Until you start paying the bills you never really understand how high the tally can rise. You don't think about monetary amounts until you have to earn it--then you're shocked by how even the items or tasks that seemed small and cheap were breaking the bank. Like underwear or socks... they can be pricey. I used to have a ton of pairs, in all colors and lengths but good socks ain't cheap. Even at the cheap store. Ten bucks for six pair feels excessive to me.
Redditor u/Zarellto_v2 wanted to discuss the worth we did not recognize through naive eyes by asking..... What is one item you did not realize was expensive, until you became an adult?
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Does Christmas in general count?
Custom framing. Hundreds of dollars for a nice frame with mat. I still don't understand how it gets up so high.
Yup. I just go to thrift shops looking for something about the right size. Then I hit the arts & crafts store for an appropriate shade of poster board, and (if needed) the hardware store where I have them cut a piece of glass to the right size, and I have a nice framed photo or piece of art for less than $20.
It helps that I bought a cheap matt cutter a few years ago, and have lots of poster board scraps for the smaller stuff.
A few years ago things were going well and I was feeling kind of fat, so I started hitting art shows and buying inexpensive pieces and prints. I could leave with $100 in originals or nice prints, but to display them would run 3-4x that.
My mom makes quilts. By the time she buys the fabric, sews it all together and has someone quilt it on the big quilting matching she's put probably $300 between time and money into it. And people get crabby because handmade quilts coat so much. Well damn look at how much goes into one.
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Taking the whole family out to dinner. Man, that crap adds up.
Owning a car.
I knew buying one was expensive, even second hand, but just owning one? Car insurance, road taxes, gasoline, yearly maintenance... even it just sitting in the parking lot during the pandemic it's costing me quite a bit.
Batteries, as a kid I would always need batteries for my remote control cars or any battery operated toy. Man do I regret wasting them as a kid.
I have like 200 bucks worth of rechargeable batteries in my home and they get cycled entirely like once a month.
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Cavities, or more specifically dental fillings. If I had known how much it cost as an adult (in the US anyway) to fix ones teeth, I would have taken way better care of mine!
Gravestones. Most of my family members were cremated (those who died) except for my grandma. It's a nice memorial that she chose completely and it's pretty basic. $30,000 Canadian dollars roughly. Blows my freakin' mind!! cremate the crap out of me
Edit: Gravestones + coffin + the grave itself was $30,000.
the eyes have it...
I have vision insurance and wear both contacts and glasses. I finally did the math (after I had already re-enrolled of course) and I'm getting ripped off. My insurance covers an eyeglass exam only, I have to pay for the contact fitting. Then I can get either 6 months of contacts or a cheap pair of LensCrafters glasses, no thinned lenses or anti glare unless I pick extra extra cheap frames. I recently discovered Zenni and I'm kicking myself in the ass for keeping my vision plan.
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Fast food. I've started to think..."I could make this at home for cheaper."
I have reached peak adulthood, or I'm just trying to save better. I still win with cheaper, homemade food that lasts for several meals.
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It's rare for a day to go by where women don't, quite understandably, complain about the annoying, even misogynistic behavior of men.
Addiction to video games, poor hygiene, too much excitement over a football or basketball game, bad table manners.
The list goes on and on.
But men don't only annoy women with their behavior.
Indeed, plenty of other men get equally annoyed or revolted by certain stereotypically "male" behavior, and wish it would come to an end.
"Men of Reddit, what is something you wish other men would stop doing?"
Taking Others Down To Bring Themselves Up
"Insulting their friends to look cool in front of a girl."- SuvenPan
Always Needing To Be The "Tough Guy"
"I wish y’all would stop trying to be Mr. tough arrogant guy when an attractive women is in your presence."- Relevant-Quality2196·
It's Just Basic Hygeine!
"Not washing hands after using public bathrooms."- truetrusterWash Hands Reaction GIF by Leroy PattersonGiphy
Women Are Not Property!
"Stop hitting on other dudes' girlfriend."
"Some guys take it as a challenge and it’s pretty f*cked up."- Blowmansalad·
"Being overly horny and hitting on women non stop who clearly are uncomfortable."
"It’s hard to watch."- cgollin34
Learn Some Manners!
"That thing where a girl turns you down so you suddenly call her an ugly b*tch."
