Having the emotional capacity to miss someone who might only be in the next room is a gift. Odds are, you might be in a relationship where if your significant other leaves it's a welcome break. Then, there are those who find it impossible to sever the emotional strands for even a short trip to the grocery store without longing for their s.o. Missing someone is real, no matter how far they are, but what about those on the other end of those feelings? What do you say if you just don't miss them?
Reddit user caldermody, wanted to know what to say when they asked:
When someone says "I miss you" and you don't miss them, what do you reply?
Speak The Truth As Best You Can
An ex said this to me a while back; i replied with "yes we've had a lot of good times together" etc so i didn't ignore the reaching out- but i didn't say i missed them back
I got something like this back recently.
I said "I have to be at XYZplace without you tonight and that's just sad" to which he replied:
"Aw, I appreciate our time there together."
I had to send it to a few friends for analysis.
Lying Don't Cost A Thing
Depends on the person.
If it's family or something, I say "I miss you too" because it takes nothing to make their day a little better. If it's your ex or something then just reply with "lol" and leave.
Mixing The Movies Up
That'll do pig. That'll do.
What movie is this from? It made me think of, "That'll do Donkey, that'll do."
Have You Tried Lying?
Depends on why you keep them in your life.
If they're a friend, co worker, distant family member, or someone that you care a bit about, but don't miss them simply because you're fine with the few times you do see them or just chatting with them occasionally on the phone/discord/facebook, then just say you miss them back. Most of the time these people who miss you genuinely mean it and if you say "it has been awhile" or "me too" or anything other than telling them that you miss them too, then you're being kind of a d-ck for no reason. Now if it's someone who lives pretty close and you know saying you miss them back means you'll have to put up with them....then maybe they belong in the next category.
If they're someone you don't really like that much and you don't miss them because you QUITE enjoy not being around them, then why do you even have them on your friends list/in your contacts? I knew a guy who claimed he was on the spectrum and blames everything he does on it. But he was such a f-cking drag to be around and I constantly felt like I was babysitting a toddler. I never got any joy hanging out with him. It sucked. He'd text me that he missed hanging out with me and finally I just said f-ck it. Texted him back and told him how I felt and said he shouldn't text me any more.
If it's someone who is in the second category, someone you REALLY don't like or get along with, but they have no way of realistically visiting you or being more in your life and they're CLOSE TO SOMEONE YOU DO CARE ABOUT, IE a sh-tty brother or your spouses family. Then just say I miss you too. Lie out your a-- and pretend you care.
"Please Hang Up And Try Again..."
The Verizon subscriber you are trying to reach is not available...
I might just use this even though I have sprint.
Simply Ease Their Heart
"Awe, hope all is well!"
Truth is if I don't miss them even when they just said they miss me (like you forget you miss someone but when you think of them or when you're reminded somehow you realize you do miss them), I probs don't really feel the need / want to know about their life necessarily so I end it there instead of continuing the convo or asking how they are :/
Edit: IMO this is the equivalent of saying "awe thanks" to someone at a bar or a club who just complimented me but I find them kinda creepy and I want to get away before they keep talking to me
I mean there aren't THAT many people who if they said "I miss you" I wouldn't then actually miss even a tiiiiny bit (like maybe a feeling of nostalgia), like I "miss" all my friends and family, my former SOs and maybe even casual acquaitances. Heck, I get attached so easy and am generally overly affectionate so I am often the one who's reaching out if anything.
People who don't bring up even that bit of feeling is someone who I feel uncomfortable continuing the convo OR the relationship to begin with cuz I know they want something more than I can give e.x. someone of an opposite sex who I think/know wants more and I don't reciprocate. I've replied with the "polite" you too before and often times it ends up with the other person continuing to message you when you're not interested, and it seems crueler to eventually get fed up and ignore them OR keep giving really short, passive-aggressive answers in the hopes they'll take the hint... my biggest pet peeve is leading people on.
Redditor unripenedboyparts wanted to hear about the horrors we've all been witness to, so they asked:
"What is the creepiest thing you’ve seen in the woods, or in the mountains, or in deserts, or caves, or in small towns, or in big cities, or in hotels, or in remote or rural areas, or while asleep, or home alone, or while on large bodies of water, or while on an aircraft or a nautical vessel?"
I don't camp.
I don't hike.
I don't do wilderness.
And this is why...
Textures
Life Smash GIFGiphy"Coming out of anesthesia from open heart surgery, every time I closed my eyes I could see a perfectly formed brick wall inches from my face. I could see the texture of the bricks through the paint, the mortar, all in perfect detail. Every time I changed rooms, the wall would change colors."
