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First dates are tricky. At their best they can be a great fortune-teller, predicting something amazing coming your way. At their worst they'll make you want to flip the table and run screaming from the restaurant like the backs of your shoes are on fire.

So we're talking about the "flaming shoes" variety of first dates today.


Reddit user, u/Kiwicarebear. wanted to hear the thing that breaks the ice a little too much when they asked:

What's a first date dealbreaker for you?

Excuse Me, I'm Here TOO

If it's a one way conversation, me asking them questions and taking interest in their life and them asking none or minimal questions about me.

TheJadedSF

Excuse Me, Do You Make A Mistake?

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Is anyone else put off if they're too, I dunno, clean?

I don't mean dirt, I mean like, their performance. I want a person to occasionally say something stupid, or ramble nervously, trip over their words, drop something, spill a drink, misinterpret a facial cue/hand gesture. If someone doesn't make a few mistakes I start to wonder what the hell their game is.

Zeruvi

Excuse Me, Your Ex Is Here?

About a month or two ago I matched with a girl on tinder so we decided to go on a date but when I asked her what she wanted to do she turned down everything I asked then she said we're going to eat at a restaurant called Maria's (a Italian restaurant) I liked there food so I said sure. We get there and it turns out that her ex that she hasn't gotten over yet worked there and she was awkwardly flirting with him.

So I was already thinking about ditching but we already ordered so I decided to wait I went to the bathroom and her ex followed me I was think 'shit am I really about to fight some dude in a bathroom' but when the door closed he said "dude leaver her she's crazy had to brake up with her after a week because I caught her poking a hole in the condoms we bought".

Needless to say I ordered separate checks and that pissed her off and she said she didn't have any money I said too bad gave the guy a tip of 20 bucks for the save and decided to sit out in the parking lot she had to call her mom (or so I assume it was some older lady) to come pick her up and give her money.

unicornmeatman

Being late.

I'm not talking a few minutes late, I'm talking a half hour late or anything later than that.

VorpalBender

Excuse Me, We're Not Connecting

If we don't hit it off as friends. I haven't been in the dating world for a long time and everyone's a bit nervous on a first date. But if we couldn't just talk about movies and video games and goofy sh!t together, just have a relaxing time chatting without everything feeling like a weird competition or pageant, I knew it wasn't gonna work.

Also, people who get way too pissed off over disagreements in media taste. If casual disagreements -- not core values disagreements, just casual disagreements about gameplay preferences or special effects quality or how good the writing in a novel is -- make the other person red-faced angry, I'm moving in the other direction.

rednightmare18

Excuse Me, Really?

Interrogating you over previous relationships based off of information gained from Facebook stalking.

For an hour.

Combataz

Excuse Me, I Only Date Reds

If she greets me at their door wearing a furry outfit. I'm not against people being furries, I just don't want to go down that path, yet if ever.

shreddedkittentacos

Excuse Me...That'll Do It.

I went out with a guy who said he's never broken up with a girl because if you're "getting good nookie all the time, why would you give that up".

So probably that.

eventhestarsburn

Excuse Me, What?

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Being married.

Bringing your friend to the date because you were nervous.

Bragging about your knife collection at home.

Never knew these things would come up in the first dates I've been on, but here we are.

pelicanfriends

Excuse Me, I'm UP Here

Being constantly on their phone

actualclaudemonet

I had a date who was constantly snapping and messaging other people (mostly dudes) on our dinner date. She told me she was multitasking.

Go multitask your way out of my life while you're at it please.

Kiwicarebear

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