Those moments where your stomach drops and you immediately know you're in a bad situation. Hopefully those are moments that are rare in your life, but when they happen, what do you do?
Do you listen? Do you try to wait it out and see that you are hopefully wrong? What happens in your brain and in your body as the situation deepens around you?
When did you realise "I have to get out of this place"?
Here were some of those answers.
Ah, The Midwest
I used to live on the third floor of an apartment building. One summer day it was storming pretty bad. I was watching the news and they said a tornado might happen in my area. Suddenly the wind stopped, the sky got way darker than before, and the power cut off.
I immediately ran out the door, flew down the outside steps, got underneath the concrete slab at the ground floor of the steps, and then BOOM! The tornado hit. It was the scariest moment in my life (and I've had a gun in my face before). The rushing wind was so loud, and several squirrels ran under the concrete with me. Trees were uprooted, the cars in the lot were moved around, but I made it out alive.
Learning The Hard Way
When I came to my hoarding, bed ridden grandma who I was living with at the time, with some concerns.
I was working a full time job, dealing with my abusing ex, dealing with my depressed mom during her divorce, AND cooking and cleaning for my grandma. We were all under the same roof and I was the only one with any income. She was VERY picky about her food.
I would make her something healthy and delicious but she would say it's too spicy or the greens would upset her stomach. So she only ate white bread, mayo, white pasta with canned mushroom soup, and other specific items. She was also 400 lbs. I cared for her and I wanted to help. she really needed a full time care aid but must've figured I'd make a great substitute.
I came to her and asked if we could do anything about her food so that I didn't have to make her seperate food from everyone else, or so that I wasn't the one making it every day, or ANYTHING because I was feeling really depressed and it was making me bitter towards her.
She got upset, we argued. I had been nothing but respectful before this point. But I was at my limit and wasn't having any of it. I was also 19f and moved to her home at my mom's request to help them de-hoard. I didn't HAVE to be there at all.
She kicked me out. She said I could come back after 2 days so that I could learn my lesson.
Never went back. Was homeless for 2 weeks in a strange town but I felt free. Definitely learned my lesson thanks grandma.
When in a meeting my boss says "If your main client leaves, you may be without a job". I asked her to clarify and my other boss repeated the words exactly.
They were SHOCKED when I took a job offer for more money and less stress. My main client left 3 months later.
It becomes a sign so glaring that you can't ignore it even if you wanted to.
We Love Abusive/Reductive Family (We Don't)
As a PC gamer who bought his own PC, it was when my mother cut all my computer cords after I wouldn't let my 10 year old brother use it to play Minecraft. My parents had already bought him a $1200 best buy computer when I changed my computer password.
For some background, I was working full time and living at home to save money. I got home at 5pm and my brother who got home earlier from school would be on my computer and I would always ask him nicely to GTFO. He would then go b*tch to my mother or fight with my even younger sister. This eventually escalated until I left/got kicked out.
He went so far that he lied about having homework to skip out on my grandfathers last Fathers Day dinner we had with him. I knew what was up so I changed my PC password before we left. That was the day he got his new PC. The whole thing went on for months and 10 years later my mother still says I am in the wrong.
People Explain The Worst Thing That's Ever Happened To Them On Their Birthday
Once Again, With The Parents
I lived with my mom on and off in my early 20's. She was an alcoholic and was emotionally and sometimes financially codependent on me so I felt kinda trapped. One night she was drinking and I came home and she had thrown all of my clothes in a box and told me I had to move out.
Nothing happened to provoke that and her demanding I move out when she was drunk was a very frequent occurrence. We split rent so it always really pissed me off like I was literally only there because when she'd sober up she'd apologize and tell me not to leave.
We got in a fight and she hit me pretty hard in the face. She had hit me before but in that moment I was just thinking I'm done with this sh*t. And I was so much more done than I'd ever been before. Moved to a new city within the next 5 days.
