Enough pent up rage held over a long enough time will ALWAYS make an explosion. Some cry in the shower. Others scream song lyrics in the car. A few get into bar fights.
And some cross the big threshold, can actually envision the act of killing.
Yes, it does happen. Sometimes that first seed grows into a plan, becomes a committed, irreversible act.
But many just teeter on the ledge. Some Redditors spoke about their experience wobbling at the point of no return. Flirting with murder and snapping back seems to demand a combination of lucky logistical barriers and flashes of rational thinking within the impulsive fit.
When Mind and Body Don't Line Up
I was depressed, 18, and in the verge of a serious mental breakdown. So cut to the point, I clean the whole house for my mum as shes away with my grandma, I thought it's the least I can do for her! I go out to a friends and come back the next day and my mums going absolutely crazy at me for the house being in such a state. [Grandpa] had come home and trashed the house and said it was me, she told me I had to leave that day, I begged her to let me stay 1 more night as my friend was away, and he would be back the following day, she agreed and went back to my grandmothers leaving me and the prize ass alone. He smirked at me as she left, il never forget his face. That night he fell asleep on the couch with his head over the armrest, I silently cried standing over him with an aluminium bat just begging myself to have the courage to swing it and not stop swinging it. My grandmother called me and told me she loved me and that everything would work out. 3 months later he was gone. Only you fine people will ever know how close I came, I actually saw him last month, he looks like crap.
The BEST version of plans falling through
My intended accomplice must have thought I was just letting off steam when I was talking about it, and backed out early on. I wasn't up to it without the security of numbers. That was a little over 6 years ago, and I've since gotten psychiatric help.
Plan B is a far cry from Plan A
Guy cut my brakes which is pretty much a murder attempt. Thought about shooting him but since I'm the only one at that region with a rifle I would have gone to jail so I just decided to completely destroy his tractor
Right there with you. Both my Wife and Daughter were date raped. I didn't go through with it either - I was five inches from 1 of the guys that date raped my Daughter. I was in his garage and he was fu**ing cowering. I didn't have a weapon and he was still scared. I knew I was gonna kill him if I started hitting him. My Wife screamed stop and I did - because I love her. ....but still....
Letting things play out
Been a few times. Considered returning the favor to the guys that shot me, they went to prison before I could. Considered it a few other times when friends got shot, usually the same circumstances. The last time was when one of my best and oldest friends overdosed. I knew who sold it to him (some fentanyl laced heroine) and went there ready to save a few lives and avenge my friend, upon entering his home I saw him sitting on the couch and almost did it. As I looked him in the eyes it hit me, he was a lowly addict and having been there myself I realized I could hurt him much worse by leaving him alive to be haunted by everything he had done. In the end I sat down and explained the kind of pain he had caused me and many others (my friend, his family, his friends, other addicts, etc.) and I left. I don't know if he knew for sure why I went there to begin with but I'd like to think my words bother him to this day.
Elder wisdom, just in time
I was going to kill the guy who killed my friend. His dad talked me out of it. Made me see all I would lose if I got caught. Spending time with my kids has been much better than being in prison.
Sudden clarity of priorities
My mother abused me my entire life, she was a horrible mother and put me into situations where I was sexually assaulted regularly for her drugs. I put up with if for a very long time, but started to draw the line after having my kids. I stopped letting her abuse me and never let her take my kids anywhere no matter how much she pushed. She still regularly treated me like sh** and tried to push me into things that I was not comfortable with, but never unsafe any more. Earlier this year I got a notification that I had a large collection debt in my name for a service I had never received. I called up my mom to ask if she knew anything about it because it was when I was still a child, and she went on a whole rant about how she has been taking care of my kids and a whole bunch of things that weren't true. And I saw red. I was screaming and putting my shoes on to go to her house to kill her because I put up with sh** for too long, and then I saw my daughter. And realized I could never hurt anyone and needed to be with her more than I needed to get my revenge. So I just completely cut contact with her and I am done. Feel much better about it now.
