Everything can change in one day. The first day to starting something is always the catalyst to making a gigantic change in one's life, and that beginning can be very difficult. But once you pull yourself into gear and make the decision to change, then there will be nowhere to go but up.
JennVendetta asked: How have you seen a person rebuild their life in a single day?
An amazing accomplishment.
"My mom is 10 years sober today. I remember her opening another beer, taking one sip, putting it down and saying 'I'm done'. She checked herself into rehab the next day. My dad joined about 3 months later.
Both are completely different people, and I can't imagine our relationship being what it is today if they continued to drink."
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"For years, my sister had a super toxic friendship with a girl that epitomized narcissistic and manipulative behavior. My sister was constantly down on herself, exhausted from taking care of her, and feeling depressed because she felt like she was a failure of a friend.
Then one day, after a phone call she slammed down the phone and said "F--- it, I'm done with her." I swear I saw weights sliding down her shoulders and shackles falling off of her. She's just so much better off now.
Don't stick with friendships just because you've known each other for a long time."
"Kicked my ex out of my apartment, packed my own stuff the same day and moved back home until I could move again.
In just three hours I went from feeling hopeless and afraid to being in a safe place with constant security. (Two big dogs, at least two people awake at all times, and he didn't know where it was.)"
A complete 180.
"My freshman year of high school there was this awful bully who would make life hell for anyone he could. He was almost cartoonishly mean and cruel. I truly hated him.
The next year a teacher whom the bully respected pulled him aside and told him that he was too smart to be acting that way and that he was going to end up friendless and in jail if he continued that behavior.
Literally the next day at school this kid starting trying to make amends with people he'd terrorized, myself included. He started taking his schoolwork seriously and started standing up for other people and trying to be as kind as possible to others around him.
18 years later he's still one of my dearest friends in the world. I'd take a bullet for that dude."
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"Earlier this year, my son was unceremoniously dumped by a long-term girlfriend who cheated on him. The whole situation just obliterated him. Further complicating things is a tight rental market, which meant he had to stay with my daughter for a month while he tried to find a place to live.
But find a place he did! And it was pet friendly, so he got to take his pets with him. The day he moved in, he was like a brand new person. He'd had some time to deal with the heartbreak, and in the meantime had taken a second part-time job (on top of his regular job) that lets him use his musical talent. Moving day was a great day for him, but it was also a great day for me, because it was something I couldn't have imagined in those awful days immediately following the break-up."
"There was this kid at my high school. He had no friends, never talked to anyone, but everyone knew who he was because he read the announcements over the PA system each morning.
On his last day, he made a short, but incredibly moving speech looking back on what his high school experience meant to him; his successes, failures, and lessons learned, and dreams for the future. Though he had some of the highest grades, he said that his one regret was that he never made any friends.
Everyone was touched by his speech. It was honestly beautiful. That day he made a ton of friends, including myself. He was a super intelligent and funny person, and very interesting to talk to.
I went to the same college as him, and you'd never know he was that nerdy kid with no friends in high school. He had a big social circle, and still got good grades. An overall well-rounded person and super cool guy."
Gained a new passion.
"When my brother died everyone in the family was devastated, but it hit my parents the most. Losing a child isn't supposed to happen--its just not.
My dad had to write my brother's obituary for the newspaper and worked on this short piece for hours and hours. He's written small things before, but not something like that. I think writing that piece reminded him that his son was a writer: he'd written a comic book, a play, and was working on his first novel too. My dad was still really sad, but I think that was a pivotal moment for him. It gave him drive and passion after such a horrible experience.
My dad now loves to write and has taken classes so he can create better stories. He's so proud when he finishes an essay or short story, and I can see that he's doing better.
The obituary, by the way, was the best I've ever read and honored the rebellious nature my brother had perfectly."
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"When I was in my late 20s I walked into an Army recruitment office and said "I'm in my 20s, I've been living in my car for the last month and I haven't eaten in 2 days and I'm completely ashamed of all of this".
The recruiter took me to a diner for lunch, made a few phone calls and for 2 days I slept on a bed in an abandoned office at an Army Reserve Center in our city. Then I was on a plane for Fort Benning Georgia.
