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People Explain Why They Broke Up With Their Best Friend

People Explain Why They Broke Up With Their Best Friend
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Keeping a best friend into adulthood is one of the hardest tasks. Your own responsibilitie interfere more frequently, thus preventing you from spending time together as often as you did in, say, school. With practice, and a little bit of time, you might be able to solidify that friendship to weather the rocky waters of adulthood.

Then, there are these stories, where almost out of nowhere friendships needed to die.


Reddit useraurallisun wanted friends to be frank when they asked:

Why did you stop being friends with your best friend?

You Open Up, And They Turn Away

"I opened up to him about my mental health issues, and after a day or two he messaged me saying he couldn't have that kind of negativity in his life."

"This was literally the first and only time I told anyone about it."- ESPete2018

Gone Without A Word

"He moved house in the middle of the night."

"We were kids and it was the 90s, he didn't leave a forwarding address and I don't think he knew he was about to move."- ktfan67

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You Can Only Give Your Best Advice

"She got mad because I told her it wasn't a good idea to move to a new state with a guy she met online for less than three months."

"It's been over a year and I haven't heard from her."
"At this point I don't care to find her (I know she's still alive) because our relationship was toxic as hell."-
demoncafe

Expecting The Wingman Treatment But Getting Nothing

"When I was a teenager, I couldn't talk to girls."

"I'd just lock up around any girl that I thought was remotely cool, and not say anything until the situation had passed."

"One of my best friends at the time had started hanging out with a group of people from a local college."

"He told me that there was a girl in that group that I would hit it off with."

"He said he had talked to her about me, and she wanted to meet me and hang out."

"I agree to meet him and this group of friends at a restaurant."

"I get there, he introduces me to her, and it is immediately apparent that he never said a word to her about me."

"This is the first time she has ever heard my name, and the look she gives me is one I would at best describe as disinterest."

"We sit there for an hour, I of course say absolutely nothing, she leaves, and everyone proceeds to laugh about it; that went well, great job, etc."

"It really felt like he set me up just so his new friends could get a laugh at my expense."

"I've never wanted to beat the crap out of someone more in my entire life."

"That was about 20 years ago."

"I haven't spoken to him since, and I never intend to again."- theonethatwas5

Hurts At First, But Then You Move On

"She slept with my, then, boyfriend."

"I eventually forgave her years later."- zodiacorsomething

Five Minutes And Infinite Away

"We had been friends from high school and she met some people that saw her sexually for the first time."

"She got into a relationship with a really sh-tty person who cut her off from her friends."

"I tried to hang on but he didn't like any of her friends."

"Eventually she got heavy into alcohol, and her boyfriend was abusive, emotional, mental and physical, which made her even more dependent on alcohol and that became her life."

"She would always say she wanted to change but she never followed through."

"I truly believe she said those things because she felt that's what she was SUPPOSED to say not what she really felt."

"We drifted apart and I only heard from her when she thought her online boyfriend was cheating on her with me because we had similar phone numbers."

"We live literally five minutes away from each other and we don't talk anymore."- domi_sade

Calling You Out On Your Birthday

"On my birthday, while I was celebrating it with my family, after two really stressful weeks at university studying for the most important exam of my career, my friend decided that was a good moment to send me a couple of DMs on Twitter b*tching about the fact that I hadn't paid enough attention to her and the game we were playing with at that moment,."

"We used to roleplay a lot with some characters we created before."

"To this day I don't know what got into her to have such a stupid ourbust."

"And even though a friend that we had in common and myself tried to explain to her about my exam she didn't seem to get it and actually I've never got an apology from her."

"That was all that took for me to end our friendship of years and I don't regret it, she was a selfish person after all."- redluscinia

Uteruses Before Dude-eruses

"He took the 'bros before hoes' phrase and flipped it."- M-o-e

I Keep Changing, They Stay The Same

"I went into the Army.'

"We had Christmas Exodus - leave during Christmas and New Year's - and in the days leading up to that, our 1SG told us the following:'

"'When you go home, you're going to meet up with your old friends, and it won't take long before you think to yourself, "huh, they really changed."'"

"'Wrong.'"

"'You changed, they stayed the same.'"

"And he was right! "

"My friends, hey, they're great guys, but I wasn't super close to them before, I definitely wasn't close after just a couple months of basic training."

"I think everyone in my platoon felt the same, even if they kept it to themselves."

"Everyone was just a little wonky that first week back, and it wasn't just because everyone got dog-sick on vacation, too."- Wasnbo

As Long As The Thread Lasts

"Was a cop wife for twenty years."

"When you divorce you not only lose your cop family, you evidently lose your best friend who is married to a cop."

"I learned a valuable lesson."

"Friendships built on a common thread last only as long as that thread remains."