"It’s really not hard to NOT be a rude piece of sh*t, and it makes you sound pathetic."
"Have some respect and imagine your grandmother could hear you."- leastlyharmfulSeason 3 Episode 13 GIF by Parks and RecreationGiphy
What Are You Trying To Prove, Exactly?
"Acting overly manly and not smiling, like chill man I’m not trying to pee on your territory."- incognitoburrito2022
"Stop approaching women in grocery store parking lots! "
"My girlfriend mentions that guys, often way older guys, will try to talk to her and ask her out while she’s carrying groceries."
"She’s had to stop wearing headphones because guys will follow her trying to get her attention."
"The worst was a guy who knocked on her window when she was sitting in her car."
"Nobody taught me, a normal dude, how not to be creepy."
"Where the hell did you guys learn to do this?"- UptownShenanigans
Not Fooling Anyone
"Joining MLMs and being really vague about what they do."
"I don’t want an exclusive chance to gain you as a mentor, I sat next to you in pre-algebra and know that the concept of math escapes you."
"Also stop renting luxury vehicles for a weekend and pretending you 'made it'."
"Maybe I’m just a hater but if your whole plan is to not just fake it till you make it but to 'flex' till you make it then I’m not interested in whatever opportunity you’re trying to sell me."- Exact_Thought_185
Its Sexual Assault. STOP IT!
"The unwarranted peen pics need to stop."- Ratakoa
When other "bros" are so openly put off by "bro" culture, maybe that means it's time has passed?
But seriously, did anyone find "bro" culture attractive?
After all, were we laughing with the boys of the American Pie films, or laughing at them...
Successful people who come from humble beginnings usually don't forget where they came from.
But some of those who were already born into privilege and wealth may claim to be compassionate towards people who are financially disadvantaged.
But unless they've lived the experience as someone from the lower class or have a deep understanding of what life is like on the other side, the wealthy will never understand what it's like to be poor.
Curious to hear about interactinos with the affluent from strangers online, Redditor Salazard260 asked:
"Poor people of reddit, what's the most comically out of touch 'advice' you've been given by someone wealthier?"
When it comes to working normal jobs, rich people just don't understand.
Easier Said Than Done
"A mom to my mom, a single mother with three kids: 'you should just stop working if you are so stressed about it.'"
"Sounds like a psychologist I went and saw once, spent the hour talking about how much pressure I felt being the sole source of income in the house, to be told 'sounds like your job is stressing you out, you should quit!' When I asked how I’d pay the bills his response was 'I can help you apply for a new job, I’m really good at job applications, I’ve got every job I applied for! - yeah mate I don’t think that’s going to help. Never went back."
"Not really advice, but one of my high school friends came from a rich family. But because he wasn't really that motivated in life, his parents encouraged him to find a summer job."
"He was going to go job-hunting at the mall, working in retail. I asked him how much he wanted to earn. He said, 'Not too much. $40 per hour should be a good start.' This was in the early 2000s."
"It reminds me of the Arrested Development scene where Lucille thinks a banana costs $10."
When it comes to renting an apartment, these are not the people who should be weighing in with their thoughts to help.
Clueless About Rent
"I had a boss at the time tell me it cant be more than 800 bucks for rent in the DC area when I asked for a pay raise. The minimum rent I could find at the time was closer to 1800."
Let's Start With Step 1
"That I need to buy several apartments and rent them out. Unfortunately, he did not tell me where to get money to buy several apartments."
When it comes to family and financials, we're all not the same.
That's Not How That Works
"I remember when I was at high school and I mentioned to someone that I'd like a gaming PC but couldn't afford it, he said 'can you not just ask your parents for the money?'"
"I said no because there was nothing left over after bills and groceries."
"Yeah, but if you ask realllllyyyyy nicely, couldn't they give you the money?"
"Like what goddamn money? The money for the food we eat? The money for our electricity bill? Sure, no doubt my family are happy to suffer just so I can have a piece of tech I don't need."
Ignorance Is Bliss
"I had a friend like that and one time pulled out a pen and paper and did my family's financials roughly in front of them. I showed income, taxes, utilities, insurance, groceries, gas, car payments, loan payments, etc and then showed how little was left over and then said that some of that needs to go into savings/retirement just in case. I then asked them 'so where is that money I ask my parents for coming from?'"
