Just because you're a "10" in the face and the body... oh the body... it doesn't mean the world owes you anything. You maybe be special but you're not better than anyone else. The full package is essential and looks only take you so far. You'd be surprised how quickly pretty fades. And people often learn that too late.
Redditor u/Antoinewhite wanted to discuss about the truth about how looks can and often do fade because actions speak louder than words by asking.... What turns an attractive person ugly?Need a Bath?
smelly infomercial GIFGiphyTheir smell.
One of my biggest fears is that I'm smelly and can't smell myself. I'm not one of those people who retains scents on my skin (body wash, lotion, perfume) so I'm constantly nervous I'm stinky.
Is that You?
Meth!
TRUTH! worked at a gas station, and one of my regulars was honestly attractive, but she hung out with the wrong people and liked to party/club (not sure where though because where i live there isn't a whole lot of clubs if any so maybe bar hop?) and she'd usually stop by my gas station on her way to the club or way home drunk. but as i said she hung out with the wrong crowd so i slowly got to see her decline, seen her hooked drunk and high -- and this whole time her appearance is getting... not really worse but changing she's becoming more thin.
eventually i left the gas station got a job somewhere else. i came back a year later to get a red bull on my way home from work and say hi to a ex coworker when i smelled something just horrible, like a mix between chemicals and crap. i turned around and this customer is walking by, and at first i didn't recognize her her hair had knots in it like she hadn't washed it in weeks, it was a mess, she was practically a skeleton, she wore some old sun dress that had holes in it.
it honestly looked like she was homeless. i walk up to the counter pay for my stuff and then my ex coworker takes a break (there was another employee there who rang the rest of the customers up) and we go outside to have a smoke, first thing i say is "holy crap i didn't recognize so and so" ex-coworker just says "yeah she got into meth and pretty much went down hill."
You Ain't All That!
Having a crappy arrogant attitude.
I think it's about the context of arrogance. Myself speaking I'm not drop dead but I'm pretty attractive. I'm also really cocky but I use that overconfidence with my work or in physical/ mental challenges.
I don't use it for my looks and since that's just my personality everyone seems to get along with me. And with all that being said I would much rather stay being to confident then too shy.
I know it's pretty unrelated to what you said but it's just something I felt like adding.
Kindness....
Schulter Lässig GIF by skippGiphyHow they treat others.
I went on a few dates with someone really good looking (I thought so, anyway). All she did was make fun of the way other people looked, dressed, acted. It was so tough to take, but I kept holding on because of her looks. I realized how shallow that made me, too.
It's not just you!
Selfishness.
I had this issue with my fiancé when we were early in our relationship. I'm aware that sometimes I'm wrong, and I got tired of him immediately apologizing anytime I came to him about something. I don't want him to just say sorry and have the conversation be over, clearly there's a reason he's doing what he's doing, so let's talk about it.
I feel a lot better walking away from a conversation that ended in a compromise than one that ended with him agreeing with me.
He was the peace keeper in his family, so it makes sense that he ended up being so agreeable. Over the time we've been together he's gotten a lot better about it.
Can you follow me?
Lack of common sense and humanity.
Lack of common sense. I dated a 30-year-old woman who was just not very smart. Very nice looking, pleasant, but after a little while I figured out that her kind of low IQ permeated all parts of her life. She was also convinced she was ready to be a boss, be in charge of people.
However, she kept on getting fired from secretarial jobs, office jobs, because she couldn't do the work. She was still trying to get, and spending money on classes for, a community college degree. She was somehow convinced that this would change her life. she had put $1000 into a mutual fund seven years earlier, and got a good rate of return.
So she now had $2000. She was confused. It apparently never occurred to her that you have to invest more, or keep putting money in, even at a good rate of return. She apparently thought she would invest $1000 and become a millionaire. It was difficult being around her.
I forgot this part. After ten years of part time college, she didn't have a major.
Smart ain't all that....
How about, people who are actually super smart.
