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Blink and you'll miss it––one day your twenties will be gone. What did you do? What did you learn along the way?

Here's some advice: Be careful regarding your financial decisions. Financial mistakes can set you back years and they can really mess you up when you're starting out. Having a decent credit score is important if you want to take out a loan, apply for more credit, and even rent out an apartment.

After Redditor SignalAd7905 asked the online community, "What's the worst mistake people make in their twenties?" people shared their advice and experiences.


"It's completely disabling..."

This comes under 'looking after your body' I suppose, but it's a specific one that is still little known:

Wrecking your ears with excessive noise exposure. Even if you don't care about losing your hearing, you don't want catastrophic tinnitus. It's completely disabling. And nobody tells you that you can get it years or decades after the noise exposure. I just thought, "I'll knock this off before it gets too bad."

Lupercali

Excellent advice.

All those unplugged concerts can catch up with you. Be mindful!

"The heart attack..."

Not eating right and exercising. The heart attack you have at 50 doesn't just magically show up. Cardiovascular disease is from years of buildup.

wpguy69

"It doesn't matter..."

Life is not a race. It doesn't matter, who's getting married, who's moved out from their parents' house, who has a kid. You go at your pace. Don't think you're behind anyone else.

Tedtea

"Someone else being in pain..."

Being in pain or just being miserable is not a competition. Someone else being in pain or miserable while you're in pain or miserable doesn't invalidate anything.

barryc100588

"Pay yourself first."

Not saving enough money.

Pay yourself first. Don't work the rest of your life.

Merv71

It's good to have a healthy savings account.

You don't want to find yourself strapped in the event of an emergency. That's easier said than done, though, for a multitude of reasons. Saving money can feel like an uphill climb.

"As you get money..."

As you get money you tend to take out credit to get nice things. A sudden change in your career can ruin your life for a while. Be careful about buying things you can't pay for outright.

bistro223

"Don't burn out the clutch..."

Treating their body like it's a rental. Look after it. You will be living in this body for many years to come. Don't burn out the clutch by 27 and live with the consequences for 60 more years.

RedPanda1188

100% correct.

Exercise and eat right. You'll thank yourself later.

This is huge.

Exercise! Eat right. One day you'll wake up and realize that you have aches and pains where there weren't any before and things will only grow more difficult without the right habits in place.

"It's never too late..."

Sticking to a career they hate because that's what they chose to do when they were 16-18 years old. It's never too late to change your career path and if you're not enjoying it now do you think that will change in another 20-30 years?

puppet1987

"You're going to wind up..."

Not investing. If you are still living with your parents rent-free and working, please - I BEG YOU - open a Roth IRA and just put $20 each paycheck into a simple ETF. Compounding interest will make a gigantic difference in your life.

If you are 18, you probably have around 45 years until retirement. Let's say you only put in $20 each paycheck for your entire life and got a pretty average return on your investment.

You're going to wind up with around $300,000.

No, that's not all the money in the world, but that's just from $20 per paycheck.

If you're in that age group and you have questions about getting started, DM me. I'm not a financial advisor. I have nothing to sell you. But I can at least point you in the right direction and answer a couple of questions. You just need to start doing this.

Tapprunner

"Stop comparing."

Stop comparing. Get off social media or seriously reduce it. Worrying won't get you anywhere. Little steps toward goals count. We are all gonna die in the end so have fun along the way. Try to be honest with yourself even when it's painful. Don't be too nice. Be aware you will change over time and that's not a failing, it's expected. Be willing to do things differently, slower, faster, or not at all - but be you. Cherish the one you love and try to be loving. Don't aim for perfection it doesn't exist. If you've got trauma (most do), go to therapy, not as a punishment as an act of self-interest.

Lastly. You are enough. A special job or loads of money won't make you more. Being broke or vulnerable won't make you less. Life has ebbs and flows. Accept that, and you'll be okay.

Melodic_Restaurant

True words of wisdom.

Less time on social media would be great for everyone.

"Not because I don't believe in love..."

I wouldn't classify it as the worst mistake, but I'd say early marriages. Not because I don't believe in love, but because it's sometimes an impulsive decision that leads to heartbreak. When you're young and in love, you think about here and now. Sometimes you don't even know yourself that well, let alone your partner. Grow together a little, live together for a minute, get to know each other. That would build a much stronger foundation for your family. At least in my opinion.

Of course, there are always some nice exceptions, I know that too.

ABM_Net

Indeed there are.

Someone I care about very much fell into an early marriage and was divorced by the age of 22. It was a lot for them to deal with at the time and they are just now recovering.

"There can be a lot of downsides..."

Don't be afraid to change course. There can be a lot of downsides going through your mind but if you're not happy with how things are going in the classes you are taking imagine what actually being in the field will be like.

HYDingratz

Words of wisdom all around.

Your twenties are a valuable period in your life––in many ways, they shape the person you will become as life deals you experiences and you learn more about yourself along the way.

Those of you out of your twenties? What advice would you share with twenty-somethings? Feel free to share in the comments section below!


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If you're looking for your soulmate, it can be hard to really gauge who is truly “the one", especially if they've had back luck in the past. Trust me, it took many attempts to figure my romantic life out before finding my husband. But when you know, you know--and once you do, everything just beautifully falls into place.

Anyone that has found their soulmate usually can pinpoint the moment they had this realization. Here are a few real-life stories.

DeepDarkSiege asked: How did you know you found the one?

