Life is a constant cycle of repeats. History will always find a way to circle back and try again. It's the purest definition of insanity; trying the same thing over and expecting different results. Or many times without trying history will repeat in eerie ways. Coincidence is a strange thing. Is it divine intervention? Possibly. There are unexplainable events that happen that mimic prior moments. Those are the times we have to believe life has a plan. Right?
Redditor u/SealingBat wanted us to be aware of some history by asking... What has been the most incredible coincidence in history?
What about the twin brothers back in the 70's. One was hit and killed on a moped by a taxi driver. Almost a year to the day later, the other brother was hit and killed on the same moped by the same driver carrying the same passenger. That's some coincidental stuff. ihasfip
A mate's dad, a lawyer, once dialed the number of a client, a doctor. A woman answered, sounded a little confused, but said that yes, Dr [name] was there. When the doctor came on the line he sounded a little confused too but they discussed the case. At the end of the call, the doctor said, "By the way, how did you get this number?" -"You gave it to me!" said my mate's dad. "No I didn't ... I'm on a house call." The lawyer reads back the number ... they realize he had misdialed. shallowblue
Follow the balloon...Giphy
When I was in 4th grade the entire class released helium balloons with our information and some instructions to write a letter to the school ..."Where did you find the balloon?" - "What did you think when you found it?" etc..
Days later the class started getting them back, some from a mile or two away, some the next town over. As time went on the letters started coming from farther/cooler places.
It was about 2 months in and mine still hadn't returned. Finally it did... I was so pumped that it may have been from another country or something crazy.. it landed in the yard directly behind the school. The old man who found it basically took the letter as opportunity to complain about the noise and garbage the school brings to his property. I was so disappointed. AdeleBeckham
In 2011, Mikey Welsh, former Weezer bassist, tweeted "Dreamt I died in Chicago next weekend (heart attack in my sleep) Need to write my will today."
He died the next weekend in his hotel room in Chicago. Heart attack in his sleep. WhipCityUrchin
To be fair, it was a heart attack induced by a heroin overdose. Dondervuist
No more Italiano...
There's a whole thing with the king of Italy meeting his doppelgänger. They had a ton of life experiences that were identical (family names, birthday, home locations). They got murdered the same day. Victor Emmanuel II, for anyone that wants to look it up. PoorEdgarDerby
Mother Nature is Ornery...Giphy
Pirates stopping just a single ship containing 1 kg standard weight intended for Thomas Jefferson may very well be the ultimate reason that the US does not use the metric system.
The coincidence is simply bad weather. Had weather been fairer for that ship, it would not have gotten blown off course into the Caribbean, and therefore not stopped by pirates and likely would have made it to the US. goat-worshiper
West End Baptist Church Incident :
"Between 1920 and 1950, Martha Paul was the stern choir director at West End Baptist Church in Beatrice, Nebraska. She demanded punctuality in her choir members; they all had to be at church at 7:25pm for practice. In the past, they had arrived on time with very few exceptions. However, on the night of March 1, 1950, they all were delayed for various reasons as they readied to leave for practice."
Marilyn Ruth Klempl, the pastor's daughter, spilled food on her dress and her mother needed to iron a new one. Herbert Kipf was trying to get a letter in the mail on time. He planned to be a few minutes late, deciding that he could drop it off on the way to practice. Lucille Jones was too busy listening to a radio program and was late along with Dorothy Wood, whom she was supposed to pick up.
Royena Estes and her sister, Sadie, were late because their car wouldn't start. Joyce Black, who lived across the street from the church, was ready but too tired to get up. LaDonna Vandergrift was having trouble with a geometry problem. Mrs. Leonard Schuster would've ordinarily arrived at 7:20 with her daughter, Susan. But on this particular evening, she had to go to her mother's house to help her get ready for a missionary meeting.
Because his wife was away, Harvey Ahl was taking care of his two sons. He was going to take them to practice with him but somehow he got wound up talking. When he looked at his watch, he saw that he was already late. Marilyn Paul, the pianist, had planned to arrive half an hour early. However, she fell asleep after dinner, and when her mother awakened her at 7:15, she only had time to tidy up and start out.