GlobalPhreak
The Wolf
"I was up north. Far North British Columbia, Canada working in a (oil) rig camp out in the woods. I was working as a cook, I went out one afternoon for a smoke on the back deck. It was about 2 o'clock n the afternoon. It was a very quiet, still winter day. It was snowing those kind of big snowflakes that make it look like the world is moving in slow motion."
"So as I was standing there smoking, just staring off in the distance not looking at anything particular... you know looking left right, up down at my feet whatever. I felt something looking at me. Then I looked straight ahead. About 30 feet or less in front of me was the tree line of the forest, and directly in front of me in-between two trees I see the most gigantic wolf I have ever seen."
"This thing sitting looked like it was the size of a man standing. It was massive, sitting there and just staring right at me. We locked eyes, then I looked away for a split second and then looked back and it was gone. I don't know, it just gave me the weirdest feeling. It was definitely like, "hey.. I see you, I could eat you... butttt I won't, k byeee"
"Something I'll always remember."
vatersgonnavate
It’s absolutely unnerving...
"I live in a really remote part of Alaska. I think the scariest thing I’ve ever encountered is how silent the woods/tundra can be in the dead of winter. I’m talking like 'I feel like I am about to go insane' quiet. It’s absolutely unnerving. I become hyper aware of my heart beat and my breathing sounds like a f**king airplane taking off."
"And I know a lot of people will say 'it’s because a predator was near by' nah man, some places up here just have nothing. That’s what really freaks me out. I am absolutely alone in this one spot. I could drop dead and no one would ever find my body."
idontcareilikedogs
The Sow
"I rounded a corner in a trail in the Appalachian Mountains and came face to face with a sow black bear and her cub. Same situation, we locked eyes, she seemed to convey - look dude, I can un alive you in a second, but I’m not about it today so just be patient while I dig these bugs outta this hillside. I sat and watched this bear and cub for prob 20 mins at a safe-ish distance."
m0992104
Who Are You??
Video Games Gamer GIF by Call of DutyGiphy"There must be wilderness dwelling gamers out there, because I found a pile of xbox games in the mountains. Like two dozen in a pile in a remote location."
LittleBkGuy1
Those gamers are sneaky.
It Flies
David Choe Love GIFGiphy"Hallucinated a flying whale alongside the night time flight from Alberta to Ontario when I was 12. It was snow white, seemed friendly enough. Roughly the size of a blue whale."
jakebreakshow
Onto the Rocks
"It happened when me and my parents were on vacation to some place near Spain when I was still little. We went to a little beach at some coastal town where I then immediately jumped into the sea with my swimming goggles on. I then crawled on to some rocks and walked around until I noticed a crab sitting on the rocks."
"I then traversed them carefully while trying to catch it, but it kept crawling away. This continued until I then followed it to a point where the little bay I was in ended and the open ocean began. So then little me decided that it was a good idea to jump into the open water to see if there was anything cool down there. I then jumped in, and I was immediately hit with the cold temperature of actual ocean water."
"But the worst part was that even with my goggles on, I couldn't see anything down there. I was met with a giant black void. No fish, no plants, no rocks. Nothing. I then immediately turned around and began swimming back as quick as I could. And since that moment I haven't gone beyond the shallows ever again."
Successful-Seaweed12
Orbs
"This was almost a decade ago; I live in a town outside of Phoenix, AZ. It was late in the afternoon as the sun was starting to set. I went out in the backyard to smoke a cigarette and play fetch with my dog. As I was throwing the ball I noticed a small orb shoot from the ground directly into the sky."
"A few seconds later another one followed, and another, and another, and another. It didn’t stop for a few minutes. At first I thought it was a Roman candle but I just couldn’t hear but you’d normally hear them fizzing as the fly. I couldn’t hear anything. It was dead silent. To this day, I still don’t know what those were."
ThurSTIII
Appendages
"When I was a kid in the early 80's my parents had a house they rented out to people. We were cleaning it out after a set of unsatisfactory tenants and I was going through the kitchen cupboards making sure they were empty. I saw a mason jar tucked way back in the corner of one of the top shelves so I hopped up on the counter, stretched my arm, grabbed it and hopped back down. When I looked at the jar I saw a finger floating in a clear liquid. I set it down on the counter, walked out of the kitchen and called, 'Mom, I found a finger!'"
Narmer_3100
Jiggles
earthquake GIF by James CurranGiphy"I was on a fishing boat just off the Pacific coast and there was an earthquake. The water jiggled a bit as we heard a boom and a quick shake. Only time I was on water during an earthquake."
teebpix
This is why I don't fish. Not even on dry land.
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