"He sat there dumbfounded for a bit, I think one: that I knew all this off the top of my head (the recession made me hyper aware of financials) and two: it started sink in how ignorant he was about money in general, and how good he had it. He wasn't a bad dude, and wasn't one of those who thinks money was infinite, but I guess didn't realize how much 100 bucks was to a lot of people."
The Other Way Around
"'Just have your parents give you the money'.... B*tch, I support my parents."
Going Nowhere Fast
"I had a buddy in college that asked me to drive him to the next town over. He had a car but his parents said he was spending to much in the gas card. His solution was to bum a ride but told me it wasn’t fair for him to pay me for gas out of his allowance because I had a job."
"I’m still stunned by the mental gymnastics that dude went through to justify his behavior."
"After dumping me my long-tine girlfriend would occasionally reach out with her crazy rants."
"One of them was I should just dump my parents somewhere, as in literally dropping them off on some corner, and let them fend for themselves."
"I dodged a rocket not marrying her."
The rich could afford many luxuries that are unattainable for the rest of us, and good for them.
But when it comes to offering any kind of wisdom or suggestion to improve our financial standing in life, money can't buy them respect when they are completely out of touch.
There's a fairly common formula in movies geared toward a teenage audience.
A group of teenagers face one central conflict, to varying degrees of importance and severity, but manage to solve it in a surprisingly short manner of time.
The heroes of these films are usually a hodgepodge of traditional high school archetypes (star athlete, math nerd, girl whose beauty is disguised by a pair of glasses), all of whom the intended audience can completely relate to and root for.
And then we have the adult characters, who are often buffoonish stereotypes, or the outright villain, whose sole mission is to ensure the protagonist will not achieve their ultimate goal.
As teenagers, we often find ourselves ready to boo these grown-ups from the minute they appear on the screen.
But when we revisit these movies as adults, we find ourselves noticing that their behavior isn't quite as bad as we remembered.
Or, more shockingly, we actually find ourselves rooting for them!
"What teen movie is the epitome of 'the older I get, the more I agree with the adult?'"
The Teacher Was Right All Along...
"Rewatching 'Scrubs', I realize I’m no longer a JD., I’ve become a Cox."- RenegadeRinker
They Were Just Being Protective!
"I watched 'Sixteen Candles' recently and I now do not approve of Samantha going anywhere near Jake Ryan."-goblininstigator
All It Takes Is A Little Perspective
"Sadly, 'The Wonder Years'."
"I always couldn’t believe the dad was real, with his pissed off attitude from work."
"Now I understand."- hashnThe Wonder Years Thumbs Down GIFGiphy
Nothing Wrong With A Little Precision And Order!
"The movie 'Juno'."
"Jennifer Garner's character is at first portrayed as a 'square', then you realize she's a mature adult and her husband is a man-baby."- DaveFarted
Add It Up, The Wedding Cost Nearly $150,00!
"Not a teen movie, but 'Father of the Bride'."
"Watching it as a kid, Steve Martin seemed like an old grump."
"Rewatching it as an adult, holy sh*t he is the only sane person in that movie."- DrOctopusMD
It Was Literally His Job To Protect Them!
"'The Lion King'."
"Oh I thought Zazu was just an old fun-killer."
"What do you mean, Simba can't be king?"
"Why would you prevent the kids from going where they want?"
"As an adult and father, I'm 100% Team Zazu."- Oneiric86the lion king GIF by DisneyGiphy
Seriously, Would Your Dad Have Been So Cool About It?...
"As a new father, I hope to be like Jim’s dad when my little one is a teenager."
"Caring, loving and a complete embarrassment to them."- BanjoPhatterson
It's A Parent's Job To Worry.
"The mom in 'Ice Princess'."
"So you have a daughter who has a talent for and seems to like physics and has a shot of getting into Harvard."
"This girl throws it away for ice skating where she has only been competing for less than a year, where if she gets injured she's done and when she reaches 30 she's pretty much done."
"There is no way she is at an olympic level at that point she would need years of training! "
"Hell yes I would advise against it to!"- testmonkey254
Always Be Respectful Of Your Roommate!
