I love to travel and that's definitely something I miss in our post-COVID-19 world. My experience in different countries has shown me that there's nothing quite like speaking with the people who live there. They can tell you so much about the country and acquaint you with it in ways that you might not get from news coverage. The news coverage might be lacking, as a matter of fact.
After Redditor PRPNKSKAI asked the online community, "What is something f***ed up about your country that foreigners might not know?" people weighed in. Their responses are quite revealing.
Lost children from Francoism. Basically babies would be stolen when they were born and parents would be told that their newborn baby died.
Indigenous women in Canada have been subjected to forced sterilization in public hospitals, going back many decades and into 2018. That's seriously f***ed.
United States - I don't think people talk enough about how f***ed up the private prison industry is. There are private companies that own prisons and get paid based on how many prisoners are there. There was a case a few years ago where a judge was convicted for making a deal with private prisons to give people harsher sentences so that they could keep the prisons full.
Similarly, there are private companies (i.e. Amazon, Costco) that use prison labor for their companies, which is beneficial to them because minimum wage laws don't apply to prisoners, and in some states it's legal to make prisoners work and not pay them at all.
Homophobia and racism is the norm here. People are only friendly to foreigners because they expect something in return. Police can just shoot you in the street and frame you for drug dealing/using, it will be a sloppy job, an obvious one, but nothing will happen, hell, some people will actually believe him. To name a few.
Brazilians may not be as friendly and nice as people would like to believe, unless you are, well, white. We can be fickle, mean, egotistical, and racism is quite common countrywide.
People don't realise how my country was stolen time and time again by the Normans, Anglos and more recently the English. They tore up our land, oppressed our people and took all the resources. Now we are a joke. There was a huge Christian revival here that people went nuts for and built dozens and dozens of amazing (and now derelict) chapels amongst slums. Our language was deliberately quashed with people being beaten for using it. Children were punished if they spoke our native tongue.
Belize: the murder rate is obscenely high. Right after i moved out of there, two kids burned an old man to death on a sidewalk near my old house.
Often portrayed as a friendly and hospitable nation. The amount of religious bigatory in the west of my country is appalling. Things are improving a bit with the younger generation (under 20s).
- Where 7% of population are alcoholics (in 2015.).
- Second place in EU in violence against women statistics (almost 50% have faced some type of violence after age of 15).
- Most racist country in the EU.
- Country where people kinda forget we were Nazi allies during the last years of WWII
- One of the bloodiest civil wars in the 20th century, based on deaths/population ratio.
- Forced sterilisations of transgender people are still required by the law
- High suicide rates
- People are lonely, and creating meaningful connections and relationships is hard
Just to mention a few.
Mozambique. The country has been ruled by a party dictatorship since independence, Frelimo being the ruling party. The government is corrupt and is scamming the IMF. They are also killing their own people up north due to the natural gas underneath the native lands, and they are calling it casualties of a civil war between political parties when the opposition leader has been dead for two years.
People always romance the machismo and women being very housewife/family oriented.
Reality: There is a lot of domestic abuse and sexual harassment of women. In very rural areas it's very common for men in their 30s to seriously flirt and pursue relationships with teenage girls. Sadly most of society in Mexico either ignores this problem or promotes it. Age of consent is way lower in parts of Mexico.
This why it's very easy to spot the difference between a Mexican-American male and a Mexican male, by just seeing how they treat women or behave around them.
I know this, because my whole family is originally from Mexico and I have traveled back and forth from the US and Mexico through out my life. And I'm constantly around Mexican immigrants and Mexican-Americans. This is why I'm very aware of these issues.
I don't mean to shame my fellow Mexican men, I just want this disgusting behavior to change.
Even many Dutch people don't know this:
During WW2 there was a famine (the Hunger Winter) and everyone knows people ate sugar beets and other weird stuff to survive, and pets were eaten too. Well, many small children also went missing around this time, and although it was claimed that they had been sent to the countryside for their safety, some were never found.
It has never been said outright, but many people from that time had suspicions that children were abducted and eaten.
We stick our refugees in detention camps on smaller islands so they're out of sight, out of mind.
Jamaica is one of the most bloodthirsty countries in the world. I used to live in Kingston and not a day went by without fear of getting shot to death on the way to primary school.
I live in the Cayman Islands now so I'm fine. Especially without the constant stress.