I dated a girl in high school and into college for a bit. She was the Valedictorian of our high school, 4.0 gpa, got into Rice University, super smart girl all around. Now I consider myself to be a pretty smart person, not like genius level or anything, but I graduated college with a 3.5 gpa and can hold my own in intelligent conversation. Anyway my ex was so smart that she basically thought that she was never wrong.
She was also really condescending and it got very tiring being with her. So I broke up with her and she went absolutely nuts! She attacked my intelligence, called me stupid, thought that I was cheating on her and so on. She just couldn't accept the fact that her attitude was the reason I left her.
She was really attractive, but damn that condescending tone was equally unattractive.
Can't Count on You
phaedra parks bye felicia GIF by RealityTVGIFsGiphyI'm surprised I haven't seen this said already, but being unreliable. Like when they say "Oh we should totally [go to this place, do this thing, watch this movie, play this game, etc]!" and then either never follow through on the plan, cancel at the last minute, or meet up with you and change what you're doing.
The Disregard
Arrogance.
For me, it's your consideration of others. If your sense of self-worth revels in, depends on, or simply disregards the devaluing of others, it's arrogance. If you can believe in and value yourself while also uplifting or at least considering the value of others, that's confidence. The real answer (as with most things) is more complex than this and can change on a situational basis but this is the top-level base answer for me.
Treatment of staff...
customer service waiter GIFGiphyBeing an a**hole to waiters, janitors, and the like. Or just being an a**hole and having a crap attitude about everything.
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Redditor Tight_Anywhere6794 wanted to hear about the things parents have said in the past that haunts everyone still, so they asked:
"What insult have your parents said, that is stuck in your head as an adult?"
I've been blessed with the mother I had.
So I can't speak from experience.
But I've heard parenting horror stories.
Bad Expressions
Sad Kid GIF by 1tvGiphy“'You’re so annoying.' Said to me as a young kid while I was expressing enthusiasm over some new interest. Later my father complains I never tell him anything."
foppishyyy
Mean Spirited
"What did I do to deserve a fat kid?"
Silosolo
"My parents also mocked me for being fat, and outright physically abused me as in forcefully grabbed my fat child manboobs or slapped me while calling me fat-related names."
"A lot of people at school did it too, so obviously I have a lot of self-image issues like I never let anyone see me without clothes these days. The worst part is that I legitimately internalized a lot of hate, I could never care for myself enough to actually get fit."
FoeWithBenefits
What's My Name?
"My parents divorced when I was young and they hate each other. My mom would call me my dad's name when she was really upset. What makes it worse is that I confided in her that I never wanted to be like my dad. She used that ammunition against me."
Discarded_Pariah
"That's awful. You are your own person. You aren't your father."
blksmnr
Unfunny
"'You can't even laugh right.'"
"My mom in a weird moment I thought we were bonding. There's something inherently extra evil when someone tells you your joy is wrong. Told her I'm engaged and hoped she could at least be happy I'm happy and she ghosted everyone to the point the family thought died. She's a mess."
BlindEditor
"I'll never understand parents that are so hard on their own children that they can't even be happy for them. So their sole function is to bring misery to their offspring?"
macabre_irony
Evil
Oh My God Wow GIF by The Roku ChannelGiphy"My little brother was drowning, I tried to save him but also almost drowned, we got rescued by a neighbor. My mom told me that they should've left me in the pond. I haven't spoken to her in many years."
Ilookbetterthanyou
Good Lord. How do people like this exist?
Tragic.
HIM
"She told me I was acting just like my father when I would get upset. I would just get kinda pissy and sulk. He would go on rampages and scream and hit and throw things. He pushed her down the stairs once. I would never lay a finger on my current partner. The worst part is I look just like him. I was wondering if my mother always expected me to turn into my dad. I prove her wrong every day."
rot_grl
10 Years Old
"When I was ~10 years old, my mum once said 'If I could go back in time and make sure I never gave birth to you, I would in a heartbeat.'"
"Never forgot it. Talked to her about it a couple of times years later and her responses ranged from 'That never happened' to 'Oh yeah and I suppose I’m just the worst mother ever' and finally 'Yeah but I didn’t mean it, you know that.'"
