Should you put a leash on your child when you're out in public? It's a divisive question, as Redditor Decawys learned when they asked the online community: "Kids whose parents used to put them on leashes, how are you doing today?"
"My older brother was abducted..."
My older brother was abducted in a mall when he was a toddler (not for long but long enough). It was a split second, my dad turned around and a lady grabbed him and walked away.
My dad put me on a leash in very busy places. I don't really see the big deal, I got to walk freely and he didn't have to worry about that split second.
To answer your question, I'm doing well!
"I once asked a parent..."
I once asked a parent why he was doing this, his son had severe ADHD.
He told me that he liked better to look like a dumbass with a son on a leash than having a dead son in the middle of the road.
I've never asked this question again and I will never ask it again either.
"I was put in one of those..."
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I was put in one of those harness things because I ran off and caught a pigeon.
I only try to catch them now.
"I didn't use a leash on my kid..."
I didn't use a leash on my kid, but my sister did on her youngest. The kid is bright and sweet, but she has ADHD and can't seem so stay on track for more than a minute. Since she was growing up in a highly congested German city, I'd say the leash may have kept her from being run over and killed. So she's doing ok.
"I had 2 older brothers..."
I'm over 50 but I seem alright.
I had 2 older brothers and one younger by only 18 months. My mom did the best she could. From when I just started to walk we lived in a house with no fence and beyond the yard was the train tracks. I had a harness with a long tether in the middle of my back. My mom would attach the tether to the clothes line and I could run around in our yard and my mom could look out at me from the back windows and do house work and care for my little brother. I was safe but still got to run around in fresh air.
"My mom attached an actual dog chain..."
My mom attached an actual dog chain to my brothers pants when he was about 3 years old. We lived in the country, and he was a runner. He could've been lost in the woods in a matter of minutes. It's funny to think about, my little brother, "chained up" in front of our trailer in the woods, but it gave him freedom to be outside without getting himself lost, or seriously injured or killed. And to answer OP's question, my brother is awesome. Educated, intelligent, productive, enlightened. Truly a stand-up guy with a normal, loving relationship with his mom.
"Just as adventurous..."
Just as adventurous as i used to be..
Little me would literally jump off a mountain to see what is down below.
My parents HAD to put me on a leash if we were going out until i was like 4.
"I was on a leash..."
I was on a leash when I was really little. One time we were out at the mall and I was on my leash and some woman came up to us to shame my parents, saying "How terrible, just like a dog!" So naturally I got down on all fours and started barking at her. Totally shocked her and gave my parents a big laugh.
I'm doing great today (and tbh I needed to be on that leash bc I would just go up to strangers in public and hug them/completely disappear in crowded places - it probably kept me from getting kidnapped lol).
"Fine."
Fine. I really don't understand why people think it's such a big deal. I got to run around feeling all independent like, and mum didn't develop chronic anxiety from my constant attempts to run into traffic. 10/10.
"My dad tried one of those out with me..."
My dad tried one of those out with me while I was learning to ski. It worked great until I went out to its fullest length and another kid skied between us and got clotheslined by it. We didn't use it after that.
"I was a wanderer."
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I was a wanderer. They got the leash/harness after I disappeared in a hardware store and they basically had to call a Code Adam. Turns out I was hiding in the sample kitchen cabinets, but one heart attack was enough for them.
I'm now a (mostly) functional adult who never stepped into traffic or got kidnapped. I would highly recommend it to anyone with a kid who's prone to wandering off.
"When I was 3..."
When I was 3, I walked into the men's bathroom (I'm a girl) at a train station. Apparently there was a serial killer/kidnapper abducting young girls at the time. I was found safe, but absolutely leashed after that. I didn't mind at all though. I remember thinking it was cool that mommy and I were connected with matching Big Bird bracelets (it was a velcro wrist leash).
"When I was a toddler..."
When I was a toddler there was the case of James Bulger, a kid that was abused and murdered by some teens after he wandered off when his mum was paying for something in a shop.
All of us kids regardless of behaviour got put on leashes, all of us were fine.
"Toddlers can't help..."
Just fine because my mom kept my dumb@ss from running into traffic or getting lost.
Toddlers can't help being dumb as f*ck; they haven't learned yet. I have zero issue with my parents walking me like a dog because I wasn't much smarter than one at the time.
"All my life..."
All my life, I have teased my younger sister about "You had to have a leash!!!" It was actually a harness, pink. I am over 50, and I can still clearly remember what it looked like.
About 5 years ago, my mom heard me make a teasing comment and turned around and said, she never wore the harness, only you did. Seriously, you know your sister never liked to walk from babyhood (foot problems). Why would you think she would ever run out in traffic? You were the one I couldn't catch.
I was horrified. Clearly, I was in denial for decades.
I'm fine now. Profoundly embarrassed that I randomly teased my sister for 40 years about it though, when it was actually me wearing it.
But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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