Martha Paul, the choir director and Marilyn's mother, was simply late because Marilyn was. She had tried unsuccessfully to awaken her earlier. At 4:30pm, Walter Klempl, the pastor, turned on the heat to warm the church and departed. Instead, it filled with gas and exploded at 7:27pm, two minutes after practice was supposed to begin. However, since none of the members had arrived, not a single one was harmed in the explosion in what was deemed an incredible coincidence or an extreme miracle.
Strike and Kill!
After his sister's suicide, a man vowed revenge on Harry Ziegland, the suitor who had broken his sister's heart, prompting her to take her life. The brother shot at Ziegland, who fell to the ground. Believing his task done, the brother shot and killed himself with the same gun. However, the bullet meant for Ziegland did not strike him. Instead, it lodged itself into a nearby tree. Three years later, Ziegland was working to clear that same location and used dynamite to remove the tree. The explosion sent the bullet flying -- striking and killing Ziegland NuttyWizard
In 1898, Morgan Robertson wrote a fiction novel called "Futility."
It features a large, luxurious ocean liner named "Titan" which strikes an iceberg in the North Atlantic and sinks, claiming a large majority of her passengers.
14 years later, the Titanic strikes an iceberg in the North Atlantic and sinks after hitting an iceberg, a large majority of her passengers dying in the frigid waters.
The similarities are uncanny:
- Both ships were ~800 feet long
- Both ships displaced roughly ~45,000 tons
- Both ships had 3 screws
- Both ships did not have enough lifeboats for all passengers and crew
- Both ships struck an iceberg and sank in the month of April
- Both ships struck an iceberg and sank in the North Atlantic, both were 400 nautical miles from Newfoundland
- Both ships struck the iceberg on their starboard side
It's incredible. thewaiting28
The BBC is always one up on us....Giphy
The Dennis the Menace coincidence. Two cartoon characters, one in the UK, the other in the USA. Both released in print format in March 1951. Neither creator knew of the other's existence, neither character was plagiarized from the other.
In Monza, Italy, King Umberto I, went to a small restaurant for dinner, accompanied by his aide-de-camp, General Emilio Ponzia- Vaglia. When the owner took King Umberto's order, the King noticed that he and the restaurant owner were virtual doubles, in face and in build. Both men began discussing the striking resemblances between each other and found many more similarities.
- Both men were born on the same day, of the same year, (March 14th, 1844).
- Both men had been born in the same town.
- Both men married a woman with same name, Margherita.
- The restauranteur opened his restaurant on the same day that King Umberto was crowned King of Italy.
- On the 29th July 1900, King Umberto was informed that the restauranteur had died that day in a mysterious shooting accident, and as he expressed his regret, he was then assassinated by an anarchist in the crowd. unnamed887
Baron & Don redux...
There's two books about a boy named Baron Trump (Trump's son is Barron Trump) who is aristocratically wealthy and lives in Castle Trump written in 1889 and 1893. He embarks on adventures which begin in Russia and are guided by "the master of all masters," a man named "Don." The same author Ingersoll Lockwood also wrote a book in 1900 called The Last President in which New York City is riven by protests following the shock victory of a populist candidate in the 1896 presidential election who brings on the downfall of the American republic.
Not in history, but for me personally.
I was at a conference in New Mexico one year, and there was a guy named Raleigh who spoke one morning. He was from New York, and at the time I wanted to live there, so I was hoping to speak to Raleigh so I could establish a contact (I didn't know anyone in NYC yet, so I figured any connection could potentially help me). I didn't get the chance to talk to him, and kind of forgot about it...
...until a year later. I was in Chicago for the summer and I met a woman from Virginia. When I mentioned to her that I wanted to live in NYC, she was like, "Oh, I have a friend in New York. I'll get you his contact info. Raleigh's a great guy."
It was the same f**king guy! TheAmazingJazzy
Intertwined and Cyclic histories.
Not the most incredible coincidence in THE WHOLE history, but in my particular history. When I was about 17 I met a girl in college and started dating her. Her grand-grandparents were from the same region as my grand-grandparents. One day she mentioned that she was (shamefully) from a family whose ancestors owned slaves. I happened to know that I am actually descendent of slaves. By now you can guess where this is going. We found some paperwork that her family kept in an old box and eventually found out that her family used to literally OWN mine. Fordent
I'm switching to a Caffeine Free life...
