People Break Down Which Things Instantly Make An Attractive Person Unattractive
It's such an easy switch....
Just because you're a "10" in the face and the body... oh the body... it doesn't mean the world owes you anything. You maybe be special but you're not better than anyone else. The full package is essential and looks only take you so far. You'd be surprised how quickly pretty fades. And people often learn that too late.
Redditor u/Antoinewhite wanted to discuss about the truth about how looks can and often do fade because actions speak louder than words by asking.... What turns an attractive person ugly?Need a Bath?
smelly infomercial GIFGiphyTheir smell.
One of my biggest fears is that I'm smelly and can't smell myself. I'm not one of those people who retains scents on my skin (body wash, lotion, perfume) so I'm constantly nervous I'm stinky.
Is that You?
Meth!
TRUTH! worked at a gas station, and one of my regulars was honestly attractive, but she hung out with the wrong people and liked to party/club (not sure where though because where i live there isn't a whole lot of clubs if any so maybe bar hop?) and she'd usually stop by my gas station on her way to the club or way home drunk. but as i said she hung out with the wrong crowd so i slowly got to see her decline, seen her hooked drunk and high -- and this whole time her appearance is getting... not really worse but changing she's becoming more thin.
eventually i left the gas station got a job somewhere else. i came back a year later to get a red bull on my way home from work and say hi to a ex coworker when i smelled something just horrible, like a mix between chemicals and crap. i turned around and this customer is walking by, and at first i didn't recognize her her hair had knots in it like she hadn't washed it in weeks, it was a mess, she was practically a skeleton, she wore some old sun dress that had holes in it.
it honestly looked like she was homeless. i walk up to the counter pay for my stuff and then my ex coworker takes a break (there was another employee there who rang the rest of the customers up) and we go outside to have a smoke, first thing i say is "holy crap i didn't recognize so and so" ex-coworker just says "yeah she got into meth and pretty much went down hill."
You Ain't All That!
Having a crappy arrogant attitude.
I think it's about the context of arrogance. Myself speaking I'm not drop dead but I'm pretty attractive. I'm also really cocky but I use that overconfidence with my work or in physical/ mental challenges.
I don't use it for my looks and since that's just my personality everyone seems to get along with me. And with all that being said I would much rather stay being to confident then too shy.
I know it's pretty unrelated to what you said but it's just something I felt like adding.
Kindness....
Schulter Lässig GIF by skippGiphyHow they treat others.
I went on a few dates with someone really good looking (I thought so, anyway). All she did was make fun of the way other people looked, dressed, acted. It was so tough to take, but I kept holding on because of her looks. I realized how shallow that made me, too.
It's not just you!
Selfishness.
I had this issue with my fiancé when we were early in our relationship. I'm aware that sometimes I'm wrong, and I got tired of him immediately apologizing anytime I came to him about something. I don't want him to just say sorry and have the conversation be over, clearly there's a reason he's doing what he's doing, so let's talk about it.
I feel a lot better walking away from a conversation that ended in a compromise than one that ended with him agreeing with me.
He was the peace keeper in his family, so it makes sense that he ended up being so agreeable. Over the time we've been together he's gotten a lot better about it.
Can you follow me?
Lack of common sense and humanity.
Lack of common sense. I dated a 30-year-old woman who was just not very smart. Very nice looking, pleasant, but after a little while I figured out that her kind of low IQ permeated all parts of her life. She was also convinced she was ready to be a boss, be in charge of people.
However, she kept on getting fired from secretarial jobs, office jobs, because she couldn't do the work. She was still trying to get, and spending money on classes for, a community college degree. She was somehow convinced that this would change her life. she had put $1000 into a mutual fund seven years earlier, and got a good rate of return.
So she now had $2000. She was confused. It apparently never occurred to her that you have to invest more, or keep putting money in, even at a good rate of return. She apparently thought she would invest $1000 and become a millionaire. It was difficult being around her.
I forgot this part. After ten years of part time college, she didn't have a major.
Smart ain't all that....
How about, people who are actually super smart.