Karma does its work
I went to another country to take care of a problem that hurt someone i care about. This person viewed me as a friend because this is what I wanted them to think. (This was years in planning) When I got there, I met up with people who gave me the stuff I needed, then waited a day. During that time i got some more info on this person, and it turns out people around him found out about his actions and it destroyed him. He lost his job, family, friends, and he became a fat alcoholic living in poverty. That is better than anything i could do as that will last forever.
A Flash of Clarity
I was only a kid, about 15. Got into an argument with the local "tough kid" and, long story short, got my a** handed to me. He roughed me up a bit and laughed while he did it. The beating was just one of those things, but being laughed at really stung.
I was so fu**ing angry. I knew where he lived, I knew the route he walked home, and I knew he took a shortcut through a little alleyway near my house. I went home and grabbed a hammer from the garage and a knife I kept under my bed, and I waited in the alley. I saw him coming, had the hammer ready in my hand. My plan was to let him pass me, cave his head in from behind, and then stab him a few times just to be sure.
He walked towards where I was hiding (the alleyway is a T shape, running between 3 rows of houses, I hid on the corner so I could surprise him), came so close to me I could easily have hit him, and walked right past. I couldn't do it. I just stood there for a minute, thinking about the sh** storm that would follow, and knew I didn't have it in me to face any part of that. In that moment, I knew I wasn't a killer. Just an angry kid who got carried away with himself.
The Good-Intentions Kind
Really thought long and hard about mercy killing a patient of mine. I knew he was still young enough to spend a couple of decades living as a vegetable in agonising pain if I didn't do it. I hardly had time alone with him though as I was helping a nurse (I had to wrestle him down while she sucked fluids out of his lung through his neck pipe) so I knew I couldn't do it secretly. I was basically weighing if I could kill a man or leave him be to suffer. I still feel ashamed that I didn't have the balls to go through with it but I couldn't think of a way to make it look like an accident. I hope he's dead.
Moms Have Some Sway
My mom talked me down from shooting my step dad on Christmas Day. I was 13 he beat me with a garden hose for not doing chores fast enough. I went in and grabbed my gun. My mom cried and begging me not to. I put my gun away and went to my room. He came up about an hour later and kicked the sh*t out of me. I went to school with black eye,bruised ribs, and welts. I told the teachers what happened. Nobody offered help or called the police. It had been happening for years. I assumed I must of deserved it. Took me 2 more years before I finally moved out.
Yeah my wife wonders why I have issues with Christmas.
Better in Time
I was about 15 at the time. My mom's abusive, pedophile fiance hit her during an argument. I tried to defend her and stab him. He caught my hand and it all just kind of went downhill from there. She left him shortly after that. When we moved I planned on setting his house on fire with him in it, but I was kind of a coward. Thankful I didn't in the end. She was in a good relationship after all that with a really nice guy.
She died about 5 years ago.
Everything's okay now though.
The fact that I can't physically survive in prison (multiple chronic illnesses/disabilities) is certainly what keeps my mother alive...
I know the exact guy who molested my wife and SIL for several years as young (pre-puberty) children.
But I do not want to go to jail, and fu**er is all over the Internet- so if I can find a popular enough platform or make it go viral, I would very much like to doxx him.
Destiny takes over
My sisters fiancé choked her until she passed out. If my mom didn't ask me to not end up in jail I probably would have never boarded the flight home.
Thankfully my sister is now in a happy marriage with a different guy.
Last I knew the di**bag is still alive, even though he does his best not to be since it wasn't long after that that he rolled his vehicle multiple times while drunk.
Thinking about the kids
My nieces dad is a piece of sh*t through and through. Lived off my parents while my sister was pregnant, beat my sister after she gad the kid, neglected my niece because he "just so busy and doesn't have time", and threatened to kidnap my niece if my sister went after him for child support. I realized that catching a felony isn't worth his life. The best thing I can do is help my parents, who got custody of her, raise her better than he ever could or even would. I'm not sure what my parents will tell her about her dad, but I intend to tell her the truth about him.