"Heartbreaking."- TrustMeIaLawyer

Help From An Absent Friend

"It slowly fell apart."

"She moved to live with her partner and we slowly stopped talking as often until rarely talking at all."

"I knew I was done when she asked me to help find someone to film her wedding-that I was not invited to."

"But she's happy with how her life is and who am I to judge for that?"- MaineSoxGuy93

It's Never Worth The Time Of Getting Nothing In Return

"He got busy with his own life and I got busy with mine, and as much as I tried to keep in touch, he never did the same."

"I hear from him once in a blue moon, but whenever I try to make plans, he dodges me."

"I just finally came to the realization that a friendship isn't worth my time if I'm putting in all the effort and getting absolutely nothing back."

"It's sad, this is a guy I spent most of my young and teenage years with, practically lived at his house."

"We spent every waking minute together and had so many awesome times."

"I guess life just had different paths for us both."

"I don't begrudge him for anything, I don't think he has intentionally cut me out, I think he's just caught up in his own journey."

"Maybe one day life will bring us back to the same place and we will spend time together again, but maybe not."- JohnOctober

"If you don't grow together, you grow apart."

"We lived together during our early university years."

"I was not in a good place when we became friends."

"A couple years later, I picked myself up, got into really good shape, was accepted into the degree program I wanted and found an extremely awesome job."

"She said she couldn't continue being friends with me because I didn't need her."

"If you don't grow together, you grow apart."

"Years later we were still Facebook 'friends'."

"She deleted me when I got engaged."

"I noticed and asked her why, she said she didn't care anymore about anything in my life."

"It took me a long time to get over that last part"

". No one needs that in their life."- Nursewholovedyou

They Move On To Other Things

"When I was young, it was because my best friend grew out of playing with dolls before I did."

"All she wanted to do was wear make up, and so she got new friends who all wore make up."

"It's been twenty years since I saw her last, but I'll never forget that."

"Young me was heartbroken."- badgersinatrenchcoat

A Misunderstanding From Nothing

"My husband and I went on vacation with her and her husband."

"My husband and I did some gambling and won a decent amount of money."

"They did not gamble at all."

"When we got back I found out they had told everyone how much of a b-tch I was because I had not offered to pay for their half of the vacation with my gambling winnings."

"When I confronted her she did not deny it."

"I didn't want to be friends with someone that thought money played into our friendship or that talked like that behind my back."- amelia_egghart217

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And Sometimes, There's No Explanation...

"We were friends for almost 10 years."

"Every once in a while, we'd have small arguments, but always come around and told each other everything."

"Over a year ago, we went to a party."

"I didn't drink, but he did."

"He got extremely moody, wouldn't talk to me and kept disappearing to a room to be alone."

"Kept brushing me off every time I asked if he was okay."

"He left the party early without telling me, and I sent him a pissed off text because we had agreed earlier to cab home together."

"The next day I call and text."

"No answer."

"A week passes."

"More texts, still no answer."

"I go to his house."

"His roommate says he won't speak to me."

"He deletes and blocks me on all social media."

"I call and text him more, saying I'm sorry for whatever it is I must have done, still no answer."

"I message his friends, asking what I could have done and they have no idea, all he's saying is he doesn't want to see me."

"At one point I fell into a depression."

"Am I such an uncaring person that I couldn't even know that I did something wrong?"

"Or was our friendship even that great if he was willing to drop me so suddenly without explanation or goodbye? "

"It's a weird, scary thought when someone who knows more about you than anyone refuses to even speak to you ever again."

"It's been over a year and still no word."

"I went to a party the other day that I heard he'd be at."

"The host told me that as soon as he heard I was coming, he decided not to come."

"It's probably one of the biggest heartbreaks of my life."-surejan94

Ghosting

"I was going to watch a concert with a best friend (A)."

"Another best friend (B) that usually joins us is still debating whether to come or not."

"Me and A, which can attend the concert, decides to just go to the concert no matter if B can make it or not."

"B throws a tantrum for supposedly 'leaving her behind'."

"I tell B she is childish if she thinks me and A cant hangout with just the two of us, besides we're just waiting for her to decide whether she will attend or not."

"A thinks B is childish too."


"I leave B alone for a couple of days and not try to initiate convo to give her space, while still maintaining good relationship with A."

"Suddenly one day A cancels all future hangouts with me, including the concert."

"Then I realize, me and my BF has been blocked and ghosted by both A and B."

"My mind says good riddance because I don't need friends that ghost me but my BPD has been making it hard to cope with."

"Sigh."- melonlupi

​Brok a cardinal rule of friendship, without realizing it.

"I accidentally received a blowjob from his sister."

"I know how bad it sounds so I'll just tell my story."

"So it was summer of 2018, school ended 2 weeks then, my close friend who I'll name Mani to keep him anonymous, had a younger sister by a year, 19, and he never told me much about her except for that she's his sister."