No More Exploitation
Got a job as a production assistant. Found out the primary production team was in their mid 50's and pushed for a younger, independent dev team - "New Media Development Team".
Spent FOUR YEARS, pushing, hinting, steering in new hires. Finally they announce the purchase of building two, just down the street - the home offices of "New Media Development". I volunteer to work on the building in my spare time to expedite the creation of my new office. When it's down to the wire, take a week of vacation to paint, clean, run CAT5, assemble desks and get it ready.
Go to my office on the first day to grab my gear and head over and the lead producer stops me to say "Your department is going over to the new building - you are staying here. You're the best editor we have and I can't afford to lose you."
It broke me. After a week of vacay I immediately took 3 sick days. I had been loyal - too loyal. I met with my boss and asked for my pay to be doubled. When he said no, I said he needed to start shopping NOW for my replacement.
About four months later, I got a new job. At double my previous pay rate.
When it comes to us to finally know our self-worth, we must make the choice to choose ourselves over everybody else.
A Job Ain't Worth It
When one of my bosses spent hours explaining to me how absolutely crucial it was that I finished a project asap, and then the other boss came in and said he needed to 'borrow me' for the whole week, for urgent work on a different project.
When I got back to the first project, I did some work on the weekend to catch up, and put everything into an excel document, knowing that's the first boss' preferred file format.
'Hey, I got your file and I have some questions' he said. 'Do you mind going through it'? '
Of course I didn't mind. Until he opened the file. My 3 tabs had turned into 12, filled with codes and equations, and the tab named Data was now named something like' Chumbawumbafinaledit69'.
He was very angry at me for not being able to explain it.
I wish these people death. I wish I was joking about that. I am not.
Ironically, I really like the actual job, and I'm pretty good at it. I absolutely hate these people though, and I'd rather work as a toilet cleaner than even see the brand of car my boss drives again.
Steve Jobs, Get Wrecked
When working for Apple, they tried to force promote me to a senior advisor. Telling me I'd be fired if I didn't accept. I called their bluff and declined. Nothing happened.
Then suddenly they want me to handle two more lines of business with no extra pay, and if I don't do it I'll be fired. Got tired of the games and quit. Worst company I've ever worked for.
This Ain't The Outback Mate
I was backpacking in rural Australia, waiting at a bus stop. I'd just missed my bus, and the next one wasn't coming for nearly an hour. Just then an old car pulled up and the guy rolled down his window and asked where I was going, he said he was going the same way and to hop in, which I did.
It was dark when I was talking to him outside, and when I got in the car I realised the seats had been ripped out and there were empty beer cans everywhere. The guy was clearly off his head, and the place I was in had a pretty bad meth problem. He told me his name was motherf*cker and that he'd just got out of jail.
He told me before we went to my original destination he needed to see a friend, so we pull up outside this house and he makes me go in with him. When we were inside everyone was smoking meth, and the mood was very sketchy, and I don't think either of us were particularly welcome. He got me an ice cream out of the guys freezer even though I said I didn't want it he was pretty insistent.
I realised it was time to leave when he pulled out a knife and told me he was gonna cut my ears off, I kinda laughed it off and told him I needed to go back to the car to get something, and he said to make sure I came back. When I got out the house I ran, it was difficult to explain to my g/f how I'd managed to miss two buses, and when I told her about my night with him she didn't believe a word of it.
Tldr: Accepted a lift from a random, taken to a crack den, force-fed ice cream, and threatened with a knife.
We have to know to start listening to our intuition as soon as that feeling becomes available. It can hold valuable information for us that could possibly save our lives.
And the sooner we learn to follow what our gut is telling us, the sooner we can learn to really trust and love ourselves and embrace what we are worth. Because darling, you ARE worth it.
History is full of infamous disasters one can't imagine experiencing in their lifetimes.
The same can probably be said of our ancestors if they became privy to some of the horrific events that have occurred in our modern era.
Which are the most frightening?
That is exactly what Redditor dat_b_o_i asked strangers on the internet in the subReddit titled:
"What is an terrifying historical fact that you know?"
