Opening your home to loved ones and friends for a time is always the generous, right thing to do, especially when people are in particular need. But that charity needs to come with some rules and responsibility. When people start to get crazy, it's time for people to go. Your home is not an insane asylum and you are not a doormat. Rude is rude. And you don't need that mess.
Redditor lickmyfeet14 wanted to hear about some bad behavior among home invaders that were originally invited by asking:
What was the rudest thing a visitor did in your house?
Hands Off!!
Giphy"When I was 12, a family friend grabbed my DS and deleted the save of one of my Pokemon games." Aceofkings9Aceofkings9
Mother-In-Law Dearest...
"My MIL likes to volunteer to show new guests around during big events like birthdays or Christmas."
"And without fail she will find the worst part of my home, usually whatever room has a closed door that's out of the way, and will make them stand in there and have a conversation. You know; the bedroom that's a mess because you threw everything in it. The back room of the basement past the laundry room used for disorganized storage."
"It only took 8 years for my husband to catch on that yeah, it happens every time."
"It's not the worst she's done but it is the most head-scratchingly petty."Ladyughsalot1
Weed on White.
"A friend of mine brought his trashy girlfriend over and she pulls out a pipe and takes a hit and then turns the pipe over and smacks the ash out onto my new white carpet. I asked them both to leave and never saw her again." ElvenDeGeneres
Just No.
"Lived in a house with 2 people at uni a couple of years ago (didn't know them before I moved in with them). One of them invited 2 of her friends to come and stay with us. Went to go and use our shared bathroom and there were about 3 used sanitary pads casually left open draped on our sink, despite the fact that we had a bin in the bathroom for them. Cleaned it up once and went back in the next morning and there were more. Never been so disgusted in my life." jacksonliz7991jacksonliz7991
Out of Towners...
"They were housesitting for my family while we were out of town. We let them stay at our house and sleep in my parent's room."
"When we returned home, our house was a disaster. The kitchen was filthy, and their daughter's toys were scattered all over the house. One of their few tasks was to water our plants. They were all dead when we came home."
"Worst of all, they were told not to come into my room, where I have a valuable collection of old toys. Of course, they let their daughter into my room and play with them. Some stuff was damaged."
"That was the last time we let them watch the house. Next time we went out of town a good friend of mine was given the job instead. She did a much better job."Star_glow
We're not friends anymore.
Giphy"Peed in my cat's litter box at a party we had. Turned the whole box into one solid chunk. It was a friend of mine actually. He was really drunk but I'm sure he did it on purpose. Didn't notice either until our cats pooped or peed elsewhere in the house. We're not friends anymore."Boardallday
No Good Deed.
"A friend of my dad lost his house, and we had a former B&B so we invited them to stay with us. We housed and fed them for weeks while the found another place. For that, we got roaches, criticisms of our food (my dad was the executive chef at a freaking country club and was a damned fine cook), but that wasn't the worst for me, then in my late teens."
"The day they left, I went to play my favorite game on PlayStation: Sled Storm. Couldn't find it. Over turned freaking everything, but I couldn't find it. In searching, I noticed something even worse. My SNES, all games, and half my N64 games were missing in addition to Sled Storm. They had stayed with us as a favor and stolen half my shit that I had paid for with birthday money saved up over years. Forget those people."fghth6
Stank Feet!
"Had a friend who had horribly stanky athelete's foot feet from using the showers at the dorms without shower shoes. All of the skin on his soles and between his toes was gone. His feet were raw, red and shiny with new, thin skin. I invited him over to watch movies. It was me and like 5 other guys. We watched horror movies, drank beers and ate snacks. At some point, he took his shoes off. None of us said anything, but the smell permeated the entire five room apartment (living room, kitchen, two bedrooms, bathroom and laundry room) within mere minutes."
"It was very quiet. We gave the couch to him completely by himself. No great loss, the thing was from the 70's and that old scratchy Herculon fabric (important point). Around 2AM my girlfriend showed up and ordered my friend to put his shoes back on. The smell was in the house two days later. I sniffed around after two days of airing out and Febreze and candles did nothing. I smelled the couch cushions. He had rubbed his feet into the fabric of at least two cushions. I guess the scratchy fabric felt really awesome on his feet that were on fire with the itch."notoneofyourfans
Y'all Stupid or Crazy?!
"My sister's friends went into the back of my apartment while i was throwing a party there and as they went i saw them get some tin foil out. I live in a druggie area and know exactly what that means so I marched right after them and told them that that's not happening under my roof or anywhere in the apartment block (there's only 4 in my building and a family with kids lives downstairs). They understood but left shortly after all butthurt. It is insane to me that they thought I would just be ok with them smoking meth INDOORS in my apartment. Without asking as well!" mister_thang
Every. Single. Time.
Giphy"I used to have band practice once a week at my house. And every week the lead singer would clog the toilet. Every. Single. Time."Gumbybum
Placenta.