I dated a girl in high school and into college for a bit. She was the Valedictorian of our high school, 4.0 gpa, got into Rice University, super smart girl all around. Now I consider myself to be a pretty smart person, not like genius level or anything, but I graduated college with a 3.5 gpa and can hold my own in intelligent conversation. Anyway my ex was so smart that she basically thought that she was never wrong.
She was also really condescending and it got very tiring being with her. So I broke up with her and she went absolutely nuts! She attacked my intelligence, called me stupid, thought that I was cheating on her and so on. She just couldn't accept the fact that her attitude was the reason I left her.
She was really attractive, but damn that condescending tone was equally unattractive.
Can't Count on You
phaedra parks bye felicia GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphyI'm surprised I haven't seen this said already, but being unreliable. Like when they say "Oh we should totally [go to this place, do this thing, watch this movie, play this game, etc]!" and then either never follow through on the plan, cancel at the last minute, or meet up with you and change what you're doing.
The Disregard
Arrogance.
For me, it's your consideration of others. If your sense of self-worth revels in, depends on, or simply disregards the devaluing of others, it's arrogance. If you can believe in and value yourself while also uplifting or at least considering the value of others, that's confidence. The real answer (as with most things) is more complex than this and can change on a situational basis but this is the top-level base answer for me.
Treatment of staff...
customer service waiter GIFGiphyBeing an a**hole to waiters, janitors, and the like. Or just being an a**hole and having a crap attitude about everything.
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Even in our progressive society, there are still far too many people with antiquated, mostly ludicrous, opinions of what it is to be a woman.
These are primarily from men in powerful positions.
However, some women also tend to look down on those who believe they are giving their gender a bad name.
This ignorant behavior is most commonly known as "toxic femininity".
"What are examples of toxic femininity?"
Caring About Your Image More Than Other People
"Girls who only support other girls when it’s convenient for their image."- flowerchild_3
Worry About Your Own Children, Not Other Moms
"Moms bullying other moms."- LollipopDreamscape
Men Are Parents Too...
"Dad of a 5 year old girl here."
"When my daughter was a couple of months old my wife discovered a nearby play group and was planning on taking her there for a session."
"I decided to take her myself as it landed on one of my days off and I wanted to spend some real time with my little girl and my wife deserved a break."
"The play group is taking place in a large community hall and there's quite a few people there with kids ranging from newborns to around 4 or 5."
"However I quickly noticed that out of about 30ish parents I'm the only man there and everyone stares at me."
"I think nothing of it and proceed to the soft play section for the babies to play with my daughter."
"Not 10 minutes pass however and I notice mums and even nans pretending not to stare at me and talk under their breath."
"At first I thought I was being paranoid because I was nervous being the only dude there but then I noticed it was several groups doing it.'
'I then overheard one of the mums in the baby section with us say to her friend/sister/who cares that I must be dodgy or on the offenders register."
'Yes."
"THAT register.'
"All because I happened to be the only dad there.'
"I picked my daughter up, told the women where she could stuff her opinions and promptly left."
'I told my wife what had happened and then she went back by herself and had a somewhat heated exchange with the organisers."
"Sometimes I think I married a dragon because she returned with a face so red with rage you'd think she just breathed fire."
"Play group mums can be sexist as hell."- LostMercenary99
Never Pass Judgement Without Knowing The Details
"Mothers shaming C-Section moms saying they didn’t give birth because the child was surgically removed."- Sufficient-Voice-210
"My wife could not produce enough milk for our children."
"When our first was born she tried and tried."
"I woke up in the middle of the night to her crying."
"She felt like she was a horrible mom to even bring up formula."
"There is so much pressure on moms, and it is incredibly stupid."
"Our kids are very well adjusted and were on formula the entire time.'
"I tell anyone who is expecting their first that the only 'right' way is the 'right way for that child'.”
"Damn everyone else’s opinions; do what is best for your family; not the mommy bloggers."
"My oldest is 10 years old and my wife is at peace with it; she worked through her guilt, which I totally agree she should not have any guilt: she is an excellent mother."
"The statistics on breastfed vs. bottle fed have other correlations which I don’t want to take the time to defend, anyone can read the studies, but adding other factors like home life and atomic households, the delta between the two are not as big as the breastfeeding fanatics point out."
