First dates are terrifying. I don't care what anyone says.
They're stressful, they're awkward, they're high-pressure, and honestly, that's just me worrying about myself. Factoring in another human being and being out in public is a whole other nightmare for my anxiety.
One Reddit user asked:
... and then I suddenly realized I was so stressed about *me* being a disaster on the first date, that I forgot to factor in the possibility that the other person could potentially hop aboard the hot mess express.
The thread initially started out with people just sort of listing general dealbreakers:
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Smelly, greasy hair, and no effort in appearance. If the first date isn't important enough for you to even shower, then how important will the relationship be to you
My roommate went out with a girl and hadn't showered in days. Then she said it wasn't going to work out with the other girl because the other girl didn't shave her legs.
... you'll notice I said things "started" with people listing the little things. But WOW did it devolve pretty quickly.
There really isn't a better way to talk about disaster first-date dealbreakers than to just share your war stories, right?
And OMG the war stories.
I Love You
Immediately starting with the "I love you" attitude...
I brushed it off as flirty banter then toward the end of our meal she says:
"You know how I know you love me? You didn't say that you didn't love me when I said I loved you"
and there you have the reason for no second date.
You Don't Own Me
Possessive behaviour. If this is how you act with someone you've just met, how would a relationship with you be?
I'm glad they make it so easy to pick them out. They almost always start on the first or second date. It's usually something small like telling you that their responsibility is to protect you or snapping when you walk the wrong way (real examples). Once they do that you can be sure that if you continue dating them they will try their hardest to ruin your life.
Taking me to a multi-level marketing seminar. (actually happened).
I did not sign up and told her afterwards I was not interested. Thank God I didn't tell her my last name or she could have easily spammed me with junk mail.
Lol, this happened to me too.
Long story short:
Girl from my high school who I hadn't seen in a few years calls me up. She said she missed me and wanted to catch up.
Let's have dinner at this hotel steakhouse, hell yeah.
We walk inside the hotel, into the conference room with tables set up. She flirts with me, I'm going to score. Hell yeah!
Some dude sites next to her, she lets me know it's her husband. Some dude gets on the stage and starts being loud, but I'm sort of not paying attention.
Guy starts screaming about how he has a Ferrarri, look at his Ferrarri keys! Sell like me and you can have a Ferrarri as well!!!! Woooo!!!
Made and excuse about going to the bathroom, walked a few miles to some other place. Called my mom, she picked me up and took me home. Lol
Until people essentially gave up on just listing the dealbreaker offense and started spilling their stories.
Sharing is caring, fam.
Best to just relate my all-time favorite 'worst 1st date' & ultimate deal-breaker: A friend set me up on a date w/ one of her co-workers that I'd only met once at her place of employment.
The only time I had available was a Saturday right before my Yoga class, so we agree to meet up at a place I'd never eaten at. Mind you, the date who'd eaten there before, suggested a place that was near where my class was.
I show up wearing my Yoga clothes: NO POCKETS, loose-fitting sweater: NO POCKETS, and a small 4 by 5 inch fanny pack. The no pockets thing will be relevant later.
We have lunch - everything was going great. Then just before the bill arrives the date goes to the bathroom, comes back, still having a great time we finish our meal, the bill comes (50/50 split), all of the sudden the date can't find their LARGE motorcycle type wallet w/ their money in it then proceeds to accuse me of stealing it while they were in the bathroom & putting in my 'pocket'!
I stood up pointing out that I didn't have any pockets, opened my fanny pack to show other than 20 bucks, my ID and gym membership card it was too small to fit anything as big as your standard sized motorcycle wallet.
It didn't matter that I had 20 witnesses who verified that I NEVER left my seat much less the restaurant. The idiot date proceeded to throw a Kevin/Karen sized tantrum demanding to search my car, so I gave the waitress my ID then had her call the cops to escort me & the idiot out to my car and proved I did NOT have 'the wallet' or anything else in there. Idiot comes back in, cop takes a report, leaves & then Idiot proceeds to claim that the waitress and I are friends and in cahoots, that 'we' stole it & the waitress is hiding the wallet in the back. I reiterate ''You chose this place, I do not know anyone here, I've NEVER been here before!"Since, I'd only brought enough to cover my meal I ended calling my Stay-At-Home-Mother sister, to come there & lend me enough cash to cover the whole bill, skipped my Yoga Class and went home in a huff, called my friend, told her what happened - she was shocked.
