Listen to your words. You may think you're being kind but in actuality you're just being a menace. A compliment is from the heart and it doesn't come with comparisons. Compliments stand alone as pure. Think about what you say.... really think about the choice of words, before you speak. Then you'll understand why people can be ornery.
Redditor u/Squoody wanted to know about all the things they've been told by people that were meant to be praise but somehow... was not... by asking....
"You actually look good!" The emphasis on 'actually' and the surprise in my friends voice still haunts me. pat_patrol
Being awarded "Most Improved" three years in a row. ToastAndASideOfToast
I'm number one in seasons played and games played. I've been the record holder in these categories for a long time.
It's like getting a participation trophy, but with a "#1" on it. Brawndo91
My friend was complaining about creeps hitting on her, then she told me "I wish I could be invisible like you." meri_28
My hot friend and I used to go to the same cafe across the plaza from our office for coffee several afternoons per week and order the same drinks. Every single time, the barista would light up and say, "Hi, [friend's name]! Small flat white today?" and then I would walk up to the register and have to give him my drink order and my name. Every. Time. So I feel your pain. jerusha16
Be a 4!
Says someone else is super ugly, then "You're even prettier than her!" The-Berger
I told my friend genuinely that I think I look like a two. She told me without a beat and in a definite tone "no you're definitely not a two, you're a four" and I don't even know how to respond to that. cresentlunatic
"Wow, you look so cute today! I didn't even recognize you at first." lazyginger
"Wow you're really good! I bet you could even play guitar if you wanted"
Said to me, after a gig. I'm a bassist. WastaSpace
The drummer. EyeSpyNicolai
Like thanks bros.....
You're so funny! Now I get why she's dating you. nails_for_breakfast
Like thanks bros, I know she's beyond me. Teglement
"Why did I say that?"
Someone told me I have a voice for radio, I said thanks I have a face for radio too and they enthusiastically said Yeah, you do! motorbike-t
If they're anything like me, 5 hours later, sitting horrified in their bedroom, "Why did I say that?" lol BabyMrPeanut
"I like all sorts of people."
"You know, it's really great that society is so much more accepting of your kind these days." Marionetteberry
Oh, man. So a few years ago, I went with a friend who was bringing her special needs daughter to the dentist. She had 3 or 4 other kids at the time, so I went along to keep the other kids busy.
We're in the lobby after, and the girl who had the appointment was in her wheelchair and super happy. This lady leans over, fusses a but, and then coos, "I like all sorts of people." I was young enough to just be stunned into silence. Her mom was gracious about it, but WOW, lady, shut up. siel04
"At least you don't look like a boy anymore" - when I was growing out my hair more. OkDuck1
That is until they stumble and land on their face.
It turns out what they were resistant to accepting in the first place was accurate all along.
If only they listened.
Curious to hear of other people's growing pains, Redditor TinyUnderstanding948 asked:
"What lesson did you have to learn the hard way?"
You can protect yourself with these reminders.
Leave A Paper Trail
"Any monetary or business agreement needs to be in writing!"
Observing The Fine Print
"Read the contract."
Generally speaking, business relationships and friendships are mutually exclusive.
"Not everyone you work with is your friend."
What Venting Led To
Consumers who were previously taken advantage of have the following advice to pass along.
Splurge On Good Quality
"Buy it nice or buy it twice."
"This is 100% accurate but needs a disclaimer: expensive does not always equate to nice."
The relationships we have with people are complex, but you may want to keep these in mind.
Extending A Lifeline
"You can't have a relationship with someone's potential."
Achieve Mutual Adoration
"Loving someone doesn't mean they will keep loving you."
And when it comes to your health, listen up.
"Drink plenty of water."
"Ended up at the ICU with an IV drip for severe dehydration."
"DRINK YOUR WATER!"
While advice from the people we care about comes from a good place, they are not always appreciated.
