People Share The Biggest Red Flag They Overlooked In A Significant Other Because They Were Hot AF
Listen to me babies... listen closely. Hot is just not worth dating if they're not also an amazing partner for you. Beauty fades, but you're going to have to deal with their personality for forever. So yes, Johnny with the 9-pack abs and buns of steel and biceps the size of your head might be gorgeous, but if he also believes that education is a tool the devil uses to pull people away from their walk with God... weeeeeeell ... yeah. Take it from me, honey, it's not going to work. Hot Johnny may pretty quickly go from just disagreeing with your educational choices to hiding your car keys from you so you can't go to class and insisting you watch televangelists with him and eat grilled cheese instead. And yes, Hot Johnny will know that school is important to you and that you're lactose intolerant, but being lactose intolerant is a lie from the devil, too.
Spoiler Alert: As far as Hot Johnny is concerned, I picked Satan over him. He's still hot, but has now started going by Johnweh and is a full-blown conspiracy theorist. I mean, great abs don't outweigh my desire for education, my need to avoid severe gastrointestinal distress, or my conviction that the world is round.
Just sayin'
One Reddit user asked:
What's the biggest red flag you overlooked because your significant other was so hot?
And now I feel better. Apparently tons of us have our own Hot Johnny stories. Here are some of my favorites, edited for language where needed. If you learn anything from these cautionary tales, it should be that if friends or family warn you - maybe you should listen.
"Sacrifice"
"Sacrifice is something other people do for me"
Apparently I was dating a Disney villain and didn't notice.
At Least She Was Honest
I watched her be abusive and manipulative towards the guy she was dating when I met her and we were still just friends. For some reason I thought it wouldn't be like that with me. It was.
She also told me herself, when we first started dating, that she was really f*cked up and that most people who dated her ended up hating her. I didn't believe it. She turned out to be really f*cked up, and I ended up hating her.
Dad Warned Me
Her father told me days before we got married that she was a severe narcissist and incapable of loving anyone but herself. Thinking back, all I had were red flags, no green flags really at all.
I should of turned in the parking lot of that Cracker Barrel, got in my vehicle and drove away. But I didn't, and I've basically been miserable since.
Neon Warning Sign
I ignored the biggest flashing neon sign warning about my ex that came from a friend of his. She told me:
"He is going to be very hard to love because he is always looking for a fight and thinks he has something to prove. I'm not trying to tell you what to do but I'm just warning you about it. If you think you're up to the task then go for it but I just wanted to let you know."
I wish I would have heeded her warning.
Being Negative
As we got to know each other she'd tell me about a lot of the sh*tty people she'd had in her life, who'd treated her poorly or caused drama for no reason. Over time it became more and more obvious that her idea of "toxic drama-starter" translated to "anyone who tells her the truth about her own terrible behavior."
I watched her treat a waitress like trash for something the waitress couldn't control, and when I called her out on it she said she couldn't believe I'd attack her like that, and I should support her 100% no matter what she did. In her own mind, every action she took was justified, and anyone who said differently was "being negative", and she "didn't need that in her life."
- shaidyn
Greek God
"I'm mentally unstable, emotionally manipulative, and will probably hurt you."
Oh, but he was physically a Greek god.
Zoolander
He was dumber than a rock. I swear to Christ he was the walking inspiration for Derek Zoolander. Walking and screwing were about the only things he could do without breaking something or causing something to go wrong. He:
-Attempted to wash (my) dishes with laundry soap
-Was apparently unfamiliar with two-knob showers and couldn't figure out how to make a hot shower happen at my place, until he asked
-Could not, to save his life, remember where I lived or what apartment I was in, even after coming over five times
-Thought the US president had the same unilateral powers and reign as a monarch
-Confused the 4th of July with Presidents Day, assumed his work schedule was incorrect for scheduling him on Presidents Day as they must be closed, and simply did not go in
-Consistently told me our star signs were "plutonic" together (still unsure what he meant)
-Upon learning that shelter dogs were always fixed, asked me why there were so many puppies then
I made it through three weeks. If I'd have stayed with him I'd have had to develop a heroic drinking problem just to cope. Good lord was he hot though, I seriously didn't want to admit he was also profoundly dumb.