"Lastly, anecdotally and take this as a a claim from a dad.'
"My kids are healthy and hyper-intelligent."
"My oldest has been consistently tested through school as top 2% composite intelligence, and she is thriving in advanced classes."
"I say this because there are people who say that IQ is impacted by breastfeeding."
"It just isn’t true, my children thrive, they are healthy and they know they are loved."- Lokitusaborg
If You Can't Take The Heat...
"Being verbally abusive and then playing victim the second the other person argues back or raises their voice."- No-Bumblebee4615
A "Real Woman" Would Probably Never Say This...
"Pulling the 'if you're a real man' card whenever they need something."- Reddit
Not Everyone Is Meant To Be A Parent
"Mothers telling women without kids that their life is meaningless and they can’t understand true love."- DontShowMomMemes
No Man Is Worth The Trouble
"Women who throw other women under the bus for a man, or the attention of a man etc."- KekeSmall
Happily Ever After Has Many Different Meanings
"That single women should be sad."- hallelujasuzanne
Being Self-Serving Ultimately Serves No One
"Women that only want traditional values when it benefits them."- SnooCakes653
Just because someone, no matter their gender, lives their life differently than you do doesn't mean they are deserving of your judgment.
Especially if they are happy with the life they are living, and aren't bringing harm to anyone else.
Anyone believing others aren't fitting their expectations of what it is to be a "real woman" or a "real man" might want to stop and re-examine their standards.
No matter how old we get, we still find ourselves keeping up with the latest trends.
Binging the show everyone's talking about, downloading the newest app, and partaking in the latest social media craze, all in an effort to appear cool to our friends and colleagues.
Of course, not all of these trends are "cool" to us.
In fact, sometimes we grudgingly partake in these trends, no matter how idiotic they seem to us.
While others have no concerns about being cool, and won't even think about joining in with everyone else, choosing instead to gleefully look down on them.
"What's something extremely popular but you just can't give a f*ck about it?"
What Exactly Are They Trying To Influence?
"Influencers."
"They have a different vibe than I have/aspire to have, different ways of expressing themselves, different values, different beauty standards, etc."- smieklinsh
"So-called influencers."
'My personal opinion."
"If you like them, cool."
'No harm done."- queen_tabby
"Elon Musk.'
"Isn't aren’t part of my life, so why should I take time from my life to think about the crap they’re doing?"- attention21
Elon Musk Reaction GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphyIsn't It Good News Either Way?
"Gender reveal parties."- Back2Bach
Just Another Distraction
"TikTok never got into it."- thneakythnake660
How Many Strangers Are Looking At Your Pictures?
"Followers on social media."- Single_Goat3138
Pop Tv GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy"Figure" Heads being the operative word
"The Royal Family."- Natasha_JB
Comfort Over Quality
"Sneakers."
"Like, I’ll indulge and buy a pair I think are really cool."
"But other than that, why tf would you spend $2000+ on a pair of shoes that actually cost less than $10."- eggtada
Fame Is Seldom The Same As Qualified
"I’d say entertainers who are so wealthy and think they are the voices of normal people."-mayoinstrumentalz
Or Anything Else About Him?
"Ye's Opinion."- SlimePrice
Just How Real Was It?
"Reality TV."- brycebrycehayeshayes
Phaedra Parks Reality Tv GIF by Real housewives of AtlantaGiphyCan It Even Be Considered A Chat?
"SnapChat Streaks."
"Since when was a fire emoji and a number a symbol of popularity and friendship?"
"I just don't have the time for this sh*t."- Yes-I-Have-Arrived
Quality Over Quantity
"Starbucks."- Maleficent_Insect71
The best thing about opinions and personal taste is that they are unique to every individual.
No two people have to like the same thing, nor should we judge those who dislike something we like and vice-versa.
Even if it's hard to say it's unreasonable that not even two people should give Elon Musk or Ye any time of day.
Though again, that's just an opinion...
Meal times are meant to be fun. It's a time where you can take break from work and your problems, be with your friends or family, and most importantly, enjoy some good food.
Of course, good food is subjective.
There are plenty of popular foods and dishes out there that everyone loves.
