People Reveal The Things They Never Believed Until They Happened To Them[rebelmouse-image 18355415 is_animated_gif=
When we are young and our bodies fully agile there is nothing in life we believe is impossible. Our elders constantly warn us that this will happen and that. There are also so many life events that occur that we think couldn't possibly be that bad or could happen to us. Until it does. And we discover more than we had ever wanted through personal experience. Which is the only true way to learn.
Redditor cutietomlinson asked reddit_, _*What's something you never understood or secretly doubted until it happened to you? The results are in. *
GRANDPA SAYS TAKE A NAP.
My grandpa used to tell us that kids weren't allowed to be tired, only adults. I didn't get it until I was in my late 20s. Which was around the time he gave me permission to be tired.
LONELINESS IS A GIVEN.[rebelmouse-image 18355417 is_animated_gif=
That it would be hard to socialize/make friends after you are done with school. I always thought it was exaggerated and I would be able to meet people just as easily my whole life. But now I just wake up, go to work, eat/cook, and then sleep or watch something. It's hard to find the time and place to meet friends and converse with people. It's even harder finding a significant other.
DON'T TOUCH MY STUFF![rebelmouse-image 18355418 is_animated_gif=
Getting burgled doesn't just suck because you lose stuff. What's actually worse is that it is a serious violation of your personal space, and to be made to feel like you are not safe in your own home is horrible, and can lead to paranoia.
THE NEED TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST.[rebelmouse-image 18355419 is_animated_gif=
I never understood why people stayed in abusive relationships until it happened to me. Your partner does something violent, you brush it off as them having a bad day and give them another chance. They apologize, tell you they love you. After this happens enough times, you convince yourself (because of cognitive dissonance) that they have other qualities that make staying with them worth it. Or that they're improving when they are not. It takes a lot to admit to yourself that you've let yourself be manipulated into loving a monster and that you deserve better.
OH GIRL MY FEETS![rebelmouse-image 18355420 is_animated_gif=
Plantar fasciitis. Before I was like "big deal, your foot hurts". Had no idea it was like suddenly stepping on broken glass. Over and over again.
NOSTALGIA MATTERS.[rebelmouse-image 18345190 is_animated_gif=
I had a family nickname growing up that I was embarrassed about. Just before I left for the service, I jokingly told my dad that I looked forward to being called by my actual name.
He told me that one day, when you hear someone call you by your nickname, it will fill you with warmth and joy instead of embarrassment.
He was so right.
JUST BREATH. IN, OUT....[rebelmouse-image 18979172 is_animated_gif=
Panic attacks. When my sister thought she was going to die and wanted us to call an ambulance or go to the hospital, I couldn't believe someone was so dramatic. Then I had my first panic attack and thought I was going to die. I've had maybe 5 since then and logic does not work when you're having one. Knowing all this doesn't help at all.
THE BODY DOESN'T LAST FOREVER.[rebelmouse-image 18979174 is_animated_gif=
I went through the majority of my life just not believing that people suffered chronic back pain. My back would occasionally get stiff or ache if I slept on it all wrong or something, but lying flat on the floor and elevating my feet for about half an hour always fixed it right up. "It's not nearly as complicated as people make it out to be," I would say. "It's just bone, muscle, and cartilage. The back is no different from a knee or an elbow. It's just another joint."
Last year I was helping a friend move, and I hurt my back while we were lifting the sleeper sofa. I figured I'd overstressed a muscle or something, no big deal. I went home, I rubbed Icy-Hot on it, applied a heating pad, and went to sleep. When I woke up, it still felt pretty bad, so I laid flat on the floor for a while. To my utter horror, I found myself unable to get up. Trying to roll over was agony, and just raising myself to a sitting position was completely out of the question. Eventually, I managed to scoot myself over to the sofa where, with an unbelievable amount of pain, I managed to get back on my feet. I don't want to say I was standing, because my knees, waist, and lower back were bent, which was the only position I could manage without wanting to cry.