Remnants from the past still pose risks.
"There is a missing hydrogen bomb somewhere off the beach where my family vacations..."
"Tybee Island AKA Savannah Beach"
'The Tybee Island mid-air collision was an incident on February 5, 1958, in which the United States Air Force lost a 7,600-pound (3,400 kg) Mark 15 nuclear bomb in the waters off Tybee Island near Savannah, Georgia, United States. During a practice exercise, an F-86 fighter plane collided with the B-47 bomber carrying the bomb. To protect the aircrew from a possible detonation in the event of a crash, the bomb was jettisoned. Following several unsuccessful searches, the bomb was presumed lost somewhere in Wassaw Sound off the shores of Tybee Island.'
"when the USSR collapsed, multiple nuclear weapons and boxes full of vials of smallpox were lost."
– User Deleted
Nuclear Weapons Gaffe
"Since 1950, there have been 32 'Broken Arrow' incidents, out of which 6 of these warheads were not recovered or accounted for. It remains unknown how many such incidents the Soviet Union had."
"Sleep well tonight, my friends."
These fascinating historical facts might be unfamiliar to most people.
"The dancing plague of 1518, or dance epidemic of 1518, was a case of dancing mania that occurred in Strasbourg, Alsace (modern-day France), in the Holy Roman Empire from July 1518 to September 1518. Somewhere between 50 and 400 people took to dancing for weeks."
Kids In Battle
"during the paraguayan war, paraguay sent 3500 poorly armed children between 9 to 15 yo, wounded soldiers and old men to face brazilian army (20 thousand men), because most of paraguayan combatants were killed. the date of this battle is now children's day in Paraguay."
The Next Step Could Be Your Last
"Near Mt St Helens, in the Gifford Pinchot National Forest, and before the volcano erupted in 1980, there were areas where you were not allowed off the footpaths. This was because Douglas Firs, which can reach 200ft, were buried in ash in prior eruptions, then rotted away. So you could step on a relatively thin layer of old ash, break through, and fall any number of feet into what amounted to a crevasse or a well."
The following examples depicted some of the most disturbing ways people have perished.
"A lot of sailors survived the bombing of Pearl Harbor, but were trapped in their sunken ships. There was no way to rescue them. People had to listen helplessly to the men banging on the inside of the hulls for days until they gradually went quiet."
"Humanity's Greatest Horrors"
"I went to the Killing Fields and was depressed beyond belief but also became intensely aware of the significance of being at the site of one of humanity's greatest horrors."
Ominously Beautiful Locale
"This reminds me very much of the suicide cliffs in Saipan. Wild story. Basically during World War Two, Saipan was occupied by the Japanese. When word got out that the United States army was coming to the island the Japanese soldiers began telling everyone that Americans will come eat them."
"The people of Saipan and Japanese living there started to throw themselves off these cliffs with their children and families. I forget the exact number but it was a massive amount of people."
"Here is a link"
"While I was working in Saipan it was a crazy place to be. There is a wall with a ton of names on it as a memorial to those who died. Incredibly beautiful scenery with just a horrible past."
"in the warsaw ghettos they would pile up body’s of people that might have not even been dead. someone who collapsed could have been tossed to the side and be covered with other bodies, slowly crushing them and suffocating them. until they did actually die."
The thread was full of some of the most frightening events in history that still haunts many people today.
These appalling and horrific events reinforce the significance of why we should learn from our past so as to never experience what previous generations have suffered.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Fame is one of those things people tend to want until they have it - or that people shy away from entirely because they understand how sideways it tends to go.
But what about people who end up famous after their deaths? Or who managed to get more famous from the afterlife?
Reddit user GCanuck asked:
"Which historically famous person do you think would be most surprised to learn they are famous?"
If your mind immediately went to that Vincent Van Gogh scene from Dr. Who then 1. you're a nerd (me too!) and 2. you're not alone.
Here's what Reddit had to say.
