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People Share The Worst Examples Of "We've Always Done It That Way" Fails--And We're Fuming

Why are people so incapable of adapting to change? We get it--change is scary. But more often than not, it's a necessary step to growth.

u/shaky2236 asked:

What are some of the worst examples of the "We've always done it that way" mindset?

Here were some of their answers.

One Little Adjustment

A Hungarian doctor named Ignaz Semmelweis ran experiments in 1846 that indicated that if doctors washed their hands before helping women give birth it would reduce the death rate from 5 to 1.

That said, he was rather strident in how he voiced his support for hand washing and doctors disliked the idea. As a result, women continued to die at the higher rate due to infections for decades.



When I moved from PA to Washington, I had to register my car. No biggy, except the title was still held by the bank since I was making payments on it. Now for some reason, even getting a copy of that title is a bit of a shit show, involving quite a few fees and a long wait time.

I didn't want to deal with that, especially when PA's DOL and the bank with my title we're making everything difficult. So I went to my local (Washington) DOL and explained the situation. They looked up the process and said "well this is dumb... let me take care of it. We just need a single number off that piece of paper anyways. Should take like 5 minutes. What state is your title held in?"


"Ffffff.... you might want to sit down."

2 and a half freaking hours later, the bank finally says they will release a copy of the title if they get an official request from the Department of License in Washington State.

Great! They get put on hold, DOL lady types up a quick request and faxes it over. Takes it off hold.

All I see is her look like she's about to start screaming. She puts them back on hold.

"So apparently, they need a hand written request. A typed copy isn't something they can legally work with."

"Wha- but, why?"

"I've no idea! They just thought it was incredibly unprofessional that we sent them a typed document..."

So there it was that I had to send a hand written document that had to be explicitly polite asking for a single number off the top of my title to please be released.

On top of requiring a hand written note, apparently this is not unusual for PA-> WA transplants since PA is one of the few states that still issues paper titles, and is VERY protective about who is even allowed to look at that title.


Once Again, Try A Little Harder

Decades ago, anybody who obtained your bank account number and the bank's routing number could make an unauthorized withdrawal of money out of your account.

But now, thanks to much better technology, anybody who obtains your bank account number and the bank's routing number can make an unauthorized withdrawal out of your account.

Banks say there's no way to prevent this, such as by delaying withdrawals by a single day until the customer explicitly grants permission.


We Like It Harder

My most recent job was as a developer at a small software company. When I started there was no source control, the programmers would sit behind a computer and compare their code line by line with a file compare tool.

When I brought up that there was a tool to fix this, they didn't trust it. "We don't want to change how we do things just because it's easier"



My company has offices in a few countries. I recently went to one of these offices for 2 months (was meant to be 3 but I had to get the out of there!) to retrain them because the office was clearly struggling and on the verge of being shut down. Now, I'm not saying I'm amazing at my job but I know what I'm doing. When I'd try telling them about any small change they needed to make, I'd get 'but this is how we do things here. The clients won't like change!' Yes but you're clearly struggling. Have you asked the client if they're ok with change? No. So how do you know they won't like it? Anything is better than the sh-tshow currently kicking off in that office. But nope. They don't want to change.

Half of them are likely to be fired soon because of this so it's their loss!


Why Not Just Not

We use stock pickers where I work.

Prepare for hell if you use a picker that a first shift guy wants because 'they've been using it for the last X years!'

I've gotten threats to my property, job, and self because my shift just so happens to overlap theirs sometimes and I'm on some random piece of equipment.


Por Que

I have two coworkers, our admins, who print an email, and scan it back to themselves as a PDF.

Yes. I've shown them how to save the original digital file as a PDF. Yes, the keep printing and scanning.



Maybe not the worst but I think this story is worth sharing.

Banana farmer Doug takes his future son in law and my friend Jim out to pick bananas. Bananas are grown on steep slopes around here with roads winding back and forth up the hill.

So Doug parks the truck at the top, walks down the hill and starts cutting bunches that weigh 25-45kg and then hauls them back up the hill to the truck. Jim takes one look at this setup and and says "why don't we park the truck at the bottom of the hill and start picking there so we are carrying the bananas down the hill instead of up? Then we can move the truck up the rows as we go"

"Because we always do it this way" is the reply.

So Jim says "humor me. Let's try it my way, just for today". Doug reluctantly agrees.

End of the day comes, bananas are picked and they're back at the house enjoying a cold beer. Doug says "you know what Jim, your way was a lot easier".


