Until you start paying the bills you never really understand how high the tally can rise. You don't think about monetary amounts until you have to earn it--then you're shocked by how even the items or tasks that seemed small and cheap were breaking the bank. Like underwear or socks... they can be pricey. I used to have a ton of pairs, in all colors and lengths but good socks ain't cheap. Even at the cheap store. Ten bucks for six pair feels excessive to me.
Redditor u/Zarellto_v2 wanted to discuss the worth we did not recognize through naive eyes by asking..... What is one item you did not realize was expensive, until you became an adult?
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Does Christmas in general count?
Custom framing. Hundreds of dollars for a nice frame with mat. I still don't understand how it gets up so high.
Yup. I just go to thrift shops looking for something about the right size. Then I hit the arts & crafts store for an appropriate shade of poster board, and (if needed) the hardware store where I have them cut a piece of glass to the right size, and I have a nice framed photo or piece of art for less than $20.
It helps that I bought a cheap matt cutter a few years ago, and have lots of poster board scraps for the smaller stuff.
A few years ago things were going well and I was feeling kind of fat, so I started hitting art shows and buying inexpensive pieces and prints. I could leave with $100 in originals or nice prints, but to display them would run 3-4x that.
My mom makes quilts. By the time she buys the fabric, sews it all together and has someone quilt it on the big quilting matching she's put probably $300 between time and money into it. And people get crabby because handmade quilts coat so much. Well damn look at how much goes into one.
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Taking the whole family out to dinner. Man, that crap adds up.
Owning a car.
I knew buying one was expensive, even second hand, but just owning one? Car insurance, road taxes, gasoline, yearly maintenance... even it just sitting in the parking lot during the pandemic it's costing me quite a bit.
Batteries, as a kid I would always need batteries for my remote control cars or any battery operated toy. Man do I regret wasting them as a kid.
I have like 200 bucks worth of rechargeable batteries in my home and they get cycled entirely like once a month.
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Cavities, or more specifically dental fillings. If I had known how much it cost as an adult (in the US anyway) to fix ones teeth, I would have taken way better care of mine!
Gravestones. Most of my family members were cremated (those who died) except for my grandma. It's a nice memorial that she chose completely and it's pretty basic. $30,000 Canadian dollars roughly. Blows my freakin' mind!! cremate the crap out of me
Edit: Gravestones + coffin + the grave itself was $30,000.
the eyes have it...
I have vision insurance and wear both contacts and glasses. I finally did the math (after I had already re-enrolled of course) and I'm getting ripped off. My insurance covers an eyeglass exam only, I have to pay for the contact fitting. Then I can get either 6 months of contacts or a cheap pair of LensCrafters glasses, no thinned lenses or anti glare unless I pick extra extra cheap frames. I recently discovered Zenni and I'm kicking myself in the ass for keeping my vision plan.
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Fast food. I've started to think..."I could make this at home for cheaper."
I have reached peak adulthood, or I'm just trying to save better. I still win with cheaper, homemade food that lasts for several meals.
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Fictional characters always say the best things.
It's always perfect and spot on, but in real life we normally say things wrong and messy.
Maybe that's why so much great dialogue resonates...
Redditor AmOdd asked:
"What did a fictional character say that stuck with you?"
"The love Molly. You take it with you." - Sam Wheat/Patrick Swayze (Ghost)
I still weep.
"Many of the truths we cling to depend largely on your point of view. - Ben Kenobi"
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"'We accept the love we think we deserve.'"
“'I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I won't tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn't change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have.'”
"(Perks of Being a Wallflower, I Don't Know if i'm a cliche)"
steeped in blood...
"A boy who idealizes war is perplexed why a war hero wants to retire to become a farmer. He asks the wise warrior why he seems to despise war and this is his response:"
"There is more honor in a field well plowed than one steeped in blood."
"Lloyd Alexander the Black Cauldron. Read it in elementary school and that has always stuck with me. Good thing too, because the indoctrination and glorification of the military is very strong in my country and starts at an early age."
"When Vimes says about his alcoholism, 'One is too many, two's not enough.' That's when I knew that cutting down wouldn't work, I would have to completely stop. Been sober nearly five years now."
"I always tell people 'Drinking-wise, you are like a car; you have an accelerator and a brake. You can start and stop or go fast or slow. I'm the space shuttle; I can only light the rocket or not light the rocket, that's it, those are the choices I have."'
"I haven't lit the rocket in a decade."
“'I survived because the fire inside burned brighter than the fire around me.' -Joshua Graham, Fallout New Vegas"
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Great words from great characters will haunt you forever.
