Movies love to play up the "and then everybody clapped" scene. Someone drops their lunch in the cafeteria, or clearly just got laid the night before, or they got the promotion they've been working so hard for--yeah. It's a pretty great scene.
The thing is, it rarely happens in real life. But when it does--and it's for real--it's oh so much sweeter.
Here were some of those answers.
Talent Show With Actual Talent
My high school hosted a talent show every year and each act had a limit of 3-5 mins. One kid was doing karate and this whole dance routine with it. We all loved this because before him there was about a million people singing and we were all very bored. We all thought it was good and enjoyed it but then his music stopped and he motioned for them to keep going. (He had already been at this for about 5 mins).
Teacher and staff were trying to tell him he needed to leave and get off the stage but he didn't know much english and didn't understand them so he just kept going, no music and we all started to cheer and stuff. Then teachers went on stage to try and bring him off and right then as a teacher was like literally trying to pull him off (it had been about 10-15 mins at this point) he started doing push-ups with 2 fingers, and then with just his thumbs.
Then we all stood up and applauded encouraging to keep going and the guy in the music booth (who was also a high schooler) started playing his music again and he straight up did his act for like 30 mins. By then school was ending and we all got to vote on our favorite act to perform again at our next assembly. He won by a landslide.
In the first round of a huge, prestigious chess tournament, I got paired with the #1-rated player, a foreign grandmaster. Most of the games took place in a giant ballroom, but the top two boards were in a separate room. A big audience sat and watched those two games; the moves were displayed on giant vertical boards that the audience could see.
I was a pretty good player, but this was the first time I had ever played a grandmaster, and this guy was famous for being a world-class player, even better than most other grandmasters. The audience assumed he'd crush me; so did I.
To shorten a long story, I played the game of my life. I got a good position, sacrificed some pieces to put his king in danger, and finally finished him off by threatening an unstoppable checkmate. The audience watched all of this on the giant board.
When my opponent shook my hand, indicating that he was resigning, the whole audience started clapping. You rarely hear that at a chess tournament, and I certainly hadn't expected it. (The applause may have bothered the guys playing on board 2, but it didn't last long.)
There's a well-known story about an old-time grandmaster who played a winning move that was so brilliant, the spectators showered the board with gold pieces. That didn't happen for me ... but the audience clapping for my upset victory was a perfect moment anyway.
I was driving some friends home from a christmas party when we hit some black ice, sending the car careening sideways down a 180o offramp. I saved it, and got the damned thing stopped, pointing in the right direction and in our lane, by the time we got to the bottom of the ramp.
There was no clapping, but there was cheering.
Was being inducted into the national honor society in high school, and had to sit in front of the whole school during the ceremony. I was so nervous I didn't want to move, so kept my legs crossed.
Leg fell asleep, they called my name to come up. I nearly fell down when I tried to put weight on it (again, in front of the entire school). I manage to stumble to the front, where a senior is ready to read off my accomplishments. He puts his arm around me and literally holds me up till I get to light my candle or whatever and got to go sit down, at which point everybody clapped.
That was over 20 years ago and my buddies still won't let me forget it, as they shouldn't.
I'll Get You My Pretty
Did a 5k race dressed as Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz last October...everyone (race volunteers, people that have already finished, and spectators) were all mildly cheering as folks approached/crossed the finish line, but about two dozen feet from the end I started skipping like I was on the yellow brick road and off to see the Wizard! It was like a Munchkinland farewell because the vague cheers turned into ROARS AND THUNDERING APPLAUSE. I was Dorothy Gale and I just dropped my house on a mfing witch
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Ain't No Pants
Many years ago, I was at a SF Giants game at Candlestick Park. This was back when they were owned by a man named Bob Lurie, who was trying to sell the team to Florida. The game went into extra innings and ended up tying the record for the longest extra inning game ever played there. It was so late in the evening, they were showing "Late Night with Dave Letterman" on the big screen, in between innings. Seeing Letterman reminded me of this bit he once did involving the owner of GE (his boss) and a megaphone. So with the Giants on the field, and barely 200 die hard fans left in the park, I yelled at the top on my voice, "MY NAME IS BOB LURIE, AND I'M NOT WEARING ANY PANTS!" I swear to God, SF infielder Robbie Thompson and one of the umpires cranked their heads around and looked in my direction in the upper section. The crowd erupted in laughter, and I got a STANDING ovation.