I cosidered pushing my ex-sister-in-law down the stairs because of how she was treating my brother. Would have been so easy to make it sound like she tripped over the dog. I didn't do it because my nephew, he needed his momma.
To Stay a 'Non-Murderer'
My reputation. I've always been what you call a good person and people think highly of me. I can't change that. Ive resisted the urge to kill someone so far so I think I can do without killing someone to keep my reputation. I've acted normal this far and the urge isn't killing me so I don't think I'm a psychopath.
Many of us think we have life all figured out.
Curious to hear what stumps strangers online, Redditor homo1ogize asked:
"What makes absolutely no sense to you at all?"
The things people do can be forever mysteries.
"Grown adults not taking responsibility for their actions/property and expecting others to clean up after them."
A Curious Culinary Process
"How people came up with baking."
"I get eating meats and veggies and fruits. That's just food that's pretty much ready to go."
"But somehow someone figured you can grind this plant into a powder, add a certain amount of water and some chicken eggs and some oil and some other crushed plant stuff and then heat it for X Minutes and now you have cake or bread or cookies or whatever."
Leaving The Bowl Full
"People that don't flush public restroom toilets."
"What's the deal with that? Do they not flush in their own homes? Is it laziness? Contempt with society? Seeing retail and other workers suffer? Just not knowing better?"
Life Insurance Loophole
"Seems like half of the true-crime shows I watch involve life insurance. What I don't understand is how the perpetrators convince themselves that being the beneficiary on a brand-new life insurance policy and then having the insured turn up dead within days or weeks is not going to put you under a detective's microscope."
"Even more suspicious are the ones who immediately make the claim for payout within a day of the death. At least sit on it for a month or two and act like you're grieving."
These trends continue to dumbfound Redditors' minds.
The Housing Market
"House price rises. How seriously can people have so much money for crappy houses? Where are all these great paying jobs that service the mortgage?"
"My partner and I have decent middle class jobs ( teacher, nurse) yet cannot afford to buy in the city where we live…. And not even close to the city where we live."
"How can a pandemic wreck an economy… throw thousands out of work needing to rely on government handouts …. Yet house prices increase?"
The Facebook Ploy
"Those Facebook photos that promise you a lot of money if you post them. Is it true that people believe it?"
"How, in what environment, under what conditions, could that possibly work? Is this some sort of inside joke that I'm not aware of? 'Write Amen.'"
"My first language was Spanish, which I learned at home. I learnt English at school and with friends outside of school. In addition, German is spoken."
"Surprisingly, when I speak in my brain, it's always in English. When I pronounce them out loud, though, they come out in the correct language."
Knowing scientific explanations doesn't necessarily mean we will completely comprehend them.
"How the moon is in perfect rotation with the earth to the point where we only see one side of the moon at all times no matter what."
Lack Of A Void
"What is the root of consciousness and why is there something instead of nothing."
"How babies just go from swimming/breathing in a pouch of goo to being born and able to breathe normal air. It makes no sense to me. How does something go from not breathing air to breathing air in like a second?"
The Vastness Above Us
"Look at the moon. Some days you can see Saturn or Jupiter out there. Look at the stars."
"You think about us… people on this rock in space all running around. We're floating in space on a rock. Spinning around. All together. One."
"And space is just soooo big. It's overwhelming. Really really big. I can't even comprehend how big."
"It doesn't even make sense how big it is."
This is something I've always chalked up to fate, but the concept of meeting people floors me.
How did I wind up with the friends in my circle? How did I get paired with my parents in this life? And how did I meet the person with whom I wound up exchanging vows?
It's terrifying to comprehend the prospect of never having met some of the most important people in my life, yet I would never know because I haven't been faced with the alternative.
It continues to blow my mind.
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It shouldn't be hard to try and stay healthy.
However, it feels like the world is against you, as most stuff marketed or sold as "healthy" could actually be hurting you.
