Ah, parents. The true grey area when it comes to forming relationships. And while many children have to, unfortunately, learn from their parents mistakes, other times they tell us what we really need to hear. These Redditors are going to tell you the best wisdom that their parents ever gave them.
That's a very healthy habit to have.
Let me debate with them on why I wanted something/should be allowed to do something and would change their minds if I made a compelling argument.
My mom let me do that too. She would say I could be the lawyer in the discussion, but she was the judge and had the ultimate final decision.
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I remember being told it was very important to admit when you're wrong, and I think that was solid advice. But I could be wrong.
My mom always made a point of apologizing to us after we had a fight with her and admitting anything she'd done wrong. I remember having one big fight when I was in high school where I threw a complete tantrum and screamed at her.
Afterwards, she came upstairs and said, "You were right; I was being unreasonable. That was maybe not the most mature way to tell me, but you were right and I'm sorry." It made such a difference to know that my mom would actually listen to and respect the things I said, and it made me do the same for her.
It totally baffles me when parents don't want to apologize to their kids or admit they're wrong because they think their kids won't respect them anymore. The fact is your kids already know you're wrong, they want to know if you know it and if you respect them enough to admit it.
Supported my (then) unusual interests. I was into astronomy as a younger kid and they bought books and telescopes and drove me to/from the local astronomy club at late hours.
Later (this was the 80s) they bought me a series of computers which were pretty expensive for the time and for their income. I'm grateful they supported what I was into.
They instilled a good work ethic. "If you do something half-assed, you'll have to put 2 asses in to fix your f*** ups. If your name is going on it, make it your best."
They also always encouraged my creativity- never told me I wasn't capable of something. They always told me I can accomplish anything I want as long as I put effort into it. My parental units are awesome.
Taught me the importance of quality duct tape.
If duct tape can't fix it, it's not worth fixing.
Yes yes yes.
You can do whatever you want but you are responsible for your choices.
This is the single biggest thing my mom did in raising me. I never had curfews or restrictions and she trusted me to not be a dumbass. If I was a dumbass, it was my own fault and I'd have to fix it on my own (within the scope of capability at a given age). My mom operated on "I'll trust you unless you give me a reason not to." I never gave her a reason not to trust me and we never had problems about it.
We still argued over religion and other normal parent/teen stuff. But not about where I went or with whom and when I'd be back (again, within reason and respective to a given age). I believe people who say they had strict or controlling parents, but I can't relate to it.
They made sure I understood money, money management, saving for retirement, etc. Made my life so much easier have never had to worry about money or debt a day in my life.
Same. I will always be thankful to them for that. They also modeled financial responsibility and lived well within their means, which at the time I found embarrassing ("why is our house so much smaller than everyone else's?") but now I'm like holy shit they set me up for success. When I started working at 14 they made me set aside 60% of it for college, and with their additional help (and a scholarship) I never had a penny of student loan debt.
They even paid me $10/section to watch Dave Ramsey's financial peace seminar when I was 18. That's what got me really interested in investing. Now that I'm more educated about it, I don't really recommend Dave Ramsey's investment specifics (it's pretty bad) but it did get me started thinking about the concept. Now years later I'm well on the way to early retirement and financial independence, and I fully credit my parents for that.
More parents should be like this.Giphy
They treated me like an adult - never belittled what I was feeling or what was meaningful to me, and explained practicalities of life when need be. "Because I said so" was NOT a common phrase.
Also, they were the most supportive parents anyone could ask for, and they had the time to get involved with the things I did - my dad taught me scientific wonder and mentored my robotics team, my mom volunteered for all my theatre and music stuff while simultaneously serving on school boards, PTOs, Friends of Music, curriculum committees, and about a hundred other things.
They are just incredible people.
Sounds like a great dad.
My dad always made my brother and I take the lead. He would obviously always know what was going on and would be a few steps ahead of us. If we were in a new city, we would be in charge of working out which bus to take, or if we were cooking, we'd be reading the recipe and telling my dad what to do, etc.
