath the concrete slab at the ground floor of the steps, and then BOOM! The tornado hit. It was the scariest moment in my life (and I've had a gun in my face before). The rushing wind was so loud, and several squirrels ran under the concrete with me. Trees were uprooted, the cars in the lot were moved around, but I made it out alive.
Learning The Hard Way
When I came to my hoarding, bed ridden grandma who I was living with at the time, with some concerns.
I was working a full time job, dealing with my abusing ex, dealing with my depressed mom during her divorce, AND cooking and cleaning for my grandma. We were all under the same roof and I was the only one with any income. She was VERY picky about her food.
I would make her something healthy and delicious but she would say it's too spicy or the greens would upset her stomach. So she only ate white bread, mayo, white pasta with canned mushroom soup, and other specific items. She was also 400 lbs. I cared for her and I wanted to help. she really needed a full time care aid but must've figured I'd make a great substitute.
I came to her and asked if we could do anything about her food so that I didn't have to make her seperate food from everyone else, or so that I wasn't the one making it every day, or ANYTHING because I was feeling really depressed and it was making me bitter towards her.
She got upset, we argued. I had been nothing but respectful before this point. But I was at my limit and wasn't having any of it. I was also 19f and moved to her home at my mom's request to help them de-hoard. I didn't HAVE to be there at all.
She kicked me out. She said I could come back after 2 days so that I could learn my lesson.
Never went back. Was homeless for 2 weeks in a strange town but I felt free. Definitely learned my lesson thanks grandma.
When in a meeting my boss says "If your main client leaves, you may be without a job". I asked her to clarify and my other boss repeated the words exactly.
They were SHOCKED when I took a job offer for more money and less stress. My main client left 3 months later.
It becomes a sign so glaring that you can't ignore it even if you wanted to.
We Love Abusive/Reductive Family (We Don't)
As a PC gamer who bought his own PC, it was when my mother cut all my computer cords after I wouldn't let my 10 year old brother use it to play Minecraft. My parents had already bought him a $1200 best buy computer when I changed my computer password.
For some background, I was working full time and living at home to save money. I got home at 5pm and my brother who got home earlier from school would be on my computer and I would always ask him nicely to GTFO. He would then go b*tch to my mother or fight with my even younger sister. This eventually escalated until I left/got kicked out.
He went so far that he lied about having homework to skip out on my grandfathers last Fathers Day dinner we had with him. I knew what was up so I changed my PC password before we left. That was the day he got his new PC. The whole thing went on for months and 10 years later my mother still says I am in the wrong.
People Explain The Worst Thing That's Ever Happened To Them On Their Birthday
Once Again, With The Parents
I lived with my mom on and off in my early 20's. She was an alcoholic and was emotionally and sometimes financially codependent on me so I felt kinda trapped. One night she was drinking and I came home and she had thrown all of my clothes in a box and told me I had to move out.
Nothing happened to provoke that and her demanding I move out when she was drunk was a very frequent occurrence. We split rent so it always really pissed me off like I was literally only there because when she'd sober up she'd apologize and tell me not to leave.
We got in a fight and she hit me pretty hard in the face. She had hit me before but in that moment I was just thinking I'm done with this sh*t. And I was so much more done than I'd ever been before. Moved to a new city within the next 5 days.
No More Exploitation
Got a job as a production assistant. Found out the primary production team was in their mid 50's and pushed for a younger, independent dev team - "New Media Development Team".
Spent FOUR YEARS, pushing, hinting, steering in new hires. Finally they announce the purchase of building two, just down the street - the home offices of "New Media Development". I volunteer to work on the building in my spare time to expedite the creation of my new office. When it's down to the wire, take a week of vacation to paint, clean, run CAT5, assemble desks and get it ready.
Go to my office on the first day to grab my gear and head over and the lead producer stops me to say "Your department is going over to the new building - you are staying here. You're the best editor we have and I can't afford to lose you."
It broke me. After a week of vacay I immediately took 3 sick days. I had been loyal - too loyal. I met with my boss and asked for my pay to be doubled. When he said no, I said he needed to start shopping NOW for my replacement.
About four months later, I got a new job. At double my previous pay rate.
When it comes to us to finally know our self-worth, we must make the choice to choose ourselves over everybody else.
A Job Ain't Worth It
When one of my bosses spent hours explaining to me how absolutely crucial it was that I finished a project asap, and then the other boss came in and said he needed to 'borrow me' for the whole week, for urgent work on a different project.
When I got back to the first project, I did some work on the weekend to catch up, and put everything into an excel document, knowing that's the first boss' preferred file format.