Took a small role in my high school production of West Side Story to get over my fear of public speaking. Show night comes and one of the gang members (Shark or Jet - I don't remember) gets down on one knee to deliver his line to me with his fly wide open (unbeknownst to him). He had a dumb look on his face because he was mocking me (Officer Krupke) as part of the scene. The whole thing got the better of me and I lost it (laughing) when I tried to deliver my 2 simple lines. Could. Not. Recover. I eventually laughed out the words, "Aww forget it" and walked off stage. Received a standing O at the end (for being a trooper I guess).
Next night, same scenario, except EVERYONE has their flies down this time. Rinse and repeat. And everybody clapped. The end. Needless to say, I only further exacerbated my fear of public speaking.
Ignore The Rules
I was at mass last Sunday and an announcer at the beginning was like "please stop clapping at the end of the mass, please respect the solemnity of lent", but at the end of the mass almost everybody still clapped.
In trucking school this past month I struggled to learn manual... got frustrated and started getting depressed that I'd never get to truckin. After a few days of grinding and frustration I went to sleep... woke up next morning and got back in. The other student learning with me was in back... i shifted, next gear.. next gear, button flip 6th gear.. downshifted revved and did a double down made a turn and went back to shifting... round and round I went... instructor and classmate clapped for me and cheered me on. I did 300 miles today in a 10 speed peterbuilt on I-4 and 75 North to Georgia with those guys while getting our mileage in. I grinded 2 or 3 gears on offramps but I did it. I am proud of myself today.
Freshman year in college, life is good, oldest professor in campus (50 years teaching) was a serious hardass and I handle stress with humor, so one day he comes into the classroom with his zipper down, people start chuckling and he proceeds with his class up to a point where he puts his foot on a chair to rest his leg, making the zipper gap wider, chick on the seat closest to it turns red as a beet and people chuckle again.
I raise my hand and he points at me, I ask him to come closer, he refuses and tells me to just spit it, I ask him once more to come closer, he gets upset and tells me that if it isn't pertaining to his lecture, I'll be given a written warning, I assure him that while not pertaining to class, he'd very much appreciate the information, he gets even more upset and tells me to cut the crap and share it with the class, people start losing it and chuckles become actual laughs, so I tell him his fly is down, classroom erupts in laughter and everybody claps, he tells me that in 50+ years of teaching, it was the second time it happened to him.
Needless to say, I dropped out and switched fields.
Women Who Migrated From A Conservative Country To A Progressive One Explain How Their Lives Have Changed
Many of us living in the U.S. don't think twice about certain freedoms that aren't granted in other parts of the world.
Generally speaking, of course, we can wear whatever we want and behave without constantly walking on eggshells and worrying about consequences or judgment.
However, there are countries that look down upon women wearing suggestive clothing that aren't viewed as provocative in America. And when these women somehow find themselves here, it's fair to say it's quite the culture shock.
These are their stories.
"Women who migrated from a socially conservative country to a progressive country how significantly has your life changed?"
Having access to certain garments became life-changing moments for these Redditors.
"I come from a very conservative Mennonite (basically Amish) family. Luckily for me, my parents left the faith when I was born. My mother tells stories of being jealous of the girls at school who could have white socks because her family was extra conservative so she could only wear black. Imagine being excited about white socks!"
Feeling The Air
"For the first time I wore something above my knees and felt the air! I know it sounds silly but that to me tasted like liberalization.Other than that I feel safe and can hope to make a better future for myself. My rights are protected and I have discovered my voice."
Happy For Sparkle Sneaks
"I had a friend who was so excited to see sparkle sneakers. She wanted them sooo bad but she could never buy them since 'back home' where she had to return after college they would get her in big trouble."
"She looked at them like they were a puppy but wouldn't even try them on."
Freedom of fashion was not an option for these women at one time.
Clothing And Mixed Messages
"My wife didn't leave Turkey until she was 18. She grew up having it hammered into her that anything that attracted attention was a sexual signal and that she was to blame for anything that happened as a result. She was 12 years old worrying about sending messages to grown-a** men with her clothing choices."