It's pretty simple but it meant we were pretty good at doing things ourselves and were already really independent before leaving home.
We were visiting London once and I managed to get on the tube before the doors closed, but my dad did not. I knew we where we had to change so just got off at the stop and waited for the next train with him on. I think most 8 year olds might have freaked out a bit
A useful life lesson.
My mom always made me try a bite of any food in front of her before she'd allow the "I don't like it" line. Now, thanks to her, I'm willing to try any food/drink once, even if I think I won't like it. I'm glad she did that.
We have this policy with our kids. They often will keep trying something they previously disliked and realize their taste has changed. It's really fun to see that happen.
No free rides.Giphy
Made me work. There wasn't a free ride, chores and working on the farm weren't an option, they were mandatory. As long as school work was done and I wasn't at practice or a game, I was expected to be helping, and that meant work all summer long too.
.....can you give me some tips?
Never gave me a cent to spend. I earned every single dollar of my wealth throughout my life. I'm in my mid 30s and if I lose all my money tomorrow I won't even be that stressed because I know how to earn it back because I've done it before.
Well that took a turn.
Father: Taught me in the early 00's (when I was 16-20 or so) how to use computers, so I wouldn't be one of those people later in life going "dUr wHaTs A cOmpUtEr1!1"
Godfather: Taught me not to spend money foolishly, but dont be afraid to spend it. You can't take it with you when you're gone.
Mother: Nothing, she was a useless c**t.
There are benefits to playing sports.Giphy
They pushed me into basketball and sports in general, even though I wanted to quit every other weekend.
I was pretty fat as a kid and I naturally didn't like it at all at first, but it ended up being great for me, both for health reasons and for socializing. The latter was also very important, cause I had no long-lasting friends since my parents moved every year and I always had to change schools.
Old school advice, but still useful.
Controversial one but as a kid but don't start any physical violence but if someone punches you, punch them back.
I seemed to be targeted for bullying and violence in school and this helped. As soon as someone knows you will fight back, 9/10 will give up.
Definitely different as an adult though. As an adult I'd rather just avoid any physical violence entirely because the chances are, if they are getting into physical violence, they probably don't have a lot to lose and you don't want to get stabbed or something.
The law is a fickle mistress, and it varies from state to state and county to county sometimes. And then there is the blatant hypocrisy of it all.
There are some things that feel like they should be allowed to pass but you get scolded for, like jaywalking, and then there are things like actual robbery in broad daylight, like telemarketers and nothing happens to them.
Make it make sense. It's like taxes, the wealthy know loopholes and the poor go to jail. Shameful.
Redditor u/Xanduh wanted everyone to chat about legal life fails by asking:
What do you wish was illegal?
I try my best to follow the law. And Lord knows how well I'm doing. There are so many obscure laws for ridiculous things, yet, scamming people of their life savings is a free pass. I'm confused... apparently, so are many others...
Save a Lifedrag race drugs GIFGiphy
"Hiking up prices of life saving medications. (Insulin, epi-pens, etc.)".
The Hands of Time
"Advertisement like "anti-aging" is absolutely preposterous."
"I would love to see a massive class action lawsuit against any skincare that proposes "anti-aging". Watch a judge rule in the plaintiff's favor citing that the products did not actually turn back time."
"Your credit score goes down because you cancelled a credit card."
"You want to have multiple lines of credit that you're responsible with, preferably for a long period of time, because it proves you're a reliable borrower. If you have no debt, it's almost like you've not established credit at all. Your score goes up the more lines of credit you have. It's bonkers. Someone more financially literate than me could probably explain better, though."
The DevilKate Mckinnon Snl GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy
"Hi, I'm X. We're trying to reach you regarding your car's extended warranty."
I'm at the end of my tether with these car warranty calls. I swear to God... nevermind. And advertisements needs to be more regulated. That is a start at better fixing justice.
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"Convenience fees for online ticket purchases. Why am I getting charged for saving on paper, ink, and everyone's time?"