Red Flag About Myself
Everyone warned me he was (and is) noncommittal.
Proceeded to date him with the idea of:
"But what about ME?! Who wouldn't want to commit to ME?!"
Also a red flag about myself. Heyo! We all have red flags to someone!
- ridicks
Catch And Release
He played the classic catch and release game with me.
Any pleasant, romantic, sweet, loving, gratuitous thing I did, he would would treat me like sh*t.
When I would show zero interest in him for being such a dick head he would treat me like royalty. He'd pull out every stop, every trick in the book to romance me and make me forget about it.
When I would be sweet again it turned him off. The more I ignored him and rejected him for being a total as$h*le, the more he wanted me. It was this weird game.
After a while I grew tired. I didn't want to play anymore.
Playstation
He got into a car wreck because he installed a PlayStation in his car and he and his friend were playing it while he was driving.
- Rustmutt
"Wait For Me!"
She followed me everywhere. I mean everywhere. If I was in the living room and was walking outside to my car to grab something, she followed with a "wait for me!" and would get really really angry if I didn't wait for her to walk 20 ft. out the door with me.
I could never do anything by myself, and it was especially uncomfortable in groups when people would notice and question it. She ended up being really controlling (no sh!t) and abusive.
Mayo
I asked my girlfriend what my biggest red flag was and without even pausing, she said "Mayonnaise."
I like it, she hates it, we don't understand each other, and we've been together over two years.
Like An Animal
Probably the biggest red flag was when his father, before we started living together, said to me: "Be careful, he is like an animal."
He didn't know how to clean after himself, played games for whole days. Normally, I don't mind games, but he neglected his responsibilities, college and hobbies. I tried to help him, but he wouldn't let me in, unless he was drunk. It was really a tiring time for me.
At Least She Warned Him
Two months into our relationship she told me every relationship she had been in had ended within 3 months as she had cheated on everyone she had ever dated, and she was worried as she really liked me and didn't want to do that to me. She then said if we ever broke up she'd have to move as she wouldn't be able to stay in the same city.
I didn't pay much attention as:
a) She was really hot
b) I thought our relationship would be different.
Exactly a year later she cheated on me, and subsequently moved to a new country.
That Goth Cleavage
Girl I dated briefly in my late teens informed me during our first conversation that she was a practicing Witch. Which is fine I don't mean to poop on anyone's spiritual beliefs. But It came up very frequently when we would talk and it escalated into some truly banana-pants crazy shit.
Which I was 100% fine ignoring because she was a smokin' hot Goth girl with amazing cleavage and I was a horny teenager.
Living With His "Collection"
Hoarder.... hoarder, did I say Hoarder? We've never been able to live together, I keep my place (and sanity) and he lives with his "collection "
We've been together for 25 years, so I guess we need to go shopping for a place big enough for "everything"... like maybe an abandoned football stadium......or airplane hangar....
He Looks So Hot When...
He believes in conspiracy theories like Bigfoot and strange stuff in the sky. Who am I to judge? He looks so hot when he watches his weird shows.
Defensive Demonstrations
My ex would ask me "How would you react if you were attacked?" and demanded demonstrations of my defense tactics. He also 'collected' knives, after moving in together he started getting violent and I realized how dangerous the situation was. We were together for two years.
Double Life
Never in the year we dated did she introduce me to any of her friends. Found out she had like a total double life going on.
We're still friends though and she admitted she's afraid to open up and have both lives collide.
Still might try to date her again lol.
