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People Explain Which Dare They Absolutely Regret Going Through With

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Truth or dare? PICK TRUTH. Just do it. The truth will set you free.

A dare may land you in the hospital. A physical ridiculous act is never a good idea--especially when a friend or stranger is the one telling you it is a good idea.

Don't do it. Run far away. Or just opt for truth.

u/Craftycorecreep asked:

What do you regret doing in a dare?

Here were some of those answers.


Cinna Minna Mon

When I was a teenager I tried the 'cinnamon challenge'. For those unaware, you take a spoonful of ground cinnamon and try to eat it, and it doesn't go well lol. I put it in my mouth, and it immediately sucked all of the moisture out of my mouth and sinuses. To make matters worse the drying out of my sinuses caused me to sneeze, making cinnamon fly out of both of my nostrils like a dragon snorting flames. I then proceeded to dry heave in the bathroom for the next five minutes or so. Pretty sure thate was the most miserable 5 minutes of my life so far. I still cant stand the taste of cinnamon, more than 10 years later.

Embyrz

Time To Get better Friends

Was dared to get naked and run outside (I say naked but in actuality I was left with my underwear and a stupid hat). My friends locked me out there for about 15 to 20 minutes while they were shooting me with a BB gun. Fun times.

OmagerdNova

Messy Mid Twenties

I've told this before, but:

We (3 guys and 3 girls) were all in the hot tub at this chick's house, and I get dared to go mash my bits up against her parents' bedroom window. Granted, it's like 1am, and the whole house is completely dark, so I thought it would be no big deal.

Get out of the hot tub, run over to the window, drop my suit, and smash my junk up against the window for a few moments. Then, in the reflective light of the pool, I catch a glimpse of her parents sitting right inside the window, watching us from inside. They didn't even blink, just just watched me. It was terrifying. TERRIFYING. Like, I saw them for a split second as the light passed over the glass, just inches away from my mashed up bits on the other side of the window. Something from a horror movie. I gasped and ran back to the hot tub, got back in, and just sat there in complete silence.

A couple minutes later, her dad comes outside laughing, hands me a beer, and then reminisces with all of us for a minute about the crazy stuff he did when he was a kid.

I've never felt a shock like I did when I saw their faces. It still haunts me sometimes, but it all turned out better than expected.

...I was 25.

SkyshroudX

It Gets Dark

At summer camp I (female) was playing Truth or Dare with a small group of 10-12 year olds. They dared me to kiss this boy, but the boy didn't want to participate. They pressured him into sitting in a chair while the rest of the group formed a circle around us until I kissed him (on the mouth). My family found out later and I was given an early lesson on consent and peer pressure.

KIKKOGURL

Ouchie Wa Wa

Certainly not the worst thing in the world, but when I was 19 I jumped off a pier into the water. Turns out the water was shallow and I fractured my foot. I only regret it because I have always been a cautious and calculating person. In this instance I just wanted to be liked and it ended up with me in an Italian emergency room. So I guess the regret isn't jumping, what I regret is thinking I needed people to think I was cool.

oscar_wao10

Let's Not Invite Strangers

I played Ring of Fire (Kings Cup for Americans) at a festival with some people we met in the next tent over

If you don't know, basically it's a drinking game where you spread a deck of cards around one cup in a circle. Each person picks a card and you do something depending on the card. Most cards ask one or more people to pour their own drink into the cup in the middle to create a sh!t mix. First person to pick a card that breaks the circle drinks the cup in the middle

After a few rounds, one of the people in the group who is a complete stranger decided to piss directly into the cup

Now you don't need me to tell you what happened next. But I did make a big fuss to everyone when he did it. I said, 'if anyone wants to drop out now that's fine. But if you stay in and you lose, you're drinking it'

Anyway, so that's the story of how I drank warm piss, milk, kahlua, vodka, 3 types of cider and lager in one chug

I got him back though. I chucked up in his tent.

Meliv23

Impulse Control

It's hard to pick the best story, but the one that's probably freshest in my memory is from back in November. It wasn't technically a dare, but it was the same concept. me and a handful of friends were playing the uncomfortable game (pick a person and try to make them uncomfortable, if they flinch away you win, if they stay put they win, whoever loses goes next/again. It is never ever a good idea to play this game. Don't do it.) And there was, of course, one guy who was invincible. He was undefeated so far, and everyone was invested in his downfall. It was my turn and I had an idea to get really close to his face, put on my most seductive expression and run my hand through his hair, around his neck, and down his chest. It occurred to me as i was going in that this was a terrible idea and i would regret it, but it was too late to turn back. The good news: it worked. The bad news: my friends refuse to let me forget it, and as the cherry on top that was the final straw in a series of events and i caught feelings. Hard.

