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There's no right way to be a parent. Regardless of the thousands of parenting guides out there, most of the time you're leading by the seat of your pants. You can only hope the info you give your kids is enough they don't take to Reddit to share what you didn't teach them...like these parents!


Reddit user, u/Sinnivar, watned to hear what blind spot your parents gave you when they asked:

What is something you wish your parents taught you from a young age?

Wait...Water?

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How to cook. Really struggled when I moved out.

AwesomeGirl6213

Bro, I set fire to pasta because I didn't know you had to put it in water.

AwesomeGirl6213

Don't Be Afraid Of Your Feelings

It's OK to cry. They always would scream at me

ooyahee

There's something about releasing all those tears that is really therapeutical. Having a big cry can be so important sometimes, damn parents.

scraulle_the_twisted

The Key To Denial

How to say "no."

As a kid, saying "no" to our parents will earn us punishment. It took me until I was in my low 20s to learn how to refuse or walk away from situations that I didn't like or that made me uncomfortable.

Anon0fTheNorth

You Learn This From Your Folks

How to have a healthy relationship with your significant other.

ScrunchJeans

A...Checkbook?

How to handle money.

redjellybean1

I was on the other side of forty before I learned how to make and follow a budget. Life is SO much better now and we'll never get back into the deep pit of debt we used to live in.

MyKidCanSeeThis

Not Everything Can Be Chips, Dear

The importance of nutrition and diet.

From a young age I was never aware of the damage of sugar/fried foods. I used to eat poorly growing up. It wasn't until the age of 20 I started learning more about the importance of it. Changed my life

cocometcleo

Again, What's Money?

Taxes

sshrimpp

So true, I had to take business class to learn this. I feel like it should be compulsory for all students to learn.

amwad_

There's A Reason For Everything

WHY I was supposed to do things like keep my room clean.

I started keeping it clean in college and my stress levels dropped dramatically. If I was ever told as a kid that cleaning up your areas had benefits other than just keeping mom from yelling at me when it got too messy, I might have done it more. Instead of not doing it just to be a defiant little sh-t.

skinnyanglerguy

What Goes Where In What?

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I wish someone had "the talk" with me. I went to a Catholic school for 14 years and none of the adults in my life ever told me how sex worked, so I learned everything I knew from a combination of asking my other catholic school friends who didn't really know what they were talking about and from looking up words like "breast" in the dictionary.

I'm married now but my wife is still teaching me how sex works

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Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.

He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.

Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?

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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.

Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.

However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:

"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."

Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.

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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.

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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.

Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"

But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.

And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.

So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.

That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.

Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:

What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
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