What's your favorite thing to do?
Better yet, what's something that you used to love to do? Did you ever have a hobby or a goal that you suddenly ceased putting effort in? Maybe you were young and just grew out of it. Or worse - something or someone discouraged you from doing that thing you love. Nothing can last forever, but the hope is that the things that bring you joy or are dedicated to can remain a part of your life.
People reflected on the things they used to love doing when Redditor u/Enzerly asked, "What caused you to quit doing something you love?" Turns out, more often than not, the reasons are pretty sad.
When "friends" spoil the fun
I used to be very active on a discord server but then a group of people who I used to be friends with (started not getting along) began spamming the server with dumb garbage every day. Couldn't even go through a normal conversation with anyone without them being annoying. So I kinda ignore that server now. It's a shame too, that server was like a second home to me at some point .-.
Zmanbro6
Do you really have to miss all concerts now?
I stopped seeing punk shows or playing music because an elitist clique with alot of connections developed a beef with me over a woman I was seeing that one of them wanted. He was cheating on his fiancee with her but they acted like I was an evil a**hole for getting pissed and refusing to have an open relationship. I broke up with her and moved and years later they found me and started a fight in LA and sued me when I stood up for myself.
What an evil thing to do
mountain bike bicycles GIFGiphyMountain Bilking
My long term girlfriend cheated and we broke up. We had an apartment and dog together. She bought me out and we decided that it would be best if Kona stayed with her as I was going to be on my own with no immediate family or help.
Few days after I moved out I went to get something, Kona went nuts with happiness I played with him, gave him a hug and left. I could hear him crying as I left. I didn't grab my bike for some reason.
I needed time to get myself sorted and just decompress so didn't really reach out to see him. Regret that.
Few weeks later I found out she put him down due to severe separation anxiety. She never told me, I didn't get my bike and haven't ridden since.
Kona was my riding buddy.
Not so honorable
The Community. And the horrible developers.
God. For Honor used to be such a pleasure to play. But it has a Community so toxic its whats causing the game to die as we speak. I jumped that ship not to long ago. And I dont blame the rest for jumping too. I think the game has run its course. Its time for the prototype game to sink now. We now know the art of war system is great. But we need a new art of war game.
It's hard to lose your physical abilities
Loved baseball, played little league for 11 years, was all-star pitcher 4 years in a row with 78 mph fastball at 16 yo...then got into a car accident a few months after my 17th birthday. can't run, can't throw more than 30mph now, etc
accident was over a decade ago
You can't enjoy things when they're forced on you
School killed my passion for reading.
And programming killed my interest in programming.
A bad boss or colleague can ruin everything
I love my line of work. Working for someone who hates it, brought me almost to the point of quitting. (But then Covid happened and my line of work (entertainment industry) won't be back up on its feet for a very very long time.
News is hard to stomach
I used to love reading the news. Was subscribed to newspapers and feeds from all over the world.
And then the whole damn planet went bat-s**t crazy. And that was LONG before 2020.
Still trying to stay informed, but nowhere near the dedication and zeal I once had.
Silence is an option
Meditated for ten years with no appreciable effect. Group got more popular and it started being more social. Would go on week retreats no talking. Too much hugging afterwards. Too much talking about what happened during. Either I was there when it happened or it's your personal experience and none of my business. Do you really need to run your mouth this badly?
A culinary career is demanding
gordon ramsay cooking GIF by Hell's KitchenGiphyAdvice from older people
Used to be a chef and met a lot of older men who would wish they had changed career path when they were younger so they could get out of that life and have a family and some genuine time off during holidays etc.
I'm only 29 but I took the advice and can honestly say my life is a lot better now as a teacher
I hope they're able to recover from this tragedy
I used to cycle every weekend. I was preparing for a big race and was up to 100miles. My three year old nephew died in a car crash about two weekends before it was scheduled. It sent me into a pretty ragged depression. I lost interest in a lot of things. I'm trying to get some gear back to start again but I'm still working on it.
Family can be cruel
I stopped learning random skills in high school because of family constantly saying I'd never amount to anything
only recently got the confidence to start learning new things again
It's awful to have the things you love be laughed at
I used to write a whole lot of stories. Sometimes fanfics but mostly my own stuff. I illustrated a lot of them too. (That was from my 5th to ~14th birthday) I stopped doing it for a long time because my parents started to laugh at my stories which were very personal. It destroyed a lot of trust. I recently started to write again and it's not the same anymore. I constantly have that fear of being made fun of, my stories being cringy and simply not good enough. Never laugh about something your kid does if the kid doesn't laugh
Wild bears everywhere
Black Bear Family GIF by BBC AmericaGiphyThe area of my favorite nature trail has become heavily populated with black bears.
Since it's nearly impossible to walk the area without encountering black bears (some of them quite large), I've stopped going
It could've been accident, but that sucks
I loved writing lyrics. Wrote for 6 or 7 years, typed them all into a memo pad on a phone I carried everywhere. I wrote all of the time. It was my way of expressing myself, of coping with things in my head. It was my dream to record them all, and have people hear my message. Let my mom borrow my phone one day. She formatted it(deleted everything). I still don't know why. Since then, I can't seem to work up the will or desire to write lyrics.
This pandemic is on everyone's minds
Horrible teachers. I love my classes, it's just that some of the teachers can't teach or can't talk about anything but their life and the pandemic. I gave up watching their online classes and only study through the books.
Just like what you like
I used to love learning about Japanese history and culture. I would study and try and learn Japanese during school hours. But then this weeaboo nonsense started, and I wanted no part of that identity
Liking Japanese stuff doesn't make you a weeb.
In fact, a weeaboo is someone who's really ignorant of Japanese culture and just buys into fantasies and stereotypes. They can't seem to remember that Japan is just a country full of normal people and common problems.
The scary world of online gaming
I stopped playing video games because my friends are all toxic to me and I suck at games. At first I only played to play with my friends, but when they became toxic af I stopped playing.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.