However, sometimes people love a food so much that it loses it's luster and becomes overrated.
Redditors were only too happy to share which popular dishes they find overrated.
It all started when a Redditor asked:
"What food do you think is overrated?"
No Need For Synthetic Clay
"Fondant, if that counts. I see all these fancy cakes in bakeries and on tv shows and my first thought is "90% of that is just sugary Play-Doh.""
– AsleepInstruction737
"It is gorgeous, but tastes like, well you said it."
– AmIADelusionalArtist
But We All Need Coffee
"Anything at Starbucks"
– OverSuspendedMC
"Starbucks entirely."
– reyrey_007
"Starbucks? More like Starsucks!"
– ebichusan
Presentation Is Only Half The Battle
"Macarons. They never taste as good as they look"
"I would have to agree with this! I’ve had macarons from regular stores, always thought they tasted “blah”. Then I was in France a few months ago, and someone swore by Laduree ones. They said “you have to try it, it will change your life”. Waited in line for 40 min so I could “have my life changed”! Well, I still thought they tasted “blah”"
– lagcastello
"Yes! They are so pretty but I feel like I’m eating chalk."
– I_carried_a_H2Omelon
Can't Go With Everything
"Bacon. Dont get me wrong I love it but people wrap everything in it , cover it with chocolate ect."
– TigMac
"Bacon should be a side dish. Adding it to anything else sullies the bacon."
– 2meterrichard
More Money Does Not Mean Better
"caviar"
– hilellasry
"Right? Give me some salmon roe and we're good. It's like fish boba, yummy."
Not The Highest Form Of Flattery
"California roll w imitation crab"
– 1olaMas
"Imitation crab is heinous"
Pure And Simple Is The Best
"Things made of Mac and Cheese, like Mac and cheese balls"
"Just give me some good, gourmet mac. Usually the stuff in mac and cheese balls is Kraft Easy Mac grade stuff."
– BOOOATS
Too Sweet
"nutella"
– everevstan
"Yes, yes, yes, i thought i was the only one who doesn"t understand the Nutella lovers."
– Thinkdeeperaboutit
"Brown fatty stuff in sugar. Gag"
– Loose_Sun_169
Last Meal Doesn't Mean Best Meal
"Lobster"
– Fukitol-Yessir
"I’d prefer shrimp/crab/crawfish over lobster any day of the week."
Too Much Of A Good Thing
"Avocado. there is such a thing as too much"
– Diabolik77
"Just give me a fine spread, I don't need an avacado staircase on my toast"
– OmarGuard
Just A Bandaid Food
"Cheese is at the top of my list. Didn't really notice too much till the lactose intolerance set in but they put it on everything. I believe it's to cover up for really poor quality food. Have a sh*tty entrae? Cover it in cheese and people can't get enough. I never aye a lot of cheese before but it seems out of control the past few years"
– Realistic_Ad_165
Make It Yourselves
"Chocolate dipped strawberries. I can't believe people pay that much money for something that can be made so easily and cheaply and probably better at home."
– Warm-Replacement1839
Best Cookie In The World?
"Oreos."
– EnvironmentalBee5232
"Stopped eating them when I had braces because they gunked them up one time, and then I realized I didn’t like them a lot in the first place lol"
– Scrabulon
America's Favorite Food
"Bad pizza."
"People who say "Bad pizza is still pizza" aren't actually eating BAD pizza."
"Truly abominable pizza is heartbreaking, infuriating and bewildering."
– revjor
"7/11 is the only place i've ever had truly bad pizza from. i was shocked. how do you mess up pizza??!?"
– Nanakatl
"There are two instances where I've had actual bad pizza, not "bad pizza but it's still pizza.""
"The first was my college cafeteria. You go in thinking that it's awesome to have all you can eat pizza nightly...problem is, the pans weren't rinsed properly and every bite tasted faintly of dish soap. Pretty gross."
"The second (the worst of the two) was at an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica I stayed at for my brother's wedding. The only option for late night food within the resort was a shack that served pizza, burgers, nachos, fries, that sort of thing. I asked for a cheese pizza, but they didn't have an oven, just a flat top. They pulled out some dough, stretched it out a bit (but not nearly thin enough to cook evenly) and slathered some tomato paste on it, then topped it with slices of american cheese. It was raw in the middle and didn't taste right at all."