Memes
Dated a girl a couple years ago who had the personality of a brick wall with the Pepe meme graffitied on it. All she could do was speak about the memes she saw on Instagram or about the makeup tutorial she had just watched. Ask her about her life? Responds with a meme, about school? Meme. Literally anything to her could be related to memes and it drove me nuts.
We did not last long .
H/T: Reddit
You might say moviegoers who love horror films are sadists.
They derive pleasure from being spooked and terrified, and they somehow love crouching in their seats out of sheer fright watching supernatural entities scaring the daylights out of homeowners or serial killers stalking their prey.
It's all an adrenaline rush.
However, even gore and slasher fans have their limits.
Curious to hear the breaking point of movie fans, Redditor SoundRevolutionary97 asked:
"Whats the scariest movie you ever seen?"
Movies involving the supernatural give most people the heebee jeebees.
The Possession
"For some reason The Exorcism Of Emily Rose f'ked with me, got anxiety watching it."
– aqxea2500
Nothing Sweet About This Man
"OK I've scrolled long enough. The original Candyman. Watched it at a sleep over in third grade and I've hated horror movies AND bees all the way through to my late 30s"
– Promethia
Why You Should Never Watch VHS Tapes
"The Ring. I didn't know what I was getting myself into."
– FeynmanAndTedChiang
The Malevolent Force In Your Home
"Sinister, not just scary, but deeply disturbing too."
– [deleted]
Not all scary movies are necessarily categorized as a horror genre.
Apocalyptic War Drama
"Threads. It will f'k your day up."
"It's the scariest film I've seen and it's not technically a horror. Competition is not even close. And I watch a f'k ton of horror."
– tntblowsinurface
Inquiring Minds Wanted To Know
"It's a British film depicting a nuclear war, and the aftermath. The segment detailing the nuclear exchanges is terrifying, and then of course all the stuff after... it deals with the future, basically the UK is left with only a few million people living, subsistence type agriculture... people suffering from long term radiation effects, etc."
– OlasNah
Why It's Scary
"Absolutely. I still have nightmares decades after I saw it. The Exorcist scared me, sure, but it's not real. Poltergeist was unsettling but fake. Threads can actually happen--it just takes one of the old guys to push the button...."
– TeacherPatti
We are not alone, and to think we are the only intelligent form of life is very very foolish.
As If Tight Spaces Weren't Enough
"I still keep The Descent at the top of my list. I expected it to just be a thriller with the claustrophobia and terror between the group."
"Didn’t expect a creature feature."
– Vaxxinateurkidz
Extra-Terror-estrials
"The fourth kind."
"When I saw it I was told it was a true story and I was just dumb enough to believe it at the time. Also I was the type of person to believe in aliens so that certainly made it scarier."
– Doom_Toon
Sonic Fright
"Honestly, Event Horizon. Put it on in the background thinking it was just a kind of creepy sci fi. It was the sounds that really got to me on that one."
– 7grendel
There were the usual suspects.
Leatherface
"The Texas Chainsaw Massacre (the original obviously). I saw it as a grown man and screamed like a little girl throughout the whole film."
– HouseHopeful7029
No Feeding After Midnight
"Gremlins, the end telling me to watch for a Gremlin every time something is malfunctioning had 6 year old me scared sh*tless."
– Chubby_Tux
Psychological Nightmare
"Hereditary, if you have family issues it will hit close to home."
– Ashton_Garland
Personally, one of the scariest films relating to demonic spirits and ghosts was the first Paranormal Activity.
The found-footage format really worked well here. It create such an unsettling atmosphere that relied mostly on aural scares to brilliant effect.
The scene where you see nothing but the couple sleeping on their bed but you hear the slow foot steps that accelerated and led to a slamming door made me sleep with my own bedroom door closed for a couple of weeks after seeing the movie.
It's what you don't see that really keeps you up at night.
In the recent Pride and Prejudice update Fire Island, Dex leads the main character Noah to believe that the stand-offish lawyer Will judges him for having an OnlyFans page.
