Life is full of grand and crazy moments. When we find ourselves in these moments we often find ourselves at a fork in the road as well. We believe we're pumped and raring to go. But once we're wobbling on the precipice, we feel it, a light tremble, the first trickle of sweat, the final body encompassing deep breath before life could forever be altered, they haunt us, because uncertainty is a fickle mistress. In these crucial seconds we can either retreat or push forward. And once we push forward... history begins.Redditor u/twitchylittleferret7 wanted everyone on Reddit to tell us about the times when only moving forward was the option by asking.... What was your biggest "crap, no going back now" moment?
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Psychedelics, particularly DMT because it all happens so quickly and intensely. KingThommo
Salvia. Never again. Only lasts five minutes, but holy crap does it feel like an eternity. It's like your entire reality gets smashed into thousands of pieces and you're desperately trying to piece it back together, or getting thrust into the space between the multiverses and you're trying to figure out which one you belong in again.
Having your consciousness merged with a red solo cup on the dresser is the kind of experience a man needs no more than one of in his life. Dahhhkness
Happened to a friend of mine in Philmont. He went to the bathroom and had to cross a small stream to get there. The sky opened up for a few minutes and he still hadn't come back. We heard yelling a little later and he was stuck because that small stream had quadrupled in size and was now a raging river. Mail540
Canoeing over a waterfall. JadedLit
First time I did a waterfall I thought I was gonna die. I'd been whitewater kayaking for over a year, had all my safety trained friends there with me, yet that feeling of going over and looking down at the hole just made me go 'yep, I've gone too far.' Exverius
Last summer I replaced my roof. Standing on the ladder at the corner of the house with the shingle stripping shovel, I just stood there for 5 minutes thinking if I wanted to do this or not. Then I ripped off the first few shingles, and there was no going back! Veritas3333
I made a budget yesterday to figure out how much I'd need to move out. If I work two more hours than planned at a starter job I've lined up, I could do it easily, with all the optional expenses.
That's when it hit me that I'm not in college anymore and I actually could have the money to live independently. I_Ace_English
Jekyll and Hyde....
When my abusive husband was doing his weekly ritual of interrogating me and accusing me of some made up infidelity and goes "Well?! What's the deal here, are we just done??"
Before I could stop myself I was like "You know, yeah, yeah we're done."
He didn't know, until that moment, that I had already spoken to a divorce lawyer and the police and had all my ducks in a row to take the screw off.
But I was planning on actually meeting with the lawyer before I told him, so then it was 2 weeks of awful Jekyll and Hyde bullcrap before I could leave.
I have to say, even though I was like "oh crap," it did feel so damn good to say it though.
Forget that guy. woodsywitch
"I can't wait to find out."
I ran away from an abusive home at 19. I called my dad while I was at work later that day to let him know I was okay and not to come looking for me (he's a narcissist and I was so scared he'd tell the authorities something crazy so they'd track me down for him- like my boyfriend had kidnapped me).
I'd left my car keys on the kitchen table (so he couldn't charge me with stealing it, as he bought it for me), emptied my bank account (because he was friends with the small bank owner) and taken everything I could with me- and that was a pretty big one. He said "you'll never make it without me and my money" and I just said "I can't wait to find out."
That was seven years ago now, and I'm making it. notnowihaveaheadache
"Here, try this hot wing."
Took a bite and for the next 18 hours, I could only focus on how this was a crime against humanity.
And for those now asking, it was The Last Dab XXX on a drumstick. It was coated all over. I just ate one big bite.
And then I went and shoved my head under a cold shower.
Then, it was bed and bathroom for several hours as I threw up most of it, but some got digested.
I knew going it that it was gonna be hot. My former roommate was a hot sauce aficionado. He never once handed me a wing that was less than a habanero sauce. The question was "am I about to have ghost, pepper-x, Carolina reaper, habanero, etc." Ipride362
Moving 1500 miles away with 2 weeks worth of grocery money, and a 1-star hotel confirmation that would last 1 month, to hold me over Until I started making some money. Mattl54o
Got a general anaesthetic for wisdom teeth removal. After waiting what felt like an eternity in a little prep room, I was just thinking about using the restroom just for something to do when I'm swarmed by nurses or whatever. Before I could react, they stuck things all over me and one of them got the drugs in me and I could immediately feel effects.