There was also the time way back in middle school when some friends and i were playing truth or dare in a field beside a ymca, and i got dared to blow this guy's expired wallet condom up like a balloon. The wind caught it and it got stuck up on an awning directly outside the window of the kids room... where it stayed for almost a week.

i_am_a_jellybean

Radioactive

Drinking a glow stick. I was around 11, it was a few days after Halloween, and I was having a sleepover so of course we played truth or dare. When I was dared to drink a glow stick, I didn't even think twice about it. Once my friends started freaking out about my bright green saliva I ran downstairs crying and had to have my mom help me rinse out my mouth, only to see this glowing stuff going down the drain. It's funny now, but I honestly thought I was going to die at that point.

catcoma

Nailed It

When I was 8 I got the dare to go lay on a piece of wood in the woods. The wood was very old and all torn up so my dumb brain thought that if i laid on the corner i would be fine, but then as i was falling down on the the wood I noticed there was a nail.

Yes; a rusty, long, bent nail pointing towards my fat stomach. I lay down and chaos ensued, the nail went half way into my stomach and when I went to get up i ripped the nail out of the board. So there I am crying in pain running back to my friends as the nail falls out.

Then of course, as I thought it couldn't get worse i step on the damn nail, but it fails to go in my foot! Later when I told my mom the next day she convinced me i was sick from tetanus. I got a tetanus shot later that day, and that is the story of me getting impaled by the same nail 2 times.

KingDDDEEE

Water Stays In There, Friends

Was at the after party of an office Christmas party in a hotel room. We had a huge Rubbermaid bucket full of ice water and drinks. Someone started playing bob for beers. A collection was started and I was dared to hold my head underwater for 60 seconds. The tip of my nose had to touch the bottom the whole time.

I did it and earned about $40 bucks, but my ears were messed up for years afterwards, got ear and sinus infections almost weekly. About 6 months after this a was on a flight and my ears plugged up so bad on the landing I had to go to the ER, the pain was excruciating.

Took about 3 years to return to what I would consider normal. That was the hardest worked for $40 bucks ever.

LOUDCO-HD

He Didn't Have That Kind Of Money

Awhile ago in middle school, there was a piece of gum on the ground that has been there for as long as anyone remembered, someone said they would pay five hundred dollars for someone to lick it. I jumped down and did it, he started to talk but stuttered heavily. He changed the price to a hundred dollars, fifty... 10... all the way down to fifty cents. At the end I got two bracelets.

Obiwannichob

Chhhhhh

In grade 6, our class would often play truth or dare at lunchtimes. Well it was my turn, and my dare was to slap this guy that liked me at the time. After thinking about it for a minute and looking in his direction to look for any objection on his part, I just thought "oh what the heck let's do it" and slapped his cheek. The sound it made was almost cartoonish, the whole class went silent. I feel so bad i didn't slap his arm or something instead of his literal face.

I know this is pretty minor, but I still feel really bad about it anytime I remember the incident. Sorry, Kingston.

omg_dannydevit0

Now I'm Uneven

My friends and I were just sitting around doing truth or dare and I got dared to shave my legs ( I am an early bloomer and my testosterone levels are really high). Anyway the razor we found was kinda dull so I started going at it. 5 minutes later I have one unshaven leg and the one that I did mange to shave was gushing blood.

OneSpoopyBigBoy2

Pocahontas Or Life?

I was five or six and was dared to take a penny into PE (weird I know) to see if I could get through PE without the teacher noticing it. We had to catch a ball so I hid the penny in my mouth and soon began choking. Fortunately the teacher knew first aid. Apparently I turned blue. My parents were informed and I didn't get to go and see Pocahontas at the cinema that weekend which I was looking forward to. At least I'm alive though so that's something.

JinogAtYourDoor

Just A Lil Confused

Uhh... I kinda went into a store and went into a public bathroom and got butt naked with the door wide open and when someone saw me I was supposed to say "Wait this isn't a changing room?". I got reported to the manager and quickly put my clothes and the manager said "Nothings wrong" and the lady that reported me got really mad. I can't get that out of my head.

DziiidyVR

I Puked For Free

At a place where I worked people would dump coffee dregs into a cup. Someone commented about gross it was. I said its not that bad - it's emptied daily. So I was challenged to drink it. I said that I would drink it for $10 (1987 dollars). Challenge accepted. I drank it then hurried to the bathroom to puke (it was worse than I thought).