A site that has become commonly used for amateur and professional porn performers and sex workers to directly profit from erotic and sexual content they upload themselves.
As is the case with their literary counterparts, Darcy and Wickham, Will's apathy towards Dex runs much deeper than his OnlyFans page.
But Will wouldn't be the first person to judge someone for utilizing the site as a means of income.
Several people might also stop their romantic pursuits of those who decide to upload x-rated content as a side (or primary) hustle.
Others, however, might not have a problem with it, and might even join them in their endeavors.
Redditor TickleTip20 was curious to learn whether or not people would be comfortable dating someone with an OnlyFans account, or who works in the sex industry, leading them to ask:
"Would you date a sex worker/does onlyfans? Why or why not?"
No. They Never Stop Promoting Themselves.
"No I would not."
"Had a great night with a girl and once we had done the deed she felt the need to plug her OnlyFans page."
"Made it feel like she spent the night with me as advertisement and wanted me to become a subscriber."- xveritas1x
No. Too Many Safety Risks
"Personally no."
"One of my boyfriend’s best friends is seeing a girl who does OF and she recently traveled to make a threesome video with two other people in the scene."
"No protection or anything was used."
"I’d personally be crying and throwing up watching my boyfriend sleep with other women, with no protection, whether it’s his job or not."
"So yeah not for me."
"But I don’t discriminate against that career path."
"You do you."- Halloweenqueen2342
No. They'll Regret It Down The Line
"I would say no."
"People don't usually see the long term affects of that lifestyle until they want to leave it."
"There was an interview with Lana Rhoades, and she says looking back at her videos, it makes her want to throw up."- Sea_Obligation5993
No. You Become A Very Low Priority
"I would not."
"I knew a guy who was all 'nah bro, it's sexy and it's no big deal' when his girlfriend of 2 years started her OnlyFans."
"First came the undivided attention to her phone, texting guys who are sending her money."
"That led to her starting to do collabs with other women, which led to her having sex with other dudes on camera, which led to her pretty much just sidelining her boyfriend whenever she felt like it when she got really intimate with someone she did like 10 videos with."
"She once offered the guy she was dating to be a part of it, but turns out she just wanted him to film her sleep with this dude she liked a lot."
"In the end, my friend didn't even get dumped, he just got straight up forgotten about."
"She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever."
"Maybe if I was really, really confident and secure with the woman I'm with I'd be willing to talk about it, but there'd be a lot of boundaries and I'd wanna be the other dude on camera w her."- gamesireallylike
No. Not Monogomous.
"No."
"Simply because I’m completely monogamous, and I consider sexual exclusivity as part of that."
"For me, sending nude pictures to others during the relationship is cheating."- DickBigler
"No."
"I'm more of a 'intimacy is reserved for your S/O only'."- ConThePaladin
"Nope."
"If you’re dating me I’ve gotta be your only fan."- TheLastBoat
No. Bad Past Experiences.
"Used to date an exotic dancer."
"It was painful."
"Would not repeat."- n0budd33
No. Simply Not Equiped
"The people that I know that do it have had to compartmentalize what sex means and what's too far in terms of exploiting others, and it's changed them as people."
"The personality traits that have strengthened aren't ones that I value in a partner or to be quite frank even in a friend, so I don't think I'd be able to date one."
"Sex work takes strength and grit, but in my experience that grit has made people I used to enjoy thoroughly abrasive."
"Obviously I know not all people are like that, but that's just my experience." - Reddit
No two people have the same relationship or comfort level when it comes to sex.
So people should always think twice before judging those on OnlyFans.
Nor should anyone enter into a relationship with someone on OnlyFans if it makes them uncomfortable.
As the saying goes, "to each their own."
People Share The Best Trade Secrets They Know About Their Profession
I know that many of you love the chili from a certain fast-food restaurant that rhymes with "Bendy's," but I'm here to tell you that that stuff is not fresh. Not one bit.
