Words hurt. That is a basic truth that so many people tend to overlook. What you say to someone may be the last thing they ever hear. Think about that. Think before you speak. It so easy to cause someone unnecessary pain. And it so far easier to just be kind. Pain and words are intertwined. That is why bad news delivery is so rough. You never forget it.
Redditor u/MysticaIMemes wanted to know who was willing to share the harshest sentiments flung at them by asking..... What did someone say that absolutely broke your heart?
My grandma said this to me.
Giphy"You lost the happiness in your voice."
My grandma said this to me. It wasn't meant to be malicious or purposely said to hurt my feelings, but it did kind of break me. I was severely depressed at the time and I just faked being okay so no one would worry about me. It was the first time anyone had taken a second to really see past the mask I had put on for so long. NudlePockets
Empty.
Nothing. As in literally.
Everything's awesome.. everything's awesome.. everyth --Gone. Forever. No warning, no goodbye, no explanation. Just gone. Happy8Day
A Stupid Doughnut.
I used to stop for coffee sometimes, and I would bring my boyfriend home a doughnut. I thought he liked doughnuts. I wanted to show him I was thinking about him.
One morning he looked at the doughnut and said, "stop bringing me this stuff, I don't like it."
I was so gutted and embarrassed, holding this stupid doughnut. sketchapt
Harsh.
"You need to back off. I'm making time for my real family."
- A friend whose family basically abandoned him and he lived with my family for 8 years. We moved into college together, my parents got him his first car. We always encouraged him to reach out to his family and he refused. Then one day after a few weeks of trying to get ahold of him (we are both adults now) he texts me this. We haven't spoken since... this was 3 years ago. beeftipsandgravy
Sweet Boy....
GiphyMy son after throwing his guts up in his bed, then all over the kitchen, "I'm sorry Mama. I'm sorry Daddy."
The kid apologized for being sick and I wept. 2CooperHeroes
You're Ewww....
"Ewww I'm not dancing with you!" A girl in grade 7 gym class when we were doing dance lessons and of course the entire class heard. Puberty hit me early especially with height/skin so that was great for self confidence for the rest of my teen years. dont_matter_anyways
Hurt Soul.
"You gave them a reason to bully you so you're in the wrong." -Mom
I was being bullied so bad one day to where it got to the point where it broke me. I went home to vent to my mom and maybe get some sympathy but she told me this. YaBoiJSD
"no one is going to want you the way you are"
"no one is going to want you the way you are" i was a teen, stepmom told me this. I didn't realize at the time how deeply it damaged me. Sometimes I wonder if she truly was right after all. I've always thought she meant my looks, being overweight etc. But nowadays I think she meant me as a whole, not just outside. Still recovering from those words, about 10 years later. Faintning
"good bye, my friend"
GiphyWhen my ex broke up with me for the last time. We were on and off for years and it always ended in a furious rage and tears. But the last time she calmly said "good bye, my friend" and I knew it was different. I knew it was really over. I never heard from her again. sunnycyde3103
Everybody Sucks.
"I know it bothers you, but I don't care, and there's nothing you can do about it." - after opening up to them
"You're never gonna be as good as (his ex's name). You can't even speak proper English! " - English isn't my first language
"And there you go, crying again. God. " - It was our anniversary after I asked if I could call him and he blew me off, again. Dollerina
Face Issues....
GiphyWhen I was a teenager I had problems with acne, which my father would yell at me for. One time when I was washing my face, outside the bathroom door I heard him angrily whisper to my mother, "She looks like crap, [mom's name]. This is why she'll never get a boyfriend. No guy wants to be with a girl who's ugly and disgusting."
It's nowhere near the worst thing my father's ever said to/about me, but for some reason that one destroyed me. crapenvelope
There's a crowd for anything.
"You're not funny. Stop trying"
As I mentioned in one of the comments, I used to get this a lot in high school. I was and still am starving for validation. One of those who took upon themselves to hit me on the head with truth, was the class joker. After he read a short story I wrote, he changed his mind and we continued to collaborate by writing and preforming sketches together.