My only regret is the SOB who bet me didn't pay up.

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People Reveal Whether They Let Their Dog Sleep On Their Bed Or Not

Reddit user Piggythelavasurfer asked: 'Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?'

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Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.

While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.

Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.

Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.

For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.

Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:

"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"

The Tiny Issue Of Water...

"Absolutely not."

"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649

Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...

"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."

"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."

"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."

"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep

The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...

"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."

"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3

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What Do You Mean Allow?

"I have no choice."

"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412

"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show

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Who Needs An Alarm Clock?

"I let my two cats sleep with me."

"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."

"And so do I."

"We've all developed a lil routine."

"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_

Whose Bed Is It Anyway?

"Yes."

"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."

"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor

"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."

"Would not come out."

"Got some food and some water in dishes."

"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."

"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."

"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."

"She was too busy eating."

"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."

"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."

"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."

"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."

"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."

"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."

"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."

"She would not go."

"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."

"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588

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Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...

"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."

"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."

"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle

Saying No Just Isn't An Option...

"'Let'."

"Lol."

"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren

Felines Only!

"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz

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Is That My Hair On That Pillow?

"My dog is perfect."

"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."

"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."

"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester

It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.

Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...


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Old Wives' Tales People Still Believe For Some Reason

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The old wives' tales.

They are the stories of legend.

I think we all need a big DEEP Google dive though.

Where did they originate?

WHO ARE THE OLD WIVES!

You don't hear about them as much anymore.

It's like science and logic are suddenly a thing.

But they sure are a good way to keep your kids and their behavior in line.

Redditor the_spring_goddess wanted to discuss the tall tales we've all been fed through life, so they asked:

"What is an old wives tale that people still believe?"

"Wait an hour to swim after eating."

What a crock!

So many summer hours wasted.

I want revenge for that one.

Say Nothing

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"An undercover cop has to tell you he's a cop if you ask him."

LonelyMail5115

"Pretty much most advice when it comes to cops are old wives tales. I’m not even a cop but most of the advice you hear is pretty off."

I_AM_AN_A**HOLE_AMA

Say Something

"That you have to wait 24 hours to report someone missing."

Severe_Airport1426

"I really think this one is important and should be the top regardless. As it’s a piece of advice that needs to be relearned and the only way to do that is through awareness."

crappycurtains

"This used to be true. I think they changed it after some guy named Brandon went missing back in the '80s or '70s. You used to have to wait 24 hours if the missing person was an adult because they had 'a right to be missing' and then everyone realized that was stupid and stopped doing it."

AlbinoShavedGorilla

Body Temps

"That drinking ice cold water after eating oily foods will solidify the oil and permanently remain in your body. I informed my coworker that if your body temperature ever reached that point, you’d have bigger problems than weight gain."

chriseo22

"Oh, I have a cousin who 100% believed this. One of those guys who believed every early 2000s internet rumor and old wives tale. One night I chugged a big glass of ice water after dinner and he started freaking out and saying my guts were gonna harden."

"I sarcastically told him to drive me to the hospital if that happened. Obviously, nothing happened and the next morning I said something like 'Thanks for being on standby in case my guts filled with hardened oil.' He just walked off muttering under his breath."

apocalypticradish

Arms Down

"When I was pregnant, I was told by young and old alike that I should NOT raise my arms above my head or exert myself in such a manner because it could cause cord strangulation to my unborn sons and daughters."

Fatmouse84

10 Years Actually

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"Chewing gum stays in your stomach for 7 years."

REDDIT

"I remember accidentally swallowing a piece of gum when I was a kid in like 1995 and just accepting my fate like welp, gonna have this in my stomach til high school I guess."

Gecko-911

I was so afraid to sallow my gum when I was young.

This tale is haunting.

High/Low

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"You can tell the sex of the baby by how you carry."

LeastFormal9366

"Pregnancy certainly wins awards for the most old wives tales. So much absolute BS was repeated to us by everyone we talked to."

IllIIIlIllIlIIlIllI

The Cursed

"If you’re a woman and you wear opal jewelry but opal is not your birthstone (October), you’ll never be able to have children, or will be widowed, or just generally have bad luck or something. You can counteract this by having a diamond in the same piece of jewelry as the opal, though."

"I have a nice opal ring that my parents gave me years ago, and I’ve had other women give me this 'advice' unprompted more than once when I’ve worn it. I have absolutely no idea where it started, but I’m pretty sure this little chunk of silicate rock has no concept of what month I was born in, let alone of how my reproductive organs work."