Sometimes it’s truly the usually mundane things that lights up your romantic life. In the words of the musical Company, “it’s the little things you do together that make perfect relationships.”

​The true test of any relationship.

When I found myself enjoying the little things - just because I was doing them with her.

Grocery shopping, running errands, just the mundane stuff that makes up every day.

Puzzled_Penguin46

My husband will wander off in the grocery store and then peek around the corner of an aisle at me and say weird stuff like "hey lady" or "looking good" or just nonsensical screeching. Or he will come up and smack my butt and run off. It's so immature but I always crack a smile.

Potatotay

This is so important!

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I realized that if I happened to be doing or experiencing something fun, I always wanted her around to share it with. That, and we argue well and don't hold grudges.

TheKingofOklahoma

I love the fact that me and my GF resolve arguments like mature adults and we never stay mad at each other.

Base4yoface

​You feel like an old shoe.

Everything feels effortless.

Comprehensive_Log239

This sums it up exactly. So many of my friends and family stay in failing relationships for so long. Everything is fraught with drama and disagreement.

On my 2nd date with my now wife I told her 'You feel like an old shoe.' Comfortable and familiar, easy to get along with, happy to talk with for hours or enjoy hours of silence together. When the fights happen they are brief and uncontentious, and there's no lingering bitterness. Also, she totally understood and accepted the romanticism of being called an Old Shoe.

Antiwittgenstein

Chemistry is one of the most important elements of a relationship (accidental pun there).

​There is always hope.

Initial chemistry. I was doing the on-line dating thing, and had been on a dozen+ dates of varying degrees of awkwardness and disaster. I was fed up with it.

I logged onto the dating site to delete my account and embrace the Billy-no-dates life, when this woman gave me a nudge. I was kind of blunt and said I was done with it all, and didn't want to go through another 2 to 3 weeks of on-line chat only to meet up and have nothing to talk about.

I said if she wanted to meet up and name the place fine. If she found that too forward and a red-flag then also fine. She said she'd also experienced similar problems and also wanted to skip straight to the IRL meet.

I am not that chatty. But we met up at about 2pm at a local pub. We were there until kicking-out at 11pm. It flew. I had a sore throat by the end of it.

A few weeks ago we celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary.

ExxInferis

So sweet.

couples love GIF Giphy

The chemistry between us was unreal, my wife said the first time she met me she had the overwhelming urge to hug me. 18 years later we're still awesome together.

She just always says as soon as she first saw me she knew we were meant to be together. We often read each others minds, I can heal her with my hands when she has pain and the sex even after 3 kids and 18 years together is still like being a pair of teenagers.

She's my best friend, my soul mate and my lover. I would love to be a millionaire then I could just spend every minute of every day with her forevermore. I'm blessed.

CleanGeologist6756

Sappy, but sweet.

I can fall asleep when he's cuddled with me. As someone that hasn't had the best relationships, it's the first time I've felt safe enough to just let myself be at rest. The first time I saw him (we were long distance for 6 months), my whole being felt at peace.

Yes it's sappy as heck, but honestly this is the first time feeling this way.

JaxAnGo

That’s how you know.

Meeting my spouse felt like seeing a loved one after they'd been gone on a long trip. I felt the same way when our child was born. No magical Disney moment, just 'oh, there you are. I've missed you and I'm glad you're back.'

Psnugbootybug

Not to mention the bigger gestures that truly blow you away as their partner.

Thrown into the deep end.​

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I am extremely lucky, as my father and I are absolutely best buds. He was diagnosed with cancer and it quickly spread throughout his body. He has been slowly declining over time. I know I found the one when my then-boyfriend (now fiancé) came to meet my parents.

Low and behold they were throwing me a surprise party and he got introduced to 30 family members. He was thrown into the deep end! He was kind and respectful to everyone. But what really took the cake was he sat down and talked to my otherwise very gruff, but long-winded dad. He talked to him for 2 hours, about life, love, my dad's experiences and I saw my dad give a few loud long laughs. It was rare those days.

He's remained close with my father as he nears the end and his constant effort to create memories and bring my dad joy speaks so much about who he is as a person.

We are getting married next week and I couldn't have found a more goofy, kind, loving and respectful man.

Lolabunnybutderp

What an amazing person.

I knew she was the one when my best friend who was a father figure went to the hospital and his organs were failing. They gave him 2 days to live and it all happened to fast that I called her and said we'd have to cancel our dinner plans with her mom (I was crying on the phone explaining why) all she said was "which hospital" and I told her the location.

I got there before her and held my dads hand. This diamond of a woman comes in with a chimichanga and large Fanta orange soda, no ice (my favorite) she sits right next to me and feeds me as I am holding my dying friend's hand crying hysterically. While he was loaded up on morphine she made a smart ass crack to me and actually made him chuckle. It was a half chuckles but he heard her! I will marry this woman. Mark my words.

JewishWolf26

A good partner always does this.

Knowing this person passively inspired me to be a better person, try harder in my efforts, and take risks to push myself as well as enjoy my life. I realized they were "the one" when they felt the same way.

Johoku

As for me, I knew my husband was the one when I realized I never got sick of his company. Usually, I get exhausted being around people, and I need a break. I never have with him--he's just such a delight to be around.

And if you haven't found the one and this article is making you sad, don't lose hope. Everyone's timeline is different, and you never know when you will meet your soulmate. Don't lose hope--it'll come when you least expect it

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