At least for me, I've found that picking myself up and dusting myself off was most effective.
That has to come naturally.
"What’s the most out of line thing a doctor has every said to you?"
Not Going Mental
The wrong treatment after a misdiagnosis can be a doctor's serious mistake.
"I was petrified. Went home in tears and absolutely petrified."
"Then my dad took me to his doctor, who took a biopsy."
"It was just a random skin growth and she cut it off then and there."
"Too Young" For Cancer
The "Sad" Pill
It's even more unsettling when someone you entrust your life to crosses a line.
Assessment Or Pick-Up Line?
"Mental health doctor told my daughter, 'You're too pretty to be depressed.'"
A NSFW Observation
Mom To The Rescue
The Gynocologist's Love Advice
The Gyno Who Jumped To Conclusions
Going to the doctor's office for any reason can cause a lot of anxiety.
Hopefully, you're in good hands with a physician who is professional, as well as compassionate.
Growing up, I had zero idea that the food I ate daily was "cultural."
She had to explain it because we were about to eat at a white friend's house for the first time.
"What do you mean there's no rice with the beans? Did they run out? Should we bring some?"
"No, they just don't eat rice and beans."
"So what do they eat with their chicharron de pollo?"
Y'all should have seen my face.
Reddit user remyleboi00 asked:
"Non-Americans, what is the best 'American' food?"
Even as someone born in America, it took a while before I got familiar with American food.
So if it's just not your comfort zone - let Reddit guide you to the can't miss dishes.
"Cajun food. Definitely the most unique American food"
"As an American I 100% agree with you. Cajun food is heaven sent"
They Are Fundesperate housewives eating GIFGiphy
"Curly fries 👌"
"It’s especially good with some pulled pork and caramelized onions mixed in. And some insulin."
"Solid choice. We Americans LOVE cheese."
"No need to apologize. One of our favorites too."
Thankful For Thanksgiving.I Love You Cooking GIF by Bob's BurgersGiphy
"We also get spoiled with your traditional cuisine."
"I usually get a food coma on Thanksgiving"
"Same with the ham or prime rib dinner at Christmas. And all the pies. God I love pumpkin pie."
"I smoke meatloaf, can't go back to oven baked ever again."
"This tread has me wanting to smoke a brisket sooner rather than later."
"Now, pork and chicken, whatever else... Go nuts... Just leave beef alone."
"I had smoked mac and cheese once, it was heavenly."
Risk It Allhungry bart simpson GIFGiphy
The Holy Pudding
"I can’t find someone who’s listed it so"
"That shit is LIFE CHANGING"
"Gotta have the Nilla wafers or it isn't right."
Cornbread!cornbread cooking GIF by emibobGiphy
"A nice warm cornbread muffin with some butter and a little drizzle of honey is amazing."
"Cornbread with a nice bowl of chili is such a nice comfort food."
"And the spicier the chili the nicer the sweet, buttery cornbread is with it."
"Farmer’s market jam is the way."
"It's easily top 3 greatest sandwich ever."
As American As It Getspulp fiction breakfast GIF by MIRAMAXGiphy
"Took them to my favorite little spot, they loved the waitress filling up their cups unprompted."
Now that youve heard Reddit, it's my turn.
I was 22 before I had meatloaf and mashed potatoes.
FAM. Fam. Faaaaaaaaaaam.
Keep your greasy pizza, amateurs. It's potato time over here.
"How does someone politely end a conversation with a person who won't stop talking?"
Extricate Yourself Immediately
"When they draw a breath, politely say:"
""On that note, I must be on my way.""
Then, simply leave."
Couldn't Get Him To Shut Up
"But some people just need to talk for whatever reason. I need my freaking silence."
Put It In Writing
Put Them (Back) To Work
Taking Care Of Each Other
Talk To The Door
Take Your Turn
Create A Deadline
"My entire dad's side of the family are the type that never stop talking."
No Need To Feel Bad