SmoreOfBabylon

Stay In

"Going outside with wet hair will make you get pneumonia. Or an earache. Or maybe arthritis. Depends on which old wife you listen to."

"Jokes on them - I haven't blow-dried my hair in decades and usually leave the house with wet hair in the morning. On winter mornings, the tips of my hair get frozen. No ear infections or pneumonia or arthritis yet."

worldbound0514

Dreams and Facts

"You never make anyone up in your dreams you've seen everyone in your dreams somewhere else before and never make anyone up entirely."

"How would you possibly prove that to be true? My partner adamantly believes this and tells me this 'fact' whenever I have a dream about someone I've never met before."

mattshonestreddit

"My late wife used to tell me that before she met me she would have dreams of standing at an alter on her wedding day but could never see the guy's face, no matter how hard she tried. After meeting me the face was filled in with mine. Don't know if it's true but one of those things I like thinking of every now and then when I miss her."

Darthdemented

Cracked

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"Some people still believe cracking knuckles causes arthritis."

Choice-Grapefruit-44

"There's a doctor (Donald Unger) that cracked his knuckles a couple of times a day for 60 years, but only on one hand, just to prove it. Both hands remained exactly the same."

MacyTmcterry

I love my knuckles.

Do you have any tall tales to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.

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People Who Wouldn't Quit Their Job If They Won The Lottery Explain What They Do

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A lot of workers daydream about some day winning the lottery and being able to say goodbye to their job.

Far too many workers are unhappy with their job duties, workplace dynamics or company culture.

But with a taste for luxuries like housing and food, they keep plugging away, year after year.

However not everyone feels that way about their job.

So what are these compelling careers?

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People Break Down The Biggest Bombshells Their Therapist Ever Dropped On Them

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Some people stand firmly stand behind their beliefs that everyone would benefit from therapy and that therapy is life-changing.

It's because of the totally life-changing truth bombs their therapist had dropped during their sessions.

Curious, Redditor anonymiss0018 asked:

"What is a little bombshell your therapist dropped in one of your sessions that completely changed your outlook?"

Communication Issues

"'If you don’t have these problems with any other person in your life, why do you think you’re the problematic person in this one?'"

- maggiebear

"I love this. I have a 'friend' who I always seem to run into misunderstandings with. Every time we had a conversation, it somehow turned into a debate even if it was me talking about my day. The conversations were never easy."

"I always evaluate myself first and take into consideration his critiques. He was very good at convincing me that I was contradicting myself or wasn't good at communicating my thoughts."

"I NEVER had this issue with ANYONE else in my life. I kept trying to figure out where the miscommunication was coming from. In the end, I just minimized contact and now I don't run into this issue."

- chobani_yo

"I read this quote somewhere once (and probably have it a bit wrong): 'It's a waste of time arguing with someone who is determined to misunderstand you.'"

- Reddit

Emotional Regulation

"'You can’t control your emotions, but you can control what you do with them.'"

"At the time, I was a young adult who had learned zero healthy emotional regulation skills (only suppression and shaming) growing up, so this blew my mind."

- lil_mermaid

Tough Relationships

"'It sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself to stay with your girlfriend. I'm not so sure it should be so difficult.'"

"At the time he said this, I remember it was like he said, 'The earth is flat.' I thought he was crazy when he suggested relationships don't need to be difficult. But eventually, I started to realize I was trying to change myself to stay with this person rather than just being who I am."

"It took me three more months to finally break up with her but from that day on, I vowed to never again abandon myself just to be with someone I had convinced myself was better than me."

- metric88

High-Stress Situation

"I was at a high-stress time, and I asked her how people live like this."

"She replied, 'Oftentimes they have cardiac events.' She said it as an urging to care for myself as much as possible."

- KittenGr8r

The End of Alcohol

"I was struggling with my alcoholism, and we were discussing how I had been cutting back."

"She asked what I would consider success, with regard to my drinking."

"I said I wanted to get to a point where it wasn't interfering with my daily life. I wanted to just be able to have a glass of wine at holiday dinners or family gatherings."

"She simply asked me why. Why was it important for me to drink at those times?"

"It was as if she'd turned on a light. Alcohol had always been a key ingredient in every family function, for my entire life. When I smell bourbon, I think of my uncle. When I smell vermouth, I think of my dad. Alcohol ran through almost every happy childhood memory."