To make a long story short, the doctor I saw took some X-Rays and ran some other tests and told me I have degenerative disc disorder. Apparently it will only get worse as I get older. The episodes will be more intense and more frequent, so at least I've got that to look forward to.
The worst part is that I never know what's going to trigger another bout. Last time it happened, I was going to sit on the toilet. The time before that, I was standing at the kitchen sink filling a water glass. I'm terrified every day that I'll have another episode. So to everyone I was dismissive of when they said they had chronic back pain, I'm sorry. I had no idea.
TOOTH PAIN IS WORK OF THE DEVIL![rebelmouse-image 18979175 is_animated_gif=
I always figured they were annoying, of course - headaches are similarly annoying, and people complain about them too.
Nope. I couldn't believe how completely debilitating tooth pain can be. It's all you can think about and it's all you feel. I was legitimately thinking about taking pliers and tearing that EVIL out.
LEGS DON'T FAIL ME NOW![rebelmouse-image 18979176 is_animated_gif=
Restless leg syndrome.
My dad used to complain about it keeping him awake at night. He kind of likes to complain and I was sure he was just whining about nothing. Seriously, restless legs? What a crock. Then I had it when I was pregnant.
The worst thing is how stupid it is. You can't even explain it. I had a friend with dysplasia when she was pregnant. Bones separating makes sense as something that should bother you. Me? I was regularly in tears - not a couple glistening tears, full on streaming ugly-cry tears - because I was sitting. It's impossible to explain. No pain at all, but absolutely unbearable. It's frigging nuts.
THE BEGINNING IS ALWAYS THE WORST![rebelmouse-image 18979177 is_animated_gif=
I still don't know how anyone ever gets a first job, and I've been at my current job for 5 years.
OOPS![rebelmouse-image 18346341 is_animated_gif=
Always thought getting fired would be liberating, and better than quitting.
Boy, was I wrong. Being fired was one of the worst feelings I have experienced in my life. I totally thought i'd be like "Yeah forget that job!!" Instead i was more like "What did I do WRONG?!" D:
CARTOONS AIN'T REALISTIC? SAY NOT SO![rebelmouse-image 18979178 is_animated_gif=
What happens when someone gets their purse stolen. Cartoons always made it seem so over the top and campy almost, with the woman screaming "help! He's stolen my purse!!" like your typical damsel in distress.
A month ago I was at Applebee's and a woman got her purse stolen and that's exactly how it went. She got it back though!
MOTHER NATURE AND HER DAMN MOODS.[rebelmouse-image 18979179 is_animated_gif=
Seasonal affective disorder. Then I moved away from florida.
D-I-V-O-R-C-E[rebelmouse-image 18979180 is_animated_gif=
The way divorce of your parents affects you. I obviously knew that it sucked but I just didn't realize the way it sucks... I guess because everyone experiences it differently.
When my parents got divorced it felt like someone died. Like my family died and all I could think about were all the things we'd never do again.
CHILDREN FIRST[rebelmouse-image 18347054 is_animated_gif=
How utterly concerned and protective you can be towards your kids. (For most parents. The shitty ones, not so much - of which there are plenty of examples here on Reddit and elsewhere, I know...)
When I was young myself, my mom always told me: "You will understand once you have kids yourself." Yeah, sure, mom, but you know I'll be fine, right? Jeez. And then you have a child of your own. And the most primitive urge arose to just protect that child from all the evils and harms of the world. You know, wrap in cotton and never let them get hurt, ever.
Of course, the sane part says: "Of course the kid must go out and run around and fall and get hurt and then you kiss it and clean it and bandage it and tell them you love them." And I let them go out and do stuff even if it sometimes really scares me: they go off alone, with friends, they go swimming, they go to high school for the first time (I live in The Netherlands, they go to high school when they're twelve). They surf on the internet and I have to trust them enough not to read diaries or their Whatsapp and so on. And I do. I just tell them: "Be safe" and I see them nodding and thinking: "Sure, mom. But you know I'll be fine, right?"
But I understand now, mom. I really do.