"Companies making it really difficult to cancel things. Especially subscriptions. I think the process to subscribe to something to should be exactly the same as the process to cancel it. I'm looking at you spotify."
"Gyms in general. before they started popping up everywhere I was a member at LA fitness."
"Well I moved 2hrs away from the closest one and they wanted me to come in person to cancel, then they wanted me to send in a damn letter. I can signup online, why can't I cancel online?"
No muss, no fuss.
"Printer ink being ridiculously expensive for no reason."
"Buy a laser printer. Here's my oft-told tale of woe: School got out so my kids no longer had homework to print. A month or so later we needed to print a document. Our Kodak injket printer not only refused to print but said we needed to buy a new ($90) print head because the old one had gummed up, because we'd gone too long without printing."
"I went to the local office supply store and bought a Brother laser printer. It scans, it copies, it uses wifi, and most importantly it just works.About twice a year when we need to print something I go and get it out of my garage and bring it into the house, set it on the kitchen counter, plug it in, and print to it."
"It works great - even remembers my wifi settings (SSID and password) from the previous time. No muss, no fuss. If I really want to print something in color I'll use Kinkos. Turns out I literally never need to print in color."
"Using children to monetize your social media channels."
Bot ThievesTheatre GIF by StubHubGiphy
"Bots buying tickets and up-charging the crap out of the price."
Those ticket thieves need to be taken down. No Broadway show is worth $1000! Don't fall for it kids. That mess needs to be cleaned up. There is actual crime happening to the naked eye. Let's focus there.
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While the world is a dark and scary place, there would not be a world, or a human race, without inherent kindness.
Kindness always gives you a little thump to your heart that nothing else can truly provide. A rush of knowing you've made someone's day better. And you may change the trajectory of that person's life because of it.
To hear more of these kindnesses, for inspiration, Redditor slizsarbleh asked:
"What is something you've done purely out of the goodness of your heart, but have never told anyone?"
Here were some of those stories.
One Grieving Heart To Another
"I lost my mom earlier this year and am still working through the grief. The first week a came back my coworkers had gave me a check for several hundred dollars as a kind gesture. I was truly overwhelmed by the generosity."
"The following week I came into the break room to find one of the techs with a lost look on her face. She had just gotten a phone call that her brother had been murdered the night before."
"She had moved to our city just a year prior and didn't have any family close by. As I held her and listened to her cry, I booked her a flight home."
"It was several hundred dollars as she is from a small town and the flight was for later that day. I told her to go be with family and let me know when she was ready to come back. I had no doubt that is exactly what my mom would have wanted me to do."-thatgirlmocha
Taking It For The Team
"I was extremely stressed and took a mental health day, planning on going to mom's and crying myself to sleep. We ended up going to the mall, and even though money was really tight for her, she wanted to buy me lunch (we split the bill)."
"She realized that she lost a newer $50 bill while walking around. She was devastated."
"I traded my smaller bills to a cashier for a newer $50, folded it like she would, and tossed it under the seat of her car. The next day she called me, almost crying because she was excited to find it and said that without it, groceries would've been pretty tight that week."
"Taking me out that day prevented me from having a full breakdown. I think $50 was a small price to pay for what she did for me that day."-SleepsLikeACat
Services For The Poor
"I do IT work, usually small business and a lot of home repair. I have many wealthy clients and a few not so fortunate. It is not unusual for me to go to a home and it is obvious they are barely scraping by."
"So I either don't charge those people, or make it a nominal fee. I also refurb the old PC's and give them to people who have one that is not repairable."
"My best fee ever was a basket of home grown creole tomatoes, damn those things are delicious."-Disposable70
It really does cost nothing to be kind.
Just A Game, But More Than Just A Game
"This isn't as impressive as the comments I've read but this is just something I did recently."
"I'm a member of a Sims group on FB where people talk about the game, expansion packs etc. I noticed a comment by a teenager who said her favourite pack would be Pets but she can't afford it."