Monday rolls around, idiot gets to work, opens their desk, and boom there's the wallet! Idiot call me to say I'm so sorry and wants to know if can we please have a do-over date - my response: 'OH HELL TO THE NO, Insult me by calling me a liar & a thief, stiff me w/ the full $40 bill, invade my privacy by demanding to search my car, you had your chance, you blew it & ya can rot in hell for all I care.'
Once, I was talking to this girl online, and things were going pretty well, so we decided to go for dinner.
I showed up to the place five minutes early, so I waited. And kept waiting.
Texted her 15 mins after we were scheduled to meet, but didn't get a response. Waited for another 45 mins then left.
She messaged me later saying that she wasn't there because she lives in Indonesia. I live in New Jersey.
I'd been talking to a girl for a few weeks. We went to see a movie and she starts sucking her thumb like a baby while watching the movie.
I'm thinking "weird tick I guess but okay"
Halfway through the movie she gets really emotional, drops to the floor and starts rolling around like a toddler. After about 10 minutes she gets up and acts like nothing happened, I don't know what to say at this point.
At one point during the day she starts telling me about another date she went on where she saw her friend halfway through and was speaking to her and the guy just walked off without saying bye or anything.
As she's telling me this we bump into a girl she knows, they're talking for a bit and I try to introduce myself but she cuts me off to talk about something different. They're both acting like I'm not even there, this goes on for 30 minutes. Half an hour of me just standing there as if I'm I don't know either of them while it seems like they're both actively ignoring me.
I try to say goodbye but it's literally like I'm completely invisible.
I figure at that point either she didn't like me and somehow planned this intervention from her friend to save blatant turning me down or she's just a rude person so I just walk away.
I get on the bus to go home and I get a message "hey why did you walk away?"
I was 17 at the time and it's the strangest date I've ever been on to this day.
Taco Bell Sells Coffee?
Well on one first date I had, the dude told me he used to be in a gang and killed 6 people. He then drove us into oncoming traffic, told me that there were 3 loaded guns in the car (this ride lasted at least 45 minutes there and back.)
Also, told me he was bipolar and was not taking any medication for it.
But the dealbreaker was when he stopped to get coffee at Taco Bell.
I got coffee at Taco Bell once. I was there for the cheap breakfast, but I thought I could use the caffeine. Pretty sure they just handed me a cup with like 4 shots of creamer and no coffee. It was not drinkable.
XXXtra Oh No
A guy where I worked was hitting on a girl on the lunch truck for over a month. She finally said she would go out with him. So for the first date he took her to a XXX porn show!
Aparently she excused herself to go to the bathroom after a few minutes and never came back. I felt so sorry for her, I would have been scared out of my mind to be with someone that "off".
My mom had this happen to her! She said no over and over to this guy, until finally she gave it a shot and said yes. He took her to a porno drive in and then tried to pretend that he hadn't known and that they should stay. She absolutely refused and pitched a huge fit so he would take her home.
SO, in the "sharing is caring" spirit, I will answer by throwing one of my weirder dating disasters out there.
In college, I went on a date with someone who ordered a pound of crab legs... and then informed me that he could not open crab legs.
I, a broke college student and expert crab leg inhaler, watched in horror as he maimed 2.5 legs before it was too much and I asked if he wanted help.
I ended up cracking them all open for him while he sat there all awkward like a little kid waiting on mommy.
Interestingly, I had a similar thing happen a second time about a year later and this time the guy asked for lessons and it ended up kinda cute/competitive. We were good friends for years.
So I don't know if there's some whack dating handbook floating around South Florida encouraging people who don't know how to open crab legs to then open crab legs ... but stop it. The book is lying to you.