PEOPLE AREN'T ALL GOOD... SAD TRUTH![rebelmouse-image 18979181 is_animated_gif=
That there are people who, for a good time, go for a night on the town, to find someone to beat up. They're not trying to find someone who also wants to fight, they're not looking for someone who provokes them, it doesn't matter what you say or do or what you look like - these people just want to punch another person.
It's still hard to believe they exist.
ADDICTION IS A REAL DISEASE.[rebelmouse-image 18352271 is_animated_gif=
I think a lot of people don't realize how intense drug withdrawals are and how sometimes they can keep you trapped. I think people have heard the idea you can lock someone in a room for 3-5 days and they feel better when they come out or so.
Alcohol withdrawal for example can kill you. It gets pretty crazy.
LIKE SANDS THROUGH THE OUR GLASS... THAT'S HOW FAST IT FALLS.[rebelmouse-image 18979182 is_animated_gif=
When adults would tell me "it feels like I was your age just yesterday" I always just took it as one of those random things adults like to say, but now that I'm older....time is literally going so fast. Faster and faster each year. Weeks feel like a day or two to me now. They were so right.
MUSIC HEALS THE SOUL! ASK ADELE.[rebelmouse-image 18979183 is_animated_gif=
Why anyone would want a bunch of musical instruments. It just seemed dumb to me. Then I started to play guitar, followed by piano, and so far its been this downward spiral into wanting to be able to play and own every instrument in existence.
Short of having a shopping addiction, no one actually likes spending money on stuff.
Why would you ever willingly give it away? It's your money!
Which might be why it feels so bad when you have to spend money of something that should be free from the beginning. People/ corporations are going to chase that cheddar, though, so there's little you can do besides complain, which frankly might be the best thing the internet is for.
"What should be free?"
Let's get these out of the way first...No, let's get this first one out of the way first.
Hidden fees are the worst.
Hidden. F***ing. Fees.
"Transaction/processing fees when you order a digital product online. Such as a concert ticket, where you pay 6 euro extra while you pay online, and have to print the ticket yourself."
"Or processing fees to pay bills that you need. Duke energy charges a $7 processing fee for you to pay your energy bill. Like wtf."
Pay To Pee
"Public bathrooms! The amount of human piles of poop around because the homeless have no where to relieve themselves!"
"Live in a very tourist-y part of the U.K., all public toilets charge and most cafes/pubs/libraries won’t let people use their toilets. As someone who lives here year round it’s really frustrating and doesn’t seem to make sense."
Want A Better Society? Educate Them.
"College. Or at the very least, college APPLICATIONS. If you're gonna require it for most careers, atleast make it accessible for people. And I just think it's stupid that people have to pay to get rejected."
"Oh god I hate that so much. Same with applying to apartments it’s such a waste of money if you don’t get approved. It racks up quickly too."
It does feel grimy when "official documentation" that is "mandatory" has to be bought and paid for not by the people requiring it, but by the people needing it.
Forcing Us To Pay For Something We're Forced To Have
"ID cards issued by the government. Especially since you need them for almost every aspect of daily living."
"I'm not the biggest fan of free stuf but having to pay for a piece of paper that says "I exist" is ridiculous."
It'll never not feel bad having to pay for something we expect to be free, but it feels ten times worse when it's something you need to get by in life. As in, need to live.
Let's All Agree To Take Care Of Each Other
"All base needs up to a level. I mean stuff we need to survive, eg. power, water,... and things we are required to use to be relevant in daily life internet,..."
"Seeing how now power companies are fuel companies are having THE biggest profit in years while more and more families are pushed into bigger and bigger deths just to get by."
"Same goes for internet tbh, poor kids are just not getting by in school becasue they lack the basic stuff every other kid has to get further in life. I am not saying they need the fastest possible internet with unlimited dl, but give them so they can work for school so the vicious cycle can be broken."