"I went onto her page and saw that she really loved horses. I could also tell from her pictures that her mum was disabled and money looked tight."
"I was fortunate enough when I was her age to always get the packs on the release dates and I used The Sims as a wind down from revising and school."
"I thought that this girl needed the escapism way more than I ever did so I bought every expansion pack, messaged her the activation codes, a link to a YouTube video on how to use them, and a short message saying I hope you enjoy playing and to keep smiling."
"I really do wish her the very best."-MariaOSullivan
Saving And Changing Lives
"Bought insulin for the child of a lady in front of me at the pharmacy. The woman (single mom) was in tears & didn't have the $200 copay for that month."
"I gave her my number & told her to call me within the next few days. That was a few years ago. She now manages the office at my practice, makes enough $ for anything she needs/wants, & is one of my closest friends."
"And now she has excellent insurance for herself & her son! Be kind—it can literally change lives! <3"-EJX713
A Simple Blanket
"There's a semi-secluded bus stop beside a store I used to work at, and a homeless guy started sleeping there on the bench halfway between the stop and the parking lot one winter."
"One day I got to work 15 mins early and saw him sleeping, wearing just a flannel and jeans. So I ram into the store, bought a blanket, and covered him up with it."
"He never woke up so he didn't know it was me. Every time I saw him sitting on the bench he had the blanket wrapped around him."-SeleneSlayer
Even In The Face Of A Feud
"I have an ongoing silent feud with one branch of my family (my dad's cousins and their kids, my second cousins), and we haven't spoken or really seen each other in over 10 years."
"I've pretty much written them off, and I don't really care if we live out the rest of our lives without patching things up."
"Two months ago, one of my cousins from that branch unexpectedly died at the age of 38. Their immediate family had always had financial troubles."
"So while I didn't fly across the country to attend the funeral, I quietly sent my sister a bunch of money and instructed her to pretend it was hers and pay off part of their funeral expenses."
"And then just last week, some of my other relatives started a GoFundMe for one of my aunts in that branch (she's my dad's oldest cousin)."
"She has Stage IV cervical cancer and wants to leave the hospital to pass away at home surrounded by her loved ones, but the hospital won't release her until her medical bills are paid in full (this is in another country)."
"I haven't told my dad or anyone else in the family, but I anonymously donated my last paycheck plus the money I had been saving for my upcoming birthday trip."
"I don't really consider it out of the goodness of my heart, though. It's just that the thought of an elderly, terminally ill person dying alone somewhere that isn't home eats away at me so much that I physically couldn't sit by and do nothing."-OrifielM
And these gestures are the kind where the kindness is its own reward.
To Instill Hope
"A lady was fleeing an abusive marriage without much more than her kids and the clothes on her back. Word went out within a whisper network requesting a few essentials she needed."
"Packed up several things from the request list and also one thing that wasn't requested. I make jewelry as a hobby. Put a pair of handmade earrings into a gift bag: silver and pearls."
"Added a handwritten note that every woman deserves something beautiful and sending good wishes her way."-doublestitch
"At the beginning of the pandemic, I was volunteering at a local pizza shop to distribute slices to kids who otherwise couldn't get fed because the schools were shutdown."
"There was a woman with 3 kids that came by every few days to get slices. Turns out the father had died unexpectedly right before the pandemic started and they lost their house because of the slumlord they were renting from."
"The mother lost her job because she had no one to watch the kids. They were living in their minivan and things were bad for them."
"They were so nice and grateful, but ashamed when they'd come by to get slices that I genuinely felt for them. I had lost my job and got a pretty decent windfall of 2 months worth of unemployment and the CARES Act at once."
"My landlord had a few properties open and is a close friend, so I got in touch with him and we worked out me paying their security deposit and the first 2 months of rent and he'd cover their utilities."
"I gave her his number and said he might be able to help and they moved in the next day. They've been there ever since and are doing extremely well now."-eyexxiii
A Little Birthday Surprise
"I was in my art class in high school and there was a girl who I didn't really know a few grades younger. I could tell she didn't have many friends but was really sweet."
