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People Explain Which Things Society Should Stop Making People Feel Insecure About

Just let people be....

People Explain Which Things Society Should Stop Making People Feel Insecure About
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Why can't we just let one another live in peace? Society has gotten so out of control when it comes to policing one another's lives. Like... who made you judge and jury of the culture? I like to wear white after labor day. I'll laugh as loud as I want in a library and wear clothes from Walmart. Live with it!

Redditor u/selcouthsiren wanted to discuss what we can do to cease the negative by asking... What should we as a society stop making people feel insecure about?

The Peace

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Being quiet.

"You never say anything" is such a weird way to both draw attention to someone and give them nothing to work with.

DrScience-PhD

Life after Diplomas....

Trade school/gap years- college right after HS isn't for everyone. even Some of my smartest friends- top of my class should've taken a gap because they burned themselves out getting 95-97% avgs throughout HS.

jthorne00

Exactly! I'm one of them. I never should have jumped into college.

I went for something I was talked into (because it paid a lot), was miserable, changed majors, still wasn't happy. Graduated with a degree, 13 years ago, that I never used.

I didn't know what I wanted to do. I needed time to figure it out. And money isn't all that matters.

Pooky582

Ways to Learn

Being wrong. It's okay to be wrong, just be open to learning. Instead of doubling down or getting angry.

waitingtospeak

I was looking for this answer. People would be a lot smarter if we could all just admit when we don't know, or when we have been wrong about something!! There is always room to grow, and it's more than okay to change your mind.

Stars-and-Leaves

9 to 5

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Your choice of career.

fuzzyloulou

Another one: not having having a dream career.

z_planet

the years go by....

Aging and the unavoidable physical changes that come with it.

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This is so well said. On one hand, I know how grateful I should be to be alive and healthy and able to experience aging; on the other hand, seeing grey hairs and fine lines when I look in the mirror is very disheartening.

DateCard

Blame Illusion

Making any kind of mistake. Social media has created an illusion that everyone has to be perfect.

luneaux

We have a "no blame" culture at work. It's more important to get stuff working again than it is to know who's fault it was.

Yes, we work out what happened, but only so we know how to avoid similar issues in the future.

It's very refreshing.

beobabski

Don't be an Elitist....

Your job. Too many people are elitist about someone's occupation and look down on essential workers.

Cherly2020

Or look down on boring jobs. I have a stable, relatively well paying job as an accountant and I have had several comments from friends and family making fun of me or making snide comments about how boring my job/life is like I've totally sold out because I'm not a teacher or an artist. I think because it's such a safe career choice they feel like they're not punching down but it just makes me feel really lame and embarrassed. Boring jobs pay bills!

TheyHaveNoArms

Facials

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Having acne, it doesn't mean you're dirty or don't wash your face. it's simply a skin condition some people get and some people don't.

abby_ortizz

The Stigma....

Mental health struggles. There's absolutely nothing wrong with taking time to figure out what process works for you, despite why people around you might want to tell you.

Papabearto2

Had to scroll down a lot to find this, and I wish it was higher up.

Mental health/mental illness is a real issue for a lot of people, and society in general has a hard time understanding them and are quick to judge, making the ones who struggle with it feel insecure about asking for help and getting treatment. Shame this stigma still exists in 2021.

mr_w_

LOLOLOL

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The way someone laughs. This world is cold and unforgiving. Laughing makes it all a little less heavy. Who gives a crap a what it sounds like?

staccatodelareina

The Sweat

Exercising in public. To me anyone giving it a go, no matter their physical ability, deserves praise!

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Honestly from my experience most gym rats are the most encouraging to heavy people. A few of the guys I used to "work out with" (just be at the gym the same time every morning).

Kinda made it a point to say small comments to this very heavyset guy that worked out at the same time as us in the morning "you got this brother." "Keep up the good work man" "you're looking good man." This guy's face always lit up and he always pushed harder when anyone encouraged him.

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REDDIT

Things People Secretly Love But Would Never Admit To In Public

Reddit user sweet_chick283 asked: 'What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?;

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What makes us all unique is our passions and the things we love, whether it's singing in the shower, reading books, or listening to specific music artists.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are judged for our various tastes and interests thanks to social media, and it makes us consciously selective about sharing the things we love on the internet.

