There are limits to even the most giving and kind of human emotions.
Using up sympathy takes a lot of effort. But once you've tread past the point of "no sympathy," you can never go back. People can only feel for others to a certain extent, and if that person makes no effort to help themselves or others, that feeling quickly fades.
u/moedersx asked:
For which people you have absolutely zero sympathy?
Here were some of the answers.
She's Kind Of A Fixer-Upper
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I had a friend who would complain I think just for the sake of complaining. She would complain about how bad her situation was but wouldn't do anything to try to change it. I think she complained hoping that other people would come to the rescue and fix her problems.
I guess she soon found out that the real world doesn't work that way but then she started complaining saying that no one ever helped her. It's not anyone's responsibility. Either she takes the initiative to change her situation or she's lost the right to complain about it. That's just my opinion.
Grown Into A Monster
People who fail to teach their children to consider other people in society and then wonder why their child is unpopular.
A woman I know lets her child do anything she wants...never tells her off. This child is 10 and will get out of the car by FLINGING her door into the car next to it...and then the Mother shrugs.
As she grows, other parents don't want the child to come over to play anymore...because she's hard work, selfish and sly.
She wasn't born that way.
*Stares In Bullied Kid*
The bully who realises they're getting caught and plays the victim card.
Kid tackled me onto the pavement in 4th grade because he got mad I beat him in some dumb game at recess. We both went to the principal's and I was covered in blood and had to get bandages all over my arms. He started bawling his eyes out and I ended up having to apologize. I didn't know how well the victim card worked until that day.
Basic Abuse
People who treat customer-facing staff like they're nothing more than dirt on the bottom of their shoe. I don't care how bad your day/week/year has been, the moment you think you can use another human being as an emotional punching bag, I have zero sympathy for you.
Crazy Selfish Love
Those brides who make crazy demands on their wedding guests or on the wedding party then end up with only a few people coming to the wedding, or the wedding party bailing on them. Specifying what color you need to wear as guest, or the dollar amount of the gift to be given is one way to narrow down your guest list. Then you have the brides asking the bridesmaids to cut or dye their hair, or get extensions, or induce labor 8 weeks early so they are not pregnant during the wedding.
Inertia Is A Property Of Matter
Drunk drivers.
Also add people who don't wear seat belts because they think they're too cool for them
The thing a lot of people don't realize is that wearing your seat belt helps you maintain control over your own car while breaking hard. It's much easier to steer clear of a possible accident when inertia is throwing your chest into a locked seat belt rather than the steering wheel. Seat belt laws aren't only about protecting yourself.
Plagiarismo
People who take credit for other people's work and call it their own.
I manage a small auto repair shop. I quickly learned that the best way to keep customers happy and still have the techs in my corner was to acknowledge any fault or mistake my techs made with "I" and any success with "We".
The customers appreciate the personal acknowledgement of responsibility. It also keeps them from seeking out the mechanic that often times is still working in the back shop because they may lack the confidence, ability or desire to work face to face with customers.
The mechanics appreciate not having to deal with irate customers (although it's rare) and work even harder to do the job perfectly because they know what I go through in the front office for them.
Lining Up Relationships Like Jobs
People who cheat on others.
If someone can tell me the logic of cheating on the first person without just breaking up with them, I will pay you.
They want the fun of sleeping with someone else without losing their partner.
Don't worry about paying me though.
Pups Need Discipline, Too
"Doggy parents" who have dog behavior problems on their hands because they have no authority/structure.
Been dealing with one whose dog bit someone in public. They're acting like the dog's actions weren't "normal" to them and like the dog is an independent entity they have no responsibility for.
Sorry, you deserve the lawsuit. Train your dog and stop "pampering" them with no consistency or structure. End of rant.
AKA, Our World Right Now
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Leaders of companies that actively fight against technological progress at the expense of the environment and future generations. Also, tobacco companies. Basically, all people whose greed is motivation enough for them to be jerks.