If you want to be ready when an emergency strikes--or isn't far away--it's so important to have a developed foundation of preparedness.
In the midst of a sudden crisis, blood pumping and heart racing, devising what to do out of the blue is just about impossible.
But if you've studied ahead of time, and even practiced if you're really good, you won't have to devise anything. You'll just act. And you'll act correctly.
Don't Count Anybody Out<p>"If people stumble for no reason and sound drunk but haven't had alcohol, ask them to smile. If it looks weird/ one side is drooping, get them to a hospital ASAP. High chance it is a stroke."</p><p>"Plus people of every age can have a stroke."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/goc5mux?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Zuckerschneggle</a></p>
Know What to Look For<p>"The symptoms of a heart attack are slightly different for men and women. This is one of the reasons women sometimes get diagnosed too late."</p><p>"Men: Cold sweat/ nausea; Chest pressure/pain; Shortness of breath; Pain in arm(s), back, neck, jaws, stomach"</p><p>"Women: Fainting/ extreme fatigue; Chest pressure; Shortness of breath; Upper back pressure; Light-headedness/ dizziness; Pain in arm(s), back, neck, jaws, stomach"</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/goci0x2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Veni_Vici-Vetinari</a></p>
YOU WILL NOT GET IN TROUBLE<p>"If you are taken to the hospital and the doctors ask you if you have taken any drugs don't just think about the illegal stuff also tell them if you've had small things like Advil or Tylenol it could save your life." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocncvh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Atomicwaffle117</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Frankly this needs to taught in schools. I've known people who took stuff and didn't tell the doctor's, they either went into withdraw which prolonged there stay, or the doctor's have them stuff which interacted with drugs and they nearly died cause of it" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocqenr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">xxluisvrewxx</a></p>
Warning Signs<p>"If your vomit looks like coffee grounds, you may have internal bleeding. Head straight to the hospital." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/goc0diy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Long-Cupcake</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Additionally, this kind of internal bleeding is further down the digestive tract and has a higher chance of being a more serious issue."</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"coffee grounds means that the blood has been digested by your stomach. if it was just a tear in your mouth or esophagus (like from vomiting too much) it would be bright red." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocsn62?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">elaerna</a></p>
Get Low<p>"Crawl out of a burning building, breathing as close as possible to the floor as you move."</p><p>"Toxic smoke rises while air remains more breathable nearest the floor."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/goc9phy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Back2Bach</a> </p>
Not Over Yet<p>"There's something that's called gasping. It's the fake breathing that occurs when you're performing CPR on someone that has water in his lungs (i.e. because of drowning). It looks like a fish that's trying to breath when it's out of water."</p><p>"The person is not back alive then, and you should not stop the CPR."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/goc4dy0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SilverStory4502</a></p>
Quarterback the Response<p>"In an emergency around any other people, be intentional and specific with people. Do not shout into the void 'someone call for help!!!' "</p><p>"Make eye contact with someone, make sure they know you are talking to them, tell them what you need: 'Sir in the blue shirt. Call an ambulance.' 'Ma'am with the green jacket, go ask the barista for a clean towel.' 'You with the hockey mask and machete, watch this baby!' "</p><p>"Studies have shown that the assumption that someone else will do something is ingrained within people and often they will not help without specifically being talked to."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocr6es?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Goosfrabbah</a></p>
Deprive the Oxygen<p>"Don't pour water on a burning pan/oil/grease in the kitchen, cover it with a damp cloth or towel. Water will make it explode like a bomb."</p><p>"Same goes for gasoline I believe - the burning gasoline will just float on top, still aflame, but now spreading more easily to something else flammable."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocq1vu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">bodhi85uk</a></p>
Ya Never Know<p>"If you have to eat crickets or similar insects, chew them. DO NOT EAT THEM ALIVE. They have spines on their legs which can cling to your throat and are very difficult to remove without a decent amount of force (i.e. you cant "shake" your throat like you would your hand to remove them)."</p><p>"If they block your wind pipe, you'll asphyxiate."</p><p>"I used to work at a pet store, I've had to explain this to quite a few people who wanted to do "Fear Factor" parties or dares or pranks."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocqtun?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">AzoriumLupum</a></p>
Counter-Intuitive Warnings<p>"If one of your depressed friends suddenly starts acting really happy or peaceful, don't leave them alone."</p><p>"When suicidal people have a plan and are about to kill themselves, it can make them feel relieved which can make it look like their depression is getting better."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lpmamq/what_are_some_facts_that_can_actually_save/gocxdjo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">mylifeisathrowaway10</a></p>
Culture shock is an understatement.