'Hey, I got your file and I have some questions' he said. 'Do you mind going through it'? '
Of course I didn't mind. Until he opened the file. My 3 tabs had turned into 12, filled with codes and equations, and the tab named Data was now named something like' Chumbawumbafinaledit69'.
He was very angry at me for not being able to explain it.
I wish these people death. I wish I was joking about that. I am not.
Ironically, I really like the actual job, and I'm pretty good at it. I absolutely hate these people though, and I'd rather work as a toilet cleaner than even see the brand of car my boss drives again.
Steve Jobs, Get Wrecked
When working for Apple, they tried to force promote me to a senior advisor. Telling me I'd be fired if I didn't accept. I called their bluff and declined. Nothing happened.
Then suddenly they want me to handle two more lines of business with no extra pay, and if I don't do it I'll be fired. Got tired of the games and quit. Worst company I've ever worked for.
This Ain't The Outback Mate
I was backpacking in rural Australia, waiting at a bus stop. I'd just missed my bus, and the next one wasn't coming for nearly an hour. Just then an old car pulled up and the guy rolled down his window and asked where I was going, he said he was going the same way and to hop in, which I did.
It was dark when I was talking to him outside, and when I got in the car I realised the seats had been ripped out and there were empty beer cans everywhere. The guy was clearly off his head, and the place I was in had a pretty bad meth problem. He told me his name was motherf*cker and that he'd just got out of jail.
He told me before we went to my original destination he needed to see a friend, so we pull up outside this house and he makes me go in with him. When we were inside everyone was smoking meth, and the mood was very sketchy, and I don't think either of us were particularly welcome. He got me an ice cream out of the guys freezer even though I said I didn't want it he was pretty insistent.
I realised it was time to leave when he pulled out a knife and told me he was gonna cut my ears off, I kinda laughed it off and told him I needed to go back to the car to get something, and he said to make sure I came back. When I got out the house I ran, it was difficult to explain to my g/f how I'd managed to miss two buses, and when I told her about my night with him she didn't believe a word of it.
Tldr: Accepted a lift from a random, taken to a crack den, force-fed ice cream, and threatened with a knife.
We have to know to start listening to our intuition as soon as that feeling becomes available. It can hold valuable information for us that could possibly save our lives.
And the sooner we learn to follow what our gut is telling us, the sooner we can learn to really trust and love ourselves and embrace what we are worth. Because darling, you ARE worth it.
"What makes someone bad in bed?"
WHERE TO BEGIN?!
The list is endless.
Half the time all it takes to be better is a little effort.
RedditorMidoriSpicewanted to hear about the lack of skills some people really need to acquire when it comes to sexy time. They asked:
"What makes someone bad in bed?"
I love sex. But it can be stressful. I've always found connection to be one of the best lessons.
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"Assuming they already know what their partner wants/likes and doesn't communicate or take any instructions."
Take it Slow
"No foreplay and not caring if your partner is enjoying it."
"I had an ex who literally never wanted to do any kind of foreplay. He just wanted basically sex of any kind for him. He said oral on women was gross."
"Proposing mid intercourse."
"Honestly? With the partner I have, I'd think it was pretty hot and romantic lmao. I'd check in after the deed to make sure he was serious but our relationship is already very serious so it wouldn't be a big deal."
Talk to Me
"Not talking or making any noises. We don't have to dirty talk the whole time or even at all but you gotta let me know you're enjoying it at least."
"I think there's some balance between having some small talk, silence, and dirty talk while being in bed with someone. Or maybe that's just been my experience. I don't know--I think there's some fun in trying to carry a side conversation while having sex lol."
"Friction isn’t always a good thing."
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"To this you can add unclipped fingernails."
"And dirty fingernails. Nah, ma'am. I’m betting this is not worth the infection. Thanks."
‘good at sex’
"I have a feeling most men will say 'lack of enthusiasm' and that most women will say 'being selfish about pleasure.'"
"I’m a woman and my first thought was lack of enthusiasm, but my own lack of enthusiasm. The only bad sex I’ve had is when I don’t genuinely want to be there. I’ve had sex with guys who weren’t ‘good at sex’ but still enjoyed it because I was really into them."
"They are convinced they know more about what works for you than you know yourself. Just cause your ex-lover Pat liked technique X doesn't mean everyone does."
"Have experienced this, it sucks. He wouldn’t listen to what I enjoyed, didn’t want me to say ANYTHING even if it hurt or wasn’t working, and would just say something along the lines of 'every other woman I’ve been with liked it.' I’m thinking, all you’ve had are one-night stands, really, so they probably didn’t say anything."