Okay, that statement might not hold true from franchise to franchise, but it's something worth thinking about.
Sorry to burst your bubble: This is a dark secret I've carried inside me for more than a decade.
Keep in mind: It was tasty. Quite. But it did sit out for a while. Didn't stop the customers from eating it though, and they were happy and I was paid for my work and that was that.
But there are other job secrets out there that you might not be aware of.
People shared the deets with us after Redditor You_are_a_dolt asked the online community,
"What’s a trade secret you know from working the industry?"
"I work for a printing company."
"I work for a printing company. The number of jobs that we print that say "printed on recycled paper," and it is just normal paper is astronomical."
ChemReaction
This doesn't surprise me one bit. Cutting corners? Just business.
"If you call a call center..."
"If you call a call center of any kind, and the person you're talking to puts you on hold with no hold music, they can hear everything you're saying. I worked in an insurance call center when I was really young. I had so many people accidentally confess to insurance fraud that way."
ayarbee
As they say, "loose lips sink ships." It's quite accurate, especially in this case.
"Vinegar..."
"Vinegar is the best thing to get your cutlery shiny in a restaurant or bar."
ApprehensiveCry545
This is very true! When I worked in a restaurant, a vinegar solution was the way to go.
"Interned for a plastic surgeon..."
"Interned for a plastic surgeon who is very well known and does work on celebs. They sold their skincare line for hundreds of dollars and touted it as having highly advanced ingredients of the highest quality."
"They bought most of it from a wholesale retailer who stuck their name on the bottle. Website looked sketchy tbh. Also had '24k gold face masks' that were purchased in bundles off of Amazon for cheap."
"These fancy skincare lines are such a scam, don't waste your money."
monkeylioness
Good to know! Your wallet will thank you later.
"I worked at an incredibly under stocked..."
"I worked at an incredibly under stocked coffee shop once. If someone asked for whole milk I was told by management to tell them we had it, then serve them 2%. Then one day I served a milk farmer. I've never been called out on my crap as fast as the damn milk man himself."
TastyBeerYum
You never know who you might be dealing with — especially in customer service!
Tread wisely.
"Phone plans are significantly less..."
"Phone plans are significantly less expensive that what we quote you a lot of the time. TPR wants us to sell you as much literal useless junk as possible that you would not ever agree to paying for, so they make us bundle it in so you don't even think about it. It's pretty shady, but I also got a kid to feed, definitely still searching for better."
[deleted]
Best of luck! It's rough out there. The job market can be cruel.
"When you shop at Walmart..."
"When you shop at Walmart, do you sometimes hear the announcement saying security cameras to zone six, or another number? They play them randomly in the hopes that someone who might be stealing will get paranoid thinking they’re being watched, and will decide not to shoplift."
[deleted]
I used to work in a grocery store that did the same thing. It took me way too long to realize we didn't even have security.
"There's actually no difference..."
"There's actually no difference between a $300 champagne room and a $150 private dance. We're supposed to say it's more private etc, but it's the exact same just with a different price tag."
[deleted]
This doesn't surprise me either. Shady, but it works. Many people fall for it.
"As a freelance photographer..."
"As a freelance photographer, most magazines and newspapers don't pay you for using your photos. They offer you photo credit only. If you ask to be paid, they just get a similar photo from someone else."
RottenSkippy
Also if you have a unique photo or video, always go non-exclusive and sell it to everyone. You get way more that way than just selling to one as an exclusive.
"Never buy..."
"Automotive Industry. Never buy the first year of any new model car."
TopSundae8548
Hell, I could have told you that one! No point, it's a trap!
All of these will make you think twice when interacting with employees of any kind or the next time you call a company.
But don't worry — you're bound to have plenty of secrets of your own. Wield that power responsibly.
Have some info of your own? Feel free to tell us all about it in the comments below!
There are many cases where a company or product promises good quality or intentions.
