People Share Their Biggest Dealbreakers In A Relationship
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Relationships that end in heartbreak should not be taken as a loss. It's a gain, with the right perspective. You will have learned a little more about what you can accept in a relationship and what you will never tolerate. This knowledge can be taken forward into your next coupling, where you hopefully are now wise enough to draw lines in the sand. Well...hopefully.


Reddit user, u/basicAVERAGEgorl, wanted to hear where you draw the line when they asked:

Excluding cheating and lying, what's your biggest deal breaker in a relationship?

You Should Be Able To Apologize

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Not being able to say sorry/resolve problems level headedly.

If I can't bring you an issue without getting yelled at or you making yourself the victim, forget it

HarpyCisco

Please. Use Deodorant.

Really bad hygiene

hellapringles

Yep! If I have to suggest that you go shower, I feel like a parent more than a significant other. And I'm not talking the occasional situation where you're really tired, put it off until the next morning or such, I mean consistently going 3 days without one.

ProudMomma1

I Mess Up, Too

Denying my faults and insisting I'm perfect. Might sound weird, but it puts on a crazy amount of pressure on you.

xdeathbyskittlesx

Sometimes, It's You

Failing to see that you have a hand in your own misery.

When everything bad is always "happening to you" it's likely that it's (at least to some small respect) your fault.

austinmonster

Care About Me Or Not At All

Indifference.

If I love you, I'm going to try to make an effort to show you. Forever. If it's not working, I'm going to try to understand why it's not working, and figure out if there's something I can do differently.

If you're not willing to meet me half way on that? Deal-breaker. (In my experience this is quite common)

Also - I have found that this kind of apathy tends to infect the rest of that person's life. Like - they don't live life with any real passion.

supermodern

Not Everyone Is After Me

Really bad jealousy towards the opposite sex.

I've seen it happen, guy gets a SO, she kept giving him sh-t for being around women, he stopped going anywhere because he got tired of getting constantly checked up on and didn't have the guts to have a real discussion about it. Finally they break up. It wasn't healthy for him, or for her.

I also I knew a guy from my hometown that "isn't allowed" to hang out alone with a woman. Now that I think about it, it's probably because he cheated.

greenburg

It's Merely A Physical Expression

Using sex as a weapon...

donedoneitonce

This.

Sex isn't a currency in a healthy relationship -- it's an expression of love, and simply a fun activity.

If somebody's withholding sex to get their way on some issue, or if sex is being given as a "reward" for something, then it devalues sex and turns it into a trade commodity. =/

Luckboy28

Enjoy The Moment With Me

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An unwillingness to make an effort to enjoy my interests with me.

If you tell me your favorite album, I will listen to it. Your favorite movie, I will watch it. If you wanna go dancing, I'll go with. I just expect some effort back.

SometimesYourTheNeil

We Aren't Connected At The Hip

Being judgemental with how I spend my free time + expecting me to spend 100% of my free time on you

iammaxhailme

Leave That Stuff In School

"Tests."

Mature adults do not run tests on their partner's loyalty, responsibility, kindness, spirituality, whatever the hell. That sh-t is for children playing house.

tajtooseey

What's the biggest dealbreak you have when you start dating? Share it with us!

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I know, surprising, right? Maybe we've all just gotten used to brands selling things of questionable quality that when we stumble across something worthwhile it stuns us.

Hold on tight when you find a brand deserving of your loyalty!

People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor spwf asked the online community,

"What brand(s) do you swear by and why?"
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Let's just toss them out, shall we?

People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor Levels2ThisBrush asked the online community,

"What should be socially acceptable but isn't?"
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Lucky for them, it's delicious either way.

One could make an argument that foods that are equally delicious hot or cold are perhaps the best, or at least the most reliable.

And this can include foods which are not customarily sold both hot and cold (cold pizza anyone?).

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"What is something that tastes good both hot and cold?"
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