A first date is kind of an awkward experience already, because you're basically sussing out the other person to see if you connect in any way.

Especially in the age of Tinder, first dates are so removed from normal human interaction that it's impossible to predict how it's gonna go.

But sometimes, you know that it DEFINITELY should not be going like that.


u/RedShirtCashion asked:

What was the biggest red flag on the first date that there wouldn't be a second date?

Here were some of those stories.


A Lot Of Steps

I had a guy who looked at me like he was utterly transfixed and started basically implying how relieved he was to finally find The One. Not in so many words but he was acting like you'd expect someone to act after his proposal had been accepted. Like, all loved up and somehow relieved?

He drove me home and started singing some dumb country song with the line "I've finally found... a soft place to faaaallll" whilst looking sidelong at me.

I was freaked out. He didn't even know my surname! We'd made out one time!

Johnboysmole

Ouch Man

Had a date once where things were going pretty well. As we're given the check she asks my age so I told her. I was one year younger than her and she immediately facepalmed and said "Ohhhhh, I didn't know you were younger than me."

Not a red flag in a negative way towards her personality, but her reaction was all I needed to know there wouldn't be a second date.

FoxDie_420

What Is It To Be Sexy?

Had a guy who insisted on buying the most expensive pizza at the restaurant despite my protests then kissed my head when he walked past me to use the restroom. After dinner we walked along the waterfront, he kissed me and then immediately tried to choke me "to be sexy". First date, last date.

silvamsam

So He's Delusional

I met a guy on the Internet so we met for the first Time for coffee. He had a black eye and a cut on his cheek so I asked him what happened and he said what do you mean? And I said you look injured and he said no I'm not everything is fine

rumtiger

Ah, So, You Want To Control Me

He told me I should learn to make better life choices because I'd bleached the bottom half of my hair in a twenty minute lecture about hair care.

He suggested more than once that he'd be happy to help me find a hair style that suited me, as well as a few new outfits that would fit my figure better than what I was wearing.

FYI I'm aware bleaching my hair is bad for it. I bleached only the bottom half for that reason.

He gave off very controlling, condescending, and straight rude vibes.

No second date

SuddenTerrible_Haiku

Two Hours Late

He made me wait 2 hours for him and kept lying that he was almost there. I already bought my movie ticket and wasn't gonna change the time so I decided to go by myself. He finally shows up halfway through the movie then tries to do the over the shoulder move on me.

EmGray13

Male? You MUST Be Dating Him

The guy told me that it was questionable that I was living with a male roommate and that he wanted me to move. Also lied about his nationality (probably because of a bad reputation they have with their neighbors, but that I wasn't even aware of at that point)

BerriesAndMe

An Odd Obsession

Literal flags. My roommate went out with a guy that showed off pictures of his flag collection. He had the flag from every country in the world and wouldn't stop talking about them. He used to help his school with their model UN, but they stopped letting him since he would keep interrupting with comments about flags.

tanoshacpa

A REAL Winner

"I've tried every drug apart from heroin because I don't like needles. He also told me in detail how he shoplifted the t shirt he was wearing and the bottle of rose wine he drank before our date."

Banana-sandwich

Adios Muchacho

He pressed me for personal information about my last relationship that I was not ready to share with him at the time. I politely told him we could talk about anything he wanted as things progressed. He leaned back in his chair for about a minute acting like he was bored (pretending to sleep). I got up, grabbed my coat and walked out. Urgh..

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