That one day changed my life and now, almost 20 years later, I'm married with kids, I have a college degree in a STEM field, I own a house and I'm completely debt free. And I have some incredible stories from my time in the Army as well as the time before I joined. Most of the stuff that happened afterwards is pretty mundane and boring. And I'm glad of that."
It's a miracle!
"Not rebuild their life, but my mother had a significant positive change in a single day.
When I was around 7 years old, my mother was diagnosed with manic depression, now commonly known as bipolar disorder. She was extremely depressed and angry and suicidal. It got to the point where my brother and I were sent to live with my aunt while my father took care of her.
During that time, she tried different anti depressants, admitted herself to an asylum, and tried a lot of things like prayer. It was getting frustrating for her and my father.
One day, she woke up and said she was better. It literally was a Christmas miracle. My brother and I returned home and life resumed as normal.
Although life wasn't perfect (we had the challenges typical families go through), we did not experience the traumatic things she used to do when she was in her manic or depressed state."
Way to step it up!
Was always getting in fights at school. Fought teacher even knocked out a cop once who was pushing his buttons. Stealing, skipping school, racing and just reckless. I hated him and everyone thought he'd he in jail for sure and dead a little after.
Got a girl pregnant. Immediately stepped up married her a few years later after he made sure he loved her. House, 70k-ish job, sis in law good job, second kid, little to no debt and I like being around him now."
America is in quite a state right now.
We are hurting in ways we've never hurt before.
And getting better doesn't seem like an option on the horizon.
America gets a lot wrong everyday.
But, maybe let's try to focus on what America does right.
Maybe it can be a little comfort in times of struggle.
People from all over the world want to live here.
Redditor Ulrich-Stern wanted to discuss the best of America. They asked:
"What does the United States get right?"
I think America certainly has a strong work ethic. We know how to work and win.
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"Accessibility code for buildings. I come from a country where disability is looked upon like a crime or fault. USA does an amazing job making things accessible. I haven’t seen all of USA but majority of the places has amazing system."
"Our public libraries are a real backbone for the country."
"Andrew Carnegie's groundwork in building the institution of free libraries, even in small towns, set a precedent that we wouldn't fathom today but couldn't live without. They often serve not only as an information exchange but as cultural hub, art gallery, performing arts center, tax aid, voter registration, job resources, etc. in communities."
"Plus they're one of the only places you can just exist for hours indoors without the expectation you must buy something.And I feel like they've adapted to the ever-changing needs of their patrons in modern times faster in the US than most places."
"'A library outranks any other one thing a community can do to benefit its people. It is a never failing spring in the desert.' -Andrew Carnegie"
'restore' or 'create'
"Valuing actual wilderness in places like national parks. Here in England, they will 'restore' or 'create' natural habitats, which is sort-of nice, but they are almost like zoos. They are too small to survive by themselves so they are actively maintained."
"And in some English national parks, they actually allow housing developments as long as the architectural design is sympathetic. Here, 'countryside"'means farms. There is still a notion in the USA of protecting some large wilderness areas from development."
"The rate of smoking cigarettes. We do very little well in the US when it comes to overall health, but we are light years better than most places when it comes to the prevalence of cigarette smoking. Hardcore anti smoking adds + laws of inconvenience + social stigma really did work."
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"Films. Don't get me wrong, the US can put out some bad films, but the best ones I've seen are usually American."
We do do films well. That is a big plus.
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"The United States adopts more children than the rest of the world combined."
"Burgers. Motherfreakin' burgers."
"I'd expand that to sandwiches in general. Burgers, Philly cheese steaks, Reubens, subs, clubs, chopped cheese, po'boys, just this whole sandwich spectrum. Americans just took sandwich concepts from across the globe and ran with them."
"I've always envied your wildlife. I'm from England and the only large wild animals (other than fish) we have are deer, boar and foxes. And they're incredibly rare. I've always thought it was so cool one country could have bears, moose, cougars, alligators, panthers, bison/buffalo, etc."
"Gas stations like QuikTrip, where they have clean bathrooms, lighted parking lots, free air for your tires, ten different coffees on tap, beer, hotdogs, any soft drink or snack you want, the list goes on. In other countries -- you're not gonna believe this -- their gas stations only sell... gas."
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"The US is an absolute science powerhouse. The technology we come out with has touched the lives of nearly every person on the planet."