What do people think is healthy but is actually harmful?
Seeing something on the shelves marked as "healthy" shouldn't cause you to second guess yourself. It should be easy, right? However, these products might be holding a darker secret than you realize.
For Those In The Back: Its Not The Fat, It's The Sugar
"Low fat or non fat foods tend to add more sugar than their regular fat counterparts to make up for the lost flavor."
"Edit: To clarify, for example I'm talking about something like reduced fat cheese its vs the regular cheese its. The reduced fat may seem "healthier" but it's really not."
Just Eat The Fruit
"People focus on the fact that it contains some nutrients, but not that it also contains as much sugar as Coca-Cola"
"This. The only truly healthful way to consume a fruit's juice is to eat the whole fruit. Peeling and eating an orange takes so much longer than chugging way too much juice. Plus the benefit of the fiber. Plus the benefit of fresh and natural vitamin C."
This One's A Real Bummer
"Those acai bowls are loaded with sugar."
"Ohhhh damn. I see why I've been rapidly gaining weight recently . Those damn delicious açaí bowl."
You might be doing something every day that's causing health deficiencies in your day to day living. The worst part of it all is the notion that this unhealthy thing you're doing is supposed to be "fun" or "relaxing."
From The Earth? Yes. Still Smoke? Also Yes.
"Smoking marijuana. And I say this as a daily toker. Inhaling smoke into your body is ALWAYS bad for you. It's just better than inhaling poison (cigarettes) into your body."
"This bothers so much. I smoked almost daily for 8 years, not as much now, but so many stoners refuse to acknowledge that inhaling ANY kind of smoke is bad for you. Yeah, cannabis has a lot of benefits. But putting any kind of mind-altering substance into your body it is not risk-free."
"Same with vaping. Just because it's a healthier alternative to cigarettes doesn't make it automatically healthy itself. It's just a good way to help those with smoking problems ween off it and be healthier. It's not meant to be used as a way to start an addiction. Addiction still kills."
Find That Right Balance
"Not so much anymore because there is much more awareness, but being out in the sun. My mom would force me to sunbathe when I was a child because it was "unhealthy" to be pale and that people would think I am gross. Now she's not even fifty and her face is pocked with scars from surgeries treating melanoma, and every year has to go back in to the doctor for more skin removal and to determine if she needs further, more intensive treatment."
"I have never sunbathed as an adult and religiously put on sunscreen, wear long sleeves and an "old man" hiking hat when I go just about anywhere outside. Please, everyone, protect your skin!"
"But also on the flip side, it's really common to have a vitamin D deficiency if your skin never sees the sunlight, so make sure you're taking a supplement if that's the case. Vitamin D deficiency can lead to a whole host of its own issues. It feels like every health issue is some variation of a double sided coin."
The Truth Hits Like A Truck
"Being with someone because you don't want to be alone"
"Yes, but like many of the harmful things in this thread, it sure can be fun for a little while. Until the consequences start coming at you."
What can feel a little shocking about some of these things listed is the thought that you're doing something good for you. You're working out! What's the worst that can happen?
Sometimes Crushing It Every Day Can Crush You Every Day
"working out with 100% effort everyday"
"Agree. You can train different muscles, but in the end, you are still using the same nervous system. Also, Rhabdomyolysis is a thing, so….."
"In case anyone else feels the need to look it up:"
"Rhabdomyolysis is a potentially life-threatening syndrome resulting from the breakdown of skeletal muscle fibers with leakage of muscle contents into the circulation. The most common causes are crush injury, overexertion, alcohol abuse and certain medicines and toxic substances."
It's Goop. How Can You Not Trust It?
"Anything Gwyneth Paltrow is marketing."
"Hold on, you mean to tell me that shoving a jade egg up your vagina, isn't good for you?"
"The jade egg is probably the least unhealthy thing she sells, as it does absolutely nothing."
Not Doing What You Think
All of those "Detox" drinks, and gimmicks.