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"Vincent van Gogh."
"His paintings made billions of dollars for rich people, but couldn't trade a painting for a meal during his lifetime. Had to be supported by his brother."
"It’s amazing how many pieces he created in such a short time considering how unsuccessful he was in selling them while alive. He kept banging them out despite his 'failure'.”
"He was encouraged to paint as part of his therapy/rehabilitation. He was a pretty disturbed guy, and not in a romantic way."
"Have you ever seen the Doctor Who episode about him?"
"This is what actually prompted this question for me."
"Most of the world has read your diary."
"Wait...All of my diary?"
"Her Father censored some of it because she talks about her body and other things, I can't really blame him for that. Modern prints are uncensored."
"She’d have been thrilled, but I don’t think surprised is the right word. She dreamed of being a published author. She knew that she was creating something valuable and important with her diary, and she wanted it to be published."
"I wonder what she'd think of her diary being turned into a stage play including a Broadway run and thousands of young girls doing their best to recreate all the different facets both good and bad of how she acted during her time in the Annex."
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"He had a few early successes with seafaring books, but Moby-Dick was a total flop that got bad reviews, and he spent the final decades of his life working in the customs department."
"He would be shocked to hear he wrote the Great American Novel."
"My boyfriend is from New Bedford, MA. Apparently the local high schools there had big murals depicting scenes from Moby Dick." "
*That* would have amazed Melville."
"Dude, that's the best part. You never know what's coming next. It's like:"
"45 pages of unintentionally hilarious interactions between Ishmael and Queequeg."
"30 pages of incredible, brooding drama written in stage play format for some reason."
"100 page essay about some minor technical details about whaling and how some village built their chieftain's hall out of a whale's ribcage."
"Another 20 pages of Ahab chewing the scenery and embodying mankind's self-destructive obsessions"
"Then Queequeg speaking his last words but then deciding he doesn't want to die yet and miraculously springing back to life."
"Like the ocean itself, you have to accept that Moby Dick moves at its own pace lol"
We, In Fact, Did Not Forget
"Hegelochus, an actor who mispronounced a word in a play in the year 408 BC and was mocked so thoroughly for it, his mistake has made it into the collective ledger of things historians know about and generally agree upon having happened… and we're still aware of it over 2,400 years later."
"Imagine making a meme today with a word misspelled, and others found that misspelling so egregiously mockable that you are still known for it in the year 4422."
" 'Oh come on get over it. No one will remember about that by tomorrow' -Hehelochus’ mom probably"
"He must have went to sleep running the moment in his head over and over again, but he probably tried to comfort himself by thinking, 'well, at least it's not like some space-age hyper-futuristic society is going to be discussing this thousands of years from now on their magic boxes powered by lightning in some language that doesn't even exist yet'."
"This is the worst nightmare of everyone that has been told to stop worrying because no one will pay as much attention to what you're doing as you."
"Counter point: Hegelochus."
"Kafka. Rarely published in his lifetime, and when he did it was in obscure magazines which nobody read."
"Explicitly asked that his works be destroyed after his death. It's only because his executor disregarded his wishes and published his unfinished works (which comprise the majority of his oeuvre) that he is famous today."
"Kafka is a good example of how much can anxiety ruin a person's life"
"Kafka wrote his stories to be shared with a group of friends like story-telling at a campfire"
"Blind Willie Johnson."
"He passed away blind, poor and sick, lying in the ruins of his house after it was burnt down."
"And his song 'Dark was the Night, Cold was the Ground' left our solar system not too long ago aboard the Voyager to be listened to by life among the stars."
"I really like to think one day-thousands and thousands of years in the future, an alien race will find that golden disk and hear his voice."
"I think the fact he had such a poor life but could one day live eternally amongst the stars is so beautiful."
"Found out about him through a VSauce video."
"I listened to a couple songs and really liked them, he had a great voice and had a great talent for playing guitar despite being blind. Such a humbling and inspiring story he had"
"I remember learning about this in a Vsauce video and crying profusely afterwards, but not only from sadness, also from hope, and some other emotions I can’t possibly describe."