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People Are Complicated
"He’s just trying to do something right and being a good dad."- LukeLJS123
As teens we're inclined to revolt from our parents and teachers, or even be revolted by them.
But the older we get, the more we understand that nine times out of ten, they were just looking out for us.
Just as we realize that Mr. Hall of Clueless was being pretty generous giving a C to a student who didn't seem to know how to pronounce "Haitian"...
Not everyone loves their job.
And as a result, on particularly slow or demoralizing days, these people might dream of working another job.
Likely one that they've seen glamorized on film or television, such as a doctor, lawyer, pilot, or actor
Jobs that appear to be as fun as they are lucrative.
But if one were to ask people who actually work these jobs for a living, they might discover that they aren't always as fun as they may seem.
"Which job is a LOT less fun than most people expect?"
Rewarding, But Exhausting
"Especially with new COVID-19 regulations."
"Ever try social distancing 3 year olds?"- sociallyawkextrovert
Not Worth The Joy Building Them Brings...
"Oh my gosh, BUILD A BEAR."
"Weirdest and most frustrating thing."
"Granted I didn't make it a super long time in the job and seeing kids so happy is great."
"But they are really strict and the bad times get pretty bad."- BabyMalks
Not Exactly CSI
"I'm a Forensic Scientist and it's literally the only thing people ask me about on dating apps."
"It's very technical work and it's extremely routine."- Altephor1·discover bbc GIF by britboxGiphy
Love Books? Look Elsewhere...
"Barnes and Noble."
"Your job has literally NOTHING to do with books and it obviously attracts a lot of that type, myself included."- tenbladejen
Picnic Basket Loving Bears Are The Least Of Their Problems...
"Don't get me wrong, I loved it, but a lot of days it was less 'talk about cool animals while wearing your ranger hat' and more 'the toilets are overflowing again, go clean the septic tank filter and stir the tank with a shovel' with a little bit of 'hey there's a meth head out guy down by the bridge, can you convince him to leave without killing anyone'."
"All for the low price of $26k/year with a college degree!"
"These jobs are so varied, and I just happened to work for an underfunded agency with too few staff."
"Honestly, I still loved this job and would have kept doing it forever if a higher-paying outdoor environmental job hadn't pretty much fallen into my lap."
"Being a park ranger taught me so much, and most importantly, I got trained as a wildland firefighter, which is still my favorite part of my job!"
"If you've always dreamed of being a park ranger, PLEASE go for it." -Reddit
One Can Watch Too Much TV
"I do closed captioning."
"While I joke that yes, I get paid to watch TV, it’s actually very tedious."
"And if you don’t actually enjoy the programming you’re being forced to watch something you don’t care for."
"Or worse, if it’s something I do enjoy like a long form drama, we usually chop those up into 15 minute increments and split between everyone so I only see chunks and not always even in order it actually ruins the show for me."- jessjess87closed captioned GIFGiphy
Not Always Coming Up Roses
"Working in a flower shop."
"It's just like any other retail job, but people constantly tell you how fun your job must be."
"Also helping grieving families chose funeral flowers is not fun."- ZakkiraJuneAiko94
"Under The Sea"... Some Of The Time...
"I'm a marine biologist."
"I spent the last week measuring defrosted fish heads."- smileedude
Might Not Surprise Everyone...
"Well I’m a scientist."
"I don’t know if people usually think of that career as fun, but I think people think it’s a lot more 'Eureka!' and a lot less 'this data’s has to be manually processed for 600 hours before I can analyze it'."- JeremyTheRhinoBill Nye Scientist GIF by NETFLIXGiphy
Travel Isn't For Everyone
"Not a specific job but traveling for work."
"I’m in tech and a lot of people starting out talk about wanting to go to customer sites and get 'out in the field'."
"I love to travel for fun but it’s hard to fit in the fun stuff when you have presentations and stuff to worry about and a lot of times your customers aren’t in the fun cities anyway."
"I also think I prefer the stability in day-to-day schedule of traveling less frequently."- bazerkas_bodyguard
It's very easy to dream about working another job after watching a movie or reading about it in the newspaper.
But those cases are far more often the exception, rather than the rule, and after working one day in a job you imagined was fun, or even witnessing someone working it, you might find the illusion instantly shattered.
Making one think it's probably more fun to imagine ourselves working these jobs than to actually work them.