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Believe it or not, I don't know how to whistle, much to the surprise of just about everyone I know. I also can't blow a bubble while chewing gum, so I'm clearly a failure at life, right?

But at least I know how to do laundry and keep a clean home, unlike some of the people who responded to Redditor biomann when they asked "Adults of reddit, what is something you should have mastered by now, but failed to do so?"


"It has gotten worse..."

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Handwriting. It has gotten worse not better - peaked at 4th grade.

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"It's required..."

Small talk is the bane of my existence. It's required in so many social and business settings but I hit so many walls while going through it. I know the basic format, I know what people want to hear/discuss, but that doesn't stop from me being awkward as fuck some times. It's mostly because I hate small talk and it just feels so fake to me.

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"My taxes."

My taxes. I'm 32 and my wife still insists on doing them. Even if I did do them, she would redo them to make sure it was perfect.

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"Not letting..."

Not letting stupid people's opinions bother me. I get so many ignorant comments that I don't engage with because I think they're a waste of time. But I think about them anyway. Forever.

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"Making friends."

Making friends. But most importantly maintaining the friendship.

It just fizzles out. I wonder why.

I am an avoidant according to Attachment Theory. Maybe that's why.

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"I'm 44."

I'm 44. I was taught the wrong way to tie shoes. My shoes ALWAYS become untied unless I deliberately force myself to tie them the proper way.

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"Going to bed..."

Going to bed and getting up at the same time every day in a consistent routine.

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"Every time..."

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Every time I bite my tongue or the inside of my cheek, I am reminded how I still have not mastered chewing after decades of chewing daily.

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"Calling companies..."

Calling companies that send me my bills (phone, electricity, internet, etc) and investigating why there was an increase in my payments or an additional charge.

Basically that means I suck at confrontation, I'd rather sit back and just pay it than seek conflict and resolution even though I was in the right to do so.

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"Laundry."

Laundry. I mean, I can put stuff in the machine and add soap and press a button, but there are so many other ways to remove stains and sort delicates and iron shirts and extra buttons that do whatever, and I don't understand it. My in-laws can bleach stuff! I have no idea how to use bleach without destroying everything in sight.

Press start and the machine goes, that's what I know.

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Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.

He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.

Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?

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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.

Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.

However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:

"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."

Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.

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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.

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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.

Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"

But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.

And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.

So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.

That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.

Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:

What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
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