"'It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.' - Jean-Luc Picard"
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'tomorrow never comes'
"Tomorrow's the day you'll pay the bills! Tomorrow's the day you'll grow up and start acting responsible. But tomorrow never comes for you, because it's always so conveniently a day away.' Suzie, Hey Arnold. Had to copy and paste because I forgot the original quote verbatim but the 'tomorrow never comes' part always stuck with me despite me being a massive procrastinator."
"'The hero decides to give their life to save the day, and because of their sacrifice the good guys win, the survivors all cheer, and everybody lives happily ever after. But the hero never gets to see that ending. They'll never know if their sacrifice actually made a difference. They'll never know if the day was really saved. In the end they just have to have faith. Ain't that a *itch? - Epsilon from red vs blue.'"
"'Be loyal to what matters.' - Arthur Morgan"
"Roger Clark killed that role. It’s not often that a video game voice actor gives a genuinely Oscar-worthy performance."
"I remember thinking before the game was launched 'Huh, this guy seems like a total *ick, there’s no way R* can make him a more likable character than Marston'; now that I’ve had a few months to stew on it I honestly think he may be my favorite video game character of all time, probably top 5 protagonists in all fiction."
"'Some people will always need help. That doesn't mean they're not worth helping.' -Meera Reed from Game of Thrones"
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I do love good dialogue. It's the key to everything.
There is always a better way to do something.
Some may call that option lazy, others may say it's genius.
Think about it this way... the computer keyboard has tons of "hacks" which were engineered to save time.
The more time one saves, the more life to be lived.
Redditor rat-avec-london asked:
"What is a lifehack that seems fake, but is a true lifesaver?"
I love a good short cut. Enlighten me.
"If you stand up too fast and your head starts to spin/rush/blackout tighten your abs as hard as you can and it’ll help drastically reduce the head rush. you can also do it preemptively to help stop it before it even happens."
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"Splash some water your face. As a mammal, you have a diving instinct, so water on your face triggers a response: you wake up, there's more oxygen to your brain, you feel better, plus your face is wet."
"My deceased grandmother told me to do this every morning. Now I know the science behind it, I will try to be more diligent in doing it. Cheers."
"I do this driving long distances. I keep a wash rag and a bottle of water on stand by. Better than a loud radio or the windows down."
"If you get food/grease stains on your clothes, cover the stain with dishwashing liquid. The stain will come off when you wash your clothes."
"Always double check the stain is gone before sticking it in the dryer too! The heat will set the stain in even more. I love using dish soap for laundry stains, I even keep a tiny bottle in my laundry room."
"Lestoil works great for greasy stains too."
break any fall...
"When it is icy or going through somewhere wet, always have both hands free to break any fall. When working with a job you know has safety hazard, always be on the look out. My coworker broke her wrist because someone forgot to put the pallet in the correction location. Sometimes people are out to get you or maybe not even thinking of you (or your safety) so always got to have your own back."
"Turn your device on and off before contacting tech support."
"And restart your computer regularly, not a shut down, a restart. Shut down is now just a glorified sleep and will not solve your problem."
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I hate that off/on. I've spent half my life doing it. :(
"If your ring gets stuck on your finger windex will slide it right off. Worked at a jewelry store for five plus years."
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Lighten it Up
"Use whitening toothpaste and a little water with a paper towel to clean stained dry erase boards. It easily removes ink and doesn't spread it around like rubbing alcohol. Works on boards that have been stained for years.
"Also, if you accidentally use permanent marker on a whiteboard (we’ve all done in) you can use whiteboard pen to it. Once the permanent marker is dry, draw over it with the whiteboard pen, let that dry and wipe off."
"Also works great on dirty white leather/fake leather shoes like Adidas Stan Smith."
back and forth
"I saw a comment on one of these kinda threads that recommended gently rocking back and forth while pooping. I’ve never had any problems in the bathroom, but I happened to be sitting on the toilet when I read the comment so I decided to give it a test drive. I was pleasantly surprised at how quick and effortless the whole experience was and I haven’t gone back to my old stationary technique since."
"As a bonus... #1 and #2 now require the same amount of time in the bathroom!"
kills stone dead...
"If you have funky armpits and need to fix them fast, use hand sanitiser. I figured this out years ago when I remembered that the smell comes from bacteria reactions - which antibacterial hand gel kills stone dead. Instant results and the medical smell lasts only a minute. Don't do this routinely though as it's delicate skin."
And a Razor
"Use shaving cream as anti-fog. I used it on the inside of my motorcycle visor. Smear it on, let it dry, then rinse off and dry. It also works for bathroom mirrors. You can use it on a small spot so you can still see when you get out of the shower."