– xMCioffi1986x
I never want to learn what truly bad pizza is!
Do you have anything to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
We all have our preferences when it comes to the type of people we want to keep the company of.
When the people we're with do something undesirable or rude, they are an instant turn-off, and we lose all interest in continuing to hang out with that person.
I know for me that people who try to be funny by making rude jokes about others won't be in my life for long.
Redditors were all too eager to share their own opinions on what they think are instant turns-offs.
It all started when Redditor SnooRegrets8194 asked:
"What is an instant turn off for you?"
Clean Yourself Up!
"Poor hygiene."
– QuakerMoatsTFT
"Bad teeth as well"
"Edit: mouth hygiene."
– Dexios
Get Me A Mirror...Or A Filter!
"Being completely obsessed with physical image. Especially via social media."
– TheFastestHighwayman
"Idiot duck lips has entered the convo"
– Evening_Dress5743
Do Unto Others...
"Rudeness. Especially when the person is rude to people they think are beneath them."
– Honest_Art_3266
"Bruh. If I’m with someone and they harass a service worker. I get heated."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Only Looking For One Thing
"Worst is you thought that person was nice and then after a few exchange of messages, here comes a subtle conversation about sex. Very disappointing."
– jentlemonster
"I hate when that happens. LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX NOW."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Just Be Nice
"Making fun of your interests or hobbies"
– Illustrious-Swan-257
"Yes. If I can’t talk to you about the sh*t I’m passionate about, we ain’t working."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Screen Time
"When she gets on her phone while we have a good time"
– Alexeleven_
"Dude my ex did this constantly. Every date we went in she'd be on her phone talking to her friends. I normally wouldn't have cared because friends are dope, but the texting got a fair bit. Well.. suspicious after I saw the way they spoke with her."
– ShortAndSad4381
The Past Is In The Past
"When they complain about their ex on the first date"
– poisonbuzz
Why Do Today...
"When men in relationships don’t do housework."
– tatonka645
"Lazyness in general is a turn off for me."
– Winterfukk
Table Manners Matter
"Anyone who chews with their mouth open."
– justfnbroken
"Hearing or seeing this makes me so angry I have to walk into the other room otherwise I literally get violent thoughts about the person and I’m not a violent individual lol I HAAAATE ppl who do this!"
– Cubaris_murina
Oh The Horror!
"Dated a girl once who was upset I read Harry Potter because it involves witchcraft. That’s a turn off. Actually still makes me mad thinking of it considering it wasn’t just a small argument. Glad that’s over."
– 3gnome
"Freaking muggles."
– PrivateVenue
You're Good, But I'm Better!
"One-uppers/people who don’t have a disconnect from talking about their wealth, job, or how much they make constantly."
– Redmondroses
"You There?"
"Someone that's overly into themselves. Their selfie as their screen saver. Constantly sending you selfies and talking about how attractive they are. Confidence is nice, but sometimes it comes off as self-obsessed.
Also someone that demands so much of my time when I barely know them. "Why aren't you answering??" Or sending message after message when I'm busy. Like damn, you don't got nothing to do but text me huh? I don't have time for that shit."
– apimpnamedlofty"
"11:01: We can go to the mall tonight yes?"
"11:03: OK FINE I GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO GO WITH ME!! I AM NOT YOUR REBOUND!!!!"
"11:30 I get out of my meeting and read the messages like whaaaaaaaat?"
– Both_Lifeguard_556
I See That
"Power outage"
– Swimming_Skin_5705
"I know an electrician that always turns me on… i’ll dm you his number"
– SnooRegrets8194
Time To Convert
"I hit it off with a girl I met online, super sweet, but hardcore catholic, wanted me to swap from pagan to catholic just to be with her. I never really cared about someone’s religion tbh."
– Roostersnuggets
It's All About Me
"people asking questions that they use to turn attention/ the conversation back to themselves"
– Eli_is_okay-ish
Yeah, that would be a turn-off for me too!