Curious to hear about people's personal desires under anonymity, Redditor sweet_chick283 asked:

"What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?"

These aren't really chores for the following Redditors.

Good Clean Fun

"Mopping, im a janitor and generally hate my work... but damn mopping is so good."

– MrDDog06

"When you have a great rhythm going it is something special. I get the same feeling while I vacuum, but won’t let my wife know I enjoy it."

– Bogus_34

Act Of Unwrinkling

"Ironing clothes. A dozen of them. Can’t explain how it relaxes me. I told one person and they looked at me like I’m crazy."

– eerie_white_glow

"My mum misses the days when dad would be out on a Friday night, my brother out with friends and me upstairs quietly playing PS1. She would pour herself a Bacardi & Coke and do the ironing while watching her TV shows."

"I'm sure she doesn't really miss it now that we've moved out and they've retired but it was her wind-down after a busy working week so I can see how people can find it relaxing."

– xdq

Our solo actions can spark joy.

Big Brother Is Watching

"pretending to be on the Truman show and whenever im in my house i act all inconspicuous so they dont know that i know that they’re watching me."

– Bec_121

"C’mon man, you’re not supposed to let him know. You signed a contract when signing up for live views. I’m reporting you."

– doeswaspsmakehoney

The Multi-Tasker

"Playing video games naked at home while eating cheese."

– thickening_agent

Releasing The Kraken

"I love the feeling when you've eaten good fibre and let out a solid long train log in the toilet. That feeling is heavenly."

– therapoootic

"Even better when it’s a clean wipe and not a poo crayon."

– TheWarmestHugz

Ultimate Comfort

"My (male 41) weekend routine is coming home from work, make hot chocolate, start a fire, dress in a ugly pink nightgown made for old ladies and watch forensic files."

– crazyloomis

Some people are obsessed with collecting things.

So Kawai

"Sanrio stationery stores. All those different multicolor pens, a thousand kinds of erasers, spiral bound notebooks galore... my kids sadly have absolutely no appreciation for this wonderland..."

– HavingNotAttained

It's A Staple

"Office supplies have a weird, special place in my heart ever since I was a kid. They don't even have to be 'cute' necessarily."

"Japan's legendary stationery stores is unironically a reason I want to go."

– _CozyLavender_

Not Caring Anymore

"The older I get the shorter that list gets. Not because I love less things, but because I don't care about hiding it."

– Bi-Beast

"YES!! I'm 53 now. I'm working my first job in public since 2006. Today is Halloween and we're allowed to dress up so I am sitting here waiting to go to work dressed as a VERY bad Wednesday Addams. My bf said I'd 'look stupid' because no one else will probably dress up and I'm like, 'WHO CARES!' My makeup looks horrible and not like I practiced, but I DO NOT CARE! I'm having fun with it anyhow and I don't care if my coworkers dress up or not. I'm bein' ME! :)"

– deanie1970

Honorable mentions start here.

The Savior

"Picking up worms from the street and sidewalks when it rains and moving them into the dirt so they don’t burn in the sun, every time it rains I do this."

– sky_kitten89

Hero Of The Moment

"Yoooo I scoot SO many snails and worms. I work as a tech/mechanic at an automotive shop, I had a peoject car towed to my house the other day and it was covered in snails. I saw them when the tow guy/coworker was unloading and I was like, 'oh! It comes with free snails!' and began moving them. He laughed then realized and said, '... Oh, you're serious. Uh... Okay.'"

"I don't care who knows it. These little things barely can look out for themselves, why shouldn't we if we can take a moment to help? I don't care what happens next, it probably doesn't matter overall but I can help this moment."

– chris14020

Why should some of the hidden desires mentioned above have to be secret?

Redditors opening up about some of these would make them a hit at parties–no shaming.

As a matter of fact, I'll totally be down for a Forensic Files viewing party where we all make hot chocolate, light the fireplace, and cozy up together in our respective pink ugly nightgowns for old ladies.

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We've probably all heard some variation of the saying "Truth is stranger than fiction."

Real life isn't just strange, it can also be downright ridiculous.

History is riddled with moments of absurdity.

So ridiculous that people have a hard time believing real life is, well, really real.

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