Fast forward to 2020, I'm taking improv and writing classes at the Second City. Tonight I preformed on stage for the first time since high school, got amazing feedback, and solid laughs.
Don't let them bring you down. Yes, stay realistic, but find your own way to bring your passion to life. There's a crowd for anything. Tonight was amazing. You'll get there too. I'm not joking. BnaiRephaim
Straight Forward.
My father was a gay man, but he "tried to be straight". He ended up marrying my mother. It of course ended in divorce, but not on bad terms.
My mom has never dated or had a boyfriend since then (25 years), and to my knowledge no one has ever approached her in a romantic way, before or after my dad.
A few years before he died, my dad admitted to me that he always had love for my mom, but he was never IN love with her.
While I am glad that my dad finally came out of the closet and lived his life as his true self, it broke my heart to hear he never romantically loved my mom.
My mother is the sweetest, kindest, most humble soul on Earth and it makes me so sad that no one has ever been in love with her. She deserves a much happier life than the one she's lived. bismuth-crystals
I don't want to hate her....
When my friend died from suicide, i emailed her dad.
I was not an incredibly close friend of her's. We did not hang out, text frequently, etc. she was simply a classmate i was very close with during school.
i keep in contact with her father because i think he needs to know that there were people out there who care. my heart broke once when he told me she talked about me after every production at my school, although i stand in the background of all of them. my heart broke again when he told me he wanted me to tell him when they happen again so he can come see them, with her again. itsmesierra
Goodbye....
"I don't love you anymore." (After 18 years). sonia72quebec
I feel you. I had been married less than two years, but she changed basically overnight. Apparently as much random sex as possible is better than a completely committed, loving husband. Who knew? _austinm
He's Unpretty....
"I don't think she's attractive. And her breasts are way to small. I want a real woman, a beautiful woman" - my first love about me to someone else.
"You gonna end up as a druggie and prostitute"
"You are so damn ugly, but your sister is so beautiful - how is this even possible?"
"He just got in a relationship with you because we had a bet." MauOnTheRoad
Tragedy...
My mom said "you need to come home, there has been a terror attack at the youth camp my best friend is at"
She was 15, she didn't make it. I'll never forget the pain in my moms voice when she told me. KarolineBuer
Bad Dad.
"You were a disappointment from even before you were born, the only reason I had a third kid was to try and finally have a daughter but you couldn't even be that." My dad as he was packing his stuff after being kicked out of the house for cheating by my mother. CallMeYosei
You can't park here.....
I am the least favorite child in my family. My older sibling is very successful and serves in the medical industry. My father has always been distant to me all my life. One day when I had a problem with my car I called my father to see if he could help (he worked as a mechanic) He told me to drive to his apartment and park in his designated spot so he could take a look at the engine. I arrived and the landlord came out after I parked.
She came up to me and said "You can't park here. This is for tenants only" I told her who my dad was and she replied "Oh, you must be (my older sibling's name)" I corrected her and she looked confused. She then said "Your father told me he only has one child." bardsofcanada
Simon? Is that you?
"You've got a pretty voice but I can't put you on stage. You don't have the face for the stage."
- My music teacher
I'll admit, I wasn't the prettiest kid but that was a pretty brutal thing to say to a 6th grade girl. It didn't help that the other kids laughed at his statement. The-WickedScone
Redditor arisal3 wanted to chat about how to improve the sandwich, so they asked:
"What makes a sandwich go from boring to amazing?"
I say mayo. Mayo. MAYO! More and always.
That's the key improvement.
Elevation
fast food eating GIF by Feliks Tomasz KonczakowskiGiphy"Seasoning and toasting the bread can seriously elevate a sandwich."
lovelyteaparty
"I like boring sandwiches, but toasting the bread 100% improves them. Especially if there is cheese on the sandwich."
