People Explain Which Signs Scream That Someone Is Too Immature To Date

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Hey, did you ever have that kind of ex that constantly threw ragers in his parents' basement and thought marijuana was a personality trait? Because I sure did, and was it EXHAUSTING. I should've taken these as signs early on and gotten the heck out. Keep an eye out for these, so you don't waste your time with another idiot.

u/big_brainer asked: What screams "I'm too immature to date someone"?



So annoying.

Inability or unwillingness to look at problem or issue through your partner's perspective.

AmigoDelDiabla

"It is the mark of an intelligent person who can entertain an idea without accepting it." Aristotle

SnarkyRetort

Why would you even do that?

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Deliberately trying to make the SO jealous.

Redflatline

My ex sent nudes to her cousin to try and make me jealous.

temsik1587againtwo

EVERYONE needs to do this.

Inability to self correct or to take criticism.

OtherEgg

Well f*ck you too.

JimminityGlickMyBic

This.

Making the other person responsible for yourself, whether it's about your mental or physical health, feeding habits, cleanliness or anything else.

mindeatingjellyfish

I have a friend like this. She went to college with her (now ex-)boyfriend and ended up losing over 20 lbs causing her to be very underweight for her height. When I asked how much she was actually eating, she told me it's not much because her boyfriend doesn't "remind" her to eat. I asked how she survived high school and she said her mom would just make her lunch and dinner so she would eat then.

I tried telling her that was not healthy at all and she should never rely on someone else to remind her to take care of herself (said in nicer words, but you know what I mean).

She also is constantly trying to get back with this ex even though she's told me how mentally and sometimes physically abusive he was. She just started therapy so hopefully that helps her get out of this behavior.

maddiegirl4598

Hypocrisy is annoying af.

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Having a list of qualities the other person should have but not once thinks about how to better themselves or what they can bring to the relationship.

Example: You want someone who doesn't smoke, but you smoke.

KDenim06

This hits home so much. Had an ex with a list. Basically her and her stepmom came up with this list and the guy had to hit most of, if not all of them. She told me this, I never asked her what was on it and if I fulfilled these things, but I instantly thought: she has a lot of issues and personality flaws and attitude problems. I thought, where is the list she made for herself for her own self improvement?

You can't find a perfect person. Also, you should always work on yourself before demanding things from others

I fear she'll never have a successful relationship.

bow9045x

Beyond frustrating.

Agreeing to date someone, ghosting them for a week, then calling the person they are dating clingy for wanting to spend time with them.

Sethyboi12354

This is how my ex behaved. He accused me of being clingy when I just wanted to see him more than once every two weeks.

WakandaAdnakaw

Ugh.

When they're full of themselves. "I don't understand why people wouldn't date ME I mean I have such-and-such!"

verifiedbeef

I have a penis and I shower daily. Who wants some?

brickmack

This is a big one.

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Not being able to talk honestly about sex and birth/disease control.

mstibbs13

Aside from too immature to date, that's a person that's too immature to be having sex.

TheWholeOfHell

ACCURATE.

Thinking there are any positives in any way to the relationship between the Joker and Harley.

master_a_skywalker

When someone says their relationship is like Joker and Harley Quinn's, they're usually right - just not self-aware enough to realize this is a bad thing.

I'm kind of optimistic about Birds of Prey hopefully making sure the depth of Harley's arc percolates into pop culture. She isn't "the Joker's girlfriend", she's his ex-girlfriend, and she knows their relationship was abusive. Hopefully the movie will make everyone who says "we're just like J+H!" think twice about their relationships.

Nyxelestia

More people need to know this.

Thinking love is gonna "fix you" or solve everything and make your life perfect.

At least in my eyes, the people who have the healthiest relationships are the people who have learned to have healthy, happy single lives. That way they don't put romantic love on a weird pedestal and expect way too much of their partners.

NewRedditSameTaste

Jealousy sucks.

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Not letting your partner do anything or be friends with people of the opposite sex. If your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you that you can't see other platonic friends because they might cheat, they need to go.

redditKMC

Big red flag.

Comparing your significant other to your ex. Doesn't matter what gender, race, etc.

SingleCucumber

Woooow.

Drunk texting your girlfriend's mom to shit talk her and her daughter (while still well aware you are indeed texting your girlfriend's mother).

ettoire

Be yourself!

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Changing yourself to suit another person in a new relationship or getting super into new hobbies and interests because your new SO is into them. Just be yourself.

serabean

NOT normal.

Thinking fighting all the time is normal. I don't mean bickering and arguments. I mean full on, yelling screaming slamming doors fighting. I've been with my now husband for 5 years and we have NEVER had a screaming match. The few times we've gotten close to being that angry we both had the wherewithal to say "you know what let's table this and talk about it later", then did something silly to bring the edge off.

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