Makes you wonder what was in that coffee? inbsl
Holy crap I've been to that coffee shop. As have many others, but I did not expect this at all when clicking that link. wichtel-goes-kerbal
When it's your time, it's your time!
The assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand is up there. Basically he narrowly avoided assassination during the day's parade (wrong word but you get what I mean), later on the way to visit people injured during the first attempt, his driver makes the wrong turn and the car breaks down in front of a cafe which just so happens to be where Gavrilo Princip is sitting, who proceeds to assassinate Franz.
Details are shaky on this one because I haven't recapped since high school but you get the gist. Squeagley
Beware the Storm!
The Mongols failed to conquer Japan only because a typhoon came and killed them. Oh and then it happened again. They stopped trying after that because the gods clearly didn't want it. O_Zeca
And this is where the word "kamikaze," divine wind, originates. tribaL216
They came over and died in a tornado. Then they tried again and they fought a little then died in a tornado. Raptr117
Thank you Larry!Giphy
A Los Angeles man was being charged with the murder of a 14 year old girl, but in his defense, he was at a Dodgers game at the time of the murder, he had the tickets as evidence, however the judge and D.A. ruled out tickets as evidence, because they were unable to prove that he actually attended the game. Coincidentally Larry David and crew were shooting an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm the same day at the Dodgers stadium, and the man ended up being caught on film and when the episode aired, you were able to see him one of the frames, all charges against him were then dropped. jazzrootsherbs
Do you know what a Googlewhack is? It's when you search for two words in Google and get only one result.
About 15 years ago, British comedian Dave Gorman was playing around on his computer looking for Googlewhacks, and he found one.
The website he found was run by a Welsh fellow named Marcus. Dave and Marcus met and became friends. Then one day Marcus decided to try his hand at finding Googlewhacks. He found one.
The website that Marcus found was run by a man who lived on France. It was a man the comedian Dave Gorman actually knew and was already friends with. That man's name was also Dave Gorman. jimmy_rigger
Coincidence you say? Mhmm...
Two Russian cathedral enthusiasts visited the Salisbury Cathedral, UK (famous for its 123m spire) the same weekend a former Russian spy was poisoned in Salisbury. nolep
A Russian journalist who criticized Russian President Putin coincidentally ingested a fatal dose of polonium.
Also, one of Putin's political opponents was randomly gunned down by bikers with semi automatic weapons. Putin vows to capture the real killers, though, so we can all rest easy. I_love_napalm
Well, that Cathedral is WORLD FAMOUS. I mean, people travel from ALL OVER THE WORLD just to see it. losernameismine
History is so interesting. No? Do you believe in coincidence? What is your life experiences with a hint of the deja vú?
We can't explain many people's actions, especially if they are peculiar.
But as long as whatever activity they're engaged in isn't hurting anybody, as well as themselves, who are we to judge?
Ah, but plenty of us will silently be judgy.
Some of the activities unfolding before us can be outright bonkers, and we just have to wonder what makes them do the things they do.
Curious to hear about how others might be perceived in public for doing certain activities, Redditor LordP*yF*ker asked:
"What’s legal but if you do it you still look like a psychopath?"
Why anyone would do the following is anybody's guess, but at least the question was answered.
They've Gotta Latte Nerve
"Going to Starbucks and ordering a milk with ice."
Going Nowhere Fast
"walking backwards in public."
"So I saw this couple walking backwards down the middle of my street and thought 'huh weird.'"
"Looked out the window 1 minute later and there they were again walking backwards in the same spot."
"Went to the kitchen window and again walking backwards, but I had never seen them walk forwards to get back to that position."
"At this point I think I'm stuck in a time loop. I show my roommate to prove I'm not crazy and this time we see them walk forwards back to the top of the street. So we watch them for several cycles just walking forwards, then backwards, up and down the street, just holding casual conversation."
"Figure it must be a workout routine or something but wtf..."
What's Up, Doc?
"Paint yourself orange, dye your hair green, stand in a hole and pretend your a carrot."