"The fact that he died at the lowest of lows, blind, sick, poor, and alone, yet he very well could be the man that teaches the stars about the very essence of humanity… there’s just something so intrinsically beautiful about that."
"Humanity, flawed as it is, is as intrinsically kind and beautiful as it is evil. The world forgets that sometimes."
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"Lisa Gherardini, the Mona Lisa model."
"She was just some unremarkable random wife. Fast forward a few hundred years and she ended up as one of the most recognizable faces in history."
"HER NAMES NOT EVEN MONA LISA?!"
" 'Monna' was a shortening of the Italian word 'madonna', which was the equivalent of the English 'Madam'."
Honor Well Pass Death
"This is the dead body they used in Operation Mincemeat."
"The man basically consumed rat poison to commit suicide."
"His corpse was then used for a British secret operation to carry fake documents for the Nazis to find in order to make them think they were invading Greece and not Sicily."
"This man died in a alleyway and went on the become a dedicated Major in the British military buried with full military rites - under his fake name, but still him in physical form."
"He was originally buried under his covert identity (in Spain where his body washed ashore after being deposited in the sea nearby by a Royal Navy submarine), Major William Martin of the Royal Marines."
"In 2009 or thereabouts his real name (Glyndwr Michael) was added to his gravestone."
"I thought he died of tuberculosis so it’d be more convincing he was a British serviceman who drowned? Or maybe that was the guy used to make the Nazis think the Allies were invading Calais instead of Normandy."
"It was rat poison but it's not clear if it was a suicide."
"The poison was in the form of a paste that would be smeared on pieces of bread; rodents eat the bread, rodents die. Or in this case; poor Welshman eats the bread, poor Welshman dies."
"It's not clear whether he knew the paste was poison, or whether he was just hungry and thought he genuinely found some bread lying around."
"Where the confusion comes in is that the guy in charge of Mincemeat claimed the body was that of a young man who died of pneumonia, and that the parents had given permission for his body to be used as it was."
A Real Hero
"A literal hero of humanity who in some ways is still alive."
"Her family deserved so much better though."
"Can I get a short version? I don't think I've heard of her before"
"Her contribution to science is and continues to be gigantic"
Laws Of Inheritance
"Gregor Mendel, the monk and scientist who experimented with pea plant traits to describe what we today literally call Mendelian inheritance."
"The significance of Mendel's findings, which he published in 1866, went almost completely unrecognized during his life and after his death. His work was only rediscovered in the early 1900s when modern ideas about inheritance and selection started taking hold."
"I can differ there. When he first stated his theory, he was sure it was correct (as it was) but was rejected. I can imagine him not being surprised at the fact that his work was re recognised as right later down the line"
"It's entirely possible you're correct and Mendel suspected that someday he'd be proved right. At the same time, however, he spent decades after his discovery trying and failing to elicit interest from the academic public or individual biologists, and retired from science to become a monastery administrator, which looks a lot like 'giving up'."
Okay, so we learned some interesting history today. How about you?
Don't you love a good myth?
Let's put some of NSFW ones to the test.
RedditorWizzlyG33wanted to hear about what lies need to be exposed when it comes to sex, death and all things over the top in life. They asked:
"If MythBusters had a NSFW episode, what would you want to see on it?"
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"A five second segment where Jamie points at a diagram and says, in complete deadpan, 'This is where the clitoris is.'"
"If they did such an episode, I could see this being in it for sure."
"I want them to purchase every pill they see on the internet that would make their penis bigger and see what happens."
"I think we can call that one BUSTED already. In what version of any world can you imagine there is a simple pill to make your junk more impressive and every dude you know doesn't already have a case of 10000 pills stashed under the bed?"
"Can you actually get an STD from a toilet seat?"
"This is an interesting thing actually. It was a myth deliberately perpetuated to make people less ashamed of asking for STD tests."
