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People have a way of revealing their inner character in all sorts of ways. Perhaps the most effective way to glean whether someone is worthy of respect or not is not by what they say but by what they don't.

The burning question from Redditor Furious1988 was "What makes you silently respect someone?"

Turns out there are all sorts of ways.


"Owning up to mistakes..."

Owning up to mistakes or times when you acted immaturely/like an asshole. I always respect when people admit they messed up instead of backtracking or trying to shift blame.

themoonismadeofcheez

"I worked with a cigarette smoker..."

Being considerate of others. I worked with a cigarette smoker, who would hang his coat on his chair, rather than the coat rack everyone used. Someone asked him why he didn't hang his coat with everyone else's, and he said he didn't want his jacket leaving a cigarette scent on someone else's coat. A+ guy.

Organic_Bumblebee

"When they're completely unfazed..."

When they're completely unfazed by peer pressure and don't feel the need to conform to the groups social norms.

There is however a difference between being contrarian and tactfully expressing an honest opposing opinion.

codered434

"When I see folks doing something to help another person..."

When I see folks doing something to help another person without telling anyone afterwards.

packpeach

"Tidies up their table..."

Tidies up their table before leaving a restaurant. This makes it easier for servers or whoever is cleaning.

bluebanana95

"When they genuinely listen..."

Giphy

When they genuinely listen to you (or someone else in the room). It seems pretty rare for me to encounter nowadays.

Respectablemilk

"Standing up for someone else."

Standing up for someone else. Especially if they are in a higher station in life.

GroverFC

"When they have knowledge..."

When they have knowledge or a skill far above yours, are humble about it and even teach you to the best of their ability.

I respect my parents. I respect my most experienced coworker. I respect my martial arts coach.

Ordinary_Bra1n

"The older my parents get..."

Someone taking care of their aging parents.

The older my parents get, the more I want to smother them. I love them, but good god are they frustrating. When I see other people in the same position handling it like champs, I find it admirable. Bonus points when they don't have the same political and religious views as their parents. Because I feel their pain.

iamasecretthrowaway

"Being a decent human being in general."

Being a decent human being in general - being kind to strangers and service employees, performing little acts of kindness on a whim, giving someone a genuine compliment, standing up for someone else - those kinds of things.

Cyanide_Kitty_101

"Someone who always has a sense of humour..."

Someone who always has a sense of humour even in bad situations. They may not be happy on the inside but they still make the effort to make others feel happy and I love that about them.

OrwinBeane

"When they calmly remove their child..."

Giphy

When they calmly remove their child from a situation that they cannot handle (like when they're losing their sh!t in a grocery store or becoming overly-stimulated at a party/fair/amusement park).

SheaRVA

"When people become an expert..."

When people become an expert at their chosen skill.

I love to listen to people tell me about a topic they studied for years whether professionally or a hobby.

I appreciate the time they've committed to knowing as much as they can.

86753097779311

"Anyone that says 'please' and 'thank you'...

Anyone that says "please" and "thank you" to retail workers, food industry workers, and just being an overall good person to those who get the most flack. Many people treat those working in the service industry like servants who deserve no respect and seeing someone treat them like a fellow human being makes me smile. Also I may be biased since I worked in retail and I've seen and heard every insult under the sun.

Dried_Squid

"Someone who doesn't yell back..."

Someone who doesn't yell back when yelled at.

Someone who sees the good in people regardless of the shit behavior they receive.

Anyone who doesn't "jokingly" disregards opinions even if they were stupid.

DovesToRavens

"Putting people in their place."

Putting people in their place. If someone is being a dick for no reason and they get called out for it I respect whoever calls them out. We've got enough shit to deal with without people thinking happiness is illegal.

RosieGaymer

"But it makes me respect them..."

When someone helps someone else without expecting something in return. Rare honestly. But it makes me respect them for doing something for free just to help someone in need, major respect for volunteer workers.

Lasias

"I was cheering for him in my front seat."

Giphy

I saw a grown ass woman throw an entire bag of Wendy's out of her car window when she was done with it. A passing motorist practically slammed on brakes in front of her car, blocking her in, picked up the bag and chucked it back into her car. I was cheering for him in my front seat.

Sharri82

"When they can bow out..."

When they can bow out of gossiping or touchy conversational topics. I've yet to master this. Instead I resort to simply nodding, while offering no comments and then attempting to change the subject.

Ag3nTTeresa

"I've met a lot of generous people..."

I've met a lot of generous people, but when someone is able to just drop everything and be there for you when you have a problem, they earn all my respect.

lucasknie

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Life is hard. It's a miracle to make it through with some semblance of sanity. We are all plagued by grief and trauma. More and more people of all backgrounds are opening up about personal trauma and its origins. Finally! For far too long we've been too silent on this topic. And with so many people unable to afford mental health care, the outcomes can be damaging.

All of our childhoods have ups and downs and memories that can play out like nightmares. We carry that, or it follows us and the first step in recovery is talking about it. So who feels strong enough to speak?

Redditor u/nthn_thms wanted to see who was willing to share about things they'd probably rather forget, by asking:

What's the most traumatizing thing you experienced as a child?
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Being single can be fun. In fact, in this time of COVID, being single can save lives. But the heart is a fickle creature.

