Secrets and lies. That is what life is about. We're holding back a few details from our loved ones and the world at large. Sometimes the truth hurts, sometimes it sets you free. Ahhh, the great coin toss of life.
Redditor user ceraix wanted to see who was willing to spill some tea regarding relationships by asking...
What secret are you keeping right now?
Born Different.
"Not keeping it anymore, but I was born with cleft lip and palette so when people asked about my scars, I said I got into a knife fight. I was also like 7 inches taller than everyone and a hockey goon, so all my private school friends thought I was just cool."mccewan
Winning!
Giphy"I let my cousin win when I play smash bros with her and she always gets really happy when she wins."
"lately, she's been letting me win instead and I love seeing her smile when I win."Reddit
Timing.
"I really really like my best friend. She's just got out of a long term mentally abusive relationship. Nows not exactly the right time to say."Captain_Cone
"Good for you for realizing that she needs time to heal. Just continue to be there for her as a friend for awhile before you tell her your feelings. Best of luck to you!"14kanthropologist
Faker.
"Throwaway because duh."
"I committed fraud to get out of school. I legit faked my mother's death certificate so I could leave with little repercussions after the add/drop period. Told everyone my mom died in a car accident and I had to leave to take care of the estate."
"I am doing much better mentally now."jennygetyourguns
Help!
"My depression hasn't actually gotten any better and if anything has gotten worse. I felt so guilty any time I'd talk to one of my friends about the way I feel, and I couldn't take it anymore. So now they all think I'm doing a lot better and I don't know what to do with myself"
"Edit: I should also mention I lost my job at the start of the year and due to that no longer have money or insurance and can't afford therapy or my prescription anymore. Thanks for all the advice and well wishes."Namsewell
Praise You.
Giphy"I won a $10,000 scholarship to pay back school loans. I was told i was the top pick over hundreds of students. But Bc i don't deal well with direct praise, my family doesn't and won't know."phonendatoilet
"Big accomplishment! Congrats, internet stranger!"katieno14
Movin' On.
"I told my best friend, who knows I'm in love with him, that I'm moving on and trying to find someone else. But really I don't know if I'll ever actually move on, I just don't want him to feel bad."actuallywaffles
We Rent Now.
""My wife might be pregnant and she is really against me telling anyone (including family) until the three month mark. Even though we might be buying a house soon so two very big expenses starting at once scares the crap out of me. (We rent now).
"Update: my most upvoted comment thanks!"
"She told me yesterday after I made the post that she was spotting and I figured that's normal, but this morning she told me that it's full on period time. This relieves me but she's not feeling the best. She was late by three days and we had just put two and two together. Also the house we both really want dropped their asking by 3%, to something that is still at the top of our range, but not as bad as we thought."Ilikewatchingtv
Down Low Sexy.
Giphy"I've been working out in secret and hiding my power level by wearing hoodies and wearing my hair down for the past 3 months even at the gym and at work. The plan is to go from skinny long hair to shred city crew cut and surprise everyone. So far I've amassed 18 pounds so things are on track!"Mydogcopper
Cafe Time.
"Im currently working in a cafe and i work pretty hard and have more experience so i get paid a bit more than other staff and they found out. This has changed how a few of them treat me. But they don't realize I'm in the process of buying the business and how they treat me and act is going to influence if i renew their contracts or not."SycoticManti
Some "Friend"....
"I suspect that my conversations with a friend is being sent to my ex, who is trying to bring me down, and I've started to spread false information to that "friend" to truly see if my text messages is being leaked."Bobrasaka
"That crap happened to me in high school. My best advice is to just drop them. If they're willing to do that to you, they aren't a real friend. Just a spy."
"Edit: confirm first but don't waffle when you know."Super_Bagel
The Love Story.
Giphy"I know a couple that broke up about a year ago. They still are friends though and work together and I'm not supposed to tell anyone they broke up. After this long I wonder if it's just a long, elaborate test of my loyalty."DaughterEarth
Soap Opera!
"My buddy is planning on leaving his wife, mostly because he found out that his kid isn't actually his, and he suspects the one she's pregnant with isn't either."warboy3
PSA Levels....
"I am getting a biopsy on Friday. I may have cancer but I am not telling my siblings or my mom because she also has cancer and it would destroy her to know I might have it also. I am 47 and my sister, dad,u ncle and aunt all died of cancer. Doctor says the PSA level I have means I have a 25% chance of having cancer."
"Biopsy is over(thank god) doctor said my prostate looks normal. I won't get the results back until next week."celrdweller
YAAAAYYY!!!!
