We are living in very trying times friends. Often it feels as if every day is another struggle to survive. And the good news is.... many of us are making! It is taking strength, fortitude, prayer and tons of vodka and therapy through ZOOM but we're doing it. One day this will be a distant memory and we'll laugh and share stories at two feet distances instead of six; about the little and big things that affected us daily. Hopefully before the next pandemic strikes. For the next one we'll be ready.
Redditor u/Flagstaff2017 wanted to get together and discuss all the issues we've grown weary about during this time of Corona by asking..... What annoys you the most about the pandemic?
Missing a percentage....
Issa Rae Mask GIF by Insecure on HBOGiphyCan't get any decent 99% isopropyl to clean my glassware.
Yo just buy 99.5% alcohol on amazon. Just a bit with some salt does wonders!
oh shut up already....
The commercials. Good lord if I see one more commercial with "wE CaRE aBOuT yOU" -_-
I'm surprised a company hasn't attempted "purposefully negative PR" yet. If a company straight up said in a commercial "we don't actually care about you, but we need your money to provide our service and pay ourselves" I would totally use them.
Midnight Shopper
This is admittedly somewhat selfish but I miss being able to go to the store at 3 a.m. when nobody else is around, basically.
I was a midnight shopper too. Thankfully, my grocery store lets me order my groceries ahead of time now, and loads them into my car for me when I pick them up. I don't even have to get out of the car. Its very nice.
friends
Friends Hug GIF by MOODMANGiphyMoving to a new area right before and being unable to make friends.
Thissss I've felt so alone. I had plans got go to different art classes and things but everything got shutdown. I have zero friends 🙁.
Close my Ears...
I am just tired of talking about it and it somehow creeping in to every single conversation. I work in a large hospital in a large city, and I have to deal with it at work every day. I don't want to have to constantly discuss it when I'm not on the clock, too.
Shut Up Already.....
Manage a convenience store. Seems like a third of things I try to order are on back order.
And nobody believes it. So they start bitching up a storm while their saliva spatters on the improvised plexiglass shield that is all the owner will pay for, because they "have asthma and can't wear a mask" while I stand there in a mask for the sixth hour straight while my chronic bronchitis is giving me hell.
The past couple of weeks, I've just kept the second register open (one person per shift, but we have two registers), and I let them rant but keep serving other customers. Some of them get absolutely livid that they can't hold everyone up while they have their say and storm out swearing they won't be back. By my count, I've only actually lost two regular customers so far doing this, so I guess they found somewhere else to buy their 99-cent 3-pack of blunts. Boo-hoo.
Leave Google Alone....
The other day I tried to google something biology related (I think it was a question about antibodies or something) and literally every result was about coronavirus. I know I know poor me I had to use google's advanced search first world problems etc... but it's like just because coronavirus is a pandemic right now does not mean every microbiological question that someone googles is about it.
Sing Out Kids
concert feeling it GIFGiphyAs someone who works in live music and whose partner is a musician, the lack of shows.
Kindness.... or lack thereof....
It might just be me, but the lack of respect people display now.
I work in a warehouse that isn't open the the public. Never has or will be. We're not a storefront, we have no signs beyond basic markers for delivery drivers. Orders have always been done either via email or a phone call.
And yet people will just walk in and order stuff now and expect it to be done then and there.
Read my Face
season 2 hello GIF by DREAM CORP LLCGiphyAs a soft spoken person, it's very annoying that it is even harder to hear me with my mask on. I will continue to wear one as long as necessary, but I look forward to the day when people can read my lips and facial expression fully to help cover the gap for my soft voice lol.
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Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.