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How do you tell if someone has a crush on you?

It's not always so easy, and many of us will fumble our way through it. Perhaps our only experience with navigating crushes comes from John Hughes movies (which I don't recommend following).


Oh, and while this isn't a Hughes movie, I would not recommend doing to one's crushes what the nerds do in the terrible Revenge of the Nerds.

Looking for advice? Look no further. You can thank Redditor chaitea_lexax who asked the online community,

"What is a dead giveaway that someone has a crush on you?"

"When they tell you..."

"When they tell you at your 10-year high school reunion after they've married and had several children and it doesn't matter anymore."

ForgettableUsername

This is oddly specific.

Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion this is not.

"When they try to be mean..."

"When they try to be mean to you, you can tell. If they weren't interested, they wouldn't be trying to tease you, they would just ignore you."

Hexdiu

Yeah, but I wish people didn't think that was okay. Mind games aren't cool.

"She stayed in my dorm..."

"Well, she changed in front of me, that didn't tip me off. She stayed in my dorm for 5 days, I was none the wiser. She said she wanted to kiss me, I finally figured it out."

Time-Vault

"Although..."

"Although this may be more for initial attraction, women tend to 'oh so casually' drop into conversation their relationship status or better yet, lack thereof. It's rarely subtle, but I don't think men do it quite so much."

VitruvianDude

Interesting!

Well, if you make clear that you're available, then it would make sense that someone might think that you're interested.

"Though the rule of thumb is usually..."

"It's something that can't really be answered as we are all different in our actions and how we interpret things.

Though the rule of thumb is usually if they attempt to spend more time with you and often seek your help, even if you don't know the answer. It's usually a presence thing. Though again, they may just simply enjoy your company and don't like you any more than just a friend."

T-Eighteen

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"If you hang out..."

"If you hang out in the same social circles there are a few sure-fire ways. The one that is really telling is when something funny happens that makes the entire group laugh. If they look at you straight away to see if you found it funny, they're into you."

insane_knight

I had this happen to me a few times. Sometimes it worked out and sometimes it didn't, I'll leave it at that.

"If you have a watch..."

"If you have a watch, look at the time then look somewhere random. Chances are they will also check the time."

cooooolooool

"If you have mutual friends..."

"If you have mutual friends or acquaintances it would probably be your friends or their friends giving you hints or teasing that the person is romantically interested in you."

Qkaddesexutch

This has happened with some of my friends and it's pretty cute when it's reciprocated!

"I asked my girlfriend..."

"I asked my girlfriend to marry me today and she said yes. I have suspicions she might have a crush."

muklan

Plot twist: it's you!

"A girl would always..."

"This happened to me in college. A girl would always glance at me and when we lock eyes she would look away. I asked her out and during our conversation she touched my forearms and thighs a few times."

BigDogsForFlyingFs

When it comes to crushes, it's not necessarily one size fits all, so take any and all advice with a grain of salt. You're better off being direct, but that is, of course, easier said than done.

Have some tips of your own? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!

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