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Weddings can be stressful affairs. Between figuring out catering, where to find a good photographer, picking out the venue, avoiding potentially bickering parents, and who to invite (and who to not), the real purpose for the event can be lost in the shuffle. Remember: It's ideally a day to celebrate a couple in love! Shouldn't that take priority?

That said, even those who had great weddings have some regrets here and there. They range from the relatively minor to the more troubling, as we found out after Redditor lifeisastateofmind asked the online community,

"What's the one thing you regret doing for your wedding day?"

"Otherwise..."

"Having an outdoor wedding in August in South Carolina. Timing necessitated it. Otherwise, I loved my wedding and love my wife."

BuckleUpItsThe

You loved it! That's what matters. Pity about the heat, though. Summer in the South? You're brave.

"We got married early in the day..."

"Not having a good breakfast.

We got married early in the day on a beach and all I could think about was how much I wanted a breakfast sandwich with eggs, cheese, and bacon on a toasted English muffin with just a touch of hot sauce!"

Downvotedarksouls

"Set up a wedding site..."

"Paper invitations and RSVPs. Set up a wedding site and have people RSVP there. The amount of stress I put myself through trying to get paper mailed back to me in an era when no one uses mail anymore was so unnecessary. At one point we'd gotten very few RSVPs back and I had a total crying meltdown about how no one was going to come. Of course, they were going to come, it's just no one uses mail anymore. Save yourself the headache and the money. It's my biggest wedding regret."

shirleysparrow

Logistics matter. Take note, everyone. No use for giving yourselves unnecessary headaches!

"This will sound petty..."

"This will sound petty, but I regret wearing my hair up. It felt so unlike me and the sticky layers of hairspray wouldn't brush out when I got undressed that night."

SuzQP

"I've been married for 16 years..."

"I've been married for 16 years now so this is a little old school. We bought a bunch of disposable cameras and set them all over the place at our reception with a note on them that said take some pictures. At the end of the night, we collected all the cameras and had the film developed. Most of them turned out really cool and we got some pictures we would have never thought of taking. The regret comes in me underestimating some of my friends' ability to be adults for 1 night and ended up with a lot of dick pics also. Lol."

mcginnis88

Those rascals!

Figures there'd be some pranksters. I'm sure if I ever get married, I'll have a few friends with tricks up their sleeves. Best prepare.

"Whoops."

"Not taking a picture.

We just did a quick wedding for legal purposes with my friend presiding and aunt and uncle as witnesses. It was a nice little sweet ceremony that lasted about 10 minutes over a nice area with a view before we went to dinner. Didn't realize we hadn't taken any pictures until like a week later when we wanted to show someone. Whoops."

pounds

"I thought I'd just go up..."

"Not preparing a speech. I thought I'd just go up, thank everyone for coming and sit back down. Short and sweet, get it out the way. That's exactly what I did, without mentioning my parents or my wife."

spiderismywingman

Prepare a speech! You'll thank yourself later.

"EXCEPT..."

"Inviting people I didn't really want to invite. They just cost you money, you don't interact with them at all, and they usually don't bring a nice gift to make up for it.

EXCEPT for letting all of the divorced aunts and uncles bring +1's. Because that let to a whole jealousy competition train that was extremely entertaining."

[deleted]

Sounds positively juicy.

Definitely worth a reality series, no?

"There were a couple of people..."

"There were a couple of people that we decided to not invite. More accurately, we needed to cut a few after booking the hall and realizing how many we could fit in the room. I didn't realize how hurt those few people would be. They brought it up years later. I still feel bad about it. My wife's uncle and his wife are horrible people and they brought people that weren't even invited and basically forced them into their already full table. It was awkward. I regret inviting them and not inviting the hurt friends that I mentioned above."

UniqueConstraint

​"I knew what I wanted..."

"My dress. I knew what I wanted but I just went with something on sale even though I felt uncomfortable in it. I wish I had been a little pushier on what I wanted to wear. And I wish we hadn't included my husband's siblings as they are awful people."

iwearsassypants

A wedding is a special memory for any couple. It's your day, though. Do what makes you happy––your guests are all there for you so you might as well honor your own wishes. Chances are, they'll support you!

Have some of your own regrets? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments below!

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