Over a period of eight years, we have had thirteen government changes and five different presidents.
Politics in French Polynesia is completely f***ed up. Like the majority of the people my age living outside of the country, I stopped remembering who was the president because it could change at any given time.
Ireland- the long list of abuse of power by the Catholic Church and related organisations, more recently the mother and baby home in Tuam. Not for the faint of heart. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bon_Secours_Mother_and_Baby_Home
We have the most strict anti-abortion, anti-drug, anti-LGBT laws in the whole region. Some politicians proudly call our country a Catholic stronghold among the sea of evil.
A man in my country has beaten his wife to death and his only punishment was a 133$ equivalent of fine (iT wAs HiS fIrSt OfFeNcE!!)
Another woman then speaks up about her husband beating her and gets fined by the same amount of money.
When I say Kenya, you probably think of safaris or maybe even the Lion King's "Circle of Life" intro song. Some people might even think of poor, destitute and starving Africans. We're a lot more than just one thing.
- Under colonial rule, many Kenyans were sent to concentration camps and endured torture for years until independence. We're talking Nazi tactics by Britain, after WW2, across the African continent. We learn about the horrors of the Holocaust in school but not so much is taught about the murder of Africans by Europeans during the same period.
- Kenya is deeply divided along tribal lines and although the younger generation denounce it more, it is still prevalent especially around elections.
- Kenyan politicians unlock a new level (depth?) of corruption every year.
- The police are partial to Caucasian expats and rich people. If you don't have any bribe money or are most in need of protection by the police, you are more likely to be a victim of the police.
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"What makes someone bad in bed?"
WHERE TO BEGIN?!
The list is endless.
Half the time all it takes to be better is a little effort.
RedditorMidoriSpicewanted to hear about the lack of skills some people really need to acquire when it comes to sexy time. They asked:
"What makes someone bad in bed?"
I love sex. But it can be stressful. I've always found connection to be one of the best lessons.
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"Assuming they already know what their partner wants/likes and doesn't communicate or take any instructions."
Take it Slow
"No foreplay and not caring if your partner is enjoying it."
"I had an ex who literally never wanted to do any kind of foreplay. He just wanted basically sex of any kind for him. He said oral on women was gross."
"Proposing mid intercourse."
"Honestly? With the partner I have, I'd think it was pretty hot and romantic lmao. I'd check in after the deed to make sure he was serious but our relationship is already very serious so it wouldn't be a big deal."
Talk to Me
"Not talking or making any noises. We don't have to dirty talk the whole time or even at all but you gotta let me know you're enjoying it at least."
"I think there's some balance between having some small talk, silence, and dirty talk while being in bed with someone. Or maybe that's just been my experience. I don't know--I think there's some fun in trying to carry a side conversation while having sex lol."
"Friction isn’t always a good thing."
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"To this you can add unclipped fingernails."
"And dirty fingernails. Nah, ma'am. I’m betting this is not worth the infection. Thanks."
‘good at sex’
"I have a feeling most men will say 'lack of enthusiasm' and that most women will say 'being selfish about pleasure.'"
"I’m a woman and my first thought was lack of enthusiasm, but my own lack of enthusiasm. The only bad sex I’ve had is when I don’t genuinely want to be there. I’ve had sex with guys who weren’t ‘good at sex’ but still enjoyed it because I was really into them."
"They are convinced they know more about what works for you than you know yourself. Just cause your ex-lover Pat liked technique X doesn't mean everyone does."
"Have experienced this, it sucks. He wouldn’t listen to what I enjoyed, didn’t want me to say ANYTHING even if it hurt or wasn’t working, and would just say something along the lines of 'every other woman I’ve been with liked it.' I’m thinking, all you’ve had are one-night stands, really, so they probably didn’t say anything."
"I’ve had numerous partners and love sex. Crashed and burned with this one and he really crushed my self-esteem and sexual confidence."
"The biggest thing is always going to be selfishness and the inability/refusal to communicate and listen to your partner. I've seriously had a guy yell 'I KNOW HOW TO DO IT!' when I was trying to tell him how I liked whatever he was doing. He then got even more upset when I said 'did you just f**king yell at me? Alright, off, I'm done.'"
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"Lack of variety. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean crazy kinks or positions from the karma sutra, but more when it's really predicable. I has an ex that had this weird routine of positions, it was exactly the same every single f**king time in exactly the same order."