Take care of yourself. Don't fall for health fads. Start simple.
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Our past is chock full of "life lessons" that are actually just crap. It's easy to spoon-feed children drivel. They're sponges ready to absorb.
Then those children become adults that require rewiring.
Between culture changes and generations of upheaval, there is a lot that we are left to examine when out in the world. Look at where we are as a society right now. We are stuck in the throes of a culture war stemming from generational misinformation.
So where do we begin?
Redditor Baby_Bella_XX wanted to discuss the information we thought we understood as kids that might require an update. They asked:
What have you had to unlearn from your childhood?
The biggest lesson for me. "Oh stop worrying. There is plenty of time for that."
NO THERE IS NOT! There is no time left! Use it wisely!
Talk it Through
"Not talking about problems or concerns or feelings. My family really only makes small talk. Talking about the weather, gossip, etc. If there is any kind of disagreement, it's typically handled by giving the silent treatment, which might last anywhere from a couple hours to a few weeks or more. The only exception to this was my dad."
"If he was really angry, he would yell, slam things, and sometimes hit. Then pretend it never happened. No one ever asked how anyone else was doing, or about their day. I would come home from school and go straight to my room, because it was just a fact of life that no one would want to talk to me."
"If I had a problem, it would never occur to me to discuss it with my parents. There were never any "I love you's" or hugs or anything. I still, to this day, have never heard either of my parents apologize. I know they loved us in their own dysfunctional way, though."
"I probably overcompensate now. If I have a disagreement with my husband, I HAVE to talk it through in it's entirety. Even if it takes hours. I hug and tell my kids I love them several times a day. I ask questions every day about school, friends, etc. I apologize when I'm wrong. It's weird that that honestly comes naturally to me. I never realized how messed up my childhood was until I had kids of my own." ~ nicole11930
"Learning to say NO." ~ guyhabit
"If only my family would learn to accept "no". My mom insists on buying metric crap ton of food everytime she visits, despite me telling her not to, so she goes through all my things to "know" what to buy."
"She saw some oatmeal I never finished and two cans of soup I had for emergencies when I'm too sick to eat anything else. Now I'm stuck with a metric crap ton of soup and oatmeal that I keep forgetting to drop off for the local food pantry." ~ 1stLtObvious
"Talking back to anyone older that you is disrespectful. My parents taught me this and it's crap." ~ Halloweendog84
"I unlearned it during childhood. Got tired of my grandparents treating my parents wrong. Still am. I just wish my parents would see it and realize that they don't need to rely on them anymore. I'm tired of abusive or unhelpful family members being part of our lives." ~ bluedragggon3
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"That I'm not actually a burden just for being here." ~ KNOCKknockLAHEY_420
I feel like everyone here needs a hug. All of you should know, you deserve to be here. Every life can change another. Remember that...
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"It's okay to cry and it does not make you a weakling. When sad times hit, you have every right to cry your heart out to heal your wounds." ~ unforgivablenope
"Other children weren't psychic, I'm autistic." ~ Thinkingwithportals1
"As a child, I missed a lot of social cues, I couldn't read facial expressions or body language (or even know that you're meant to do that). The other kids kept seeming to know what others were feeling or thinking, so the logical conclusion was that everybody except me was psychic." ~ Thinkingwithportals1
Take my word for it...
"Lots of things. I actually can make it in the real world. I am not doomed to failure because of who I am and the quirks that come with being me. I am not the multitude of nasty labels my father spewed at me. The whole world isn't filled with terrible people who want to take advantage of me, requiring me to always be strong if I don't want to get taken advantage of."
