Social cues are hard to pick up on.
Everyone behaves differently, and we have our own unique ways of expressing ourselves. Still, human nature is human nature. When it comes to attraction and courtship, people have been expressing themselves in the same ways for thousand of years. Sometimes, attraction to another person is shown unconsciously like through body languages, or purposefully through learned behaviors.
Redditor u/rbyscrm was feeling a little confused about the rules of attraction, and decided to ask, "How do you tell if someone is attracted to you or just being very friendly?"
10. It depends on where you live
"Depends on where you live. Here in England, being anything other than cold and aloof is seen as basically throwing yourself at someone."
9. Look for how they act around other people
"If they act the exact same way with other people, you're out of luck."
8. Some people are just being nice
"I was once called into HR for allegedly flirting with an employee (not part of my own team). Her proof? I was always friendly, offered her milk to go with her coffee, and worst of all once at an after work, I bought a round of drinks for everyone (her included).
The head of HR was a bit puzzled about the whole situation, and asked her what would she then suggest we do to resolve the situation, and she requested that I would stop being friendly to her - and just leave her be.
This poor woman just could not accept that I was being friendly."
7. It's in their eyes
"The eyes chico, always the eyes"
6. Listen to body language
"I've noticed women that have been interested in me, have started a random conversation with me, like asking advice, about something. If a women compliments you on something, could be your eyes, or your jacket, or pretty much anything, that might be a clue. Women play with hair, or adjust it more, making more than usual eye contact, also if you are sitting next to them, and their knees are pointing a bit towards you, that is a sign."
5. Delayed realizations happenGiphy
"Usually the realization comes 10 years later when you are trying to fall asleep."
4. They'll make time for you
"Assuming the person is single or triflin'. You ask to see that person again in a different context and the negotiation for available time and date is quick and mutually complete, no 'just friends' overtone about it.
Thursday at 8? Not available. Not into you.
Thursday at 8? Not available but what about Friday at 9?"
3. You'll never know if you don't ask
"Pro tip, you'll never know if you don't ask."
2. Reddit holds the answers
"By reading someone's comment on Reddit about how they missed all the signs and then you realize that the same thing happened to you and now you lie there contemplating your life."
1. Dad was right about thisGiphy
"As my dear old dad used to say: 'Women who work for tips are NOT flirting with you'"
"As a woman who works for tips, I second this."