Having The Choice To Wear Anything
"I moved from PH to Singapore. Now I can wear anything I want in the streets."
"Filipino here. There are wealthy areas in Metro Manila where you can wear whatever and be fine. Like crop tops or sports bras when jogging. Not so much in less developed areas."
"It's not illegal or anything, but people will stare and some will catcall or grope. If you complain, people will say that you're inviting that behavior by wearing revealing clothes."
"My sister's mother-in-law is Persian. She says watching the Handmaid's Tale reminds her of how things were before she left Iran. It was very westernized while she was growing up but then things changed..."
Life Change At 17
"Moved to the US when I was 17, now 23. I was free to wear miniskirts, drink in public, and hang out with male friends without having my moral character trashed."
"There's an undercurrent of rape hysteria that's very real but seldom explicitly talked about. My dad would freak out if I spent any time in my male cousin's room, despite the fact that we grew up in the same house and were around the same age. Your movements are stifled because every man who's not your dad or brother is treated like a potential danger to your chastity."
These women were subjected to constantly worrying about perceptions.
Weight Off The Shoulders
"It's everything. I can finally go for a walk without the fear of strange men following me and passing lewd comments. I can finally do the things I like (eating meat, having a drink of alcohol) without the implications of 'what will the society say.' We have a saying in my country, 'A woman's body carries the pride of the family'- what an awful weight to carry for any young woman. I can finally just exist and breathe."
Everything's Wonderful In New Zealand
"I experienced most of that my whole life in Peru, i was so pissed that I couldn't wear dresses or shorts in summer because people judges you for your looks or catcall you ugh I have anxiety because of the harassment but finally i can enjoy my life and feel awesome 😎 because I moved to New Zealand, best decision ever."
"My mom is German, but her parents went to live in Bolivia in the late 50s/ start of 1960s. She wasn't married at 15, like most of her friends were and the whole town was putting pressure on her parents. Father's were literally trying to buy my mother's hand in marriage for their sons, so at 17 she had to run away and married her first husband out of despair."
"That guy tried to kill her because she wanted to leave him a few years later. In the 80s, she had to flee the country since her 2nd husband wanted to force an abortion on her and he could've easily done that."
"She always told me to not get married at such a young age and to never lose your independence to a man. I guess her life changed in so many ways, I can't write it all down."
"PDA between couples, holding hands, kissing. Seeing gay couples holding hands. Just made me feel happy to see people getting to be open and in love."
Unless you come from the conservative countries mentioned above, it's hard to imagine life any other way than what you're used to.
Just imagine the reverse situation, where you find yourself suddenly losing clothing options and conforming to new customs in a country with uncompromising rules.
So don't knock sparkle sneakers. Because to some people, they represent a utopian society.
With lightning speed credit card processing and a never-ending stream of spam emails, the using the internet has become synonymous with scam-awareness.
And that's fair. There are so many people out there, all trying to swindle the most gullible among us out of their hard earned cash.
But our preoccupation with having our heads on swivels sometimes pushes us to shut our ears to genuinely worthy services. The trick is maintaining scrutiny without completely putting on the blinders.
That's easier said the done, so Redditor resilientiddle asked for some help:
"What do people think is a scam but they just don't understand?"
Many people described the brass tacks transactions and negotiations that tend to be lumped in with other, slimier financial maneuvers.
Just because it has to do with banks, fees, and payment, that doesn't mean it's not worth our time, money, and trust.
More Money is Still More Money
"We had a gal in the telco who was retiring under a surplus - meaning they would pay her so much for each year she worked, in addition to her pension. She turned the money down because she didn't want her taxes to be too high. I didn't know her and heard about it after she left."
"The Union guys tried to explain it but she just would not listen. I don't know if she thought it was a scam but she didn't trust the IRS."
Declining pay rises because they think they'll pay more in tax and their take home will be less than before the pay rise."
Shutting Out a Major Convenience
"My dad and online banking. You can check your balance, make transfers and even set up standing orders. 'But my account will get hacked' is his response every single time."
"The stock market. Lots of people over worry about the short term, withdraw once it dips and never put back in. Never realizing the magic is in the long term"
In Their Defense, That Must Have Been Weird At First
"There was a time when my parents thought buying stuff online and paying with a credit card it's a scam, took me a while to convince them that if you know which sites are good to order from and which are bad, you can actually avoid scams."