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Survival tips to know. I'm making a list.
The word diet or the phrase "healthier options," don't have to be curse words.
We've come a long way in food culture.
There are some foods that make a fantastic supplement to the foods that harm us.
No one is trying to control anyone, but there are healthy options that taste just as good if not better than the unhealthy.
Redditor daborabo asked:
"What healthy food tastes just as good as unhealthy food?"
Is wine healthy? It's made from fruits. Hmmm...
By the 5
“'Cuties' mandarin oranges."
"I'll grab like 5 and just hide in my room and eat them and then come out and grab 5 more. They're good."
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Pop Pop Pop
"Homemade popcorn. Get some kernels from the supermarket, pop them in a pot or something, and chuck some salt on. Heck, lump some butter on too, then it may not quite qualify as 'Healthy,' but it's still a heck of a lot better than packaged microwave popcorn."
"I love popping the corn at home! My favorite is to just pop white popcorn plain, then spritz it with some olive oil (just a little), then top with chopped chives and fresh Parmesan cheese."
"I make some fresh every 2 days! I'm Greek so I eat it with almost everything."
"Agree! I love it as a dip for fresh vegetables - cherry tomatoes, cucumber slices, bell pepper slices, baby carrots. I bring this to work for lunch occasionally and it’s simple and delicious."
"Being Armenian of course we have tangents to the Tzatziki!!!.... with Falafels... Yum!!!"
I'll eat all of them...
"Oh God I cannot keep pistachios in my house because I'll eat all of them. I once bought a Costco bag. Never again."
"Really depends on how you define healthy. Pistachios contain 50% more calories than sugar, so unless you eat very limited amounts of them they're extremely unhealthy."
"A couple of friends said pistachios taste even better when you freeze them, because they take on a creamier consistency."
"Dried mango tastes like hairy gummy bears... personally, I like it."
"Dried mango is amazing, but I feel that you described it in the worst possible way, lol."
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Mangos I love. Dry anything, no thank you.
In the Sun
"Fresh picked berries, especially when they're still warm from the sun. I can eat a bowl of them like a bowl of chips."
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Do it Right!
"If you do it right, smoothies."
"I put tons of veggies in my smoothies (spinach, kale, carrots, beets, arugula, parsnips, etc). Seriously half my smoothie is veggies and I mask the flavor with fruits. I usually also add half an avocado, protein powder, turmeric powder and hemp or flax seeds.
"I usually eat it for dinner and call it the 'lazy salad.' Bonus round: adding cinnamon, pure cocoa powder, fresh ginger, or dash of vanilla will seriously up your smoothie game!!"
"Fresh peaches. When they are just ripe is their peak of flavor."
"I had a fresh peach only once in my life right off a farm, thing exploded into juice the minute I took a bite, I still dream of that damn thing and finally get why people keep saying farm stand/market beats store."
"I had one of these in Italy. Our tour guide told the bus driver to pull over to buy fresh peaches... and as soon as I bit into it, the peach juices were dripping down my chin and arm. Best peach I’ve ever had. I think about it a lot... and this was back in 2011."
"Homemade fresh guacamole."
"I ate guacamole like it was nobody's business... then developed an allergy. Stomach cramps and itching. Apparently its connected to my latex allergy and I have sensitivity to banana, papaya, kiwifruit, celery, and sometimes even prepackaged salads because they wear latex gloves during packaging."
Family Size It
"I mean hummus is healthy if you eat it like a normal person. For some reason, I can’t help but eat the whole family size hummus in one setting."
I love hummus! #Hummusforever
Many people donate sperm to help women or couples who cannot conceive naturally. Many see it as an opportunity to give back and provide a service for someone. Many others simply need money and donate for financial reasons.
But what happens if you get contacted by your offspring years later? It could be awkward or really wonderful... or really horrible. Is there any in between?
People who donated sperm—and their kids—shared their stories with us after Redditor fulpwned asked the online community:
"Men who have sold/donated sperm and gave permission for the child to contact you at 18, what is your story?"
"So my bio-dad..."
"So, I'm not the dad, but a kid."
"So my bio-dad donated sperm and gave permission to be identified. Didn't even have to be after 18. In counting (because we're not sure if we've found all of us yet) there are 53 half-siblings, all his kids. My full sister and I didn't know we were donor babies until I was a freshman in college, and her a junior in high school."
"It was a few more years before we found out the scope of our family. As such, I never got to meet the man as he passed away in 2018, but I've been getting to know my half siblings and I'm sad to have missed him. He apparently engaged in annual reunions and was interested in getting to know all of the kids if they (and their families) were open to it."