We Need It More Than Anyone
"All mental health services. If you don’t have benefits or a VERY good paying job, they are unaffordable for how often most people really need them. At $120-160/ session even once a week is not affordable for most people these days"
A Fine Line Between Need And Want
"Drinking water, sure. But water is an expendable resource and it should honestly be more restricted when we think about cases like people watering their lawns."
Paying To Live
"Insulin. People are dying because of greedy pharmaceutical companies."
"But We're 'Pro-Life'" - Jerks
"Birth control of all kinds."
"For anyone who b*tches about spending taxpayer money, I'd ask whether it costs more to provide condoms or to house prisoners."
"Giving birth (In the us)"
"As a female US citizen the more I learn about the whole giving birth sh*t the less I want kids. My friend just had a baby, there were some complications. She is now paying off a 14k hospital bill! The lowest I have hears is 8k. 8k just to have a f-cking kid! For a country that is gung-ho about forcing women to have kids they have missed the mark completely."
Everyone is looking for their payout, and unfortunately sometimes we're the ones who have to give it to them, whether it makes sense or not.
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The worst part of having breasts is Florida.
I didn't even say large breasts. Just breasts, any breasts. Florida and breasts are mortal enemies sworn to battle one another into oblivion until the end of days.
In other states, you and your ladies can live a more peaceful life. Here in Florida, it's A Song of Sweat And Fire Ants.
Ever get tiny little jellyfish stuck under your side-boob? Happens here all the time.
Bikinis should come with a "Sand Lice, Your Titty Crease, And You" informational pamphlet.
Wanna jog? Hope you accounted for the fact that the air is soup and will chafe and cauterize your nipples.
Know what limits your field of vision, making you more likely to accidentally step on a snake and/or gator? Boobs.
Know what slows you down as you try to escape the angry reptile from the above paragraph? Also boobs.
Reddit user Saibotnl1 asked:
"What's the most negative thing about having boobs?"
Now take all this stuff they said sucked, and then put it inside of a steam oven filled with mosquitos. That's Florida.
And Florida is incompatibile with breasts.
Cardio Is HardioGIF by VIASWEATGiphy
"I love them but running can be a nuisance even in a good sports bra."
"When I go to work, there is a woman that usually runs on the shoulder of the road. I gasp at how much her boobs bounce. Isn't that doing damage to tissue? Painful?"
"Yes! I literally always hold mine when going up/down stairs so they dont bounce. Running is uncomfortable even with a good bra :/ "
"If it's a sports bra that holds you, it's so tight that it's impossible to get into or out of without a whole team of people like a pit crew."
"If you can comfortably get into it, it won't hold the girls for long."
"Cardio is just not worth all this."
"As a kid I wasn't fit enough for jump rope, but now that I'm older and have the big boobies it feels even more impossible to ever indulge in."
Literally In The Way
"They get in the way!!"
"Lately I've been getting frustrated with exercise. My personal trainer will say to hold something a certain way and I'll try but it's so uncomfortable because my boobs are completely in the way."
"She has small boobs so she doesn't account for them being in that space right in front of your chest."
"My English teacher in 10th grade was drinking water one day when a few drops landed on his shirt. He then complained about getting older and how he never stuck out far enough to get his shirt wet."
"I just sighed."
"4th grade. 4th grade is when I stuck out too much to avoid drips."
"So very much this."
"I refuse to do mountain climbers when my trainer suggests it, she started to get mad saying it's a great exercise. My retort was that I'd really rather not knee myself in the breasts as part of my workout."
"The lady has small boobs and replied that she had never thought of that!"
"Probably growing them."
"It hurts, and if you get big boobs young and quickly, it’s both physical and social agony."
"It hurts to grow them, first of all, your chest aches and bumping them against anything really hurts - and since they’re a sudden, large addition to your body, you’re ALWAYS bumping them on stuff."
"But the social aspect is worse."
"Your female family members comment on them slyly and smirk at your response."
"Your male friends look at you weird and you have to realize they see you as more sexual than girls with smaller chests, even though you literally cannot control this."
"Other girls can be nasty and jealous."
