Why do we feel the need to apologize? It's the act of coming together, to reconnect over a dispute that might have created a gap between you and the other person. It's difficult, opening yourself up like that, to be as exposed as a blanket in a tornado. This type of overexposure means it's easy, and rather obnoxious, when you see that the other person is clearly not meeting you halfway with a real, heartfelt apology.


Reddit user, u/anuwub-tch, wanted to know when to call someone out on their fake attitude when they asked:

Let's Start With The Worst Of The Worst

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"I'm sorry, but....."

Captain_Shadowhawk

You're Lack Of Self-Esteem Is Not An Excuse

When they pull the "pweeze don't hate me I ALWEDDY HATE MYSELF ;m;" crap.

MyDongIsAWiFiHotspot

I mean, I hate myself too, but that doesn't mean I have free reign to go around being a d-ck to people.

Aperture_T

Putting Out The CAll

"If anyone was offended..."

And

"I'm sorry but if you hadn't done what you did, I wouldn't have had to do what I did."

ChicagoBiHusband

A variation on the latter is sometimes used by racists to justify racist actions.

"If you didn't call me a racist, then I never would have done HORRIBLY_RACIST_THING!"

TechyDad

We'll Talk Of This NO FURTHER

Apologizing while simultaneously shutting down all discussion.

WhyTellYouAnything

Stop dwelling on the past, we need to move forward.

madogvelkor

When They Have More Important Things To Do

Saying they're sorry in a rushed way and then immediately going back to whatever they were doing (staring at their phone, putting headphones back in, playing video games etc). Like they just wanted you to get over it so they can get back to their lives.

Abazableh

The Worst Kind Of Aggression

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passive-aggressive tone and wording or just add things like "you wanted me to say sorry" or "so what?" in their apologies.

LookusB

A Lack Of Understanding Why

Not being able to articulate exactly what it is they are apologizing for, or their understanding of why it upset you.

ZeroGhost8

The Non-Apology

"I'm sorry you feel that way"

8_______D

This. The non-apology.

ThreeToTheHead

When Nothing Changes Coming Out Of It

Unchanged behavior

EDP528

Yup, this. Right here.

An apology is like a good joke. It loses its meaning the more you use it.

JAG-01

Making It All About Them

"I'm sorry, I'm such a terrible person, I suck so bad, blah blah, comfort me I'm the real victim here!"

halcyonmeadow

In This Day And Age? All The Time.

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I'm making a 20min video with 5 un-skippable ads.

hud406

Basically stating that I'm sorry for getting caught,and the good ol'"I would never do the thing I'm obviously guilty of doing ...." then the "I was very young ......I was very different back then .....", "Im disappointed in myself ......" And finally ,"I'll learn and do better ....not really " then sometimes obligatory donation to which ever sub-group was offended and "I'll be taking a break ."

mbasakosani44

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