"Messed me up tho tbh. Another one was '[older sibling] was the only child we actually planned for, the rest of you were accidents.' I don’t think it was intended as an insult, but being told your entire existence was an accident as a child kinda stung."
SpiderP*bes
Failures
“'You’re the biggest mistake I ever made.' - my mother when I was 5. I’m 32 now and it’s been the undercurrent for our relationship ever since, constantly wondering if anything I’ve achieved or struggled for is something she’s genuinely proud of or just relieved to say I wasn’t a total failure on her part."
thefaehost
Generational Issues
"Not a parent but a grandparent, I was adopted when I was 12 years old (my parents were both drug addicts so I was in and out of foster care most of my life) my adopted mother's father turned to me on Christmas Eve when no one else was around and said 'My daughter should have never adopted you, she should have let you stay on the streets where you belong'… he got nicer as he got older and sicker but I couldn’t find it in myself to forget what he said even almost 10 years later. Went to the funeral for moral support but was indifferent about his passing."
samweather227
Just Me
Sad Kids GIF by Cian DucrotGiphy"I was an only child and lonely. When I asked for a sibling, the response was 'If you want to know why we don't have more kids, go look in the mirror.'"
Responsible_Fly_3565
Some people should never have children.
Awful.
"What is something you no longer have patience for?"
Off The Clock Means OFF THE CLOCK!
"Working outside of work hours."
"I used to go above and beyond, now I only put in what is required."
"Life is too short to live only to work."- Chesterfieldcat
"The working world."
"My life doesn’t revolve around working here and it never will."
"It will never be a part of my identity."
"I come in, do the job, make money, go home."
"Don’t expect me to come to all the work happy hours so I can pretend how much I love working here."- nuclearsalt
Some Things Just Don't Get A Free Pass
"Sh*tty people getting a pass 'because they're family'."- cgulash
angry homer simpson GIFGiphySay What You Mean, Not What You Feel
"Having to guess what people REALLY mean by something they said."
"I take everything people say at face value now and don't replay conversations in my head to find out the real meaning anymore."
"Be passive-aggressive if you want to but talk to me like an adult if you really have a problem."- WateredDownSalt
EYES ON THE ROAD!
"People who text and drive."
"You're driving a giant piece of metal propelled by explosive liquid."
"Pay attention."- MasterfulNothasie
The Only Life That Should Concern You Is Your Own
"People and groups of people that only talk about other people."- Turf98
"People who can’t mind their fucking business and are always worried about what other people are doing."
"If it doesn’t effect you, f*ck off."
"It’s literally free."- wackwackwackjpg
GIF by WWEGiphySome People Didn't Mind Social Distancing
"People invading my personal space."- Mighty-Foreskin
Influence Can Be Dangerous
"Anything that has “influencer” in it."- chemistcarpenter
Indoor Voices People...
"Streamers screaming, losing their sh*t, breaking things, and having tantrums."
"I used to think this was so funny now I just can't stand it; I can't even watch a streamer if I notice they're not using their normal talking voice." - Reddit
Fail Oh No GIF by G2 EsportsGiphyTaking Responsibility Is A Sign Of Maturity
"People who constantly blame others for the situation they are in."- SuvenPan
Time Is Precious And Shouldn't Be Wasted
"Waiting on people who are constantly late to plans."
"I will wait 15 minutes then excuse myself."- Dabbles-In-Irony
There's Multi-Tasking, And Then There's Just Being Rude...
"People being on their phone while in a conversation with you."
"Seriously."
"Put your phone away!"- rosieblinkstime
Phone GIF by Poehlmann FitnessGiphyIt Takes So Much More Effort To Be Nasty...
"Bad manners, unkindness and general rudeness."
"It costs nothing to be a nice person and from someone who works in a customer-facing industry, attitudes, sadly, appear to be getting worse."
"It really makes me cross."- Bellamiles85
At Least They're Being Transparent
"Medicine commercials with worse side-effects than the thing being cured."- mrbbrj
Wasting our time and thoughts about things that we know can only bring us down is simply no way to get through life.
It's essential to live our lives by taking the present moment for what it is: a present.