Exes are exes for a reason - and this thread is full of reminders.
We aren't always 100% sure when, where, or why things are going to end - so we can never really know what the last thing is that you're going to say. Since most of us don't actually know it's the last thing, we aren't typically making sure that it's a work of literary art... which is part of what makes this thread so awesome.
Reddit user berrybrain43 asked:
What was the last text message you sent to your ex?
And yeah ... things got awkward. So deliciously, wonderfully, magically awkward. They also got rage inducing, cringey, confusing, and downright heartbreaking sometimes. And absolutely none of these people have the kind of beautifully poetic send-off that 80's movies want us to think happen. Even when they try, the cringe is so real. You ready for this wild ride? Let's get to it.
Please Don't
GiphyVoice recognition screwed up the recipient when I was driving so I texted her to: "Wait a damn minute, I'll be there soon"
Her response: "Please don't come over"
I hadn't spoken to her for like 3 years and didn't even know I had her number saved still.
Still Cheating
My last text to her was me explaining that being delusional doesn't mean she wasn't unfaithful. She insisted her cheating didn't count.
Her last text to me was this:
At least he looks like you
I still don't know what that means. It's not cheating if he looks like me?
Cringe
Oh wow I literally just broke up with my girlfriend an hour ago. Here it is!
(After being ignored when I asked her why she lied about her ex calling her)
"It's ok you don't have to answer. I feel like I'm owed that as your boyfriend but it's ok. I think I'm going to break things off here as hard as it is- because I really really like you.
Its entirely on me, I'm in my head now and I don't think I'll be able to get out of it. I just think it's weird that you planned on staying the night with me, he calls and texts you and all of a sudden you have to go home because of your period but you can go to your friends house but couldn't stay at mine. And you can't FaceTime me because you're not going home like you acted you were. The timing is just oddly convenient. Plus you're not answering my question and that bothers me. It bothers me really bad, I would call you immediately if I ever thought you were being bothered by something like this. I wouldn't even text you back an answer, because I'd know you're hurting inside. Silence speaks a lot louder than words sometimes.
This is just the way you think when you've been burned a lot. And I have. Maybe I'm just paranoid from being screwed over, but you also lied about him calling and I don't like being lied to. No secrets remember? I don't like being played.
I really hope I'm just being paranoid, and I'm inclined to believe that's all just coincidental and you left because I was being a miserable, which I was - but the damage is done in my head. And I get stuck in my head, for long periods of time. Even if you're being truthful and you're just not answering me because your phones not with you or you don't want to because I'm no fun to talk to right now, the damage is done.
I'm sorry I'm a mess. I didn't want things to be like this but I've obviously got some things I need to sort out if you're not lying to me. You don't want a paranoid boyfriend looking over your shoulder to see if you're being truthful all the time, interrogating you, etc. And I don't want to be that guy, I hate being that way.
Again, if I've got all this mixed up and I'm just being a paranoid freak, forgive me. But I do suggest you try to be honest with your partners in the future about everything, even phone calls from ex's (Especially that kind of stuff), because for those of us that have been hurt it sends us spinning to be lied to.
I'm really sorry. You're great and beautiful and fun to be around, and I really like you, but you don't want to be with me when I'm like this.
And I didn't want to do this over text, but I'm dying inside waiting for you to explain to me why I'm thinking all wrong and you didn't lie about him calling and it means nothing etc. Leaving me hanging has caused me to let go.
Thank you for everything."
Honestly, this makes me wonder what actually was going on and who was the one who dodged a bullet in this case.
Glad I wasn't the only one thinking it. The word "unhinged" comes to mind.
Waiting To Happen
"You're a domestic violence issue waiting to happen. I'm glad you're moving because frankly I don't want to end up like that. And it's bull. You could be better than that, but you don't want any help. But you keep on keeping on, you're not my problem any more."
- tdackery
The Christmas Burn
GiphyLast year on Christmas she made a post: ''This year ends So send me photos you took with me and I will add it to my Facebook relation."
I sent her pic of me standing next to a trash can full of rags.
Discord
"I know you've been cheating on me on discord for the past 2 months, go f yourself."
Mocking Her Infertility
"Hey, I know you can't have kids and I'm really sorry that you and your new bf spent so much money on trying, but I just wanted to let you know I'm having a baby with my new girlfriend in September. Funny to think if you didn't cheat on me that none of this would've happened. Thank you."
She struggles with infertility and has been trying to have a child, but can't. She cheated on me so F her. She's a whore and the whole point was for the text to be super painful.
Emergency Contact
"I'm blocking your banks phone number, so it's your problem now."
I was his emergency contact for a long time, which somehow also meant that my phone number was linked to all his accounts, including his bank account. Was tired of asking him to change it.
