The truth may always be the best option because, yes, lies will always come out and karma swings back around swiftly. Actually, let's be truthful.... the truth can suck. And not secrets exploding, like a spouse cheating, or corporate embezzlement, actual facts about life.
Better to start swallowing these bitter pills now.
Redditor u/Professional-Can8235 wanted to everyone to share about what revelations life has thrown our way and how to deal by asking.... [SERIOUS] What is the harshest truth you've ever learned?Unfairness....
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Being the hardest worker will not always equate to you being the one rewarded or recognized for accomplishments.
Ah the memory....
Nostalgia is a liar.
Sometimes though, nostalgia is the best thing. I have a weird thing with visuals, smells and tastes bringing out really vivid memories of my childhood pretty often (like daydreams) and it feels really home-y, safe and wonderful.
All the Effort Spent....
You can do everything right, give something 100% effort, follow all the rules and still fail.
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life."
Jean Luc Picard, CPT USS Enterprise (NCC-1701-D).
I love this quote too.
I learned as a I grew up that just because someone hires you and pays you doesn't mean they intend to play fair. Actually it would seem they usually don't even if it would be better for the company in the long run. The point is, YOU keep YOUR integrity and you never really lose.
Tainted Love
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Loving someone unconditionally, and being willing to do anything for them doesn't mean that they will feel the same way about you.
Finding Help
If somebody doesn't want to be helped you can't help them.
This is so true. I've had to learn it the hard way. It's very true when they say that you shouldn't light yourself on fire to keep others warm. That stuff just leads to burnout.
Fallen....
Don't fall in love with potential.
Can be many things. Big things, small things. That someone who's inattentive will pay attention if you just try hard enough to show them it's important. That someone who constantly self-sabotages will stop if you show them they're worthy. That an addict will get clean if you support them enough. That someone violent will stop if you love them enough.
It's not your job to fix your partner. Either you love them the way they are (and you should have a long, hard look if "who they are" is really what you think or if that's just your idea of them), or you don't. If it's the latter, you may need to move on.
This isn't the same as growing together, that's an inevitable process based on equality. Your partner can't be like an investment into a rotting house that you just need to fix and then it'll be great to live in.
I'll be there for you....
That no matter how much you care for and value someone they're never obligated to be the same to you. Especially friends.
Dealing with this currently. Friends since pre school and basically attached at the hip right up until we left school and went to a community college together.
After we got jobs he was harder to get into contact with. We would hang out on occasion but I always reached out and never other way around. He got distant and i asked if he was ok and did I do something wrong, he said it's all ok, then one day he flat out ghosted me.
Has new friends now from what I can see. Still not quite sure what happened but I do not wish him ill and hope he is happy. Hope you are doing ok as well.
A Better Me
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I am nowhere near as smart, nice, or likable as I thought I was to myself.
This is also the first step to becoming a smarter, nicer, and more likable person.
"last times"
Don't take anything for granted, things change so fast and life is really short. I remember having so many friends not that long ago, who are now strangers.
A big one for me is how many "last times" you're going to have, and how often you won't realize it's a last time. Things can change so fast. Go bowling every Monday? Have a convention you and your friends go to yearly? Hang out regularly with the same people?
One day is going to be the last time it happens and almost without fail you will not know. Then you go days without talking to someone, then weeks, then months, then one day you realize that you aren't really friends anymore. No major fallout, just your lives are no longer compatible.
As time goes by....
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When it comes to grief Time does not heal all wounds. It dulls it, but one trigger and it floods back.
I learned this after my dad & grandma died in 2015. Sad I know, but I resent the fact that people kept telling me I wouldn't feel it one day. I think we need to be honest about that so people know how to cope with grief in the right way & not hold out for a day when it won't be there lurking in the shadows.
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But sometimes, the wisdom imparted by friends isn't always helpful or relevant to the situation.
Curious to hear from strangers online who could do without specific knowledge, Redditor Saibotnl1 asked:
"What life advice can just f'k off?"
These Redditors have a problem with how certain people have on outlook on life.
Time To Rest
"Sleep when you’re dead."
"Cool, but you’re going to be dead a lot sooner."
– Tag2graff
Irrelevant Sadness
"People have it so much worse than you so don’t be sad!"
– notrachelmar
"To that I like to say, 'people have it so much better than you so don't be happy!'"
– ___jupiter____
Your Life Path
"Almost anything relating to what age you must be in order to buy a house, have children, marry, have a profession, or do anything else. Seriously, everyone's life is different from everyone else's. Make your life the way you want it to be. If you so desire. Up to you."
– Frn071
On The Contrary
“Cheaters never prosper”
"Yes, they f'king do."
– waqasnaseem07
People can get out of any situation they find displeasing.
But others feel people should just "stick it out."
Ignoring Bullies
"Just ignore bullys or get someone else to handle it for you. I have never seen this work, only makes it worse. The only effective way I've seen to deal with them is by not making yourself an easy target and make them scared to f'k with you again. If going psycho on their a** is the only thing they'll respond to that's their fault. Also want to add in schools they will punish you for self defense but that punishment is only sitting around a few hours in detention or sitting around at home with a suspension. The punishment is temporary boredom, it's absolutely nothing compared to being bullied and when it's over the important message will still stand that you will not tolerate being a victim."
– User Delted
Remain to be Miserable
"Stick it out"
"Whether that's sh**ty jobs, shi**y relationships, shi**y living situations..."
"By all means don't just give up on things when you face challenges, but if something feels wrong or is wrecking your peace then take some control and change it if you can!"
– petitezoey
"Easy for you to say," might be an auto-response to these suggestions for many people.
Invitation For Recklesslessness
"Live like everyday was your last"
Yall know what people do when they learn they have a single day left to live?"
– LimeGrass619
A Possible Consequence
"I did that as a teenager and ended up homeless and addicted to heroin. Didn’t pan out for me too well."
"19 years sober though today."
– Open-Section-7263
A Practical Approach
"If I knew with certainty that I had one day left, I'd double-check all my financials, my will, and my insurance policies, make sure my wife had all of my passwords and knew where all the money was, spend the rest of the day with her and the kids, then call the medical examiner and ask to lie down on the gurney so that when I die they won't strain their back moving my remains out of my house."
– Asteriad
Nose Stuck In A Book
"Work while they sleep. Study while they party"
"That's not a recipe for success, that's a recipe for a lot of white hairs, burnout syndrome and a stroke before your 40s..."
– Khomuna
Doesn't Apply To Everyone
"Do what you love and money will follow"
"I love walking my dogs and grilling food for my friends but That sh*t doesn't pay the bills as well as my engineering degree!"
– Elons_android
While people's intentions are good, they're better off keeping their two cents in their own pockets.
Not everyone likes to hear platitudes.
Sometimes, people just want to know they're not alone with their problems over listening to unlikely solutions that are nothing more than superficial pick-me-ups.
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