"Eventually I learned to manage all this and I like having breasts now; but from like 11-16 I was so frustrated and upset that I had developed them at all."
Two Volcanosrachael ray boob sweat GIF by First We Feast: Hot OnesGiphy
"The sweat and itch!"
"Also that they're like two volcanos, which isn't especially practical during summers or when you're a constantly hot temperatured person anyway."
"No matter what I try, the skin under my boobs never cools down!"
"Boob sweat is the bane of my existence when it's even a little bit hot outside - and sometimes even when it's not lol..."
"I hate the feeling of sweat on my boobs. I just put tissue between and underneath my boobs to hopefully absorb the sweat so it won’t start to itch and drip."
"I STILL am not able to remove them after a long day. Why?!"
"Why can't I just set em aside for the night, all done. Why hasn't technology advanced to this possibility yet??"
"Absolutely they would. The relief we would get ... oh my god it sounds divine."
"Maybe I wouldn’t be so b*tchy."
"I’d honestly probably only wear them for ren faire, and leave them at home the rest of the year."
"The double standard of girls with small chests and big chests."
"If you have a big chest no matter what you wear or do it's sexual. But for girls with smaller chests they can get away with crop tops or v necks or even swim suits."
"Lol the bigger girls who spent their entire grade school years getting sent to the principal's office for breaking dress code will agree with you."
"Loose shirts will tent and billow up in the wind as you walk-- dress coded."
"Tight shirts that don't tent but cling to your chest-- dress coded."
"And don't even think about anything but a crew neckline, or you'll be dress coded again."
"I always got in trouble for wearing dresses in school, but skinny Minnie wearing something even worse gets by no problem just because she doesn't fill it out the way I do."
ExpensiveHappy Music Video GIF by DJ MustardGiphy
"Bras are expensive and you need regular bras, sports bras, probably something special like a strapless or low back if you have a special occasion or something."
"And don't even get me started on women's healthcare ..."
"Stage 4 breast cancer patient here, and it costs me about an extra $5000/yr to stay alive if everything goes well."
"I just stopped breastfeeding and none of my bras fit anymore."
"I’ve just been wearing sports bras every day because I don’t even know what cup size I am anymore and I don’t want to spend a fortune replacing all of my bras."
"Plus if you choose not to wear bras for any number of reasons, you’re treated as deviant or an acceptable target of inappropriate attentions."
"Laying on your stomach can be tricky."
"Laying on your back can be tricky as well."
"And on your side."
"Just laying in general with big boobs is a hassle."
"However women in my life have found it difficult to get a decent back massage because of this. I've seen plenty of massage tables with head holes, but none with boob support..."
"Semi-suffocating yourself on the beach while trying to get some sun on your back is fun."
"The fact that I look like a walking refrigerator if I wear a loose fitting top, as it billows shapelessly around my body in an odd fabric rectangle."
"But if I wear something form fitting, I look like a lady of the night and am treated as such."
"OMG this !!"
"I feel like all my girlfriends around me have such a fashion sense and can wear things with such grace but I always look as you’ve described. Like either I look like a couch pillow or Jessica Rabbit."
"Sometimes I just want to cut them off honestly."
"Yeah I’ve been wanting a reduction since a was a teen because of the back pain and catcalling, and many people I know with a bigger chest feel the same way."
"I had no idea women hated their boobs so much! It honestly is shining a light on an idea I have never thought of."
Attempted MurderBlack Woman Breast Cancer Awareness GIF by Know Your GirlsGiphy
"They might try to kill me."
"Breast cancer runs in my family and I have to have my first mammogram this year at 36."
"My mom was negative for both BRCA genes but there are 6 others they’ve discovered since she had cancer that we haven’t been tested for."
"Insurance won’t cover me to test unless she tests positive for one."
"Fun fun fun."
"My mom died from breast cancer at 46. I started getting mammograms at 34."
"Luckily, I took the BRCA test and was negative."
"Constantly being sexualized."