Sex. Let's be better at it.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Love is so elusive these days isn't it?
Who knows what anyone is looking for in the relationship department anymore.
It's all too exhausting.
But people we keep trying.
RedditorProblemNice5257wanted to hear why so many people are still on the hunt for that perfect one. They asked:
"Why are you single right now?"
I'm single because I've given up. And I'm good. For now.
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"I put absolutely no effort into meeting someone."
"Same! Also it's extremely difficult when you feel so at peace being by yourself. The fact that I have to find someone whose presence outweighs my level of comfort being alone seems impossible."
"Hard to meet people when you are a hermit."
"Yeah, I describe myself as a shut-in, lol. I leave my apartment to work, I leave my apartment to buy food, and occasionally I’ll bring out the trash, otherwise I just watch Hulu, play online chess, surf Reddit."
"Same. I've spent months trying to find an apartment I can afford without a roommate and finally settled on a small studio apartment for $1100 a month because I'd rather living in a tiny space and be left the hell alone than share a much nicer place even with a good friend."
"I have too many unsolved issues, i can't in good conscience bring someone else into them."
"Idk your issues but everyone's got some crap. Not sure how unique yours are but everyone's got some crap. It's good to share some of your struggles with other people. Just don't open with it haha."
"Issues unresolved or not, (in my case) only makes it worse when you feel like you could open up to them, and they just take those to use it against yourself afterwards."
"I hardly go out and expose myself to people. I'm uncomfortable with the notion of myself being in a relationship at this point. Also, I'm very dry in terms of personality."
"I spent a year entirely isolated due to covid and now I can't handle physical contact. It makes me really uncomfortable and a hug is enough to make my body shut down. I'm hopeless."
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"Supply chain issue."
"Best answer here."
That's funny. But it feels oddly true.
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"I'm attracted to many, and unattractive to all."
"Last relationship was so toxic, I've sworn off dating, at least for awhile. I haven't had this much free time in ages. It's nice."
"Edit: Hey, it's really great hearing from so many people with similar experiences. Like many of you, I've been taking it in stride and focusing on bettering myself, both physically and mentally. It's done wonders for my health and I feel a whole lot better. I wish y'all the very best. Stay excellent, my friends."
"I'm 35yr old single father to a 5yr old and I work nights. It's hard to find free time to meet someone, especially in my area. If I do have free time to myself, I like staying home and ordering a pizza while drinking some beers and playing video games. I pretty much faced the fact that I will probably be alone for the rest of my life."
"I was in an 8 year relationship (married for two) to my high school sweetheart. Exactly this same time last year, we got divorced because I found out he was cheating on me with my best friend. The best friend I had known LONGER than him and was friends with since fourth grade."
"She was living with us to try to get back on her feet. Yeah lol. So I lost my best friend and the man I had been with for 8 years within the same night. So I moved to another state, got an apartment by myself, and am now single and divorced all by 26. Not really looking unless the right person comes along."
"It’s pretty happy and peaceful now that they’re both out of my life though honestly. You realize people’s toxicity and flaws the most once you get space away from them."
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"Because my relationships end before they even begin."
"This is my story right here."
Alright. Now that we've laid out all the excuses, let's get to matching with some people.
There is no bigger mystery than what happens to us after we die.
But even those who don't practice an organized religion tend to believe that there is a Heaven, a happy joyful place where our souls will remain for eternity.
No two people share the same idea of what heaven would be like, but everyone who believes in it probably has an idea of the first thing they'd do after entering the pearly gates.
Redditor WeDidItGuyz was curious to hear what would be top on everyone's list upon entering the afterlife, leading them to ask:
"If heaven exists, what’s the first thing you’d do?"
Overcome with joy
"In all reality?"
"Probably cry for about 30 minutes because the biggest existential fear at the very core my humanity has now been lifted."
"If Heaven exists, like 50% of the awesomeness is just the very fact that it exists."heaven gate GIF by South Park Giphy
A re-match long in the making
"Ask my childhood friend Kevon for a race."
"He used to beat me handily when were younger (9-13) and he’d always brag."
"When I got older and faster I moved away so I was never able to race him again."
"We arranged for a race but he was shot multiple times and bound to a wheelchair until he passed a few years ago."