"She was talking to me one day and told me her birthday was soon and that she was so excited. I decided to send her those balloons and whatnot you can get through the student store on her birthday, though she didn't know me very well so I didn't sign my name."
"It just so happened that the student store worker brought them in during our art class and I got to see her reaction. She lit up and kept telling us it had to have been her mom or her best friend who did it, and how she couldn't believe that someone got her something and she wouldn't stop smiling the whole rest of class."
"I never told her it was me, I was just happy she felt special. That was a pretty good day."-Rbbbb30
Humans, above all else, have the capacity to be unendingly kind. Despite all the darkness in the world, it is these little moments of light that define us as a species.
Hopefully this has given you some faith in humans today.
In a time when we are constantly looking for something to watch, but rarely have time to sit down and enjoy something, picking a good film can be tricky. No one likes to watch a whole movie to get to the ending and have it be so disappointing that you wished you didn't watch in the first place.
Ask Reddit gave us a list of the movies that have the worst endings, and sometimes the worst beginnings and middles too. If you're wondering what to watch next, this list should help narrow down what to avoid all together.
Redditor Asap_lucky69 asked:
"What is the worst ending you have seen in a movie?"
Spoilers ahead, so readers beware.
Passengers was overall pretty creepy.
"That Jennifer Lawrence/Chris Pratt movie where actually she doesn't mind marrying her stalker who took her utopia life away and living just the two of them forever and ever."
The comments got into a little debate over Jennifer Lawrence reaction to the criticism of the film.
"Passengers is the movie I believe you're talking about."
"Although I will add that it annoyed me how after the internet called it out as a creepy relationship. Lawrence said she agreed and if she had noticed it while reading the script she'd have swapped the characters around. No. That's just as creepy."
"The better ending would have been one of the planned ones, where Pratt's character dies in the finale. Then it cuts to like 6 months later and shows Lawrence's character deciding to open someone else's pod up. Showing that humans crave social interaction."
"Lawrence said she agreed and if she had noticed it while reading the script she'd have swapped the characters around."
"That's not what she said, or what others were saying. The criticism, which she agreed with, is that it would've been more palatable if Pratt waking her up were a twist revealed more than halfway through the film instead of showing him doing it early on."
"That would've made it so that there wasn't any underlying issue known to the audience as the two characters' relationship progresses. We would've found out about what Pratt's character did the instant Lawrence's character does, and we would have to reconcile with it just as she had to. One of the main themes of the film is forgiveness, but it's harder for the audience to forgive Pratt's character when they're watching him go into that relationship knowing the truth, rather than being surprised by it."
Wonder Woman wasn't such a wonderful ending.
"Yeah, like, ok, the entire world gets wishes granted and nobody ever mentions it again WTF."
"Especially Bruce Wayne who would've wished his goddamned parents back to life."
"Not only does the entire world get wishes granted, but they are all willing to take their wishes back to stop the apocalypse. No way."
"Man I hope nobody wished their dead spouse/ kids back to life then had to undo that willingly. That's the sort of trauma that f*cks you beyond repair."
"Also, it's weird that nobody wished for the apocalypse, considering how nut jobs like the Joker are running around in this universe. Are they really saying not one nihilistic a**hole would wish for a meteor to crash into the planet just for funsies?"
The Forgotten was an ending we wish we forgot.
"The end of 'The Forgotten,' with Julianne Moore was straight trash."
"I was in the edge of my seat the entire time, then it ended with, 'It was aliens.' F*ck was that disappointing."
"I enjoyed that movie for its peculiar jump scares. It's also the first instance I can remember of the 'surprise T-bone crash' which a million movies have done since, but it was effective in this movie. But, whack conclusion, especially how everything was nearly undone, and she was the only one who could remember the film's events."
Signs didn't really make sense in the end.
"'Signs' -- Maybe next time you decide to invade an entire planet, make sure it's not mostly made of instant death sauce."