I remember vividly thinking "well hell, no going back now" as they wheeled me to theatre. And then the procedure and recovery went as smoothly as they could've gone. Reddit
Stepping off that sandbar I could barely reach to swim out to the girl caught in a riptide... and not knowing how a riptide worked. It took what felt like hours but, spoiler alert, we made it.
Too early in the season for lifeguards. I remember calling out to people walking their dogs on the beach but we were so far out they didn't even look towards us. BlueFalconPunch
That wasn't three!!!
First time I went sky diving was a tandem jump and the guy told me on the ground "once we get in the door we'll rock back and forth 3 times, on the third time forward just roll out the door." So, me being the trusting sort thought that was a solid plan. We get up to altitude, open the door, I put my feet on the little platform and cross my arms just like he told me to. He rocked back once and pushed us out the door immediately. My only thought was "That wasn't three!!! Oh crap, we're falling!" Tenragan17
The River Runs...
When I was younger, letting my older cousin talk me in to a canoe ride down a flooded river. We'd planned it days in advance but there was a lot of heavy rain in the area and the normally calm river was near flood level and quite rough. I really didn't want to do it but I didn't want to let him down either so I still went.
I knew as soon as we saw the river this was a terrible idea. The whole thing was a crap show and I honestly though we were going to die. We had no control and at one point we got stuck nose down and a large rock, knowing if we tipped out we were drowning. We somehow made it out and to the shore where we walked back with the canoe. Mcfangus
I hopped a freight train once, and the moment it hits 15-20 mph, you're just along for the ride.
But the real "no going back" moment came when the train stopped on a siding outside Winnemucca. After waiting there for like 5 hours, I decided to walk into town and get some ice cream sandwiches. As soon as I got 50 yards from the train, I realized: if it starts rolling now, I'll be too far away to chase it down. I'll just be stuck in this town for a while.
EDIT: For you kids out there, riding freight trains is dangerous and illegal (and dirty and loud and unreliable). Don't do it!
Also, I should point out that Winnemucca is home to some of America's best Basque restaurants, fantastic cowboy heritage sites, and it's the gateway to the Black Rock Desert! It's got something for everyone--not just stranded hobos! cortechthrowaway
When I was about to get on the plane to my first semester of med school, my dad, never one for sentiment, said "well, you're now actually worth more dead than alive, don't screw this up." Dr_D-R-E
During take off on my first ever flight at the age of 30. I have a real intense fear of heights. Michaelwordenbr
I hate look over edges, so maybe I have a fear of falling more than heights. Like looking out a plane window is fine but if my head's against the glass it's not. SomeSaltyWalnuts
East Vail Chutes in Colorado.
Hiking back country snowboarding with a guy. Got stuck in a flat area and needed to hike out in deep powder. It was getting dark and kept coming out of thick trees to 50 foot plus cliff areas. It was getting darker and we didn't have much light left and finally came out to another cliff area with about a 10 foot cliff, 20 feet of landing and then a second 10 foot cliff area that had a narrow landing to an open glade.
It was either go for it and don't fall and get hurt or start making a snow tunnel and get ready to sleep on the mountain for the night at East Vail Chutes in Colorado. We both made it through the cliff jumps safely but it was sketchy. When we got to town we both had a couple tall whiskeys and the first bar we got too and I was still shaking. Could have possibly died if we had to stay on the mountain over night or got seriously hurt (and then died) making the jumps to get to an area we could get down as it was getting dark but it was either jump or start making a snow shelter.
We were definitely not prepared with back county gear and got lost in the area even though we had both ridden it a few times with some experienced people who had taken us down before. Scary and something I will never forget. magicted43
Walking into a MMA fight and the cage closes behind you. Pretty ok I would say. I got punched in the face a lot but subbed my opponent with an armbar. It was just an amateur level fight but you learn a lot even there. Like you don't really hear your coach you are way too consumed by what's going on at least in the first few fights.
Also, you can't really improvise so a game plan is pretty important because you will just revert to the basics you practiced. Also, you get tired as hell. Just stuff you don't really understand if you're never in a fight. podfather2000
Time to Start....
Getting in the ambulance after suffering a grand mal seizure from alcohol withdrawals.