Other people noted the things that do cost me money, but actually deliver on what they promise.
"Buying a beginning band instrument, then buying a step-up instrument within a couple of years" -- 75thTrombone
"Yes, yes yes."
"I think a beginner instrument is a good investment to see if the person sticks it out. But past that it's a complete waste of money. The difference in quality between a $100 guitar and a $600 guitar is night and day."
"When I started to get better at drumming as a kid, trying to explain to my parents why i needed the $200 splash cymbal instead of the $40 one was infuriating. I paid with my own money but they insisted it was a waste. I still have that $200 splash cymbal and it STILL sounds amazing. My cheaper cymbals literally exploded." -- Its-my-di**-in-a-box
They Did Fix the Thing
"The repair industry. I worked in home repair, small engine repair and computer repair shops years ago. A lot of people expected us to just fix things for free. Others would take it as an insult when we would quote prices or ask to be paid for a job."
"Send a bill and some people would ask why or what is this. Ask us why we were ripping them off even though the bill was itemized and the price was discussed before hand. It was a horrible industry to work in because of they way people are."
Doesn't Come From Thin Air
"Some members of my family think internet providers are scammers because they pay for 400mbps download and think they will get 400mbps download on each device even if someone is watching Netflix or downloading at the same time on another computer."
A Worthy Expense
"Therapy. People just can't fathom that just talking to someone who is not involved directly in your life can really help with processing and resolving a problem. You only get out of it what you put in."
Finally, a couple shared the things that we simply have to deal with to have some benefit in the long run. These expenses feel horrible in the moment, but they have the sad truth is they have their purpose.
"The air in bag of chips." -- gambit_
"It's actually nitrogen which is used to keep the oxygen out for an anaerobic (to deter bacteria) and non-oxidative (so chips won't get stale as fast) environment for the chips. I have heard they put less chips in the bags and less seasonings. I remember salt n vinegar Pringles in the 90s made me sweat now they don't do anything to me." -- IdiidDuItt
Just In Case
"Insurance. It's weird to pay for something that you hope not to use." -- Some-Basket-4299
"The sad thing is if you're unlucky a single time where you'd wish you had it can make up for a lifetime of paying in, so it's often better safe than sorry, at least with the most common ones." -- deviant324
So while this list by no means aims to get you trusting of all transactions and offers out there, hopefully it helps you stay open enough to take advantage of the legitimate ones.
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Children have memories––and they're very long. That's why child development professionals stress the importance of communicating with children should they experience a traumatic event. Listening and encouraging them to share their feelings (even if you can't answer all their questions right away) is essential.
"Reassurance is the key to helping children through a traumatic time," according to a guide from the United States Department of Health and Human Services. "Very young children need a lot of cuddling, as well as verbal support. Answer questions about the event honestly, but do not dwell on frightening details or allow the subject to dominate family or classroom time indefinitely. Encourage children of all ages to express emotions through conversation, writing, or artwork and to find a way to help others who were affected by the event."
People shared their stories after Redditor bmrugger asked the online community,
"What did you witness or overhear as a child that still haunts you today as an adult?"
Warning: Some sensitive material ahead.
"From my bed..."
"From my bed, if the doors were both open, I could see my parents' bed. I heard noises and woke up one night, and saw them going at it. Made sure my door was closed EVERY NIGHT from then on."
Definitely on the more lighthearted side, but we get it, we get it.
"When my father saw me..."
"My father met my mother when she was very young in a foreign country. Due to the age difference (he was 40, she was 25) they would argue a lot. My mom, being young, wanted to go out a lot and live her life. I walked up into their room once my father trying to suffocate my mother with a pillow. I was around 6 years old.
When my father saw me he completely stopped (he loved me so much despite the problems with my mother), and jumped in to hug me, and took me to the other room. She called the police and put a restriction order on him.
To this day my mother says I saved her life, but that image has never left."
We're glad to hear your mother's alive and doing well.
"As I was walking away..."
"When I was 9 years old, my mom had a hysterectomy, so my aunt came over to babysit me for a few days while she was in the hospital. The day my mom was supposed to come home, she called the house and asked to speak to my aunt. My aunt is hard of hearing, so she put the phone on speaker.