"Take note that I have never been over at his house despite being his best friend for 2 years."

"I ask Mani about his gym that he goes to, LA Fitness, so we could workout together and I signed up to workout with him every 2 days of the week, Tuesday and Thursday."

"Sometimes he would cancel out since his work schedule was random."

"So around the end of July, he cancels out on me last minute so I go alone and then I meet this cute girl and we sorta exchange eye contact several times and then I would finish and go home, do the exact same thing next time."

"We kept this going for say like 1.5 to 2-ish weeks, at this point, Mani gave up on Gym and I didn't really want to bother him since he seemed very tired to come to gym after work,"

" I started going to the gym more because of her and one day I decided to go up and strike up a conversation with her while she was working out."

"We hit it off pretty well and have been hanging out outside of the gym not soon after."

"This should be around Mid-August, she invites me to go clubbing with her downtown."

"I accept and we go there with her friends and we just chilled and danced for like an hour or 2 before leaving."

"As we were leaving, I decided to take this girl home, but she said that she 'has a very special reward for her'."

"Bingo, it's game time."

"We got into my car and she started to suck me off right then and there."

"We continue but end it off there and I take her back to her house and she kissed me goodnight."

"Then not a week goes by, Mani invites me over to his house to finish the summer off with a bang."

"So he give me directions to his house, right when I saw the address, I froze up, quickly called him to say that i had a family event i had to go to, and I avoided his calls, texts and all that cause I was too distraught by the fact that I was with his sister and didn't know."

"I deleted my insta, snap and pretty much slowly, but surely, I disappeared from his life, as for his sister, she has tried to text me and I told her that we just can't be together and called it off."

"I deeply hate how things have turned out."

"I still wonder what would have happened if I kept going, if I didn't do his sister, but just a random girl."- MileaukeeBucktees

Not who they appear to be

"She had an affair with my manipulative boyfriend at the time and later revealed to me that her friendly and encouraging text she'd sent me during that time were all meant to mock me."

"Two years later I have her a chance and we became a part of each other's lives again."

"The friendship ended the second time when she got jealous at my education."

"Like literally forced me to pick between my future or her and generally acted like I had been the biggest bitch on the planet for having other priorities than her."

"I still miss her."

"I only talked about the reasons why the friendship ended here so of course she's gonna look like a horrible person, but there was a lot of great things about her too and I still love her in spite of her selfish and cruel actions toward me."

"I'm glad she was my friend and I'm glad that she isn't anymore."

"She's one of the biggest heart breaks of my life because it was all so unnecessary but I believe we are better apart."- rhsbdkt

It just wasn't meant to be.

"Not my best friend, but a close one."

"Former friend (FF) of mine used me as their agony aunt and kept telling me what bad friends two of our mutual friends were."

"FF constantly put me in an uncomfortable situation because I knew she had some serious issues going on and I tried to be understanding and supportive."

"But when she said that one of my best friends, who often gets to go on concerts for free because her dad has connections, was an awful friend because she didn't take FF to any concerts, she did take some other friends of hers, and how she deserved that because she was such a good friend, I felt that there was something really wrong with her perception of friendship."

"Then FF started complaining that she didn't get a surprise birthday party thrown when she turned 18, and told me that she broke up with her boyfriend of 1 week or so for snatching the blanket, out of fun, when he was staying over."

"At that point it had become really uncomfortable listening to her and spending time with her alone, but as i was trying to see the positive parts of our friendship, like hanging out at her place with some other friends was fun and if she was in a good mood you could really enjoy spending time or partying with her."

"I didn't want to cut ties."

"But then she did something that made me 'break up' with her."

"We had a trip of five days planned."


"We were going to attend a camp with about 1500 people, and as there were many people there I didn't know, I was glad to have her as my companion and thought maybe we could sort things out there."

"But at the day of our departure she canceled on me, 2 hours before we wanted to catch our train, because we got into a fight over the departure time."

"I wanted to go early, she wanted to go late when the program there would have started already because she 'wanted to sleep in" that day'."

"she texted me something like 'you got me that far that i'm staying home now, I don't deserve to be treated like this and that way i can leave for vacation earlier, my other friends are waiting for me there anyway'."

"I was devastated because i get really anxious around strangers when i'm alone but i ended up going alone anyway and had a great time!"

"I told her I didn't want contact to her anymore, but she didn't take it serious and acted like everything was normal."

"But when i texted her about how i felt, all I received back from her was a notification that she screen shotted my text so i think i'm better off without her now."- pr0fessionalfailure

You've got to know when to hold 'em, fold 'em and when to walk away!

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

monobarreller

Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

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Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

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"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

rayrayrayray

Free

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"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

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"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

1-cupcake-at-a-time

Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

Hot-Refrigerator6583

Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
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Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.