When I finally said enough is enough and decided I needed to quit drinking before it killed me, I thought I could detox on my own as I was terrified of hospitals. I was wrong. I spent a week detoxing in the ICU, and now, almost a full year later, I'm still very happily sober and I'm completely thriving. HorseMeatSandwich
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Mountain biking with some friends on a new trail, which wasn't even a bike trail. We hiked most of the way up since it was too steep to ride up. Carried our bikes all the way up. Rested at the top for a bit and then rolled over the edge. I remember as my front tire crested and gravity started taking over I thought, "there's no way I'm stopping now, unless a tree stops me." ProjectSunlight
Do you have something to confess to George? Text "Secrets" or "" to +1 (310) 299-9390 to talk to him about it.
Recently I was shopping in a Walmart and my day had been a cavalcade of suck. I'm still carrying Covid weight, my hair is greying and uncut and before I went to the store I opened a Diet Coke that blew up in my face and stained my new white shirt. So naturally, I went to the liquor store to preserve what was left of the hours before me. I didn't bother to change. Why? Nobody is looking.
While I was in the checkout a woman tapped me on the shoulder and said... "You have beautiful eyes. I noticed them above your mask. I saw you in the aisle and I just wanted to say that." I thanked her and we parted. After I stopped crying in my car while eating a rotisserie chicken and drinking a vodka/diet (in my mother's driveway... not driving) I reflected on that woman's kind words. They were short, simple and her intentions were only good. Yes, she was giving me a superficial boost, but, I needed it. And tomorrow was a better day because of it. Sometimes... a little compliment goes a really long way.Redditor u/akar17 wanted to hear about all the ways we can make others smile by asking... What is the nicest compliment you have ever received?
Crush<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ5Ni9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzOTY0MTcwOX0.4UTUrjmg151OWDmtb16h0-r4fbvrhDO1hVuqxHr32EQ/img.gif?width=980" id="67f81" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="0a51b9dbde34a499f55502ca68ab541f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="428" />bashful snow white and the seven dwarves GIFGiphy<p>A older friend of mine told me his daughter (teen) had a crush on me (not a teen) and said he was glad because that meant she had good taste and would find a good man when she grew up. I still think about it because although I was slightly uncomfortable I knew that must have been even harder for him to say which to me made it that much more meaningful. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjx1ktr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kindbarbarian</a></p>
fathers & sons<p>I lost my dad when I was in high school and a friend's mother wrote a condolence card that said "I never knew your dad but I do know the young man that he raised, and because of that I know what an amazing father he was." I got a lot of condolence cards around that time and that is the only one I remember.</p><p><em>Edit: </em>thanks for the kind words, everyone! It was almost 20 years ago so it doesn't hurt quite so much anymore. We will all lose our parents someday unless they lose us first - and those are the real tragedies. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjx16j0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Renzology026</a></p>
Let's do Trivia....<p>This was when I might have been 8-9 years old. I used to do well in trivia and quizzing. Not insanely good just good enough for people to notice. In our school sometimes if a teacher was absent a different teacher used to fill in their classes and these periods would be self study or something boring. One of the teachers who knew about me used to call me to the front of the class and frequently asked me to be the quizmaster and organize a mini trivia contest as an activity for that period. </p>
Ride or Die<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ5OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxOTAyMTY4M30.JkIgxuSjn1DhzUCXoyK5tZsGc5qxiYjzLy2MqSTnhjI/img.gif?width=980" id="085e9" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f1f180789ebfad9a6ed9ca9fcd33505a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="250" data-height="184" />Kisses GIF by SpongeBob SquarePantsGiphy<p>Actually, I have two that are dear to me. <span>The first was from a friend who had died way too young who told me that when he writes the book of his life, I would have my own chapter. The next was from a coworker who was ex-army that told me he would follow me into battle.</span></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwwhma?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">charlie2135</a></p>
"you're so pretty!!"<p>7 years ago I was heading into the office to a job I hated, and stopped at McDonald's on the way.</p><p>I pulled up to the first window to pay, and after the young kid gave me my card back, before he closed the window, he said "you're so pretty!!" with a high voice and so much energy, and closed the window with a huge smile on his face.</p>