"I’ve had numerous partners and love sex. Crashed and burned with this one and he really crushed my self-esteem and sexual confidence."
"The biggest thing is always going to be selfishness and the inability/refusal to communicate and listen to your partner. I've seriously had a guy yell 'I KNOW HOW TO DO IT!' when I was trying to tell him how I liked whatever he was doing. He then got even more upset when I said 'did you just f**king yell at me? Alright, off, I'm done.'"
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"Lack of variety. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean crazy kinks or positions from the karma sutra, but more when it's really predicable. I has an ex that had this weird routine of positions, it was exactly the same every single f**king time in exactly the same order."
Sex. Let's be better at it.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Love is so elusive these days isn't it?
Who knows what anyone is looking for in the relationship department anymore.
It's all too exhausting.
But people we keep trying.
RedditorProblemNice5257wanted to hear why so many people are still on the hunt for that perfect one. They asked:
"Why are you single right now?"
I'm single because I've given up. And I'm good. For now.
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"I put absolutely no effort into meeting someone."
"Same! Also it's extremely difficult when you feel so at peace being by yourself. The fact that I have to find someone whose presence outweighs my level of comfort being alone seems impossible."
"Hard to meet people when you are a hermit."
"Yeah, I describe myself as a shut-in, lol. I leave my apartment to work, I leave my apartment to buy food, and occasionally I’ll bring out the trash, otherwise I just watch Hulu, play online chess, surf Reddit."
"Same. I've spent months trying to find an apartment I can afford without a roommate and finally settled on a small studio apartment for $1100 a month because I'd rather living in a tiny space and be left the hell alone than share a much nicer place even with a good friend."
"I have too many unsolved issues, i can't in good conscience bring someone else into them."
"Idk your issues but everyone's got some crap. Not sure how unique yours are but everyone's got some crap. It's good to share some of your struggles with other people. Just don't open with it haha."
"Issues unresolved or not, (in my case) only makes it worse when you feel like you could open up to them, and they just take those to use it against yourself afterwards."
"I hardly go out and expose myself to people. I'm uncomfortable with the notion of myself being in a relationship at this point. Also, I'm very dry in terms of personality."
"I spent a year entirely isolated due to covid and now I can't handle physical contact. It makes me really uncomfortable and a hug is enough to make my body shut down. I'm hopeless."
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"Supply chain issue."
"Best answer here."
That's funny. But it feels oddly true.
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"I'm attracted to many, and unattractive to all."
"Last relationship was so toxic, I've sworn off dating, at least for awhile. I haven't had this much free time in ages. It's nice."
"Edit: Hey, it's really great hearing from so many people with similar experiences. Like many of you, I've been taking it in stride and focusing on bettering myself, both physically and mentally. It's done wonders for my health and I feel a whole lot better. I wish y'all the very best. Stay excellent, my friends."
"I'm 35yr old single father to a 5yr old and I work nights. It's hard to find free time to meet someone, especially in my area. If I do have free time to myself, I like staying home and ordering a pizza while drinking some beers and playing video games. I pretty much faced the fact that I will probably be alone for the rest of my life."
"I was in an 8 year relationship (married for two) to my high school sweetheart. Exactly this same time last year, we got divorced because I found out he was cheating on me with my best friend. The best friend I had known LONGER than him and was friends with since fourth grade."
"She was living with us to try to get back on her feet. Yeah lol. So I lost my best friend and the man I had been with for 8 years within the same night. So I moved to another state, got an apartment by myself, and am now single and divorced all by 26. Not really looking unless the right person comes along."
"It’s pretty happy and peaceful now that they’re both out of my life though honestly. You realize people’s toxicity and flaws the most once you get space away from them."
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"Because my relationships end before they even begin."
"This is my story right here."
Alright. Now that we've laid out all the excuses, let's get to matching with some people.
There is no bigger mystery than what happens to us after we die.
But even those who don't practice an organized religion tend to believe that there is a Heaven, a happy joyful place where our souls will remain for eternity.
No two people share the same idea of what heaven would be like, but everyone who believes in it probably has an idea of the first thing they'd do after entering the pearly gates.
Redditor WeDidItGuyz was curious to hear what would be top on everyone's list upon entering the afterlife, leading them to ask:
"If heaven exists, what’s the first thing you’d do?"
Overcome with joy
"In all reality?"
"Probably cry for about 30 minutes because the biggest existential fear at the very core my humanity has now been lifted."
"If Heaven exists, like 50% of the awesomeness is just the very fact that it exists."heaven gate GIF by South Park Giphy
A re-match long in the making
"Ask my childhood friend Kevon for a race."
