Listen to your words. You may think you're being kind but in actuality you're just being a menace. A compliment is from the heart and it doesn't come with comparisons. Compliments stand alone as pure. Think about what you say.... really think about the choice of words, before you speak. Then you'll understand why people can be ornery.
Redditor u/Squoody wanted to know about all the things they've been told by people that were meant to be praise but somehow... was not... by asking....
"You actually look good!" The emphasis on 'actually' and the surprise in my friends voice still haunts me. pat_patrol
Being awarded "Most Improved" three years in a row. ToastAndASideOfToast
I'm number one in seasons played and games played. I've been the record holder in these categories for a long time.
It's like getting a participation trophy, but with a "#1" on it. Brawndo91
My friend was complaining about creeps hitting on her, then she told me "I wish I could be invisible like you." meri_28
My hot friend and I used to go to the same cafe across the plaza from our office for coffee several afternoons per week and order the same drinks. Every single time, the barista would light up and say, "Hi, [friend's name]! Small flat white today?" and then I would walk up to the register and have to give him my drink order and my name. Every. Time. So I feel your pain. jerusha16
Be a 4!
Says someone else is super ugly, then "You're even prettier than her!" The-Berger
I told my friend genuinely that I think I look like a two. She told me without a beat and in a definite tone "no you're definitely not a two, you're a four" and I don't even know how to respond to that. cresentlunatic
"Wow, you look so cute today! I didn't even recognize you at first." lazyginger
"Wow you're really good! I bet you could even play guitar if you wanted"
Said to me, after a gig. I'm a bassist. WastaSpace
The drummer. EyeSpyNicolai
Like thanks bros.....
You're so funny! Now I get why she's dating you. nails_for_breakfast
Like thanks bros, I know she's beyond me. Teglement
"Why did I say that?"
Someone told me I have a voice for radio, I said thanks I have a face for radio too and they enthusiastically said Yeah, you do! motorbike-t
If they're anything like me, 5 hours later, sitting horrified in their bedroom, "Why did I say that?" lol BabyMrPeanut
"I like all sorts of people."
"You know, it's really great that society is so much more accepting of your kind these days." Marionetteberry
Oh, man. So a few years ago, I went with a friend who was bringing her special needs daughter to the dentist. She had 3 or 4 other kids at the time, so I went along to keep the other kids busy.
We're in the lobby after, and the girl who had the appointment was in her wheelchair and super happy. This lady leans over, fusses a but, and then coos, "I like all sorts of people." I was young enough to just be stunned into silence. Her mom was gracious about it, but WOW, lady, shut up. siel04
"At least you don't look like a boy anymore" - when I was growing out my hair more. OkDuck1