"We all support each other basically by default even though we didn't grow up together."
"What's even wilder about him is that he got national news coverage for something besides his giant flock of kids. The guy got married to a woman the day he met her as a competition to be his bride in the Mall of America. It was apparently a heartfelt story and the two of them had a 20 something year marriage with 4 kids that they raised themselves."
"The Mall of America even has a plaque with his name on it now, so you can go find him if you really try. The man was a weirdo, but in the best way. He was kind and generous with his time and really seemed to care about *all* of his kids, or at least the ones he knew about."
I remember learning about the story of "married at first sight" at the Mall of America! How cool!
"I'm not a donor..."
"Oh hey, I can answer this! I'm not a donor, but I was donor conceived, along with my sister (same donor). I had a great dad and never had any desire to find out who my donor was, but I was always curious about siblings, especially when I learned there's no legal limit on how many children you can father when you donate sperm in the US."
"Well, one 23andMe test later, and the first result on the top of the list is a half sister in Texas. We get in contact, realize we have a TON in common, and it sparked a fire in her to find more siblings. She took an Ancestry DNA test and the top of that list was a man in California, listed as father."
"She got in touch with him right away, turns out he's a fantastic guy. He was adopted himself and also got in contact with his birth mom as an adult, so he had been on our side of the situation and was very open and willing to talk. His wife has been super supportive of us meeting too."
"He has three, uh, organically made kids of his own (I was especially ecstatic to learn that I'm a big sister), plus we've since found three more half siblings who've all been very cool and excited to find each other. At this point, I've met all but one of them in person, and I got to meet my biological grandmother too."
"A guy I know..."
"A guy I know in his 70s got a call from a guy in his 50s saying, "Hey, I'm your son, oh and I just learned I have a genetic disease so your other kids should probably get tested."
Credit to the guy in his 50s if that's the reason he called, just to warn his bio dad's family. Class move.
"I did call..."
"I donated for six months in university. Twice a week. I gave consent to be contacted. That was close to 20 years ago now. I did call and ask once, my sperm resulted in 24 successful pregnancies. That was all the office could tell me."
"I have not done 23andme or anything like that."
"They don't refer to him..."
"My aunts had to get a donor for both children, and he happened to live in the same neighborhood (can't remember if that was a coincidence or not). But he is a close family friend now! He comes over for their birthdays and other family events. They don't refer to him as their dad really, only as a joke, but he is very close with our family."
This is a heartwarming story. Sounds like it all worked out.
"My younger bro donated multiple times unbeknownst to me. Years later my wife and I did Ancestry.com to get an idea of how diverse our backgrounds were and wham! Started getting contacted by lots of people (over a dozen) saying we were close relatives."
"At first I was confused and asked the early ones about their parentage - they all had a similar stories. Single mom went to a sperm bank. Didn't take long to guess what happened. Call my brothers and asked. Younger one fessed up and said yes - he went multiple times."
"In fact they told him he had to stop donating because there was a statistical probability his progeny could meet and date (at least they seemed ethical). I asked if it was okay if I gave them his contact - he was fine with it. The weird thing is that they all had his face - like one look at them and it was obvious who their father was."
"Anyway, this went on for a couple of years and they all connected with each other. Seems there are over 20 now, probably more. He has met a couple of them but it was all casual. The whole thing is super weird to the rest of family to have all these "close" relatives who somehow are part of the family but then again not really."
I want to be a fly on the wall at this person’s Thanksgiving.
"It was quite a shock."
"I was donor-conceived. I took a DNA test, his natural-born daughter took a DNA test. So really neither of us 'gave permission'. There are 28 siblings so far. It was quite a shock. I wasn't expecting it and didn't know. I was 38."
"I've met the donor and most of the half siblings. He's a cool guy. I think it is eerie how I see many of my mannerisms in him and the other siblings. I know there is a wide range of emotions for people who experience this sort of thing, but for me it was generally positive."
It is truly incredible how similarities are passed down!
"My step-mom was an early donation conceived baby. She's done 23 & Me and Ancestry. Last I heard she was up to 23 (!!) half-siblings. Their donor father died in the late 1980s and seems to have been a good man."
This is lovely!
"At my job..."
"At my job we did a media interview with a guy who donated sperm at least once a month for the money throughout most of his 20s, nearly 10 years. He recently found out that there is a facebook group with over 100 women from all over the world that have had children from his donated sperm..."
Wow! This is worth checking out.
Whether you want or don't want to get to know the sperm donor is a personal decision that should not be taken lightly. Take care however you choose to proceed.
Have some stories of your own? Feel free to share them with us in the comments below!