Having the emotional capacity to miss someone who might only be in the next room is a gift. Odds are, you might be in a relationship where if your significant other leaves it's a welcome break. Then, there are those who find it impossible to sever the emotional strands for even a short trip to the grocery store without longing for their s.o. Missing someone is real, no matter how far they are, but what about those on the other end of those feelings? What do you say if you just don't miss them?
Reddit user, u/caldermody, wanted to know what to say when they asked:
Speak The Truth As Best You Can
An ex said this to me a while back; i replied with "yes we've had a lot of good times together" etc so i didn't ignore the reaching out- but i didn't say i missed them back
I got something like this back recently.
I said "I have to be at XYZplace without you tonight and that's just sad" to which he replied:
"Aw, I appreciate our time there together."
I had to send it to a few friends for analysis.
Lying Don't Cost A Thing
Depends on the person.
If it's family or something, I say "I miss you too" because it takes nothing to make their day a little better. If it's your ex or something then just reply with "lol" and leave.
Just Text Back
New phone, who dis
Mixing The Movies Up
That'll do pig. That'll do.
What movie is this from? It made me think of, "That'll do Donkey, that'll do."
Have You Tried Lying?
Depends on why you keep them in your life.
If they're a friend, co worker, distant family member, or someone that you care a bit about, but don't miss them simply because you're fine with the few times you do see them or just chatting with them occasionally on the phone/discord/facebook, then just say you miss them back. Most of the time these people who miss you genuinely mean it and if you say "it has been awhile" or "me too" or anything other than telling them that you miss them too, then you're being kind of a d-ck for no reason. Now if it's someone who lives pretty close and you know saying you miss them back means you'll have to put up with them....then maybe they belong in the next category.
If they're someone you don't really like that much and you don't miss them because you QUITE enjoy not being around them, then why do you even have them on your friends list/in your contacts? I knew a guy who claimed he was on the spectrum and blames everything he does on it. But he was such a f-cking drag to be around and I constantly felt like I was babysitting a toddler. I never got any joy hanging out with him. It sucked. He'd text me that he missed hanging out with me and finally I just said f-ck it. Texted him back and told him how I felt and said he shouldn't text me any more.
If it's someone who is in the second category, someone you REALLY don't like or get along with, but they have no way of realistically visiting you or being more in your life and they're CLOSE TO SOMEONE YOU DO CARE ABOUT, IE a sh-tty brother or your spouses family. Then just say I miss you too. Lie out your a-- and pretend you care.
"Please Hang Up And Try Again..."
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I might just use this even though I have sprint.
Simply Ease Their Heart
"Awe, hope all is well!"
Truth is if I don't miss them even when they just said they miss me (like you forget you miss someone but when you think of them or when you're reminded somehow you realize you do miss them), I probs don't really feel the need / want to know about their life necessarily so I end it there instead of continuing the convo or asking how they are :/
Edit: IMO this is the equivalent of saying "awe thanks" to someone at a bar or a club who just complimented me but I find them kinda creepy and I want to get away before they keep talking to me
I mean there aren't THAT many people who if they said "I miss you" I wouldn't then actually miss even a tiiiiny bit (like maybe a feeling of nostalgia), like I "miss" all my friends and family, my former SOs and maybe even casual acquaitances. Heck, I get attached so easy and am generally overly affectionate so I am often the one who's reaching out if anything.
People who don't bring up even that bit of feeling is someone who I feel uncomfortable continuing the convo OR the relationship to begin with cuz I know they want something more than I can give e.x. someone of an opposite sex who I think/know wants more and I don't reciprocate. I've replied with the "polite" you too before and often times it ends up with the other person continuing to message you when you're not interested, and it seems crueler to eventually get fed up and ignore them OR keep giving really short, passive-aggressive answers in the hopes they'll take the hint... my biggest pet peeve is leading people on.