As I was walking away, I heard my mom say "she can't hear you, right?". My aunt replied no, and my mom proceeded to tell her that there were complications with the surgery and that the night before as she had gotten up to go to the bathroom, her stitches had come undone. She bled out onto the floor and a nurse found her on the ground. She was worried she wasn't going to make it.
I'm not sure why my aunt didn't think I couldn't hear all of this while the phone was on speaker. I pretended I didn't hear anything, and ran up to my room, crying the entire night thinking my mom wouldn't come home.
Everything turned out fine and she was back home a week later. But at 9 years old, overhearing her describe that situation still haunts me."
We're sorry you had to hear that. That must have been so frightening. Happy it worked out.
"I stayed the night..."
"At 9 years old I walked in on my uncle beating my aunt."
"I stayed the night with my cousins often. They were 8 and 4. My aunt and uncle had just split because my aunt caught him cheating and found out he was addicted to drugs. My cousins were upset and my mom thought it might cheer them up if I stayed the night with them. The next morning I heard screaming from the garage. We went to see what was going on and see him hitting my aunt. My dad had a friend who lived just a couple of houses down so I told my cousins we needed to hide and we went to his house. His wife was home and I told her what was going on. She brought us inside and called 911 then my parents. My uncle was gone before the police got there but he was arrested and sent to prison. My aunt didn't have any serious physical injuries thankfully."
"When I was around 7 or 8, I was in a grocery store during an armed robbery. My family was at the check-out when 2 people came in and started yelling and shooting. They told everyone to lay down on the ground and my mom laid on top of me, but I could see when they shot one of the grocery store employees just a few yards away from me. The robbers ran outside and were confronted by the police in the parking lot and arrested. I believe the man shot ended up dying in the store, but I'm not 100% sure of it. My parents acted like nothing happened and never talked to me about it."
They should have talked to you. We're sorry for your pain.
"She doesn't work for us anymore..."
"I had a 36-year-old employee and eventually, I had to learn to approach her very carefully because if I moved quickly, she would instantly cower, then sit up and (every time) say, "Sorry. It's not you."
"After the 3rd or 4th time, I had a meeting with her and a female HR rep (I am male) and said, "I'm not trying to get into your personal business, but I have to ask. When I approach you and you react, is it because of something happening now? If it is, we can help. If you want."
"Totally deadpan, she says, 'No. It's not like that, but if my father ever comes here to the office, I'll take you up on that offer'
"Get's up and walks out. Just like that."
"She doesn't work for us anymore, and I hear she and her family are doing great, but I get violent thoughts of being the instrument of that poor woman's retribution when I imagine who her father is and almost wish he had come after her at work."
"I was five."
"My brother's death. I was five; he was two. Mom tried CPR on him. She was a nurse. He had undiagnosed cystic fibrosis (he was adopted, so no family medical history was known.) Took me decades to get over that."
"I later found out..."
"I was about six at a party at my dad's secretary's house. He thought it'd be funny to throw me (fully clothed and unable to swim at the time) into the pool and laugh at me in front of everyone. I was so humiliated and embarrassed that my own father would use me as a prop to make his moron friends laugh.
I later found out he was f****** his secretary on the side and is the father of her daughters."
That was not okay. This should go without saying, but you should not have been used in such a way and certainly not by your parent.
"To get to town..."
"Don't remember my age, but it was before I was old enough to ride a 10-speed. I lived on one of the busiest two-lane US roads in my state when I was growing up, at the intersection of a county road, which had a stop sign. For context, the US road had a 50MPH (~80kph) speed limit in that area back then. One day, a motorcyclist thought he was fast enough and could turn off the county road onto the busy US road in front of a loaded semi-truck. I didn't see it because I turned away but I heard the thud and crash.
They had to wash the guy off the road with a fire hose.
To get to town I had to ride my bike on the shoulder along the side of the busy road, which for a week was covered in blood and brain matter from the hose down. Edit: added speeds."
"Then a car pulled up..."
"I was probably 7 or 8 and playing in front of my upstairs bedroom window. I liked to watch cars go by while I was playing. And there were two streets that ran parallel to each other in front of my house. They were only separated by a creek.
Then a car pulled up across the street from my house. Inside a male driver and female passenger were arguing. Then the man punches the woman right in the face over and over.