"I’m the least sexual person but people assume I’m super sexual because of my body. And I hate it"
"Yup, I'm ace and I honestly just want them chopped off to be rid of the constant sexualization of my body."
"It makes me really uncomfortable."
"My friend in elementary school had a condition where she went into puberty super early and had large breasts by 3rd grade."
"We would walk together to elementary school every morning and get cat called a lot, but we were too afraid to tell our parents because we thought they wouldn't let us walk together anymore."
"She would have teachers make comments about them."
"When we were older she talked about how insanely awful and alienating it made her feel growing up. Her younger sister had the same condition, but went on puberty blockers for it."
"These pendulous bags of hell have destroyed my back."
"Even a decade after a reduction surgery, I remain in daily pain. And now as an added bonus they get to be misshapen, scarred horribly, and completely useless for raising a baby."
"I didn’t realize how heavy they are until I got together with girl with big boobs and woooooow they are heavy!"
"I got C cups in fifth grade and those f*ckers went all the way to G by senior year."
"My posture was/is awful and I've felt like an old woman since I was a teenager. I don't even want babies, so they're never actually gonna be useful either."
See what I mean?
They're kind of awful once they hit a certain size, and that size is pretty much ANY size if you're in Florida.
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There are humane ways to tell someone to go home after a... liaison.
How can one be so rude after being so intimate?
I'm not saying you have to snuggle and profess love, but damn, a quick... "thanks, I hope life is kind to you" goes a long way.
Redditor sumyungdood wanted to hear the tea about the times they had to tell a lover to take a hike. They asked:
"What is the worst way someones asked you to leave after sex?"
Tell me your worst. Mine our stories where I had find my clothes in the dark and sneak out naked.
A Late RunTom Hanks Running GIFGiphy
"Asked if he could drive my car to the gas station to buy cigarettes and when he came back he told me he left my keys in the car and it was running."
"An old friend invited me over for her famous beef stew. I got there, we fool around, had sex, then right after she handed me a tupperware of the stew and said 'you got sex and stew, now please leave.' Still not sure if that's the worst way I was kicked out or the best."
"Most of the people here didn’t get stew. You did okay!"
'is it that obvious'
"Went home with a girl from the bar. After we had sex, she said something like 'soooo... think you can get an Uber now? If not, I GUESS you can sleep on the couch for a few hours.' Here I was, sitting on some random girl's couch trying to find an Uber at 4 AM. Mercifully I did find one and when the guy picked me up he said 'so, your hookup kick you out?' I said 'is it that obvious' and he replied 'you weren't the first one I drove back to their car tonight and you probably won't be the last.'"
YummyHungry Taco Bell GIFGiphy
"Go grab some Taco Bell. You can eat it on your way home. Honestly it was better than the sex. And I don't even like Taco Bell that much."
I hate Taco Bell. And since reading this... I hate people.
Mrs. Robinson?Seduce Dustin Hoffman GIF by Top 100 Movie Quotes of All TimeGiphy
"She lit a cigarette, then looked at me for like 20 seconds, and said 'Well, bye.' I just got dressed and left. Never saw her again."
And you are?
"While dozing off, he gently tapped my shoulder, and said: 'Maribel, you can’t stay here.'"
"My name is not Maribel."
"See this is what happens when you don’t let people talk about Bruno."
"He got off me and started looking at pictures of other women on Instagram, and commenting on how much more attractive they were than me and told me 'oh yeah you can go now.' We were best friends for like two years up until that moment."
"I’m open minded but this is exactly why I often don’t trust male friendships. You could even be a lesbian and one moment of vulnerability they may take advantage of that. I know it’s unrelated but your experience made me upset and I’m sorry you had to go through that."
"He rolled over, grabbed his phone, and without even looking at me said 'find your clothes, you know where the door is' and just laid there on his phone ignoring me while I gathered my clothes and left. He tried texting me a few days later because he was drunk and horny so I told him 'you know where your hand is' and blocked him."
GrossParis Hilton Reaction GIFGiphy
"We were good friends for a few years before hooking up after a night of drinking."