"They could have made the ending great if in the last scene they zoomed out from the field as the automatic sprinklers turn on and you heard aliens screaming."
"It makes a lot more sense if you consider the creatures to be demons rather than aliens and that the little girl was turning all the water into holy water (remember they said an angel was seen at her birth)."
"Not saying that it makes the movie better, just that it makes the movie make more sense."
"I thought that was the entire point of the movie. We never technically see a flying saucer, the aliens don't really seem all that intelligent, and the movie is about a priest who has lost his faith. They even make a point that the way to defeat the 'aliens' is found in one of the holy cities of the middle east."
"That's the twist of the movie. You go in expecting a film about aliens, but it turns out their were not aliens, but rather demons, and all the signs of alien invasion were that of a demon invasion misinterpreted."
The movie musical My Fair Lady.
"My Fair Lady. She just goes back to the man who disrespected her like she has Stockholm syndrome."
"That p*ssed me off too! The original play it's based on apparently ends differently (I think she does plan to marry the other guy) and I was mad they changed it. It was completely out of character for her, the moving ending with her staring sentimentally at the back of his head. Ugh."
"That's a great movie though. Rex Harrison's ability to get cast in multiple musicals with 0 ability to sing is astounding."
Batman vs Superman missed some opportunities.
"Batman vs Superman"
"'Hey Boss, what do we do if Superman tries save his mom.'"
"Lex: 'Oh torch her as soon as you suspect something'"
"'What if a different caped jackass shows up?'"
"Lex: 'What like just some guy? I want you to fight him, one by one. Don't use your guns. Hold your guns but just run at him face first. And of course if your mothers have the same name just take the night off, we all have our limits.'"
"Is it cheating to pick a movie that also has a bad start and middle?"
"They missed an opportunity for Aquaman to talk about 'Thomas' in Justice League and have Batman lose his sh*t."
"'WHY DID YOU SAY THAT NAME?'"
"'Calm down, it's my dad's name. And my mom's your ex.'"
"Superman could just burn Batman with his laser eyes at a safe distance. Superman has super powers. Batman has a toolbelt. The entire premise is crap."
Thank goodness this Redditor asked this question. There are definitely some movies to avoid after reading this list.
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It's no secret the last year or so has changed all of our lives in ways we wouldn't have expected. Whether you've done well or struggled, people are seeing life and relationships differently than before.
You may have taken time for yourself and started a creative hobby or faced breakups and other heartbreaks. Maybe added to your family, or perhaps experienced loss.
How will you recall this time? One Redditor wanted to know how people would describe the unique chapter of our lives.
Redditor broteafog wanted to hear what people thought in a single line. They asked:
“What's this chapter of your life called?"
The pandemic 15...
"’The plot thickens’ - owing to my weight gain. You may refer to me as Plot.” qalarkiyv
"The Thiccening" siamlinio
“Cruise Control” threedogafternoon
“Also known as the ‘make it look like I know what I'm doing’ chapter” Eternaltuesday
“it was always burning since the world's been turning...”
“Why is everything on fire?" Redditwhale1
“Everything is on fire but, it's not my fault.” Wrigley1121Mask Trash GIF by 100% SoftGiphy
“Why writing a book is more complicated than I expected." BW_bird
On a positive note...
“Healing phase.” Automatic-Cow-1436
Not the happiest place on earth...
“Part 9 of Chapter 23: Why did I sell my soul to a mouse?” SkinnyAynte
“You work for Disney?” AbilityWholehappy black and white GIF by louis16artGiphy
“Crypto regrets.” Awesomost
“These Are Supposed To Be My Peak Years. Emphasis On Supposed To.” ItsAFineMisoSoup
“‘Enjoy it! These are the best years of your life!’”
“COVID Do-Over - Wipe the Slate Clean. New job, new home, new relationship, feels great to let go of all the toxic crap from my past that's been holding me back. The virus really gave a lot of people a chance to change their lives and try something new. Really glad I did.”
The last 15 months may have been dumpster for but we've taken time to reflect and hope for a better year.
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