"Came to visit for a few days with her infant and placenta. The placenta was wrapped in butcher paper, but nothing waterproof and was half thawed from a long car drive. She put it in my freezer where it oozed all over my food."ductoid
The Drunk.
Giphy"A guy we didn't know very well, a friend of a friend, came over to our house for dinner one night. He got quite drunk, despite not knowing him very well we offered that he stay the night at our place instead of driving home drunk. He refused, drove drunk and crashed his car. Then he tried to sue us for letting him drive home drunk. The guy was an fool."wefedfd
Strawberry Boy.
"This kids who was a friend at the time came over for a birthday party. We were around 13 and he ate a strawberry, except the top of it."
"Then he SMUSHED it into our white carpet and left it there. We were watching, like he just did it like it was a normal act."
"My parents still call him strawberry boy." KatrinaGazette
The Wreath.
"My brother's girlfriend had made a Xmas wreath for my home. When she arrived she took the wreath I had on my door and threw it down the hallway and put one up that she had made (which was seriously ugly by the way) My jaw dropped I seriously could not believe she threw MY wreath down the hallway right in front of me! The following day I threw HER wreath in the garbage."Walk-with-a-cane
Knives Out.
Giphy"I don't remember who the guy was because it happened when I was a kid but there was this guy who was in his early 20s, he was in the kitchen with one of the kitchen knifes and just throwing it into the floor so it would get stuck and pulling it out and doing it again."UhhYawn
Bladders....
"My grandfather's cousin was staying with us a for a week; he has a bladder problem and would refuse to wear adult diapers! What followed was him leaving a trail of pee (sometimes poo), when he walked around the house... didn't take too long for my mother to ask his son to take him back home."queenjany
Dirty Girl.
"My son's girlfriend was having family problems and temporality lived with us. Son/GF were 17 at the time. She had no house manners whatsoever... she'd cook herself meals and leave food and dishes everywhere, expecting us to clean after her. Leave her dirty clothes and stuff all over the house. She once borrowed my car without asking. Got so tired of it we asked her to leave."Eyeletblack
Cabinetry.
"My mom used to reorganize my kitchen cabinets whenever she would visit because she disagreed with my organizational system."Thedaythemusicdied37
"My mom does this with our household. She'll come over, remark that the house needs to be cleaned a bit and she'll just start cleaning. It's such an degrading experience. And it's not like my house is disgusting. If we've hovered the day before she'll remark that it's probably been a long time since we've done that and get the hoover out. She doesn't listen when I ask her to stop so we've stopped inviting her over as much in order to avoid the stress."Just_Me_2218
That booze was MINE!
"Drank all of my booze without asking my permission. These were guests of my roommates, and I was already asleep at the time because I basically had 14-hour days for a job I hated at the time (10 hour shift + 2 hour commute each way), and was still broke as crap. That booze was MINE, and those fools drank it all like they owned the damn place. Never even offered to replace it, either."PianoManGidley
Some friend.
Giphy"My 3rd grade "friend" tried to set my shower curtains on fire for no reason." dummyplant
These stories make us wonder why we even invite people over!
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Parents are meant to teach offspring how to survive in this world.
They're meant to guide us on how to be a good member of society.
But either some parents fail, or too many adults don't get the message.
And all that can lead to a mighty dysfunctional adult.
Redditor spirallinggg wanted to hear about the ways we can decipher if others have bad parenting, so they asked:
"What immediately tells you that a person wasn't raised right?"
Basic human decency is a sign of a good upbringing.
Garbage
"They throw trash out a car window."
shershae
"I live on a busy road and I’m so sick of people throwing their trash in front of my house. Some guy tosses out a tall boy beer nearly every workday. I can’t wait to move. Also- so many cigarette butts! We live in a high fire hazard area so I’m worried one of these days they’ll start a fire. I try to go pick up litter twice a month."
Pinkmongoose
Random Aisles
"People who dump refrigerated grocery products on random aisles."
glockops
"I work in a grocery store. The best one I saw was someone who ordered a hot pizza from our pizza station, which is made-to-order. Then abandoned it in the cooler with the refrigerated take-and-bake pizzas we have."
"I get finding stuff from our service case abandoned, it's already cold and our prices are much higher than some people think (the last abandoned item I found was a $20 container of our fresh fruit salad [which comes in pre-cut]), but the pizza station has set menu prices, they should have known what they were getting into before they ordered."
weedtrek
Be Responsible
"Lack of personal accountability. they can never admit wrongdoing on their part. it's always someone else's fault."
Sona-kin
I always told my kids that a mistake doesn't define who you are... but what you do AFTER the mistake DOES. We're human. We're gonna screw up throughout our lives. It's unavoidable. What we can control, however, is choosing to apologize, fix the situation, make amends, etc."
nakedwithoutmyhoodie
Rude
Mean Girls Gossip GIF by Paramount MoviesGiphy"When they talk badly about someone who hasn’t done anything wrong behind their back."
flowerzforthedead
THIS. I've seen coworkers talking behind the backs of new employees and drawing conclusions about every aspect of their lives. Like, you've seen that person for three days, you MF.