"Fun fact: There are multiple STDs that can be dormant (like inactive) for years. Like several years."
"You’d never know you had gotten it. Then something triggers it, maybe an infection or something, and then you start showing symptoms/Can now test positive. So technically a partner from years before could have given it to you and you either think your SO is cheating or haven’t been with anybody in a long time. Either way it’s scary when you think about it."
"Does a person really stay conscious for a few moments after beheading?"
"There was a French physician who tested this in the early 1900s. After a criminal was beheaded he picked up the head and shouted the criminal's name. The guy opened his eyes and made eye contact with the physician over a period of 30 seconds whenever his name was called. Edit: I provided the source in other comments but here it is on the original comment."
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"Size correlates to what? Feet? Nose? So many theories."
"I have size 12 feet and a massive nose and huge hands and the little guy is small."
Oh the lies and the rumors and the shade.
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"They did prove that women with larger breasts will get more tips. Which isn’t really not safe for work, because Kari literally was working at a coffee shop."
"If breast enlargements will help your job would you be able to write them off on your taxes?"
"How deep underwater are you still able to orgasm?"
"Pretty sure there's no lower limit. When you're underwater, your body is under pressure, but for the most part doesn't actually get compressed. Only your air spaces (lungs, sinuses, inner ears) are really subject to compression from ambient water pressure. There can be painful exceptions like air pockets inside a tooth filling, which I do not recommend experiencing."
"Most of your body is water or various solids, which push back on the ambient water pressure. You prostate shouldn't be blocked by water pressure any more than your bladder is. Source: am old scuba diver, I've done all kinds of things a hundred feet underwater. At that depth the ambient pressure is 4 bar, which in olden-tymes units is nearly 60 pounds per square inch. Also: fish do it underwater, doesn't seem to stop them."
"Does pineapple make your semen taste better?"
"Post orgasm clarity: How much better can you solve puzzles or remember something?"
"Well, recently I did a lot of reaction time tests on humanbenchmark.com and while normally I get average of around 140-145, after a good O I consistently got around 130-135, very often getting single clicks close to 120 which almost never happens in other cases. And it's weird because I feel more tired but apparently my reaction time improves for some reason."
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"A take on the top ten OSHA violations list to see if they are as dangerous as they say."
"Safety regulations are written in blood."
Well that is a ton of great suggestions. Let's work on it.
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Many people value solitude, and having time to themselves.
For others though, loneliness can be a crippling feeling.
Having no one to talk to or spend time with can get wearying after an extended amount of time.
Something many people know more than ever after the global pandemic hit in spring of 2020.
But while some people simply succumb to being lonely, others will find ways to help them cope with, if not completely forget, being all alone.
Redditor No_Blackberry_6286 was curious to hear the different ways people have of coping with their loneliness, leading them to ask:
"Reddit, how do you cope with loneliness?"
Make the most with what makes you happy
"I've learned to enjoy my own company and focus on my hobbies."
"Funny enough, this gives me stuff to talk about when I am around people."
Voices in the background
"Listening to people talk on YouTube so I feel less alone in my house."
Millions of friends, just one click away.
"Chat with random people on Reddit."internet computer GIFGiphy
Still figuring it out
"I don't I'm f*cking miserable."- Savathunh
"I don't :("- __MashedPotatoes__·
Get my body movin'
"It makes me feel better about myself and I have something to do alone."- DerpBread69Gym Working Out GIF by Chance The RapperGiphy
Who says I need to?
"I love solitude."- Befuddled_GenXer
"I become one with loneliness."- thenewyorkofficesolitude GIFGiphy
Hit the snooze button
"Sleep 12+ hours a day."- RockandRoll682
Instant tension and relief
"Lots of arguing online about sh*t I don't care about at all, just to have some form of social interaction, and get off at least 3 times a day."-
There are very few worse feelings than that of being alone.
But it's also quite remarkable how much doing something that makes you happy, be it ever so simple, can elevate your feelings.