Reach For The Sky
"Flying a kite at night."
"Working out in a suit."
"I had a classmate who did phys ed (also) in a suit. He only had suits, about 20 times the very same outfit, including shoes and ties."
Could something more sinister be at work here?
After all, these activities are NOT illegal, right?
Midnight In The Garden Of Evil
"Digging holes in your backyard at night."
"Just doing some night digging."
"Wearing the skin of a roast chicken like a mask."
Here's A Treat
"Offering candies to kids with a van with homemade logos."
"Wearing a wedding gown to someone else's wedding."
"In pakistani culture its perfectly normal to wear your own wedding gown to someone elses wedding. The gowns are very color full and heavily embroidered."
Just because it's a preference doesn't mean you won't get an awkward reaction.
"Pulling your pants/underwear all the way down to pee at a men’s urinal."
"I knew a kid in elementary school who did this. Normally he would use the stalls but one time he did it at the urinal and yelled 'oops I'm not in the stall' then turned and made and held eye contact when I looked cause he yelled."
Look Ma, No Hands
"Eating in public without using your hands at all."
"Like... just face first?"
"Eating a banana with the skin on."
As a subway commuter in Gotham City, I've seen my fair share of crazy on the train.
From unprovoked altercations, to riders taking up precious sitting real estate by spreading their legs wide open, there are many offenses committed by strap-hangers all the time.
My biggest complaint is a common one and it happens as I try to exit the train and my path is blocked by commuters standing on the platform who are simultaneously rushing to get in.
It happened very recently where a guy was standing directly in front of me, and he refused to step out of the way.
I asked him, "so are you just going to stand there?" His choice to stand on solid ground gave me my answer and I aggressively nudged him out of the way with my shoulder.
I didn't have patience for it, because like many of us stepping out of the train, we had places to go.
That being said, I don't highly recommend what I did. As I said earlier, I've seen my fair share of crazy on the train and you never know who you're going to piss off.
I can't wait to be a car-owner again someday.
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One second. One moment. One decision.
They can change... everything.
Change happens with and without notice. Life happens instantly, so we have to learn to keep up.
These are all lessons we learn too late. We need more wisdom when we're younger.
We can make our lives better from the smallest decisions without knowing. But, let's start knowing.
Life will be the better for it.
Redditor ChrisVIII wanted to discuss the best ways to make living better, in the most simple of ways.
"What improved your quality of life so much, you wish you did it sooner?"
Pay attention in school.
Don't drink and drive.
Two very small and life altering decisions I wish I could've done better.
"Walking. After years of trying to run, I simply started walking. 5-7 miles a day in good weather. It is literally life changing in terms of mental and physical health." ~ Merlin560Giphy
"Adopted my block. (adoptoneblock.org) Instead of being sad about trash everywhere, I go out a couple times a week with a grabber and a bucket and just clean it up. Fresh air, a chance to connect with neighbors in a positive way, eyes on the street, neighborhood looks nicer and feels safer, zero downside."
"Adoptoneblock might only be in Oregon, but a picker is like 20 bucks for a good one (I recommend Arcmate brand; they're metal inside and last forever) and 5-gallon buckets are everywhere. Even if you only do the block around your house, it makes a huge difference. Imagine if every block got adopted." ~ binkkit
"helping people out"
"I stopped saying yes to things I didn't want to do." ~ VinnyRuns
"Holy sh*t me too! I used to do hair and eventually once I was working for myself I would say yes to literally everything all the time. Including 'helping people out' and stuff like that. I loved making people happy but I eventually got more and more miserable and ended up with a pretty heavy drug addiction."
"A bunch of years later and some really helpful therapy and I work a job that I actually love and no longer do hair for anyone other than my girlfriend or very close family. Only took 16 years of doing something I didn't really love to finally break and make the changes I needed to get what I want out of life." ~ arcaneresistance
"Taking a yearly vacation. My family never traveled growing up so I didn't know what I was missing out on but I have a good paying job with time off benefits and my wife and I have been taking a vacation every year since we got married, even if it's just something simple the time away from the usual day-to-day does wonders." ~ brshimp
"Turning off all push notifications except for essentials like financial apps or important contacts." ~ cyan_reynoldsGiphy
I'm learning so much already.