- dystimmy
Little White Lie
"I regret nothing, it was fun while it lasted... I wish you all the best, please take care of yourself." (I actually regret everything, but I'm not the kind of person to hurt people.)
No More Threats
"Fine, kill yourself. Every girl you've abused, are abusing and who will be by you will be delighted to learn that you're out of their lives. You've played with my heart for 3 months, made threats and sent me horrifying videos of you hurting yourself and attempting suicide live. I'm tired of your games and I'm tired of you using your autism as a "pass" for everything. It's fkin not. Hope your mother won't be too sad, she didn't deserve a son like you."
What I said was probably not tactful, but I was done being terrorized and abused by him and his constant threats.
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Manipulating The Anniversary
He sent me: "If we had another chance to do this, I would not fail you. I am sorry I took the life out of you. I am sorry I didn't appreciate you enough. But isn't it good, in a way, because you're his now?"
He decided the best time to dig up our history was on the anniversary of my dead best friend. It was such a toxic relationship (on both ends) and I am so thankful to have been able to get out when I did.
I simply responded with: "@awardsforgoodboys"
He knew what I meant.
Busting Mama's Boy
" 'Is you dad a boxer? Cause you're a knockout.' Wow you've really backtracked, huh? You're using corny pickup lines now?"
Found the texts to other women he started cheating on me with on his messenger. He blocked me and told me his mom would be the power of attorney handling his divorce. That's what happens when you marry a mama's boy I suppose.
Stress Me Out
"Yeah we definitely can't be together anymore since all you do is stress me out."
Backstory: This was 2 years ago and we were both young. Teenage relationships, I know. Our parents were friends. For the majority of our relationship, he'd always say he would kill himself if I left, which is why I never did. One day, I addressed this with his mother and all she said was "He's just joking! Just take care of him for me." or something along those lines.
I made a few dumb jokes about drugs and piercings. I remember my mom would attempt to talk his mom into breaking us up. One morning, she called her and they spoke about it. His mom brought up the drug jokes and claimed that I said that I wanted to do drugs. My mom called me to ask if I had said that; she absolutely believed I didn't.
I was in school at the time and I was furious so I dumped him right there. To this day, he hasn't replied. His friends tell me that he didn't know if I was serious or not after I blocked him and deleted him off of everything.
I remember coming home from school that day and ripping up every single thing he had given me and threw it all in the trash. I threw the necklace he gave me in the trash as well. It felt good.
Government Owned Body
I messaged her on Instagram, telling her I'm leaving for basic training soon and I'd like to write her, with her permission. I told her that though my body belongs to the government, my heart belongs to her. She left me on read.
Rehab
GiphyI hadn't heard from my ex for at least a couple of months at the time. She texted me unexpectedly saying "I finished rehab and will be back in town soon!"
and I said: "Ok, maybe now you won't be so crazy." and that was it. I had no idea she had gone to any kind of rehab and was no longer interested in seeing her in any capacity.
- BondraP
I Don't Get It
My last, like, three texts to her were: "I just don't understand what happened."
She tried explaining. I didn't understand. Finally she just said: "I don't know how else to put it in a way that you'll understand, you don't make me happy anymore and he does."
I responded again that I didn't understand. I still got no clue, but that was 5 years ago so that one will probably just remain unanswered forever.
The Pajama Shirt
"That ok. You can keep it or throw it away."
He was trying really hard to get me to come to pickup an old shirt I used to sleep in because I left it at his house. I think it was originally his anyway. I didn't want it and I didn't want to see him again, he really creeped me out at the end.
Puppy
We had been together for three years before our relationship hit hard times. After a few months of him "needing time" and not replying or getting in touch, he sends a text asking how me and our puppy were doing. I replied: "Hi:) After careful consideration puppy and I have decided that we no longer need or want to keep in contact with you. Wish you well."
Its pretty much exactly one year ago, and he still wants to get back together, but to be honest its way too late and he was way too much work.
Dubstep
"Lol wtf is that???" after her sent me a sample of his dubstep music. I had no idea he made it otherwise I probably would've been a tad nicer.
Die. A Lot.
"You're gonna be told to die a lot. LOL"
We had a son together and this week is his sixth birthday. He loves watching us play video games and loves even more to tell us what to do; usually things that involve killing the character because he wants to see what happens when you do different things in the game. She said the plan for his birthday was to play Zelda and let him tell her to do whatever.
But out of context, that text to my ex is hilarious, hahaha
- NavarreVal
Dog Crap
GiphyMy ex wouldn't leave me alone after breaking up. He kept wanting to be friends and every few months would try to text me and wasn't getting the hint when I would say don't f****** message me.
He sends me a Snapchat of something I gave him years ago and said "Why does this remind me of you?" I sent back a picture of dog crap with the same caption.
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.