The Unforgivable Curses
Rapists.
Nearly every crime has at least one situation where it's not completely immoral.
Stealing? You could be feeding your family. Murder? That person could have been abusive and it was the only way out.
But rape? There's literally no way to defend a rapist, and I think that once you've raped someone you're shit for life. Not a super controversial opinion but it needs to be said.
No Bullies Allowed
People who hold some kind of power over someone and use that to bully them. Whether it's through physical strength or access to information that could make the victim look bad, if you choose to go after someone for no reason other than it makes you feel big, you are a jerk and deserve the slap Karma's bringing down on you.
Not My Pig Not My Farm
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The person who decides to, against all logic, argue with the cashier about a problem that is clearly not within their paygrade. I genuinely hated people who seemed to blame me when their meal came out a little overpriced. Like, lady, I'm just reading what the computer is telling me.
The Thing We Should ALL Agree Upon
Anti-Vaxxers, they're some of the most self righteous scumbags I have ever met. They're like this all because some guy made a report that was so stupid it got his medical license revoked for 36 months?!? Like are you kidding me?!?! I thought they were ignorant at most, but them killing their own children because of a bull report is just psychotic.
My Own Soap Opera
If you create drama for yourself, you know what, I'm understanding. At first. Psychology is a thing. I get that.
But if you keep that up even after you've been made aware of it, if you continue to perpetuate messing up your own life because living a good life is something that will take away your all-important sense of martyrdom, if you start drama with other people and then blame them as the bad guys for calling you out on it (that includes pleading "But you know I have issues, so you should tolerate all the stuff I throw at you!"), if you ruin your own opportunities, jobs, friendships, etc. and then act like it's everybody's fault but yours, and just keep doing it, then I'm done. I'll help you stand up if you throw your self down - I will. But not if you do it again after that.
Can You Not Just Overcome It Sweetie? Haha:)
People who belittle depression. The "just look on the bright side of life," or "all I did was smile more" types.
There's plenty of worse people out there I have no sympathy for, but holy flip if those types aren't the most blissfully unaware people out there.
I have a constant fear of death. I wanna perfect the ending of "Death Becomes Her" so I can live forever.
Before
morbid death GIFGiphy"I'm not scared of death because of working in health care I was around it so much. I AM scared of what leads to death, however."
Full-Mulberry5020
Why now?
"Why should I be scared now of something that's only going to happen at the end of my life?"
User Deleted
"I did this cult thing called the landmark forum and I actually did like their “meaning of life”: the meaning of life is that there is no meaning. Life is empty and meaningless. There is no answer."
"Life is what you make of it and every persons answer is equally valid because there is no meaning to life. Life exists as, basically, an accident, we are all here by complete accident, there’s no great mystery, it’s all biology and you are 100% free to make life about whatever it is you want."
Conservative_HalfWit
Death and I are good friends...
"I was very sick as a child. Spent ages 7-20 in and out of hospital due to kidney issues. Lost a kidney at 28. Almost died during the surgery to removed the dead kidney due to blood loss. Had 5 surgeries back to back during the next 2 years. Twice they had difficulties bringing me out of anesthesia."
"Found my favorite aunt dead in her bed when I was 22. Watched my best friend die from a brain tumor at 30. Death has been a constant force in my life. Sometimes just on the edges waiting, sometimes unexpected staring me in the face. I'm not afraid because it's always been there. I now work in healthcare. Death and I are good friends."
Tiny_Teach_5466
No Worries
"Because it's coming for us all, sooner or later. So there's no point in worrying about it. I am much more concerned about day to day minutiae. The Lars von Trier film Melancholia starring Kirstin Dunst portrayed this perfectly. If there was an asteroid hurtling towards the earth, I'd probably be more preoccupied with worrying about whether I left the back light on or not."
Giallo_submarine
It's Over
The Lord Of The Rings Mueller Report GIF by reactionseditorGiphy"Because no one has ever made it out alive, and I was dead for an eternity before I was alive, and didn't suffer the slightest inconvenience because of it."