And HOW do I turn off those notifications?
"Drinking water first thing in the morning and through the day." ~ FuriousBebochoGiphy
"Swallowed my pride and got a blue collar job. For almost 20 years I followed my mother's advice, work inside so it's warm when it's cold outside and cool when it's warm outside. Now I deliver packages outside and the weather doesn't bother me. I have no boss on my shoulder and I can do my job however I want." ~ veldrinshade
"CPAP machine. If you snore at all, you owe it to yourself to get a sleep study and see what is going on. It literally changed my life getting one. I went from constant caffeine throughout the day just to function to feeling rested for the first time in years. Especially if you are overweight like I am, your heart is stopping multiple times an hour as you struggle to breathe while snoring."
"It sucks getting used to the machine (especially if you have to wear the full face mask), but man that first night of actual deep sleep will be life changing. I cannot recommend it enough and I have convinced at least 5 people that I know to get one and they all say the same thing, should have done it years ago." ~ bonez59054
The Top View
"Quit my job and moved to the mountains. I realized I cared more about what I did with my free time than whatever work I did, so I got a job where my SO and I wanted to live. We live in a cute mountain town now and every day watching the sunrise at home gives me 1000% more happiness than anything ever in Illinois." ~ starciv14
For the Zzzzzsss....
"A good bed. Game changer." ~ DividebynegativezeroGiphy
Water and bedding are essentials to happy living.
Don't be afraid, you can always start doing better now.
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Let me be real for a second.
Every time I listen to Bjork's "Unravel," my heart breaks a bit.
Have you ever listened to it?
It's on Homogenic, her third studio album, and it's incredible, passionate, smartly produced and a great showcase for her stupendous voice.
That song? An emotional rollercoaster, for sure.
There's tons of great music out there, though, and even more sad and gorgeous songs to discover.
People shared their thoughts after Redditor humanbear07 asked the online community:
"What song genuinely breaks your heart everytime you hear it?"
"Ann Wilson has such an amazing voice..."
"There's a few, but the isolated vocal track for Heart's 'Alone' is especially heartbreaking to me. Ann Wilson has such an amazing voice and her emotion really made that band."
Doesn't grow old.
There have been quite a few excellent covers of this one over the years, too.
"The first words give me chills..."
"Most songs by the late Jeff Buckley are sad on their own, and even more devastating in context. But the one that hits me the hardest is his cover of 'I Know It's Over' by the Smiths."
"The subject of the song is up for interpretation no matter what, but Jeff Buckley's premature death adds an element to it that seems to be about his life, whether he planned to or not."
"The first words give me chills the most— they happen after the classic reverby Jeff Buckley intro, the kind Hallelujah fans will be familiar with. He takes his time with this one, like he does with that."
No love for "Lilac Wine"?
It's clearly the best track.
"Ever since my husband..."
"'Merry Christmas, Darling' by the Carpenters. Ever since my husband Tom died in 2012, my heart breaks every Christmas since. We loved Christmas."
Karen Carpenter's voice hits differently when you realize how tortured her life was.
Gone too young.
"My Dad told me..."
"In My Life by The Beatles. My Dad told me when I was a teenager that he wanted it played at his funeral. I still can't listen, and when that day comes and I HAVE TO listen to it to honor his wish, I'm going to be a blubbering mess."
Sounds like you have an excellent relationship with your dad.
"My grandmother died..."
"He Stopped Loving Her Today, by George Jones. My grandmother died almost 20 years before my grandfather, and we played it at his funeral. Just typing this chokes me up a bit."
Songs have even more meaning (sometimes painfully so) when linked to specific moments in our lives, particularly the moments when we've lost people we care about.
"I'm not a Christian..."
"'Bridge Over Troubled Water' by Simon & Garfunkel. Not a Christian, but when I hear it, I understand why people believe."
A beautiful song, and timeless, too.
"My sister's husband..."
"Always on my Mind by Willie Nelson. My sisters husband chose to have it played at her funeral. And yes he was a crappy husband and she died young in a car accident."
Sounds like art imitating life, no?
"He's an amazing songwriter..."