I Miss You<p>Probably not the nicest but one of the most memorable. I used to work as a runner for a delivery company (someone who helps drivers deliver stuff buy doesn't actually drive). If I was ever working with drivers I disliked, I would intentionally talk to them less and try unload the truck a lot faster than normal. If I liked the driver, we would go slower and have a lot more banter.</p>
Silent Clap<p>I am very patient and usually overly-optimistic. I tend to think the best of others and the worst of myself.</p><p>In a morning status call recently, a coworker announced that she was "going to try to be more bubbly and patient, like me. A couple of coworkers agreed that they'd try and do the same and that everyone should try and emulate me a little bit. Typing this out, it sounds like some crap you'd see on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/thathappened/" target="_blank">r/thathappened</a>, but it actually did happen, nobody clapped. I wish I had been recording the call. It was a huge boost to my mood and self-esteem and honestly one of the best (if not THE best) compliments I've ever received. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwu3fg?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">farts_n_darts</a><span data-verified="redactor" data-redactor-tag="span"></span></p>
You Soothe<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTUwMC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxNjI1NDczOX0.xUjX5cybD0z3ru6HEUS34S7qSgZXr7qykXI8h8t6qS4/img.gif?width=980" id="c0fe2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="93b65e75fee9cf088da06a71bc72dd50" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="261" />Giphy<p>One time when I was talking with a girl that I liked, she told me I have a soothing voice. I normally have trouble accepting compliments and actually believing them about myself, but that one kind of stuck with me. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwwlph?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Elbo_80</a></p>
Hair Bounce<p>Nicest compliment came from a little girl. She told me I had pretty hair, which is not anything special. But about 10 years on and I still remember this little girl I didn't know having the confidence to give a stranger a compliment. I dunno, it's stuck with me because SHE was so sweet. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwpzgo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">pads28</a></p>
Healthy Mind<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTUwMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzODczMDYzNn0.ESOqo1BibwUdgmPyIOqTcUEpd80Nvkik80vsec30muE/img.gif?width=980" id="13ff7" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1b77f095e43756e48e0b3271b7a31a29" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="400" data-height="400" />Pop Tv Thank You GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy<p>That I was the most emotionally intelligent person they know. (By two different people on two separate occasions) I hold this closely to my heart. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwvr6a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ExecutiveJM</a></p>
A cancer diagnosis can be terrifying, even traumatizing, for any individual. It can send their life into upheaval and strike fear into their hearts as they worry about the possibility of needing to settle their estates or attend to their family members. But most cancers are survivable. It's a lot easier to get through it, too, if you know what you're looking for and go to a doctor the second you feel something might not be right.
After Redditor BarooTangClan asked the online community, "Survivors of cancer, how did you know something was wrong and what did it feel like before you found out?" people shared their experiences.
"Don't drive yourself nuts..."<p>Testicular seminoma stage 1 here.</p><p>No joke, it just didn't feel right. I had a weird discomfort/ache - not even a pain above my crotch, and not even in my testicles. It essentially didn't go away for a few weeks, and I figured that enough was enough.</p><p>Self-checks are super easy if you know what you're looking for. I felt no lumps, and after CT/MRI confirmed cancer, the doctor at the cancer hospital put my finger on the very obvious lump that I missed.</p><p>Don't drive yourself nuts here (lol). It's an awkward thing to get checked out, but you can very easily get cleared by an ultrasound if there's something questionable, or things don't feel right.</p><p>Listen to your damn body. If things don't feel right, don't lose sleep - just get that checked out by a professional.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjsvaiq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">krugo</a></p>
"It didn't go away..."<p>Got a stomach ache.</p><p>It didn't go away, some days were not so bad, other days slightly worse. Never agonizing but constant. I ignored it for a long time because it wasn't "that bad."</p><p>JK, it was ovarian cancer.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt7e6w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ladybetty</a></p>
"In the lead up..."<p><span>Diagnosed with Acute Promyelocytic Leukaemia in Feb 2003. In the lead-up, I was even more tired than usual, short of breath just climbing a set of stairs, had unexplained bruises. Turns out my platelets were 1/20th of the bottom end of the normal range and my RBC was less than half. Went to the dr who must have had an inkling because she sent me for a blood test, with a fairly detailed range of tests to be performed. She came to my house that afternoon (a Saturday) to deliver the news. Chemo and tablets and I've been in remission for coming up to 17 years.</span></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjsuq44?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Polished_book_lover</a></p>