But that isn't always the case as some companies fail to deliver and they make off with your hard-earned cash.
In an instantly gratifying world, consumers are quick to go after the things they want with the click of a button as long as they have the funds.
But they should keep a close eye on where their money is going toward.
Strangers online shared what brands to stay away from when Redditor ToastedLeaf- asked:
"What brand can go f'k off?"
They may appear to have good intentions, but of course, that's all they show you.
Putting On A Good Face
"National/international charities that give back minimally to the communities they pretend to serve."
"From charity watch. Top compensation:"
"Name & Title Charity Viviane Tabar, M.D. Chairman Attending Neurosurgery Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center $4,869,769 12/31/2020 Note: Includes $3,350,000 bonus & incentive compensation. Robert W. Stone President/CEO City of Hope & Affiliates $3,827,671"
– shootingstare
Pack Of Thieves
"F'k Autism Speaks, my school decorated the halls for World Autism Day and encouraged us to talk about it in classes as kind of a break from work, and I mistakenly outed myself as autistic to everyone during one of those conversations."
"Later my teacher put on a whole PowerPoint drawing heavily from Autism Speaks and everyone proceeded to speak to me like a f'king ape for the remainder of my time there."
"They don’t respect us, don’t want to help us, and in fact seem to believe if we didn’t exist then things would be much better. They’re a disgusting pack of thieves and they absolutely do not speak for me"
– a-friend-in-sneed
Shady Salespeople
"Mary Kay."
"And all other pyramid schemes that sell themselves as self-employment. F'k off with a sandpaper condom, and that does double for the folks that started as victims and then rope in others to save themselves."
– Exciting_Pop_1252
Outed
"They may call themselves 'Xfinity' but I know they a**es are Comcast. F'k Comcast."
– argus_orthanx
Scammers, all of them.
Inconvenient "Convenience"
"Ticketmaster. Surprised i haven't seen it. You'll try and cross shop tickets just to realize they always redirect you to Ticketmaster where you're gonna pay a huge amount in convenience fees. Buying 2 tickets you're pretty much paying for 3."
– pettyhonor
Textbook Thievery
"Anyone who makes college textbooks for outrageous prices."
– AkwardTimeToLaugh
A Workaround
"Oh god i need to buy a math textbook for my class that started 2 weeks ago n it's about $117.50 usd dollars 😭 i refuse to buy it esp since at the end of class my professor allows us to take pictures of his book so we can do the homework."
– Crystal_Princess2020
Stay Out Of Touch With Them
"AT&T can f'k off once for each random a** incremental charge."
– Emmjacob
No Kinda Life Is...
"Herbalife. Specifically those Herbalife 'Nutrition' Drink shops."
– fauxshoah
Beware of the products you purchase. There apparently is corruption in these companies.
Suspicious Sparkle
"DeBeers. One of the main exploiters of West Africa in recent memory, a near monopoly on diamonds jacking up prices, insists that you must buy your loved one a real diamond from them and not a cheaper synthetic one in order to prove that love."
– Flodo_McFloodiloo
Deceitful Threads
"SheIn. Art theft, lead in children’s clothes, undoubtedly slave labor in there somewhere. The $1 fast food meal of clothing."
– steffinix
Bad Spark
"PG&E. They have f'ked over so many Northern Californians between faulty equipment starting fires to working with Gavin Newsom to make the consumer pay for their damages. They suck so much John Oliver made a Last Week Tonight about them. Breweries in NorCal even started making beer called PG&E Sucks."
– gregthetaco
Hidden charges are nothing revelatory.
Service charges in addition to delivery fees when you have food delivered to your home courtesy of the various apps made to make a consumer's life easier is all well and good.
But as one previously mentioned, what Ticketmaster charges with their not-so-hidden fees is basically highway robbery.
It's a shame that while live performances are re-emerging from the effects of the global pandemic, it comes at an exorbitant cost to patrons trying to regain a normal sense of life.