I ran past my Mom yelling "A man is hitting a woman!" And I ran outside heading for the stairs. I guess at 7 or 8 I was going to somehow save the woman. I get to the top of the stairs just as my Mom catches up to me and the car peels out and drives away.
I'm 49 now, so for at least 40 years, I've thought about that poor woman. I hope she got away from that guy."
It's difficult to grow up and carry around trauma. Thankfully, there are resources out there. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network, for example, does excellent work. SAMHSA's National Center for Trauma-Informed Care and National Center for Trauma Informed Care are just two other options. Get the help you need today.
Have some of your own stories to share? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments section below.
We all have one. That one person we wish we could all erase, not just from our lives but from the Earth.
Even the best and kindest of us has harbor ill feelings towards one individual who made life, difficult, at times.
The truth, is that there are some truly malicious, nasty, vindictive, awful people running around this planet, and they take pleasure in the plight of other's.
And it's best to know where they are, even when they are finally gone from our lives.
Redditor u/cocobotisbest was wondering who wanted to discuss the people we'd rather forget by asking:
What happened to the "a**hole" person in your life?
My ex-stepfather is a demon from hell. I'm sure of it. He was an abusive drunk. And he luxuriated in causing havoc and emotional destruction. He's dead. I'll just leave that there. Who else feels like rejoicing/I mean sharing?
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"He got to keep his job while many people he terrorized were laid off. (Not counting the ones who quit because of him.) He lives in a lovely house, his wife is a VP who just had a baby. He's oblivious."
"I have no idea, and I hope it stays that way."
"There was one kid in school who was an a**hole from a very early age. I was in the same class in primary school for 1 year in grade 4. I have no idea what he is up to and honest to God I hope I never discover what he is now."
"Lots of absolute jerks often ride off into the sunset and never get their comeuppance. I had an ex-wife who left me for a rich executive guy at her job. They live in a huge house, he keeps getting promoted and everything worked out for her and she even has two kids with him (we had no kids). She is living the dream!"
"It's a lot of work to forget those who wronged you. I try to work on it, but it's tough to live without wanting revenge."
"Ohh, this is one of my favorite stories. My wife had jacked teeth in middle school, before her mom could get her braces. The a**hole that teased her mercilessly and dubbed her "snaggle tooth". He died in jail of a tooth infection from smoking meth. He was an a**hole in a lot of other ways, hence the being in jail. This is just the best way to tell it."
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"Completely removed from my life, blocked on every single mode of communications. Thanks for a crappy childhood, dad."
Family is so complicated. And it's the one relationship we're told should be the easiest. Oh well. And God do I love seeing bullies pay. Let's hear some more good news.
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"He is still thriving in life. With a good job and family. Not everything is a fairy tale where karma hits them hard."
"Died. He was seriously drunk and decided to go driving 90 miles an hour in a 30 zone and he didn't swerve in time and died fairly quickly." No one else died or was injured. It was at 1am in the morning. He was pronounced dead as soon the ambulance came. So he died within minutes. Kinda sad that a 21 year old would just die like that.
"It was a girl in elementary, who made up stories of how I did something bad, like throwing snails into river or trashing teacher's pencil case etc. The teacher always believed it, because unlike me, the girl was able to look into people's eyes while talking to them. And I was considered to be a freakin' liar. I did not even know it was her for a long time, cos she pretended to be my friend."
"Years later, a tenement house nearby exploded, it completely destroyed the flat she was living in, and her father (plumber who went to check the pipelines in the cellar) died there. I quite liked the man. I do not believe in karma and if so, this would be an enormous overkill."
I Hate Him
"Moved away, divorced his wife and got a girlfriend with the same name. He was an a**hole, he was my babysitter as a kid and abused me for some reason, he burned me really bad once and my parents got to see that I didn't lie about him, don't always regard your child's story as fake, sit down and talk to them."
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"He got an aggressive brain tumor, making him rethink his entire view on life and start being a decent human being. Also might have affected his personality in some way, all around a better person."
Not to wish anyone ill, because that is toxic, but it is nice to see that karma and the Universe often does have a plan. What I know is life does go on and we're all the stronger for moving forward. Also, keeping tabs isn't always a bad idea.