"Jason Isbell has so many it's honestly hard to choose one. Speed Trap Town, Decoration Day, Cover Me Up. He's an amazing songwriter."
I don't know him–it's time to look him up and see how I feel.
"I can already feel tears..."
"One More Light by Linkin Park. I can already feel tears coming to my eyes just by typing this."
Chester Bennington's death was such a shock.
His music lives on.
"My brothers passed away..."
"Simple Man - Lynyrd Skynyrd."
"My brothers passed away in a car accident shortly after coming home from Afghanistan. Reminds me of them every time I hear it."
Sorry for your loss.
Hopefully hearing the song brings you peace.
Hearing a beautiful song can be an immensely moving experience.
And hearing a sad song can, for many people, help them cope with the pain of heartbreak better than they would have otherwise.
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Unfortunately, a friendship could really end at any point in life.
Friends grow apart, but also, sometimes, it's just necessary to say goodbye to your relationship with a friend.
Maybe they aren't the right type of friend for you anymore, or maybe something has happened in their lives to make them self-destructive and toxic.
The reasons are many, and they are all sad.
Redditor monarchmondays asked:
"People who have unfriended their childhood friend/best friend, what happened?"
Here were some of those answers.
Bad Looking Out
"I was more-so the one who was unfriended. Was going to be the best man in his wedding. Saw his fiance out with another dude. Like on this dude."
"Told him, he told me I was wrong, Yada Yada. Things got heated. I told him I couldn't be his best man. Some years down the road, he caught her cheating."
"Called me up, asked if I wanted to grab a beer. I went. He apologized. I accepted, but we're still not friends."-TheMotorcycleMan
Friends Don't Control Friends
"He was a pathological liar, manipulative and told all of my most trusted secrets to everyone because he wanted to feel powerful and like he controlled me."
"Haven't spoken a word in 5 years and I have never looked back."-TheDandy9
Sometimes Life Is The Only Thing In The Way
"As soon as I left my hometown and my best friend growing up stayed, we both changed in opposite directions. He assimilated to the local lifestyle, quickly became friends with people he never got along with in school."
"I left, made new friends, found new things I liked. He started a family, I started a career."
"The final straw though was he RSVP'd to our wedding and then just didn't show. No text, no call, no anything. I think he was pissed that I didn't make him my best man after I was his best man, even though it was exactly because he wasn't reliable and made everything about himself that I couldn't do it."
"He caused sh*t at other people's weddings and I just didn't want to deal with what I knew would be inevitable. It did highlight though that growing up I was his best friend as a matter of convenience where I genuinely liked hanging out with him."-porscheblack
It's never fun or happy to lose a friend, but sometimes it's necessary for your healing process.
We've Reached The Point Of No Return
"I haven't unfriended her YET but I'm basically at the point where I'm sick of her drama, pettiness and 'main character syndrome.'"
"Anything that doesn't go her way is taken personally and if you disagree with her (or even have a preference that differs from hers) she will berate you into submission and 'agreement.'"
"And heaven forbid you have a life that doesn't consider her wants and desires. We're both 30, almost 31. I'm too old for that sh*t."-Deezus1229
When The Punches Come, I Go
"I met my ex-best mate in school, he had a little narcissistic personality, but I understood that and ignored his faults."
"In late Teens, we started drinking and partying as most do; this is when it became apparent that he had alcohol problems, forever being violent looking for fights, killing my good vibes, and getting me pulled into unwanted situations where I saved him or stopped him from beating on someone for no good reason."
"Throughout our life, he never attempted to fight me. He remained a pretty good friend to me until our first trip overseas to Asia; during our trip, he tried to coward punch me in the back of the head because I asked him to put out his cigarette that he had just lit."
"I asked him because we were seated in a restaurant surrounded by families, for some reason that angered him, I got up to leave and luckily heard him coming and avoided his punch, but he then tried to attack me further, which ended with us both on the ground and me on top of him while he shouted and went crazy."
"Eventually, police arrived and pointed a gun at both of us; luckily, they didn't shoot. Having foreign police aiming at me because my friend wouldn't calm down was one of the most scary moments in my life and that's saying something because I don't come from a easy upbringing."