And being alone can really suck in times of turmoil. None of us are perfect and it feels like that's all anyone is looking for... perfect.

Now that doesn't mean that all of us are making it difficult to partner up. Sure, some people are too picky and mean-spirited, but some of the rest of us are crazy and too much to handle. So one has to be sure.

The truth is, being single is confusing, no matter how much we try to match. So let's try to understand...

Redditor u/Mcxyn wanted to discuss some truths about love and our own issues, by asking:

Why are you single?
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Whether you're an at home parent, a college student just leaving the nest, or a Food Network junkie, there are a few basic tips that everyone should know.

Chef's gave us some of their top tips for amateurs and beginner at home cooks that will really make a difference. They are trained professionals with years of experience in the kitchen, so they definitely know what we're all missing.

If you're looking to improve some of your cooking skills and techniques, but you're still learning how to boil water correctly, this list is for you.

Redditor BigBadWolf44 wanted in on the secrets and asked:

"Chefs of Reddit, what's one rule of cooking amateurs need to know?"

Let's learn from the masters!


What a common mistake!

"A lot of the time when people add salt to a dish because they think it tastes flat, what it really needs is an acid like lemon juice or vinegar."

- Vexvertigo

"Instructions unclear I drugged my dinner party guests and now they're high on acid."

- itsyoboi_human

"Yes! Or tomatoes. They're pretty acidic too and go with so many things. Our dinners are so much better once the garden tomatoes are ripe. Or if a dish is too acidic, oil/butter or a little sugar can help add balance to it."

- darkhorse85

"Like tomato and eggs. Every Chinese mom makes those slightly differently and I haven't had a tomato egg dish I didn't like yet."

- random314

"There's a book called 'Salt Fat Acid Heat' that comes highly recommended to amateur cooks."

- Osolemia

"Reading even just the first chapter about salt made a lot of food I cooked immediately better, because I finally understood salt wasn't just that thing that sat on the dinner table that you applied after the meal was cooked."

- VaultBoy42

"Salt is important for sweets. A batch of cookies without that little hint of salt doesn't taste quite right."

- Osolemia

Unfortunately, this tip might not be accessible to everyone. Many people who contracted COVID can no longer use their sense of smell the way they used to.

"Have a friend that lost his smell from COVID, and now he only recognizes if food is salty, sweet, sour or bitter."

- AlphaLaufert99

"Just wait until he gets his sense of smell back and a ton of foods smell like ammonia or literal garbage now. Yeah, that's fun... It's been 7 months for f*cks sake just let me enjoy peanut butter again!!!!!!!!!"

- MirzaAbdullahKhan

You can't take back what you've already put in.

"You can always add, but you cannot take away."

- El_Duende666

"I find people's problems usually are they're too scared to add rather than they add too much."

- FreeReflection25

"I see you also grew up white in the mid-west."

- Snatch_Pastry

Safety first!

"Not really a cooking tip, but a law of the kitchen: A falling knife has no handle."

- wooddog

"I'm always so proud of my reflexes for not kicking in when I fumble a knife."

"If I drop anything else, my stupid hands are all over themselves trying to catch it (and often failing). But with a knife the hardwired automatic reaction is jump back immediately. Fingers out of the way, feet out of the way, everything out of the way. Good lookin out, cerebellum!"

- sonyka

"Speaking of KICKING in. On first full time cooking job I had a knife spin and fall off the counter. My (stupid) reflex was to put my foot under it like a damn hacky sack to keep it from hitting the ground. Went through the shoe, somehow between my toes, into the sole somehow without cutting me. Lessons learned: (1) let it fall; (2) never set a knife down close to the edge or with the handle sticking out; (3) hacky sack is not nearly as cool as it could be."

- AdjNounNumbers

"Similarly, NEVER put out a grease or oil fire with water. Smother with a lid or dump baking soda in there (do not use flour, as it can combust in the air making things worse)."

- Metallic_Substance

How else will you know it tastes good?

"Taste the food."

- OAKRAIDER64

"Also don't be afraid to poke and prod at it. I feel like people think the process is sacred and you can't shape/flip/feel/touch things while you cook them. The more you are hands on, the more control you have."

"No, this does not include situations where you are trying to sear something. Ever try flipping a chicken thigh early? That's how you rip a chunk out of it and leave it glued to the pan until it's burnt."

- Kryzm

Here's one just for laughs.

"When you grab a pair of tongs, click them a few times to make sure they are tongs."

- Kolshdaddy

"People really overlook this one. You've gotta tong the tongs a minimum of 3 times to make sure they tong, or else it can ruin the whole dish."

- BigTimeBobbyB

If you're looking to get into cooking or to improve you technique, pay attention to these few tips.

Salt generously, add an acid to brighten things up, and don't forget to taste your food!

If all else fails, you can always order take out.

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As part of the learning process, children often do embarrassing things before they learn a little more about the world and all the different implications therein. While the inappropriate moment is usually minor and ends in laugher some instances are truly mortifying.

One such instance involved a little sister who was around 6 at the time. It was the 90s and at the height of the youth-focused PSAs (think the frying egg representing your brain). One type was a safety PSA about stranger danger. The speaker would remind the children that if a stranger tried to take you anywhere to yell “Stop, you're not my mommy/daddy" to raise the alarm.

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