Hawntir
Additions
"At the best sandwich places, all the vegetables are basically prepared like side dishes. Marinated, seasoned, grilled, or something."
han7nah
"Vinegar, whether its a dressing, mustard, brined pickles olives or anything else. Vinegar is king. Its also why i use hot sauce on everything."
eggsaladrightnow
"Gonna sound weird but banana peppers in mayo with hot relish. Got delivered someone else's order once and been addicted since."
Johnnyocean
You Do It
"Someone else making it."
unclebobsplayground
"I actually saw an article years ago about some study where they basically confirmed this. Smelling and handling the ingredients before eating the sandwich reduced cravings for and appreciation of the finished product, similar to how the fourth or fifth bite is less exciting than the first because you've gotten used to it."
Palazzo505
Pointed Issues
"Cutting it in half, diagonally."
grantnel2002
"Chef John from the fantastic https://youtube.com/@foodwishes YouTube channel often says 'It's a scientifically proven fact: people like pointy food.'"
shaggydogg
"All the fancy kids at school always had theirs cut diagonally. But our lunch tubbies were square so if it was cut diagonally, it won't fit in. My mom refused to buy new lunch tubbies just because I wanted my bread cut differently. Now that I am all grown up I ALWAYS cut mine diagonally and it is just wonderful. Simply wonderful."
magic7ball
A little touch...
salt salting GIFGiphy"Salt and pepper on the veggies."
beyd1
"Especially tomatoes. Always season your tomatoes before sandwiching."
BigShoots
Those small changes go a long way.
Starving
Hungry Orange And Black GIF by GarfieldGiphy"Hunger. It's amazing how amazing even a boring sandwich can taste when you're famished."
Somnif
The Spice
"Sweet 'n spicy mustard."
Cab8675
"Came to say basically any type of good sauce. Depending on the sandwich, chipotle or herb aioli, spicy mustard, pesto, or even just olive oil (infused is better) and vinegar."
wxmanify
"Philly cheesesteaks are my favorite sandwich, and there’s this local restaurant that makes the best one I’ve ever had."
"The main thing is that the add creole mustard to it. The bread, meat, and everything else is also really good, but that mustard takes it too another level. I never would’ve thought to put a spicy sauce on a cheesesteak (though I don’t know much about cooking)."
Frosty_Analysis_4912
The Feel
"Wrap it tightly in butcher paper after making. The compression marries all the ingredients together and pushes condiments into the crevices of the bread. Even if you're just going to eat it right after making it, a little time wrapped up seriously improves the flavor and feel of the sandwich."
LemFliggity
Just a Touch
"r/EatSandwiches assemble! In my opinion, dressing your greens is critical to a sandwich getting to that next level."
"Typically, for cold cuts, this is a vinaigrette dressing for me. But in hot sandwiches (e.g. the roast pork at DiNic’s in Philly) the greens are braised and thereby dressed as well."
"A touch of olive oil or butter and some fresh salt and pepper will never fail you either."
bpd52
It all changes...
Episode 1 Mind Blown GIF by The OfficeGiphy"Caramelized onion jam. It's a freaking game changer. Sourdough with Comté and BellaVitano expresso rubbed cheese, as a grilled cheese."
TheLivingShit
Now let's go make some sandwiches.
Do you have any other hacks to share? Let us know in the comments.
Redditor lixxie_lx wanted to hear about all the big and minuscule things that have us running for the hills, so they asked:
"What instantly makes you lose interest in a person?"
This is a major issue for me.
I lose interest at the speed of light.
Not Cute
rude kim kardashian GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphy"Superiority complex. It’s fine to be confident, but if you need to put others down to feel that way you’re just insecure and it’s not cute."
CarlosTentacule
Growning Apart
"The moment I can tell that they aren’t trying. Either they aren’t all that interested in me or they expect me to do all of the 'work' so to speak. Either reason is a good enough one to step away."
Ok_Button1932
"I’m going through this as well. 5 year relationship, no kids thankfully and not married. We’ve had to do long distance the last few months and she’s essentially radio silent. Never calls and only texts back if I chase her."