"Halfway through sex he told me he can't actually do this because he wanted to get back with his ex and can't mess it up because she's the hottest girl he'll ever be with. He lived in the middle of nowhere and I couldn't leave until the morning so he made me sleep on the couch."
Wow. Some people are truly disgusting. How do you treat other humans this way?
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Most couples are inseparable and enjoy doing everything together, thanks in part to shared mutual interests.
But on occasion, some people in relationships go off in pursuit of one-sided pleasures in secret for various reasons.
These can range from going out to a vegan restaurant when the other person is a carnivore to seeing a Netflix show that is too violent for a squeamish significant other.
Because not every significant other may not share the same passion, Redditors TheTinRam asked:
"What’s a guilty pleasure you hide from your significant other?"
These Redditors needed some "me time."
"Everytime I go on a late night grocery run (once or twice a month) because I work nights, and my wife forgot to grab whatever, I add a $0.70 Mexican soda to the cart. It is just for me. It is something my dad used to get me on especially long days when I was a kid 'helping' him on jobsites. It is my tiny reminder of him."
Story For No One
"I write stories for years now, some of the times she thinks I'm working on the computer but I'm actually writing a story. There is nothing to hide but I just keep it to myself, none of my family members know I write stories. Till today I have written 56 stories (most of them are short)."
In The Wee Small Hours Of The Morning
"Staying up late for peace and quiet."
Chatting For One
"I talk to myself all the time, I was actually wondering last night if it was a really weird thing to do lol"
Naked And Sacred
"I will cruise the house butt naked and just do whatever the hell I want. About once a month. I won’t be able to this summer because the kids will be back in school, but come August, I’ll be naked and free again!"
Some people need to get out of the house.
"Sometimes I take the long way home and talk to myself in the car about my 'problems' - like Self Therapy. I put one earbud in so ppl think I could be on the phone."
"I get quite animated. It helps to get a stressful day out of my system before I get home and switch gears."
"My husband has gluten sensitivity. If he eats regular pizza, his stomach hurts for a couple of days after."
"Well, I don't, so sometimes I say I'm going for a run, and I do run.... to the pizza store, eat a slice, and run back."
Catching Up With The Boys
"Covid has messed it up for a bit now. But every 3 or so months the boys and I all get up like we are going to work at our respective jobs but instead all call in sick and meet for breakfast, then go back to our one buddies place for the day to hangout. Around 4 or 5 one by one we all head home for our normal arrival time."
"It's literally the only way for us all to get together reliably. Most of us have known each other for the better part of 30 years now, going way back to junior kindergarten for some."
"Twice I have let her know my plan for the day and twice I have gotten phone calls to come home early for what ever not some emergency. So now we do it secretly."
Some of the things people do behind their SO's backs is for endearing reasons.
"I don’t know if this is a guilty pleasure necessarily but I pretend to be asleep when he comes home from work because he always kisses me on the forehead."
"I love when she snores."
"She complains (only lightly) about my snoring all the time, and I always feel awful that I make it tricky for her to get a good night's sleep. When she's snoring, I know she's actually going to rest well, and it makes me happy."
Scent Of A Man
"Smelling his clothes. Not creepily, like his boxers. But when he lets me borrow a shirt or a sweater I’ll put it on and just revel in the smell of him on his clothes. If I recall correctly, it definitely wasn’t like this when we first started dating. It’s been over two years now and I only remember doing this around the 7 month mark. He smells really, really good."
The Forever Admirer
"I have a whole album of 'unflattering' pictures of her. Not really something I hide, but they make me happy. She’s so silly yet so beautiful."
They say that a couple that plays together, stays together.
That's all well and good. However, a significant other having some alone time should never be stigmatized.
My husband and I usually watch every TV show together, but I watch Netflix's Ozark by myself because I enjoy intense dramas, immensely.
It's not a secret. And he's glad I watch the shows that I want to watch on my own time–just like I encourage him to watch all those UFO documentaries that he's obsessed with, by himself.
No really, watch them without me.
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