Cold-Load-4388
If you can't say it to their face, then don't say it.
Why do people have to crap talk?
Check Please
Escalate Customer Service GIF by FILMRISEGiphy"Being super rude to people in any service profession. There is a time and place for actual, appropriate complaints but I see people constantly abuse service staff for no damn reason. Hell, even using 'please' and 'thank you' seems beyond some people. Bums me out."
CaptainLawyerDude
Others
"Lack of consideration for others."
NewVAinvestor1
"A lot of people do not fundamentally understand other people exist. They understand things exist. They understand those things should be referred to as people. But they do not understand those things have an entire existence and experience all their own exactly like them."
Sh3lls
No!
"When they can't take no for an answer."
NerdyPlaneResident
"I'm going to step up and admit to being guilty of this. For the longest time, I had it in my head that persistence pays off. Some of that was pop culture, some of that was tenacity in other areas of my life being rewarded, and then applying that to interpersonal relationships. Older and wiser me, though is more along the lines of learning to let go. It's still a struggle though, working against that original conditioning."
SergeantPsycho
Professions
"When someone looks down at others based on what they do. That just clearly shows that they've learned the same thing from their caregivers."
Leekayleigh_
"Oh yes. My husband took on a second job doing pizza deliveries. A few people laughed at him doing that at his age. They don't laugh when he explains his main job is simple and, deliveries are just driving blasting tunes and adds $900 a month after tax to our income. Then they see all the travel. Usually shuts them up."
CurvePuzzleheaded361
Offensive
For Real Wow GIF by DeStormGiphy"Zero manners."'
Fuzzteam7
"I took a guy to a family beach condo because he says he never goes to the beach. Let him tag along with our group. Never said thank you one time. I dropped him back off at his house, and I said can you at least say thanks, he was so offended I asked or was trying to force a thank you."
berrey7
"BUT"
"When someone apologizes, and then adds a but onto it. For example, my boss held a meeting among the kitchen staff where he apologized for his attitude, and then added 'But you guys need to understand that I'm a no-bulls**t kind of person.' No sir, that's not how apologies work."
GimmickInfringement1
I hate a BUT.
Either you mean what you offer or don't say it.
We all find ourselves having an unexpected run-in with someone we know on the street every now and then.
In some cases, it's a pleasant surprise and plans are immediately made to catch up.
In other cases, you dig out the first excuse you can to keep on moving, as this particular individual was not someone you hoped would re-enter your life.
Then, of course, there are the times you run into an ex.
Whether you ended things amicably or acrimoniously, it's always going to be an awkward encounter.
Just how awkward it will be, however, depends on your reaction.
Redditor rageondad was curious to hear how people would react if they unexpectedly saw their ex on the street, leading them to ask:
"You see your first ex on the street, what do you do?"
Nothing But Happy Memories...
"1st ex: say hi, nice conversation."
"All good."
"2nd ex: hide from her again, like I did that one time at the gas station."- jfg1435
Who?
"Ignore him because he’s not worth saying hi to."
"And I wouldn’t care about him at all."- Big-Elevator2491
One Way To Handle It...
"Start taking a sh*t on the side walk immediately."- ceiling_fanzz
Excuse Me What GIF by BounceGiphyNo Harm, No Foul
"Say hi."- hot-breadfruit_poop
"And ask how they are doing."
"I'm a curious creature, what can I say?"- Lamacorn
Nothing But Excitement
"Give each other a huge hug."
"We're going to see each other next week for the first time in 25 years."
"It'll be good."
"We've remained friends this whole time, so we're both looking forward to it."- riceme0112358
Couple Love GIF by PantayaOuch!
"Didn't you die?" -Reddit
"Wonder who dug her up."- 8urfiat
"Walk On By..."
"Just keep walking."- MythicalMicrowave
Walking By Moe Szyslak GIF by Football AustraliaGiphyEven If It Means J-Walking
"Cross the street."- no_days_grace
Avoiding Your Ex In Five D's...
"Dodge, dip, duck, dive, and dodge."- catinatank·
The Passage Of Time
"I would wish her well if I recognized her."
"It’s been over 20 years since I’ve seen her."
"It’s not like we parted on bad terms or anything."- Fangsong_37
Lana Parrilla GIF by Paramount+GiphyGo For The Jugular
"You've sure gotten old."- drpepper1992
About Face
"Run."- saus_blu
Remain Amicable
"Have a chat."
"We are still friends."- Mentalfloss1
Meg Ryan Comedy GIF by Coolidge Corner TheatreGiphyOf course, the worst element of surprise is having no idea how we might react.
Try as we might to plan just what we'd do should we ever run into an ex, we can't possibly know what will actually happen should that moment arrive.
Though, hopefully it won't ever lead to defecating on the street.