Giphy"My buddy and his wife are expecting their second kid. He got really drunk one night and told me the news with the biggest smile on his face. I'm the only one who knows right now. My happy, wholesome little secret."whiskeyteacup
Get Help.
"My family doesn't know I walked out of my job nearly four weeks ago. I had two solid interviews that fell through afterwards and I'm still looking. I think I'll get a call back after the job interview I had today. I'm too embarrassed to tell them because I don't want anymore financial help from them. I'm late on rent and broke. The last time I went to my mom's house I stole a couple rolls of toilet paper."ewanmcgregorisgod
Better Days.
"That I'm SO lonely after moving to a new city for a girlfriend who broke up me 2 weeks ago. Gotta put on that brave face."Reddit
"I was married to my ex for 8 years, drove her to Alaska from Virginia in late 2017. We went because she joined the air Force and got stationed there. She went on deployment about 6 months after being there and when she came back 6 months later she dumped me. I had to live in her house and drive her to and from work every day for two months before I was able to leave."
"Now I'm living in my parents spare room and all I have is my computer, my car, and my tools. I'm lost and I have no idea what I'm doing anymore. It only gets worse for me so I feel like I'm afraid to do anything with my life because whatever I do or however hard I try things get taken, broken, or fail on me. I have to pretend I'm good every day and there's nothing good about each day."R4N63R
Hey Karen.
"That the operations manager at my work who is a b*tch to the core (her name is actually Karen, shocker) is under investigation for several incidents that should hopefully get that snake canned. Also, I was the one in 10th grade that accidentally pooped my pants in class and those were my boxers in the trashcan in the bathroom." Kickinpuppies
Not Alone.
Giphy"I just graduated from college and now I'm really depressed. I'm supposed to be looking for a job right now but all I want to do is sleep."
"Edit: I am overwhelmed by your response to my comment. Thank you for taking the time to commiserate or give advice. You've given me a lot to think about and I appreciate you all reaching out."122784
The Fuller Extent.
"I'm bulimic. Only my wife knows, and not to the fullest extent."lukeekullukeekul
"As someone who recovered from bulimia, I hope you find the help you need. You might not be ready to recover yet, which I understand completely, but when you are, know that there are some amazing resources out there. Life gets a lot better when you're not constantly searching for a bathroom and stressing out everytime you eat."imjustapuppy
These are some stirring confessions!
Do you have anything you'd like to get off your chest? Let us know in the comments below.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Curious to hear from ex-lovers who've been there, Redditor Lishasquarepant asked:
"What caused your last break-up?"
These Redditors found they and their significant other were no longer on the same page.
"Simply, we grew apart."
– catetheway
"Same, I feel like Michael Scott everytime I try to start another relationship. 'No question about it, I am ready to get hurt again.'"
– Gthew
Happier Apart
"Same. We loved each other like siblings, not spouses... Ugh! Lovely man though who now has a fab girlfriend. We are good friends and much happier apart."
– MoxieHasKnottyBits
No Regrets
"Same. And it f'king sucks, but that’s life. It’s been a year and I still hate every second that she’s not in my life, but at the same time I know she’s happier now than she would’ve been if we stayed together."
– throway35885328
Having no communication is the worst part.
Silent Partner
"He slowly got distant. I believe he lost interest and didn't dare be honest with me about that."
– GaiaNatur77
The Late Blame Game
"I had that happen as well, but then he pinned it on me being distant and not affectionate enough."
"My guy, if you pull your hand away every time I try to hold it, I'm gonna stop trying to hold it. And if I ask if something's up and you repeatedly tell me everything is fine, I'm going to believe you. Don't wait till I'm at my worst moment and then reveal you had issues with me for 3 months and break up with me for it being 'my fault.'"
– Billielolly
"Everything Is Fine"
"Oh man, the asking repeatedly and getting a 'nothing' reminds me of a story."
"My friend used to ask her ex this every time he was unusually quiet. He’d always say he was fine, then at one point, told her to stop asking because it was making him feel weird."
"So she did."
"Six months later he initiated a divorce because she didn’t care about his feelings anymore."
"Like…don’t ask for sh*t then get pissy when you get what you want."
– TheRealJackReynolds
And then there are those who were not invested in the relationship for a long time.
The Struggle Is Real
"He seemed to struggle with the concept of not f'king random people."
– spanglesandbambi
Leaving The Problem
"He moved to his country because he missed his family. So he only sent a WhatsApp message saying he was going to stay there. I would have preferred a call at least to break up a marriage."
– kattia12
New Life
"Something similar happened to my cousin. He married her in the US, they had a baby together.. a few years go by, he misses home, goes back to visit.. His family had an arranged marriage ready for him 🤦🏻♀️ He ended up with a new wife and new baby. Hasn’t came back."