MarshallApplewhiteDo
I never thought about the before much. I hope the before is quick.
The Effects
Pray I Hope GIFGiphy"I hope that when my times comes it will be merciful. My uncle had a stroke, he is paralyzed. My grandmother is 91, but is losing all her memories of her life. Death does not scare me, what could be left of me before I die is what terrifies me."
M1ssy_M3
No Terror
"It’s like when the writer Nabokov said that he saw a picture one time, a picture of before he was born. It was a picture of his mother, his brother and sister that were older than him, but he had not been born yet. He said that when he saw that picture there was no terror in him, even though he was looking at a picture where he didn’t exist."
im_on-the_can
state of nonexistence...
"I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid of dying. Death is just the state of nonexistence I experienced before I was born. I don't remember it because I didn't exist yet. Death will be the same way. I just don't want the transition to be marked by pain and sorrow at things left unfinished. I want it to be quick, painless, and with me surrounded by love."
Wazula42
I'm Gone...
"Because once I die, I won't know it. I won't miss people or regret things or feel pain or sadness about anything. I might fear being sick and slowly dying, just having to live with the knowledge that it's all going to end and this is the last time I'll ever see the people I love or taste good food or hear good music. That sounds almost unbearable. But death isn't even a thing, it's just having done something (died)."
"It's like virginity, it's a made-up state of being that just says whether or not you've experienced a specific occurrence. Once I die, I'm gone. My corpse will be the empty wrapper I used to be in, just garbage to be disposed of in whatever way makes my survivors feel better. I'll be switched off. If I don't worry about what the light feels after the bulb burns out, why would I be afraid of being dead?"
SallyHeap
At Peace
Season 3 Nbc GIF by The Good PlaceGiphy"I’m scared now because I have young kids. Once my kids are old enough to be on their own I imagine the fear will subside and I’ll have a more relaxed approach."
User Deleted
Some very interesting perspectives. May it all calm peacefully and with great mercy for us all.
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I once had a guy ask me if I was willing to follow him into the woods, depending on the price of the meal.
Yeah. No steak is worth that.
Plans After...
Wait What Wtf GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"Thanks for the ride but I have a date with someone else, I figured you wouldn't drive me if you knew I was going on a date with someone else and I really needed a ride."
"Online dating, talked to her for a while, finally got the courage to ask her out and then she said that as we got there."
iareyours
Mirror Image
“'You look just like my wife!'”
catalinachild
"I did have a guy tell me I reminded him of his son. I don’t believe English has a word to adequately describe my feelings at that time."
UnicornMagicRainbow
"That would definitely do it."
chaotica78
Third Wheel
"'Hope you don't mind if my mother joins us.'"
ofsquire
"Actually had a girl do this on a first date because she had anxiety issues. Honestly wasn’t bad except that 90% of the time she was silent and her mom talked over her."
"I didn’t mind that much and wouldn’t have minded trying again when she was more comfortable except that she was let go at the company we worked at and she deleted her social media profiles and she never responded on her number. Ah well."
Seightx
Liar
Lying Simon Rex GIF by Simon Rex / Dirt NastyGiphy"'Hey bro aren't you gay? I made out with you last night.'"
"Random dude I've never seen before in front of my (f) date."
JHXC16
Was he lying though?
Filter Issues
"'You looked better on Tinder.'"
waqasnaseem07
"Isn’t it basic knowledge that everybody looks slightly worse than the worst picture you can find?"
no_user_ID_found
The Past
"'My ex used to do that too.'"
xxIvyOF
"Yep. I’ve definitely had two otherwise-decent-guy date-situations sour because the ex-comparisons just would not stop flowing. No woman wants to be seen as interchangeable—I’m not here to perfectly fill that ex-sized hole in your life. Focusing on the present moment and a future we could build together is a courtesy we need to grant each other in earliest dates of dating."