"I say this as an immigrant who came to this country, so perhaps take it with a grain of salt. But it truly gives people a second chance at life. My life would be nowhere near as good as it is right now if I were back in my home country."
Maybe America isn't the hot mess a lot of people think it is. We'll see...
Sex is an important part of life.
That is just a fact.
But sex is also about connection and intimacy.
So it's not a surprise when many relationships take a hit after the sex dries up.
It's not something to ignore.
It's the biggest problem in the world, but partners should discuss it.
RedditorItsyBitsyJoxywanted to hear about reasons to stick around with a partner when there is no sexy time. They asked:
"Would you be in a sexless relationship? What circumstance would you find acceptable for this?"
Sex is fun. And when the sex stopped in my relationships... so did the fun. But that is just me.
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"I'm over 80."
"There’s a lot of people that are going to be real shocked once they hit their 70s."
"Our second child has ruined her sex drive. Intimacy is still there but extremely infrequently. I've learned how much that intimacy brings to the relationship, it feels very lonely and although I know it's not her fault, it can still make you feel like she's not attracted to me anymore. It can be pretty lonely too if you go from a romantic relationship to borderline platonic one. You can't help wonder how much is body changes and how much is you."
"I had rectal cancer and because of the surgery I can no longer get an erection, it's very lonely."
"Not sure if one exists, but a site to just make friends to be cuddle buddies, or whatever, should exist for people like you & me. I lost my sex drive & would like a relationship for that occasionally."
"In my case, it's not wanting to see someone very often, as well as the lack of sex drive, that I think would make it difficult. I also don't like people over to my home as it's too small for a couch & we'd be hanging out on my bed, which is weird to me."
"I'm in one now. My husband had a stroke... no sex is not the big problem for either one of us."
"This comment brings a lot of perspective. My gut reaction to this question was no. Sex was and still is pretty significant in my relationship with my wife. We’re in our 30’s and have been together over a decade. But if something happened to her and it was no longer an option? I would never leave her and love her too damned much to imagine it, no matter how much we love sex."
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"I have a near sexless marriage. The love is strong, but the desire is one-sided. That hurts."
Sexless over loveless is definitely easier. So there is that.
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"I am happily married to my good lady for decades and decades. There are times when it has been sexless for whatever reason but never has it been loveless.I wouldn’t have lasted 2 days in a loveless relationship."
You play the cards you are dealt
"I’m dating a man who got diagnosed with prostate cancer a year or so into our relationship. Prostate had to come out and it’s a hit or miss whether or not sexual function comes back. In his case, it was a miss. He wanted me to move on because he got very depressed over it."
"He’s so pleasant and a real decent human being so I stayed with him. Who would abandon someone due to a health crisis? Unfortunately he got bladder cancer next so this is another hurdle to go over. You play the cards you are dealt. We are together in this."
"The reasons for the 'sexlessness' and the depth of the relationship are key factors. My wife got breast cancer at 40 and while she lived another 8 years, the chemotherapy nullified her libido and made intercourse impossible. And yet I dearly wish we could have grown old together whether or not this would have changed. But that’s completely different from cohabiting a loveless marriage or even facing such a situation in one’s youth only a few years after marriage. That would be hard."
"A sexless relationship is better than a loveless relationship, as long as I'm loved and we share physical affection like cuddling and kisses and I'm allowed to beat my meat when I need too I wouldn't care. Just a heads up to all the people who take this personally enough to comment how wrong I am."
"There's no such thing as a wrong option, my opinion is in regards to myself and myself alone I'm not answering for anyone else. Different opinions aren't wrong... OP asked a question to be answered from your own point of view..so there's no reason to call anyone else wrong... it's about you, answer for YOU I've answered for me."
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"I'm in one. Not happy about it, but love is still there so that's nice."
"Same. Maybe had it once in the last 12 years. Finally decided to go to couples/sex therapy this year. Not sure it is helping, but at least I finally brought up that I wanted to try something. My wife is my best friend and I love here with every fiber, just wish there was more intimacy there."
it never happens...
"We haven't had sex in five months due to numerous reasons. Never have alone time with my mom and daughter here. We're both too tired. Our bed we have sex on is where my mom is sleeping. Our waterbed is difficult to use. We always say next weekend and it never happens. We're still going strong though. We love each other and that's what matters."