"This time..."<p>I only knew something was wrong because I did a self-breast exam - I do them regularly. So I felt a lump, but I've felt lumps plenty of times before. I've had lots of mammograms and ultrasounds - all benign. This time it was cancer though.</p><p>I didn't feel any different.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt0p2f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sassylittlespoon</a></p>
"Less than a week later..."<p>I had this really weird chest pain. I would wake up feeling fine, but it came on over the course of the day, I had shortness of breath, tightness in my chest, and just constant pain at night. Went to my general practitioner who noticed a murmur and ordered an EKG. A cardiologist who worked in the same practice took a look and was the one to notice the mass that was pressing up against my heart.</p><p>Less than a week later I had a biopsy, more EKGs, and Cat Scans done to narrow it down. I'll always say that the weirdest part for me is that the chest pains went away after going to the doctor. There wasn't even anything they did that would have stopped the pain, and I didn't start chemo for another month after that.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt48lb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">zipGeorge</a></p>
"If you find a lump..."<p>Lumps are not normal. Sometimes they are safe but that doesn't mean it is normal. If you find a lump that wasn't there. Get it checked. With cancer, the earlier the better because cancer spreads, and if it gets to a vital organ and/or overruns your body it could be too late or make the treatment more intense than it needed to be.</p><p>I had to do 6 weeks of chemo instead of 9 because we caught it early enough.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjswmuh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hanginnowwith2fingers</a></p>
"And then I felt..."<p>20 yrs ago, I could just feel an uncomfortable tingling in my pelvic region. I went to an OBGYN only to find out I had Stage II cervical cancer. After many cervix sparing surgeries and a couple of rounds with interferon, within a period of 6 months, I was declared NED.</p><p>Fast forward to 20 years later and I started hemorrhaging to the point of needing blood transfusions and was exhausted, but rationalized it as being anemic, due to months of menorrhagia. I was also bleeding after sex.</p><p>And then I felt that sickening uncomfortable tingling again and pushed for a Pap that showed the cancer came back (more like it never went away). Two surgeries in the past six months and in 11 hrs from now, I will have the results of a DNA biopsy. Sleep isn't happening tonight.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtj7l7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Icanbyours</a></p>
"I couldn't breathe..."<p>I couldn't breathe through my left nostril, despite taking antihistamines. Turns out it was a stage II tumor in the back of my nasal passages. Chemo and radiation impacts were worse on me than the tumor, but necessary. Four years on and now I'm all better.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt52y4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Gneelce</a></p>
"I could lie on my back..."<p>9-year survivor of rare ovarian cancer.</p><p>I could feel my tumour. I could lie on my back and feel a solid mass in my pelvis. I had the typical ovarian cancer symptoms too. I knew this wasn't normal so I went to my doctor who sent me for imaging. I went to a gynecologist who thought it was a fibroid as it was the likely culprit due to my age. It wasn't until they did the histology of the mass that was removed until I found out what it was (a week after surgery). One month before my 25th birthday I was told I needed chemo. I started chemo 2 days after Xmas in 2011. My specific tumour responds to chemo and unlikely to return.</p><p>I was meant to be on a contiki trip but instead I had cancer treatment.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtc1fn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">edot87</a></p>
"And then more and more."<p>Horrible cramps right after I ate. And then more and more. Plus a bit of blood during #2. Thought it was hemorrhoids, but I wanted to be sure since I was hoping to have another baby. Colonoscopy revealed a lemon/sized tumor. Stage 2a. Surgery, 6 months of chemo. 10.5 years cancer-free. And my daughter is 6 this Spring. I was in no risk group and I was in my early 30s. Just never know.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtkxe6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">oneeyedalienalright</a></p>
I miss the good old days of "reality" tv. Don't you? Do you remember The Real World & MTV's Road Rules? Those were the days, long before everything got convoluted. Then Jerry Springer came along with Survivor and the Kardashians and now it's all just scripted chaos. The fact they use the word "reality" proves they don't know the meaning of it. It's all a show darlings.
Redditor u/flyingbeetlekites was dying to hear from behind the scenes peeps who work on tv that sell "realness" by asking... People who work on reality TV: What happens behind the scenes that you don't want the public knowing?
