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Insecurity is a b*tch.

It can make you fixate on things you have no control over, like your nose, or your body shape. And it's relentless. It wedges itself in your brain and will never shut up ever.


u/Natureel asked:

If you can get rid of one unattractive feature about yourself, what would you get rid of?

Here were some of the answers.

We're Halfway There

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I would save my wish for when I eventually get to a healthy weight in the next 2-3 years, I would imagine any loose skin I would want gone immediately lol

*for context: started my weight loss journey in Jan 2018 at 400lbs, now 330lbs

Icedearth6408

Hyperhidrosis

Sweatiness. Don't even ask...

IsThisOneTakenFfs

i have sweaty palms and feet and its the most embarrassing thing ever... r/Hyperhidrosis is where my sweaty pals gather and talk about our experiences.

superiorballsack

The Grass Is Always Greener

My hands. I'm a 6'2" man and I have the tiny dainty hands of a little girl.

ZachKeyzer

I'd trade you if I could. I'm a woman with the large, hairy hands of a working man.

Gluttony4

For Later

My ability to procrastinate. It is so bad right now that I wish I could go into a coma for a month and leave all this madness behind.

Leharen

Isn't a coma like procrastinating from life?

burn23notice

Pessimism & negative thinking. Although, it seemed fun, contrarian & edgy, it led me straight to depression over the years. It's toxic.

foreigner003

Once I realized this and committed to being more positive, I swear to god my social life did a complete 180.

For anyone who wants to be more optimistic, do it. I don't have any tricks on how to change that other than any time you do something just say to yourself, "I just f*cking did that! Hell yeah!"

Talked to a stranger? You just f*cking did that! Hell Yeah! Went for a quick run? Guess who just f*cking did that? Hell yeah! Started working on that passion project that you've had in mind for years? Mother f*cker, you just f*cking did that! Hell yeah!

It's just reminding yourself of what you're capable of when you get right down to it. Start there and you'll naturally become a much more optimistic person.

The_Galvinizer

Million Dollar Smiles

My eyes close a lot when I smile and laugh, I can't stand it. The worst was when I was younger and at a school picture day the photographer would be like "now open your eyes more". Thanks for making me even more self conscious boss.

cricket9818


I like people who smile with their eyes, sure it's not great on pictures but I find it very warm and genuine.

Furvent

Fly Me To The Moon

My acne scars are so bad on both my face and back . I don't know how to fix this ! I look like the moon because my scars look like Mile-wide craters ! I can't use coconut oil or lotion because my face is a dry-oily type but if your face is the dry type try using coconut oil or lotion for your face . It's supposed to help with healing however I would not be able to give you a definite answer if it works or not !

ililegal

Mistakes Of My Youth

My skin. Far too much sun exposure during my teen years and very early 20's, along with a poor diet at that time, have left my facial skin looking aged. I'm only 23, but I'm frequently mistaken for late 20 and even mid 30's.

What sucks is that in 2018 I started wearing a Cowboy hat (I'm Texan and a technician so it works) to shield my entire face, and drastically improved my diet. These changes came too late - in a mere 3 year period, I've aged 10 years.

When I was 20, I got carded at GameStop, because they thought there was a chance I was a 16 year old trying to buy an M game. Now, I'm never even carded for alcohol, and I'm frequently asked how old my kids are. I don't have kids. I'm not even married.

Mitch-Pleeze

The Fang Project

Vampire teeth. My family has huge canines and quite high gums, so when we smile we look like vampires.

Apparently the cause is a few generations of porphyria (the vampire disease, but thankfully ours is a slightly rare, but far less dangerous version that only really means we can't go in the sun (plus a few minor details)), and while I don't have it, it left its mark in the tooth department.

untakenu

A Hobbit

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5'5" male here. Want to guess?

It's not even about the women. I have a long term partner and have had plenty of success with women all my life.

I just want to use the top shelves without a ladder.

Another drawback of being a short male that taller people don't often recognize is that I can never lose my cool without someone invoking short man complex, no matter how justified it is (like severe pain or injury).

Close second: I broke my wrist once. It's still weak, stiff, and sensitive. Be nice to fix that.

AFK_Tornado


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