"He used to beat me handily when were younger (9-13) and he’d always brag."
"When I got older and faster I moved away so I was never able to race him again."
"We arranged for a race but he was shot multiple times and bound to a wheelchair until he passed a few years ago."
"I wanna race him both in our prime."- Abethegreat1
Reunite with loved ones
"Find my husband, give him a huge hug and never let go again."
"Live our forever together."
"I f*cking love him and miss him so much."- jessdfrench
"Embrace my sweet wife and tell her how proud I am of the kids."- RifleShower
"Try to find my brother."
"Man, I miss him."
"He died in 2020 at age 34."- grummlinds1
"Give my mum and dad a big hug."- goonerjack007Miss U GIF by GIPHY Studios OriginalsGiphy
Achieve the "firsts" we never got to do
"Find my son and have a beer with him."
"Something we never got to do in real life."- tanukis_parachute
Hone new skills
"Try to play Smoke on the water on my harp."- Ashtar-the-Squid
The joy of doing nothing
"Rest."- BanzaikoowaidCare Free Black Girls GIF by AuroraDrawsGiphy
Live on without pain
"Enjoy my healthy back without pain."- Knackbein_
Who knows what's in store for us after our lives come to an end.
But living with the idea that something wonderful awaits when our time has come is all people need to continue to live their lives to the fullest, and treat others with the respect and kindness they deserve.
"Fun facts" generally refers to a tidbit of information about a specific topic which the general public might not have otherwise known about.
But the first word in that term can be misleading.
Indeed, some "fun facts" reveal information that isn't remotely "fun" in the slightes.
Redditor Alternative_kachocho was curious to hear some "fun facts" which were anything but fun, leading them to ask:
What's a 'fun fact' that isn’t fun at all?"
Ironically, something you likely don't think about...
"Your brain blocks you from feeling your organs moving around inside you."- Aydengeist06
Try watching Finding Nemonow...
"Only one in a thousand sea turtles born actually make it to adulthood."- Sebs_123
Shocking new light on an age old classic
"In the books, Stuart Little was never explicitly called a mouse."
"He's pretty much described as a deformed mouse-esque person born form human parents."- Red_Beard47stuart little mouse GIF by VIASAT3Giphy
Nature running it's course...
"There's a bird that feeds its younger offspring to the eldest."- Teacup_Cult
I have no allergies... yet
"Speaking from personal experience here, but your body can randomly decide to become allergic to damn near everything edible at any time."
"Not very fun."- smallemochick
Those poor, innocent creatures.
"In some regions of Australia, 90 percent of koalas have chlamydia, which poses a threat to the species' extinction unless a vaccine is created or widespread koala culling takes place."- tiffanyjcrusekoalas kiss GIFGiphy
They'd still be here if they weren't so delicious...
"The giant tortoise was so delicious, it caused not only itself to be hunted to extinction, but also the dodo."
"Giant tortoise meat was supposedly better tasting than chicken."
"It's fat tasted better spread on bread than butter."
"Also, it was the perfect food for sailors at the time, as their bladders stored 1 litre of purified water, and they could survive without food in hibernation for almost a whole year in the hull of a ship."
"Not to mention, because they evolved without humans, they were easy to hunt."
"You could tie one to your back, and roll another to the ship and they would just let you."
"It was so delicious, they went unrecorded for a long time because expeditions to bring living samples of wildlife to Europe kept eating them on the way."
"Conversely, the dodo, while as easily captured by sailors, tasted awful."
"It was completely unpalatable."
"HOWEVER, one day, someone discovered if you cooked dodo meat in the more delicious tortoise fat, it tasted just like chicken."
"So now, sailors were hunting a few tortoises at a time for their fat and water, storing them, and then hunting dodos on the daily."
"Overhunting, plus the introduction of rats to the environment (because sailors) which would eat eggs, led go the population to decline at a rate they could not breed to keep up, leading to both animals going extinct."- Kyhan
Don't forget the nose plugs
"Antarctica smells like penguin poop."
"Antarctica is a desert, it is too cold for bacteria to live."
"Nothing there to clean up penguin droppings."
"If you are close enough to see penguins, you will also smell them."- gummby8
Makes those long lines so worth it...
"The TSA missed 96% of contraband during an inspection in 2015."- omegasix321All Falls Down Tsa GIF by Kanye WestGiphy
"The person who had the first facial transplant had her face chewed up by her Labrador dog while asleep due to sleeping pill overdose." - User Deleted
It's hard not to read some of these "fun facts" and wonder if there should be an alternative term for the facts which aren't fun.
Oh yeah, probably not....