"I wanna race him both in our prime."- Abethegreat1
Reunite with loved ones
"Find my husband, give him a huge hug and never let go again."
"Live our forever together."
"I f*cking love him and miss him so much."- jessdfrench
"Embrace my sweet wife and tell her how proud I am of the kids."- RifleShower
"Try to find my brother."
"Man, I miss him."
"He died in 2020 at age 34."- grummlinds1
"Give my mum and dad a big hug."- goonerjack007Miss U GIF by GIPHY Studios OriginalsGiphy
Achieve the "firsts" we never got to do
"Find my son and have a beer with him."
"Something we never got to do in real life."- tanukis_parachute
Hone new skills
"Try to play Smoke on the water on my harp."- Ashtar-the-Squid
The joy of doing nothing
"Rest."- BanzaikoowaidCare Free Black Girls GIF by AuroraDrawsGiphy
Live on without pain
"Enjoy my healthy back without pain."- Knackbein_
Who knows what's in store for us after our lives come to an end.
But living with the idea that something wonderful awaits when our time has come is all people need to continue to live their lives to the fullest, and treat others with the respect and kindness they deserve.
"Fun facts" generally refers to a tidbit of information about a specific topic which the general public might not have otherwise known about.
But the first word in that term can be misleading.
Indeed, some "fun facts" reveal information that isn't remotely "fun" in the slightes.
Redditor Alternative_kachocho was curious to hear some "fun facts" which were anything but fun, leading them to ask:
What's a 'fun fact' that isn’t fun at all?"
Ironically, something you likely don't think about...
"Your brain blocks you from feeling your organs moving around inside you."- Aydengeist06
Try watching Finding Nemonow...
"Only one in a thousand sea turtles born actually make it to adulthood."- Sebs_123
Shocking new light on an age old classic
"In the books, Stuart Little was never explicitly called a mouse."
"He's pretty much described as a deformed mouse-esque person born form human parents."- Red_Beard47stuart little mouse GIF by VIASAT3Giphy
Nature running it's course...
"There's a bird that feeds its younger offspring to the eldest."- Teacup_Cult
I have no allergies... yet
"Speaking from personal experience here, but your body can randomly decide to become allergic to damn near everything edible at any time."
"Not very fun."- smallemochick
Those poor, innocent creatures.
"In some regions of Australia, 90 percent of koalas have chlamydia, which poses a threat to the species' extinction unless a vaccine is created or widespread koala culling takes place."- tiffanyjcrusekoalas kiss GIFGiphy
They'd still be here if they weren't so delicious...
"The giant tortoise was so delicious, it caused not only itself to be hunted to extinction, but also the dodo."
"Giant tortoise meat was supposedly better tasting than chicken."
"It's fat tasted better spread on bread than butter."
"Also, it was the perfect food for sailors at the time, as their bladders stored 1 litre of purified water, and they could survive without food in hibernation for almost a whole year in the hull of a ship."
"Not to mention, because they evolved without humans, they were easy to hunt."
"You could tie one to your back, and roll another to the ship and they would just let you."
"It was so delicious, they went unrecorded for a long time because expeditions to bring living samples of wildlife to Europe kept eating them on the way."
"Conversely, the dodo, while as easily captured by sailors, tasted awful."
"It was completely unpalatable."
"HOWEVER, one day, someone discovered if you cooked dodo meat in the more delicious tortoise fat, it tasted just like chicken."
"So now, sailors were hunting a few tortoises at a time for their fat and water, storing them, and then hunting dodos on the daily."
"Overhunting, plus the introduction of rats to the environment (because sailors) which would eat eggs, led go the population to decline at a rate they could not breed to keep up, leading to both animals going extinct."- Kyhan
Don't forget the nose plugs
"Antarctica smells like penguin poop."
"Antarctica is a desert, it is too cold for bacteria to live."
"Nothing there to clean up penguin droppings."
"If you are close enough to see penguins, you will also smell them."- gummby8
Makes those long lines so worth it...
"The TSA missed 96% of contraband during an inspection in 2015."- omegasix321All Falls Down Tsa GIF by Kanye WestGiphy
"The person who had the first facial transplant had her face chewed up by her Labrador dog while asleep due to sleeping pill overdose." - User Deleted
It's hard not to read some of these "fun facts" and wonder if there should be an alternative term for the facts which aren't fun.
Oh yeah, probably not....