"We trust each other implicitly and even share location but the lack of interest in even checking in with me or being affectionate unless I initiate it has me feeling so gaslit. I fear it’s something as simple as growing apart but neither person wanting to end it."
SavetheFollys
The Tease
"When I tell them I don't like something, or something makes me uncomfortable and they continue to do it intentionally as if it's flirting."
mtotheija
"Hardest breakup I ever had was because of a person's inability to stop f**king with me... it's not funny when someone says that it bothers them and you continue to do it."
"Everything else was really good it gave me huge self doubt that I was just being a whimp and she had a point that it was just teasing. Even got to the point that I thought that's just the way this give and take is gonna go in this relationship. Glad I decided to get out... I would have been miserable."
phreedumb21nyc21
Be Quiet
"Constantly talking sh*t about others and trying to boost their own ego."
uncultured_swine2099
"Yup, I thought I met a good person at first, but then she started talking sh*t about everyone, not to mention if I got something I wanted, instead of being happy for me, she becomes extremely jealous."
"The last straw was when she left me in the middle of the street and left without me for university even though she told me she was picking me up. Sadly, she's still friends with my sister, and she kinda has to be because they share so many classes, but I'm still trying to find a way to cut off all contact, which is harder than I thought would be."
The_Phantom_Soldier
I See You
Married At First Sight No GIF by LifetimeGiphy"Few things are 'instant' dealbreakers, but blatant displays of rudeness or condescension toward strangers when under stress is a big red flag. Like, I get that you are frustrated, but there is no need to be a d*ck."
MissBitsy
Why is kindness so arduous for some people?
Kindness First
hot dog waiter GIF by Warner ArchiveGiphy"If they mistreat others, especially those who are in the service industries."
funtime2000
Stay in the moment...
"When they can't stop checking their mobile phones every few seconds while we are talking. I went out with a woman who would do that. After the 4th date I stopped going out with her and dated another woman. The former was surprised to know that."
"I said 'But girl, you're always on the phone while I talk to you, it makes me feel ignored you know' and she was angry/sad. But I'm not exaggerating when I say she was staring on that screen and sending voice messages and all that to other friends of her while we were dating."
GabrielOmarCY
Look Further
"Lack of curiosity/intellectual laziness. lack of empathy, excessively judgemental attitude, narcissism, treating others as subhuman, spewing hatred, excessive victim behavior, and/or unnecessary combativeness. Maybe I'm just picky."
SawgrassSteve
"Assuming that if they don't know it it isn't worth knowing/can't be interesting. Also adults - well into adulthood, whose excuse for not knowing something is that they weren't taught about it at school. If they taught you to read you can keep learning on your own, you know."
zeugma888
Hard No!
"It definitely (for me i’m talking friendships) depends on a couple things. how they respond to emotional situations (example is are they caring/comforting or being dismissive and not really trying to put anything into it?)... how they respond to boundaries, if they’re mean or judgmental of others, like if we were talking and walking and they randomly look at another person walking and insult them, that’s DEFINITELY a hard no."
chaoticwitchbrr
Tropes
Will Smith Smh GIF by The Academy AwardsGiphy"The 'hard to get' trope. like its one thing if there actually isn't mutual interest but when there is and someone makes you feel like you're working for their time and consideration, forget it."
cherrycreams0da
Coin Chat
"Talking about money. Pitching me business ideas. Speaking ill of people they view as lesser. Always comparing things they associate with prestige, and never speaking about anything of real substance."
FoldedaMillionTimes
Have any of these things ever happened to you? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor Ok_Security_8657 wanted to hear about the times we've had to suffer through, so they asked:
"What is the most painful thing you've ever experienced, *on purpose*?"
Let's see what stories Reddit had to contribute.
Twice?!
Season 2 Couch GIF by The Fresh Prince of Bel-AirGiphy"Novocaine doesn't work on me. For submarine service you have to have all of your wisdom teeth removed. The Navy does not use anything other than novocaine. They only pull two at a time though. I went back the second time."