"But, even more than that, I was very afraid of the explanation I'd have to give when family and friends asked why I wasn't having a drink. I had tried to quit before but failed. What if I admitted my problem, only to fall off the wagon?"

"When she asked why I didn't want to completely quit, it was the first time I saw that last part of the big picture. I'd be willing to drink myself to death in order to avoid being scrutinized, or judged for possible future failures."

"That was the day I quit. I've been sober since May 6th, 2017. 2,407 days."

- sophies_wish

Acceptance vs. Enjoyment

"'Accepting something doesn’t mean you have to like it.'"

"That took away a lot of my inner conflicts about situations because I could accept a situation without expending energy internally fighting against the injustice of it."

- alibelloc

Emotionally Immature Parents

"You are not responsible for your parents' emotional wellbeing. They are independent adults who have been on this earth for many more years than you."

- SmokedPears

Not So Lazy

"'Why do you think you're lazy?' Then she listed off all the things she knows I'm doing for my family, my job, and my life."

"It kind of blew my mind when I struggled to come up with an example."

"She also described family dysfunction as water. Some families are messed up in a way that everyone can see the huge waves across the surface. Others are better at hiding it, but there's still a riptide that you can't see unless you're also in the water."

"It made me realize that trying to keep the surface from ever rippling doesn't erase what is happening underneath."

- flybyknight665

The Harm in People-Pleasing

"'Why do you make people more comfortable when you are uncomfortable?' when talking about people pleasing and fawning."

- ERsandwich

Agree to Disagree

"'Stop trying to get everyone to agree. When you need everyone to agree, the least agreeable person has all the power.'"

This really changed my outlook on planning family events."

- freef

Grieve and Start Anew

"For context, I had a major TBI (traumatic brain injury), seizures, strokes, and all around not a fun brain time when I was 28."

"They said, 'You have to grieve the loss of yourself.'"

"Most people wanted me to go back to how I was. The f**ked up truth is that part of my brain is dead. The person everyone (including myself) knew died. I needed to grieve the loss of myself."

- squeaktoy_la

Multifaceted Identity

"They told me that my job and career is just a way to make money; it's not my life or identity. That took a lot of pressure off me."

- unfairpegasus

Breaking the Cycle

"They validated me."

"'You always talk about not wanting to do to your daughters what your mom did to you. You worry about it so much in every interaction you have ever had with them."

"But your children are 19 and 21 now. They are happy and healthy and they trust you because you’ve never abused them in any way. So I just want to validate for you that you really have broken that cycle of violence."

"You did that. And you should be proud of it. I’m proud of you for it.'"

- puppsmcgee74

The Grieving Process

"I was constantly bringing up how I felt like a completely different person after my mom died... like there was a marked difference between before and after her death."

"But once, she was asking about my hobbies, I got really into describing all the things I loved to do or at least used to do before I got into a deep depression."

"She was like, 'Wow, you seem very passionate.'"

"And I just sat there like, 'Well, I mean, I can't change what I like to do, they're still fun to do.'"

"And it's like she knew when to take a step back, because it was like, wow, I may be super depressed about my mom passing, but I'm still me. I'm still my passions and those don't go away."

"I don't know, maybe it only makes sense to be, but it really started getting me back on track."

- Hannibal680

Sharing the Load

"I've never really had friends. I've had colleagues and classmates and housemates and people who have hung out with me, but I never really felt close to any of them."

"And I did that thing you see on here sometimes; I stopped reaching out to see if I would be reached out to, and I wasn't, which I took as confirmation that they didn't really want me around, or at the very least, that they wouldn't mind my absence."

"I was talking to my therapist about people I'd been close to in college, and she told me to pick one and talk about him. So I did. After I shared some basic stuff like his name and his major etc., and a couple of anecdotes, she asked me what else I knew about him."

"And I couldn't answer. It wasn't really a broadly applicable bombshell, but she said, 'What else?' and I started crying because I realized that for as simple as the question was, my inability to answer spoke volumes."

"I've never had good friends because I've never been a good friend. I'm withdrawn and reserved and I always made others do the work to drag me out, without ever extending my own friendship in a meaningful way in return. If I wanted to have meaningful relationships with other people, I would have to build them."

"I'm still working on this, but I'm trying to make more offers and extend more friendliness to others in my daily life."

- Backupusername

The discoveries in this thread were incredibly touching and profound; it's no wonder these were lasting concepts for these Redditors.

It's important to keep ourselves open to inspiration and insights from others, as we have no idea how their experiences could help us, or how we could help them.

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