– MysticalMom7
A Foreign Custom
"It just seems so surreal that a grown a** adult with a wife and baby would leave his family behind for an arranged marriage. I'll never fathom the mentality."
– ro0ibos2
Ouch
"I wasn't having sex near as often as she was."
– YourWordsMatter
Breaking up is hard to do.
But a good thing to remember is that love can be found again and the new relationship can be even better than the previous one.
And that's something that can't be recognized until you look back in retrospect.
We all have to kiss a few toads.
Redditor TractorLoving wanted to hear about the things many of us have seen that left us shaken and a bit scared, so they asked:
"What's the most creepy thing you've ever witnessed?"
I've lost track of the number of things that have creeped me out in life.
I barely leave the house.
From the bushes...
the lion king disney GIFGiphy"When I was about 12 I was sleeping on my trampoline with a friend and we heard the bushes move behind us, we flashed our flashlight to the bushes and a mountain lion was laying there stalking us, I have never run so fast in my life."
Fortherecord87
Voices
"Finding my dad dead in his recliner. I swear I heard his voice when the coroner came for his body."
PolesawPolska
"My granddad knocked over my great-grandma's ashes in his car accidentally, and to this day swears he heard her laugh, loud and clear as if she was standing next to him. She had a hugely wicked sense of humor and would have found this (and my very stressed granddad carefully collecting her ashes back into the container before my grandma saw) very funny."
Tanyaaahhh
From the Sea
"When I was serving my time as an engineer in the merchant navy we used to have to clean out what is called 'sea chests;' they're basically big filters for seawater that we would pump in to use as coolant and if the pumps were on when we were dockside we'd find all sorts of things like bottles, fish, crabs etc."
"One day we opened up the chest, pulled out the filter, and immediately saw this gold shiny thing which turned out to be a Rolex watch. Usually, we'd just dump out the filter but with the mitigating circumstances, we went through it thoroughly and found a piece of a shirt with cufflink still attached and last but not least a nicely rotted finger."
"The police ended up closing off the dock and dredging it but never found anything on the end." ~ MarkyBhoy101
Terrified
Watching I See You GIF by TravisGiphy"This guy followed me home. Said he saw me there often and named a few local spots I go to sometimes as places he sees me. It’s been about a year. Never saw him again. I was terrified for a little while for sure."
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Stay vigilant out there kids.
People are watching and some of us don't notice.
Back Up Creep
Scared Homer Simpson GIF by reactionseditorGiphy"I was in a restaurant years ago on lunch break. At the time I was a very thin 25-year-old woman. There was this big creepy guy sitting there who would NOT stop staring at me from the moment I walked in the door."
"I mean just open face staring without blinking for the entire 15 minutes I was eating several seats away. I asked for a box and left early to get away from him. As I walked out he said, 'You shouldn't be out alone. Someone's going to grab you and steal you away." 100% convinced creepazoid had someone locked up in his basement."
xain_the_idiot
'Youth in need'
"Was working in a restaurant. Nice place. That night we held a charity dinner for a 'youth in need' type of house. The guy representing the house, a worker there, was such a nice and kind man. Every teen there was only saying nice things about him. A good soul, that was giving everything he could for these teens."
"At one point they gave a big check to the charity. I must guess an amount they rarely received. Well under the excitement, that poor man had a cardiac arrest. Dropped there on the stage, cheque in hand. He couldn't be brought back. He died. Seeing this was already bad enough, but the kids everywhere in the restaurant screaming and crying for hours after... haunting."
Agronut
Inside the House
"One random night in middle school I woke up and had the odd feeling that something or someone was present in the house and coming towards my room. I was scared so I closed my eyes to pretend to be asleep. I could faintly hear something come into my room and it felt like someone was standing over me, looking to make sure I was asleep. I laid on my back, eyes shut, until the feeling passed, and ended up falling asleep. I woke up in the morning to find out that our house was robbed."
ThatOtherOtherGuy3
There in lies the rub...
"Well dressed 50 something business dude on a quiet Chicago L train reading a Wall Street Journal. Pretty woman with long curly hair dozing in the seat in front of him, her hair dangling behind the seat. The guy is rubbing and playing with her hair while reading his paper so I figure she's his wife or girlfriend who just wanted some space to nap."
"He is now intently rubbing and fondling her hair and not reading anymore. Suddenly she snaps awake and pulls in her hair like a bug was in it or something. She gets off at the next stop, he continues reading. They didn't know each other at all."
mtzuker
Why do people feel the need to overshare?
People really need to discuss boundaries.