It's Your Skin

I work in the construction field as a safety/QA/geotechnician and sometimes our older subcontractors will do trenchwork as deep as 10 feet without any sort of protection from collapse.

When I stop work and tell them that it's dangerous and they could die, they get heated and tell me that they've never had any problems with trenches and "it's how we've always done it."

We politely ask them not to come back until they take a trench safety class.


Once Again I Would Like To Present You: An Easier Method

When I worked at the camp front desk we had a really bad system. It was sort of ok for checking people in but for everything else it was just horrible. Even check outs were a chore to do. Anyway, I was thought that I need to search for the parcel number, lets say 202. I had to scroll down to 202, right click on it, choose check in guest then press F4, TAB and then I could check people in.

I soon figured out that I can type the parcel number by keyboard and if pressing Enter, it jumped straight to check in page. No F4s or TABs. So thats what I did and told every one of the ''new'' way. Until that ''one'' guy said that screws up the process, that by doing it ''my'' way it can mess with everything else and blamed me for some mistake that was made by him at the check out.

Like I said, even check out was a chore and you had to be really careful when doing it otherwise you could mess things up which he did. He told the boss about it and we had to go back to left clicking and what not. Nobody did it of course because it was time consuming.


The Sciences Suffer

I'm a scientist. In my lab I will either ask "why do we do it this way, what is the point?" or I will suggest the proper way to do something because they have been doing it wrong or inefficiently. I get this response all the time, "Well, we've just always done it that way".

This is the sh*ttiest response a person in science could have, it just shows that they can't think critically and shouldn't be a scientist to begin with.


The US Does A Ton Of Weird Things

Everywhere but the US and Canada use the A system of paper sizes where each size is twice the size of the previous size. This means you can blow up an A4 document to A3 and have it fit. Similarly you can print A4 two up on one A4 sheet where they will effectively be two A5.

Because the ratio of width to height is root two it also means that the long edge of one size is the same as the short edge of the bigger size, or folding a big sheet in half gives you the smaller size.

US sizes are purely arbitrary and have no relation to each other.


The Digital Age

Used to work for a city councilman & he insisted that anything that was sent to him electronically must be printed out. Every single email, a new email in a previous thread + that thread also...literally everything. Our printer used to have to get replaced all the time bc it couldn't handle the sheer amount of printing. I used to feel so bad about how much paper we were wasting & I even offered to teach him how to use his phone for this kind of stuff but he insisted it's just how they've always done it. He didn't want to admit he was a senile old man who doesn't understand technology therefore decides to hate it. Lmao


I was a few times in a company where our family's friend works as a head (director?), to check on students while they are taking exams to make sure they aren't cheating (I'm pretty sure there is one job word description which sums this whole paragraph, I just can't find out how this position is called).

I was teaching there once in a while with their employees. They send 20000 e-mails every third week and 10000 every week. They do it by hand in MS Outlook. They have an excel with 30000 entries and they copy it from there to "Mail To" option and send the same e-mail to everyone (newsletter, not personalized), it takes them 2 days to do it. Their main work is always behind and they can't get on top with the amount of important work they have.

I was asked to help them out when I was there watching students if I had time. Oh man I did not have time for that.

Just to be sure it's understood. If you put 30000 e-mail addresses in the "Mail To:" form and send it, their server would send about 100 e-mails and then just scratched the rest.

Their IT technician told them to send it by 100 every once in a while - that's a regular practice in IT, it's fine. They do it by hand :0.

I offered them to make a simple script to do this for them (to automate the process). It would take them seconds to send it every week/few weeks and cost them zero (because we are friends). They refused because they were doing it that way forever.

The people who refused my offer were 35 and 39. ;)


Help Me Help You

Every time there is a scheduling conflict at work, I offer to make a calendar. I offer to do this for free (I'm paid hourly) and to go to everyone in the office once a week, and ask them what new stuff they have upcoming. Every time I offer, the response is, "well, nobody is used to co-ordinating schedules, so it probably wouldn't work." and I die a little inside. (Yesterday there were 3 events, one that went 2-4, one that went 5-6:30 and one that went 2-6)



I work with contracts, I have a coworker who refuses to review them on her screen, so she prints out several 20-50 page documents per day, reviews them manually, and tosses them in the recycle bin.

She probably goes through 1-2 reams of paper a week. I tried to explain to her that you can review them without printing them off but "that's the way I have has always done it".

So for all that work that you do every day to try and recycle and be responsible, she is out here making enough waste to make up for it.


People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.