Have you ever gone abroad and seen something just... so out of whack and strange that you couldn't help but fixate on it? Like, yes, other countries are very different than the United States. But different is not the reason that we are so perplexed and somewhat horrified.
Like It's No Big Deal<p>The guy that flashed my friends and me in a very nice park in central Europe. </p><p>We were having a picnic. </p><p>He was very polite about it, saying "Excuse me girls, I'm just going to do this in front of you." And then did so.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pozzledC/" target="_blank">pozzledC</a></p>
Saving A Stranger<p>In the middle of the winter, flying back to Canada, from a Caribbean Island, a middle age man was ready to board the plane with a very thin teenage girl wearing flip flops, shorts and a poncho.</p><p>The girl had a shaved head, the man wouldn't let go of her, she was staring at the floor he entire time, everything looked just odd.</p><p>The flight attendants were doing all sorts of delaying maneuvers. My family and I were late and boarded right after them. Before the flight took off, the police came into the plane and started asking questions, and took the man and girl off the plane. The girl didn't speak any English, Spanish or French.</p><p>I'm convinced that the airline personnel saved a girl being trafficked into Canada.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mission-Cloud360/" target="_blank">Mission-Cloud360</a></p>
An Eye For An Eye<p>Cyprus in the mid nineties, I was 15 and on holiday with my parents.</p><p>I saw an old Cypriot guy getting beaten within an inch of his life by a young Russian guy, after a row over unpaid rent. As i understood it the Russian was renting an apartment of the victim.</p><p>Police promptly turned up and dragged the Russian guy into the nearest building.</p><p>The Cypriot guy was taken to hospital by ambulance and a short while later the Russian guy was brought out of the building on a stretcher and was also taken to hospital once the police had dealt with him.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/irv81/" target="_blank">irv81</a></p>
Just A Bit Of A Disagreement<p>In a small town in Korea, I saw two guys run out of a restaurant. One of them was holding a 10 inch kitchen knife and shoved it into the other guy's belly. The guy's standing there holding the knife in his gut and an old lady comes out of the restaurant and starts hitting him in the head with her shoe.</p><p>Two other guys jumped on the stabber and held him on the ground. Ambulance came and loaded the stabbee and drove away, cops came and drove the stabber away, restaurant owner came out with a bucket of water and washed the blood off his steps.</p><p>Turned out it was a wedding party and there was a bit of a disagreement.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/standing_lamp/" target="_blank">standing_lamp</a></p>
Dominoes<p>Was in Mexico City for a work assignment. Had just gone to dinner in the Zona Rosa (pink zone). Walking back to the hotel I saw a hit and run. </p><p>A pedestrian was thrown thru the air and flung to the ground. A lot of people witnessed this and an ambulance was called. </p><p>The ambulance came screaming around the corner, going really fast, and hit another pedestrian. Who then was thrown thru the air and flung to the ground. It was awful.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Antique-Eye8029/" target="_blank">Antique-Eye8029</a></p>