"I am not actually sensitive and over-dramatic. I was actually picked at, 24/7, and so that was why it was so easy to rile me up; I never had a chance not to be emotionally charged. I actually can cook. I am not, as my mother often hinted, naturally a bad cook. I could write pages and pages of this crap and I still wouldn't cover it all. Take my word for it, I've unlearned a lot." ~ EgyptianDevil78
"My parents told me to eats what's on my plate, now I'm fat, coz I don't eat til I'm full, I eat til it's gone." ~ racerboy661
"If I end up wanting more after eating it all, I can go back and get another small portion. So my advice is cut down on portion size and eat until you feel full then stop. It is way healthier. Try for no waste but that's the idea behind small portions." ~ PoopLoofah
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"That just because I am not scoring at the top or going to the most prestigious college I am not not smart." ~ Imteyimg
Here is a lesson. Just try to be a good person. Sadly, in this day and age, that seems harder to do. And remember... our parents don't know everything.
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It's important to keep your mind healthy as you age, learning new things and trying new activities out.
What is an underrated skill that people should learn?
Start with the basics, learning things you'll definitely be using in your day-to-day life.
Just Get It All Done
"General fixing things around the house like hanging up frames or repairing basic things like holes in the drywall, painting etc, basic electrical work like light switches."
"Cooking and cleaning"
"Of course with learning basic electrical work, definitely learn about electrical safety. Safe practices are critical, as mistakes can be fatal."
"Source: am an electrical engineer and also work on home electrical."
Learn Something New Every Time
"Before I learned to cook I was an incredibly picky eater. Cooking helps you get more comfortable with ingredients. The best part is it gives you full control over your flavours. You aren't stuck picking from a menu. You are only limited by your creativity, skill and accessibility to ingredients when you cook for yourself."
"It can be as complicated as cooking a beef Wellington, or jazzing up some packaged ramen noodles. The best part is you learn something new every time you cook."
All The Fast and the Furious Folks Look So Cool When They Do It
"Driving a manual. No one will steal your car if it's a manual, because 98% of people don't know how to drive stick."
"Note: this might only apply in the US."
Some of these activities are life-saving, in that they could save your life in the heat of a moment. While it might feel silly to practice something like knot tying right now, these people make a good argument for mastering such a vital skill.
Learn A Few. You Don't Have To Learn All Of Them.
"Knot tying and sewing"
"+1 on knot tying especially. I never did Boy Scouts or anything like that, but I had an odd job in my 20s where I had to learn proper mooring technique: figure 8, sailor's knot etc."
"I wouldn't say it changed my life or anything. But I've never failed to secure anything since, and even just the practice of keeping consistent tautness while tying shoelaces has saved me time on many a run/soccer match etc."
You Never Know When You'll Need It
"I finally learned how to swim this year at 26. It felt amazing just jumping in the deep end being able to swim comfortably."
Learning A Few Phrases In Any Language Can Help You
"I totally agree. I learned some sign language as a kid after taking classes one summer and I'm glad I did."
"I remember a few years ago when I was in a foreign country a young woman was with her little brother and panhandling (people were treating them like garbage) and I had some change and gave it to them. She started signing "thank you" and signed that I was pretty (which was sweet of her). She was shocked when I signed back to her a simple "you're welcome" and it seemed to make her day."
And then there's these, skills which, on the surface, may not feel like they matter a whole lot. To get by in this day and age, however, they may be the most critical skills of all.
Go A Step Further
"How to separate fact from fiction - fake from true - especially with regard to news."
"The number of people who don't know the difference between a journalist and a pundit is a lot. It's not necessarily "news" just because you get it from a purported news channel."
Learn To Recognize Them, Not How To Name Them
"Logical fallacies. It would help with knowing when someone's misleading you in an argument and will also help you communicate your thoughts more clearly"
"Just don't literally name-drop the logical fallacy during the argument. Not particularly persuasive. Guaranteed to roll some eyes. Explain it in plain English instead. Use an example to show how it's a problem."
"Accounting. If you want to run a successful business, you really should do an accounting course. Not so that you can do your own accounting. But so that you can understand what others are telling you."
"Agreed. My granddad always said "watch the pennies and the dollars will watch themselves". Understanding accounting is a must for anyone in business."
Get out there and try something new. You never know when the thing you learn will come in handy. After all, better to know something and not need it than needing something and not know how to swim.
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