LarkScarlett
Powerless
"'I'm an alpha, you cant handle my top energy.'"
Midnightgay28
"I actually left a dude in the middle of dinner, in part, for saying this. I ordered an Uber under the table while pretending to listen to him. Went to the bathroom, and never came back. That was when I was young. Now I’d just say, 'How about we enjoy this meal in silence, before we head our separate ways.'”
UnicornMagicRainbow
Mommy...
"'Mother says I should be back by 9.'"
"Saying 'mother says' just feels weird."
bunnyrut
"That gives me Norman Bates vibes."
Werewolf_lover20
"'Mother says alligators are aggressive because they have an overabundance of teeth, but lack a toothbrush.'"
sodaextraiceplease
Obvs...
just kidding jk GIFGiphy"'If you were going to be murdered, what method would you prefer. Purely hypothetical. Obvs.'"
Specific_Tap7296
If it looks anything like a Dateline NBC episode... RUN!
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Or so you would think.
Do people still knit to pass the time? Are people actively collecting stamps?
It depends on who's asking.
Curious to hear about hobby trends, Redditor gizehgizeh asked:
"What are once popular hobbies that are slowly dying these days?"
Before we've become conditioned to living on our phones, these activities used to keep people occupied.
Before Texting, There Was This
"Letter writing."
– littlekingMT
Literal And Tangible Joy
"Well the internet killed pen pals for sure. I do remember I had a Japanese girl for a penpal maybe back in 2007 or so. I honestly don't remember how it started, pretty sure some website, but that was a fun experience. But now I can just straight up talk to foreign people real time, lol. But yea getting a physical letter that someone took the time to write and mail still is hard to beat feelings wise."
– skyburnsred
Model Trains
"When I was growing up, every town had a model train store in it. Now I have one in region and everything else has to be bought online."
– Hairy_Effective1172
Pretty Rocks
"Don’t see anyone playing marbles anymore, I had an awesome collection in school."
– sheeple85
"I had some marbles as a kid in the 90s. My grandma got them for me and I had no idea what I was supposed to do with them. I always imagined them as a thing kids in the 40s played with."
– Ryoukugan
People Were Moving Canvases
"Paintball has been dying a slow death since 2006. Sad, really."
– hobo_recycler
Before the general population began hating clutter, collecting was once a "thing."
Precious Coins
"Coin collecting... I'm a silver/gold nut and I'm always hunting for precious metal coins. whenever I go into a shop they get all excited because 'no one under 70 collects coins anymore.'"
– ThatFishySmell99
Post It
"Stamp collecting."
– spooky_scully_mulder
"Collecting in general, really. Of course there are still prominent collectors but it's slipped more into enthusiast and niche territory than being a popular hobby that you might expect anyone to have."
– iuytrefdgh436yujhe2
What A Gem
"Rockhounding was immensely popular back in the 1950's and 1960's. Personally, I think it's a fascinating and fulfilling hobby, but when I go to a meeting at a rock and gem club, I'm usually the youngest one in the room by several decades."
– filthy_lucre
People once enjoyed making things.
Admiring The View
"Stained glass. I learned how to make it from my old man, and my junior high art class teacher also taught it. Very few artisans are still around."
– brobeanzhitler
Metal Vocation
"Black smithing."
– kenworth117
"I bought a forge to try. It’s insanely hard work, and crazy expensive. I still haven’t finished a piece."
– DSentvalue
Scrapbooking
"Yeah. I'm watching the arts and crafts stores around me completely uninstalling their racks for specialty paper. Now the only thing they have is mega packs of repeating colors/images. To boot all the inclusions like papercraft/die-cut things, washi tape, scissors, stickers, etc have gotten so expensive I would rather go buy $5 bags at value village to get an assortment of things versus buying anything new. I really, really miss yard sales for the same reasons."
– Phantasmai
I envy people who have jobs that are basically their hobbies.
Not everyone gets paid doing what they actually enjoy and have a profound level of passion for.
If they do, kudos to them.
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