Unhelpful Cops<p>I don't know if I qualify as a "tourist", because Barcelona is in my country and not far from my hometown.</p><p>Anyway, me and my sis were walking down the Ramblas in early afternoon, and the place was packed. A group of American teenagers was using an ATM. </p><p>And they were taking precautions, because the area is infamous for its pickpockets, so they were not to blame. But as soon as one girl took the banknotes from the ATM, a kid took them from her hand and raced to the adjacent streets.</p><p>We took the teens to the police precinct, but they weren't very helpful. The first thing they asked is that if we had apprehended the robber. And then we had to insist so they took a record of the incident.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ramoncin/" target="_blank">Ramoncin</a></p>
In Front Of A CHILD?!<p>Back in 1978 when i was 10, i went to Jamaica with my Mom. One morning after coming out of the British embassy, I saw four baby mongoose in a rain gully about 5 feet deep behind where we were waiting for a bus. </p><p>I thought they were adorable and started feeding them by throwing them biscuits. Some guy saw me doing that, walked over and dropped a large brick on them killing them instantly. I was pretty inconsolable for several hours.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Judge-Giant-snr/" target="_blank">Judge-Giant-snr</a></p>
The Horrors Of The Past<p>I was walking through a forest in central France when I came across a group of old style horse drawn Gypsy caravans in a clearing. </p><p>They were obviously very old and looked like they had just been abandoned. There was a very eerie, unsettling feel to the place so I took a few photos and moved on. </p><p>A couple of days later I was talking to an old guy in the village and he explained that the Gypsies had been dragged from their wagons and murdered by the invading Nazis during WW2. Out of respect the surviving Gypsies in the region just left the caravans where they were.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Johhnymaddog316/" target="_blank">Johhnymaddog316</a></p>
Crazy People In Every Country<p>Was in Serbia and my collegue i was there with and i had rented a car to go explore the beautiful country. We followed google maps but end up on a dirt road in some small village like area and and had to make a turn. It was heavily raining and we got the car stuck. </p><p>We couldn't get it unstuck on our own so we wanted to ask for help and as we approached the first nearby house a large dog came running out barking loudly and an elderly looking man came out with a rifle yelling at us in serbian. </p><p>We decided next house was a better bet and they were the kindest people on earth. We told them that we had tried the other house with no luck and they told us we were lucky to be alive.</p><p> Apparently the man had a reputation but they didn't wanna to further into details.</p><p>No more dirt roads for me thanks.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/QuinteX1994/" target="_blank">QuinteX1994</a></p>
The Price Of A Lifetime<p>I was on a business trip, but had a couple days at the end of the trip for myself in New Delhi, India. Somehow, I got to talking with the bartender at my hotel about my hobby of keeping reef aquariums and that I was designing a new system. </p><p>He told me about an entire street in New Delhi where every shop sells nothing but various pumps. Pumps of all kinds and very cheap. (Pumps for reef tanks can push $1000, so I thought I would have a look. Besides, I had been wanting to try out New Delhi's metro system, and there was a metro station right near "Pump Street")</p><p>So I hop on the metro (very nice, actually. Highly recommended) and exit the station on "Pump Street". Sure enough...hundreds of pump stores line one entire side of the street.</p>
It's remarkable when Hollywood stereotypes and plot dynamics are replicated in real life. It's remarkable because it's rare, so when it does happen we lose our cynical outlook of movies as far-fetched flights of fancy.
And one of the classic archetypes is the treatment of popular kids.