"He was drunk, of course, and claims he doesn't remember, but there's no excuse to try and coward punch anyone, especially your best mate."
"I packed my bags that night and left our joint holiday plans in the dirt, traveling solo and having a blast. When I got back from my trip, I quit drinking myself and have remained sober for the last five years."
"Throughout that five years, I've had brief encounters with him, but our friendship was never the same. Unfortunately, my old friend never changed as he aged; he eventually went to jail."
"I work in hospitals and have seen him show up to the emergency triage, bashed with broken bones, and just a few months ago, he randomly knocked at my door where my wife answered, he was covered in blood."
"My wife went and woke me up; he had a stab wound and refused to go to the hospital; I drove him home and haven't seen or spoken to him since.. His brother updated me and said he was fine, whatever that means."-King-Callous
When He's A Predator
"I, a 5th grader at the time, knew this chick who was in the 7th grade dating a junior in hs. The dude thought she was 16 because she was lying about her age."
"They had been f**king and sexting and all that jazz...he didn't know she was a minor. I went and told him, and they broke up, and he was pissed... yada, yada yada..."
"They became friends again after a few years. When I was in the 8th grade, she called just so he could flirt with me 🤮. I was 13 then, and he was probably around 20. I blocked her real quick."-Cancerous0713
The End Of An Era
"Inseparable all through jr and HS. We graduated in 85 so no social media but I still feel ghosted. He stopped returning my calls, I always had to initiate and when we did get together he wasn't that interested."
"I gave it a few tries but I got the message and just stopped contacting him and he never reach out to me after that. I never new why and it took almost 10 years for me to get over it and stop thinking about it every day."
"I kind of wish he would have just told me he doesn't like me anymore. I have a current best friend I met in college and we've been friends for 30+ years so it's all good."-DreamArcher
There is never a right time to say goodbye to someone you once considered a trusted friend.
"My best friends young son was killed in a four wheeler accident. I was the first responding paramedic. I had to take him from my friends arms to work on him. Knowing he was dead the all along."
"We flex the child on Lifeflight then I drove my best friend and his wife to the hospital. I knew all along he was dead but they didn't. It wasn't his fault or mine that he died in any way but I could never look my best friend in the eye again."
"All I could see was his pain. So we drifted apart. I finally got to tell him and his wife before my friend died with heart trouble."-hotandhornyinbama
Secret Mental Health Leeches
"She started being nasty to my husband when we got engaged. It was so gross. She was snarky and rude to him every time he spoke and made him feel unwelcome in our own home."
"I kind of fell out of friend love with her after watching her behave like that. My mom thinks it was jealousy or something, idk. My husband is the most fun and caring person I've ever known, I expected her to be happy for me."
"In retrospect, I realized there were a lot of other red flag issues I had been ignorant of. It's been 3 years now and I am so much mentally healthier without the drama she was churning up."-ThunderHeavyRains
When Mom Damaged Her
"Had a friend I met pre-kindergarten but had a falling out in middle school. Families knew each other and we were like sisters. But sadly, her mom was a true definition of a Tiger mom. Her mom always pushed my friend to be in all of these extracurricular activities, music lessons, tutoring, etc. Her mom was always dissatisfied; nothing was good enough."
"She wasn't the most nurturing parent. But my parents were the opposite. Especially my mom, she just wanted me to be a good person and do my best. But naturally I was a very good student."
"So my friend's mom would always compare my friend to me saying I was better than her because I was naturally gifted and didn't NEED all of that help. My friend began to resent me."
"Throughout puberty, she would call me a slut because I was physically developing, tried to imply I was ugly just to see my reaction, threatened to punch me, things I understood where they were coming from but did not think were justified as I had not done anything directly to her."
"Final straw was when she posted on Facebook that she thought I was ugly so I just cut her off completely. I pitied her for her family life but her bitterness toward me was wrong. Because through my eyes, she was my best friend and all she wanted to do was hurt me. Don't regret cutting it off"-dookieconductor
The sad truth is that people are not always meant to be close, and that some people are too mentally unhealthy to have any kind of closeness in their lives.
Until they grow up, there is not much we can do but sadly step aside and take care of ourselves.
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