Well I guess some people can make it work. More power to you.
We all have things which get on our nerves.
Some people have a fairly high tolerance level, and are only truly perturbed by things which are beyond the bounds of common decency, or which are universally accepted as annoying or inconvenient.
Others are not so lucky, and tend to be set off by things which might go completely unnoticed by everyone else.
Redditor Onatic420 was curious to learn the things which instantly make others want to pull their hair out and scream, leading them to ask:
"What do you find annoying as f*ck?"
Is it so hard to pick up after yourself?
"Habitual litterers."- SuvenPan
"When people don’t clean up after themselves."- cheeto_has_spoken
If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen
"People that can dish it but can’t take it."
"I work with a dude like this and it’s terrible."- MF_GhidraTea Time Reaction GIF by Kamie CrawfordGiphy
Never judge something by it's size.
"When skin tears near your fingernail and that teeny tiny wound hurts way more than it should."- BlackCaaaaat
"When mosquitoes fly by ur ears."- AxcesDrifter
Back to where we started...
"The Reddit app when it scrolls back up to the top of the 65 TRILLION FKN articles you’ve read."
"It should burn the articles as you read them."- Deathdar1577
Take some responsibility!
"A person's inability to say sorry."- rohankentsorry kristen wiig GIFGiphy
Get out of the way!
"People who leave the f*cking shopping carts in middle of the f*cking aisle!"- otherm0ther
But enough about me, what do you think of me?
"People who make it all about themselves."- ExtensionAir7Proud Drag Queen GIF by CameoGiphy
A lost cause
"Willfully ignorant people."- KingZaneTheStrange
Be it the way another person behaves or common, every day occurrences, we all have things which get on our nerves.
Most of the time it's best to grin and bear it.
But next time you see someone litter, it might be a fine opportunity to let that anger out.
For your sake, and everyone else's.
How many of us heard the old saying "an apple a day keeps the doctor away" as a child?
Or were told by their parents that watching too much television would make your eyes fall out?
Needless to say, these, as well as other sayings and superstitions, were not 100% accurate, possibly even having no truth to them whatsoever
Rather, these were merely a way to encourage, or scare, children into better eating habits, or getting away from the TV once and a while.
Some however, have, took these and other unsubstantiated pieces of information literally, and continue to believe them to be true.
Redditor wste96 was curious to believe what other falsehoods people continue to believe, in spite of proof to the contrary, leading them to ask:
"What's the biggest lie ever told that we, as a society, still believe in?"
Justice will be served... won't it?
"What goes around comes around."
"Sometimes it doesn't."- Recent_View6254
"That people get what they deserve, or must deserve what they get."- HugeMcAwesome
It's just a phase.... or is it?
"That acne will go away after your teen years."- One_Arachnid_1256Scared Freak Out GIF by Lillee JeanGiphy
Better cut back on those TV dinners...
"Microwaves give you cancer"- Salt-Significance702
Absolutely no justification.
"That torture is an effective method of extracting information."
"Every ten years or so, some three letter agency or another is forced to admit that their torture program yielded nothing but false leads and wrecked lives."
"Then goes straight back to doing it."
"The general population shrugs and says 'if it's the only way to get intel' as if they weren't just told point blank that it doesn't work."- barnfodder
A little kindness goes a very long way
"That being nice and accommodating is a sign of weakness."- AidilAfham42Be Nice GIF by Susanne LambGiphy
"Square cut or pear shaped, these rocks don't lose their shape..."
"Diamonds are rare which us why they are expensive."
"They're very very common, their price is kept high by controlling how many enter the market by the De Beers group, which basically has a monopoly on them and hoards them."
"Synthetic/lab grown diamonds are the exact same as natural and even cheaper to make, but people are still convinced they're not as good as 'real' diamonds."- no_ps_wow
Unrealistic expectations on society
"That we need to work tirelessly and wear ourselves out in order to have a good future and stay happy."- iambigego
"Go to a great college and get a great job and have a great life."- MewsikMaker
When you just can't hold it any more...
"That there is a chemical you can put in pools that turns blue when you pee."- Sad_Cherry2884GIF by South Park Giphy
As the saying goes, you can't believe everything you read.
But for the sake of others, still best to avoid peeing in pools.