"unannounced"<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQyOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTk3MDY0MH0._TZkkQpCHZPskUilRTXbT-if2arcWcBat7QxfMH8yPU/img.gif?width=980" id="24972" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="2a2488d9a8b85fb0e6607e54ccf0d16d" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />busting in season 1 GIF by Ash vs Evil DeadGiphy<p>I love when they show up <em>"unannounced"</em> at someone's house and there's a film crew IN THE HOUSE! </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlkjy0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Hawkmek</a></p>
Repeat after Me....<p>I worked with someone who had been on one and he said they tell you what to say and how to answer. They also mix and match the answers. They basically film you completing a set of sentences in a controlled way and then thread the narrative they're going for. It's utter nonsense end to end. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlkq10?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">rb6k</a></p>
"Therapy"<p>Was on a kind of "documentary" years ago for British TV. The kind where the person has a problem, the TV people offer therapy, activities and fun things to solve the problem (think supersize vs superskinny) when they did the wrap up interview, the edited the hell out of the segment to get the result they wanted. To the point where they spliced audio together and made it a voice over etc.</p><p>Eg,</p><p>Original audio: This didn't solve the problem, but it's a start and I'm really optimistic. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjm09vy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Illustrious-Tea-8920</a><span></span></p>
Authors....<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ0MC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTg5ODIyN30.4e6yke-0JDBIyfABCFhIofrINqZ2k0rN8cC9lTfIwd0/img.gif?width=980" id="86c7d" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="36b70962da72e31b3830b782042c52e3" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="500" />fail seth meyers GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy<p>I've got an old friend who writes for a reality TV show. That's right... scripts the spontaneous stuff for actors to say. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlk73b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">refreshing_username</a></p>
Counting Cars<p>On Counting Cars. Two scruffy dudes in torn clothes and biker tattoos entering someone's garage unannounced and the homeowner is like, "Hi, how are you guys?" </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlu1rb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">startinearly</a><span></span></p><p>I've noticed this too. Not to mention, scruffy guys driving alongside you, asking you too pull over so they can get a better look at your car; then asking if they can drive your car. The number of antique cars with completely trusting owners is not realistic. Not to mention they buy many of these cars on the spot. I like the show enough to overlook the obvious staging. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjnaosk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Facelesspirit</a></p>
Let's Date?<p>A German satirist once managed to sneak an actor he hired into one of those reality TV dating shows and while the character he created already was very weird; the TV channel that produced the dating show made him completely over the top.</p><p>The whole thing is on youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mG_Fyc-nyOs" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">with english subtitles</a> even. It's brilliant. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjn0d2t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BerndDasBrot4Ever</a></p>
Consent<p>I acted as a lawyer for a reality TV show many years ago. They fired me when I started advising them that they needed informed consent from participants to appear. They said that was impossible, and in any event, half the participants are mentally unwell anyway. I said that just makes me even more certain you need informed consent, and in that case, make sure you have a fully qualified mental health professional sign off of the capability of the prospective participant to give informed consent.</p><p>I have not worked for any reality TV shows since. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjndbo6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">purrcthrowa</a><span></span></p>
So much to splice...<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ2OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTg2MTQ0Nn0.bMld-SzVBp6fIJ1kiyCObqUNFj0dReykCMkzOJHiT48/img.gif?width=980" id="c55b4" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ece2bf369b4262c9cbf2702e4b7fa8d9" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="450" data-height="247" />f for fake film GIFGiphy<p>I have a friend who worked as an editor for reality shows a few years back. The thing I remember him telling me is that because they shoot so much footage, he can make any storyline the producers want with it. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjnab0u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">thewhits</a><span></span></p>
For 5 Minutes....<p>I saw something about those shows where young people live in a house together, go out and get drunk and pick up randoms to take back to the house and have sex with.</p><p>Well the production companies have a duty of care to the drunk randoms, so they are taken away from the "celebs" made to sober up enough to provide consent, provide full ID and sign a waiver. </p>
Again & Again<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ3MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MDQ1MjE3OH0.sfUbn-sbgzjVcveRQHyodHDH4mO57szQ21bdNnMdZfU/img.gif?width=980" id="9953b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="50c8d3c4fe36e704cfac452b53e1b40b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="261" />basketball wives smh GIF by VH1Giphy<p>The retakes. Endless retakes. It's tiresome. You think filming has wrapped up but then have to do pickups. The stuff someone messed up on and there can be many. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjn23kz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Moramug</a><span></span></p>
What has been seen... cannot be unseen.
You've probably heard that before. You might even have experienced that yourself. On a light note, I walked in on a teacher of mine while they were smoking a cigarette in an empty classroom. (They'd forgotten I was going to see them for a quick meeting about a grade.) That teacher jumped out of their skin... and swore me to secrecy. I never told any higher-up.
After Redditor B_K asked the online community, "What's something you saw that you weren't definitely supposed to see?" people shared stories of their own.