No One to Help When it Happened<p>"Middle school when the bell rang to change classes the hallways were a horrific traffic jam. Everyone suffered through trying to get to their lockers and the next class on time."</p><p>"Enter the a**hole popular guy, who thought it was funny to sneak up behind some unsuspecting student who's at his locker and smack the back of the student's head, causing the student to bang his head into his locker."</p><p>"A**hole guy got several warnings to stop, but he didn't. He thought it was so funny."</p><p>"Then one day he picked on the wrong student. A**hole guy got punched square in the face, fell down and lost a tooth. Not a single person, from teacher to student, came to his defense."</p><p>"When A**hole's parents came to the school all upset, everyone told them their son got what he deserved."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnz1abd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">maruffin</a></p>
1, 2, 3, 4, 5<p>"<strong></strong>He got kicked in the nuts five times in a row by the same kid" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnyisup?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">xXawsomeguyXx</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"JOHNNY CAGE CRACKER" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnzbnhn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">HeartAttackMemeGuy</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"HE KEEPS KICKING ME IN THE D*CK! WHY? WHY DOES HE KEEP KICKING ME IN THE D*CK?!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnzjnnn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Iceman6211</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"I don't believe I've personally ever witnessed something as epic as that sounds , five times??" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnzqvto?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Quuaack</a></p>
Immediate Justice<p>"Star quaterback tried to assault his girlfriend..."</p><p>"She was a golden glove boxer."</p><p>"She put him in the hospital for a week."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnzi9t3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">xxkoloblicinxx</a></p>
The Last Can He Ever Stole<p>"The teacher wouldn't let one guy in my classroom to go to the restroom to pee so he peed in an Arizona can."</p><p>"When the bell rang the guy started heading to the restroom to empty the can and the biggest bully of the school bumped into him, took the can and, of course, sipped it."</p><p>"He soon realized it didn't taste like tea... It was glorious."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnytqoa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Citys_Bandaid_</a></p>
The Teacher Jerk<p>"My teacher. She loved to use humiliation against me (I was severely depressed at the time and she thought I was a slacker). I'm a little person, and she would get me to turn off the lights for the projector, or to write on the whiteboard, only to feign ignorance and apologise when I struggled to reach."</p><p>"One day she crossed the line, and I went to the deputy head teacher. He decided to reprimand her, during a lesson, in front of her entire class, to give her a taste of humiliation, too."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gny8qol?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Usidore_</a></p>
Subtle Payback<p>"He copied my exams for English, Math, and Science in our junior year."</p><p>"Except he didn't know that I purposely put the wrong answers for 80% of the questions and then redid the exam after he turned his in."</p><p>"He failed all three classes miserably and when he confronted me to see if I failed too, I just shrugged and said we must have had different versions of the exam."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gny674v?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">-InterstellarVoyage-</a></p>
Watching Her Squirm<p>"A popular girl bullied me all through middle school, then in high school she sat next to me the day we were given one of those "read the directions" tests. </p><p>"She was not so wise as to read the directions. </p><p>"I got to sit there for ten sweet, sweet minutes watching her panic more and more over the ridiculous tasks the test asked of her."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnynbzq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">an_ineffable_plan</a></p>
Flip Flop<p>"Star athlete picked on the fat kids in gym. Fast forward a couple decades. He's fat and bald. Saw him using a Wal-Mart scooter recently, buying crap food."</p><p>"One of the kids he picked on got in shape, stayed that way and became a top tier endurance athlete. So sweet."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnybb6x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">SnoringDogsAndCats</a></p>
The Other Side of the Peak<p>"Never bullied me but apparently was a giant a**hole to everybody. Star football running back, had multiple scholarships to Division I. Then he broke his leg and all the offers evaporated."</p><p>"Went to a DIII school. Had a couple kids, got divorced, then posted all of his old scholarships to Facebook at age 40. Really sad to see."</p><p>"Literally argued with every single person on the reunion Facebook group, everyone told him how much they always hated him."</p><p>"He's now literally insane, posts 30-40 times a day on Facebook of foreign Instagram models with long diatribes about love and life translated into 10 different languages. Posts nearly-nude shots of himself also, most hyping himself up."</p><p>"A dark spiral."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gnz4b4e?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">powabiatch</a></p>
Nothing Lasts Forever<p>"He was the most attractive boy in the school. Girls would literally fight to be his girlfriend."</p><p>"Then like Prince William, his free trial of hair and premium face expired and he got downgraded. Basically went from a PS5 to Mr Game and Watch over the course of 5 years"</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ln0tbd/how_did_the_popular_asshole_of_your_school_get/gny3zlb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Fullblackhabit</a></p>
Sometimes you can only open yourself up completely with a person you've never met and may never meet again. That is probably because you owe that person nothing. For a brief time you'll share an intimacy without judgement because there is no baggage. And these moments can be life changing and affirming. You never know how a quick smile or hello will change the course of a person's day.Redditor u/v_rose23 wanted know about the people they've encountered that left a lasting impression though by asking... What's the nicest interaction you've ever had with a stranger?