LeepII
Salted
"I cut my thumb pretty bad years ago while using a knife in my kitchen. And looking at the salt shaker on the counter I got the idea to literally. Pour salt on a wound. It was like an electric shock was sent through my nervous system. A short but very intense feeling of pain. Use salt water/saline instead."
SidOfBee
"Technically it is an electric shock as salt has negative ion that if the condition is correct it would shock your nerves."
Kaperal
Feel It
"I have a friend who got a lung biopsy WITHOUT numbing and pain meds. She was 14. She said she wanted to 'feel it' like the biopsy on her knee (which did, in fact, use drugs). She says it was the most painful experience of her life. She had 26 cancerous tumors big enough to show up when on the scan of her lungs. She is happily married, alive and well, and a total bada**."
_ohhello
Welp
"I cut my arm open trying to catch a falling glass once. Saw the insides. To be thorough, I cleaned the wound by alternating squirting isopropyl alcohol and hydrogen peroxide in it. A little later my surgeon friend told me soap and water would have been good enough to clean it. Welp."
sbvp
"Next time use coffee grounds. I've also heard of people using chili powder but that seems like it'd be nasty."
Lordofdogmonsters
Motionless
Jake Johnson Pain GIF by New GirlGiphy"IUD fitting. Thought it was all fine because I didn't have too much pain during the procedure... 12 hours later I could not move from the pain and had to get my mum to deliver pain killers to my flat at 7am next morning bc I'd gone through everything we had."
Chance-Bread-315
Painkillers 24/7 for somethings please.
WHITE HOT AGONY
madeline kahn flames GIFGiphy"Recently, I had a couple plantars warts cut out of my feet. The shots they use to numb you suuuuck. Went right into the bottom of each of my feet under the big toes. WHITE HOT AGONY. Thankfully, the pain doesn't last very long, and the operation was pretty much painless after that."
NervousCap
Not Cool
"Getting my eyes washed after being Pepper sprayed. We were given a chance to experience the proper stuff while in military. My mind went 'Hell yeah, that will be cool!' Well, got sprayed, had to walk 5 meters to a person holding a water bottle so he could rinse my eyes. Motherf**ker had warm/hot water in the bottle and he poured it to my face."
"It burned even more and I got waterboarded at the same time."
"I've heard that you can experience pain that makes you fear you will die. Maybe, but at that moment I learned that you can feel pain that makes you fear that you might not die, and you have to suffer that pain."
Tit_U_Lum
Bad Removal
"The most painful experience of my life was passing a kidney stone, though whether or not it can be considered to have been experienced on purpose is debatable. I certainly contributed to its development through my choices, but that’s another story."
"On the other hand, I had an ingrown toenail removed before."
"After removing the entire side of the nail, the doctor chemically burned the exposed nail bed with a chemical called phenol. Even though my toe was entirely numb, it was the most white hot searing pain ever. It hurt so bad it took my breath away. The best part is that the toenail came back, and I’m getting it done again in two weeks."
Gordoniscool666
Truth Hurts
"Decided I had to tell the woman I fell in love with that I had feelings for her. I knew before I told her that she would reject me. She was not in a mentally healthy place and didn’t want to be with ANYONE. But I wanted her to know the truth. So I took the rejection like a man and we are still friends."
Horror-School-6713
Done
"Putting my wedding ring on our bedroom dresser (knowing my marriage was over) while my wife was across town doing a police officer she had met at the shooting range. I walked out of our house and have not spoken to or seen her since. That was over 40 years ago."
wyoflyboy68
Bye Bye
Sad Rabbit GIF by Muffin & NutsGiphy"Putting my dog down. She passed in my arms. There's a song that I associate with her which I can't hear without tearing up, despite her exiting my life more than a decade ago."
GeebusNZ
These are some brave folks who have been through some enormous pain. We thank thank for sharing!
Do you have anything you'd like to add? Let us know in the comment section.
