Believe it or not, it takes little to show someone that you care.
After Redditor seamonkeybuns asked the online community "What's a simple romantic gesture that actually means a lot?" many chimed in and proved that sentiment true.
"I'm pretty badly allergic to red dye..."
I'm pretty badly allergic to red dye in food/drinks, not to the point of anaphylactic shock however my throat starts to close up almost immediately. I'm usually careful but I've slipped up twice while with my boyfriend. The first time way worse than the second, the first I luckily found some extra Benadryl as he watched me rip through two first aid kits at our job (grocery store, different departments). The second time was in his Jeep after eating a mint, which wasn't nearly as bad, some coughing and swelling but much easier to manage.
I was actually embarrassed to ask if he had any type of medication in his car because at that current moment we were fighting over something stupid. I made a comment about leaving some Benadryl in his console or glovebox in case I ever needed it, to which he didn't think would matter since he purposely looks at the ingredient lists now ever since incident one happened.
A couple days ago, after making a joke about drinking something with red dye to be able to get out of work, told me he put Benadryl in his Jeep so 'that plan wouldn't work'. I didn't believe him until he physically pulled a box of it out.
Not only does he make an extra effort to read ingredients now for me just in case but he also keeps extra Benadryl nearby so if we're ever out somewhere and I need it immediately. I still can't get over how sweet that is..
"Remembering something..."
Remembering something they said along time ago that hasn't been talked about since. Shows you listened and cared enough to remember it.
"When she looks at me..."
When she looks at me and smiles for no particular reason other than she's happy to be spending time with me.
"Kissing their head..."
Kissing their head or cheek as you go by or just stopping to give a hug randomly.
"Light hand on the thigh..."
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Light non sexual touching.
Light hand on the thigh while riding in the car. Brushing your hand over the small of their back when passing behind. Drawing your fingers over their skin affectionately when sitting together.
"Then we yell back..."
My fiancé always gives me goodbye kisses every morning. Even if I'm dead to the world, drooling, or have horrible morning breath. He kisses me 3 times. First time is to find my lips/wake me up enough, second one is a good long kiss and the last one is the goodbye kiss. Then we yell back and forth saying "I love you " "I miss you" "have a good day " until he walks out the front door. It's so simple and a lot of times I'm too far asleep to actually talk so all my replies are mumbles but they absolutely make my day.
"Acting like you're proud..."
Acting like you're proud to be with them, especially in front of your friends. Not cringey PDA but like occasionally handholding, arm around etc. I felt like my long term ex was embarrassed of me and that we were more than just friends, and not until I dated someone else I realised how simple and important it is.
"My boyfriend..."
My boyfriend always boils water when I visit without asking because he knows I always like a tea.
"Bring me my favorite razor..."
Forehead kisses, effort that is put forth without me having to demand it, blatant honesty, simple grabs of my hips or waist or shoulders in public that make me feel safe, super subtle gestures that show you give a sh*t even if you're being a mouthy ass or a tease
Grabbing simple sh*t from the store for me just because... stuff like that. That's what shows you give a f*ck and pay attention. Bring me my favorite razor or bath bomb or even toothpaste, whatever. That shows deeper meaning than a lot of grand gestures do.
"Sometimes my boyfriend..."
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Sometimes my boyfriend will gently grab my chin and kiss me. It makes me absolutely melt. He also randomly shows up with coffee some mornings and I'm always happy about surprise caffeine.
"Well, if it's a guy..."
Well, if it's a guy or in my own personal case, I'd like to think that affectionate gestures such as bear hugs or say petting/stroking someone's head is pretty meaningful. A lot of us didn't get the affection we needed from our parents, especially guys. They are expected to be "manly men" and don't get affection nearly at all. Remember, it's perfectly OK to be a soft sensitive man. And remember, give all your strong friends tons of hugs-they may not show it but sometimes, we really do need them.
"When they show up..."
When they show up to support you without being asked. Someone I was seeing once showed up to visit me in hospital without being asked. It was such a huge gesture for me. If i didn't have an IV in I would have scaled him like a monkey climbing a tree.
"Making sure..."
Making sure they get to their destination before leaving. For example: wait to see your SO go up to their apartment after a date, and probably wait for a while later just in case.
"We only started going out a month ago..."
We only started going out a month ago (Tinder), but a couple of things make me smile already:
-He works really hard at his job, and had to stay late at the office last night, but he still rang me as he was going to bed, even though he was knackered.
-When I went to visit my parents in Holland and he rang me to tell that he'd been doing some research and he found out that the Dutch created orange carrots (that made me melt, really showed he wanted to show an interest in where I'm from).
-If he has to take a call from work while I am there, he touches my arm or hip every so often during the conversation. Makes me feel like he'd rather be spending time with me instead, even though his job is important to him.
"I really like it..."
I really like it when my wife snuggles up close to me and tells me that she loves me. Unfortunately, due to some past traumas, she doesn't do it much (we are still deeply in love and she shows her affection in other ways) so it's a lovely surprise when she does
"Some things that mean a lot..."
Some things that mean a lot to me are when they get me coffee whenever we wake up, washing my body/helping me rinse in the shower, cuddling me when I haven't asked, and good night kisses.
"Whenever I'm putting on my makeup..."
Whenever I'm putting on my makeup, my husband always steals a kiss from me right before I put my lipstick on. It's not much, but it's such a sweet little habit we have and it means a lot to me.
"He always gives me..."
He always gives me the cherries off his sundaes and milkshakes.
We're not cuddly sleepers, but I always fall asleep with his hand touching some part of my body, and I often wake up with his hand under my pillow.
We never, no matter how angry we may be, hang up the phone without saying I love you.
And lastly....we met in high school and started dating 19 years ago. Before we even started dating, we were at a party with one of those white elephant parties. I REALLY wanted this goat beanie baby thing, but this chick and all her friends kept stealing it. By the end of the game, I didn't have it and was super bummed about it. Monday morning rolled around and he showed up with a shoebox wrapped in the Sunday cartoons. Inside the box was a goat like the one I'd been trying to win. Stupid me...still took me another year to realize he was into me and for us to become a couple.
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But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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